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The hardest conversations to have are also the most important. Paul C Brunson, the worl...
Faye Winter EXCLUSIVE: I Was Scared Of Him Coming Home! The TRUTH Behind My Abuse & Love Island’s BIGGEST Argument
In this exclusive episode of We Need To Talk, Faye Winter opens up like never before, revealing the truth behind her Love Island experience, including the infamous argument that shook the villa and the deep emotional toll it took on her life. For the first time, Faye bravely shares the painful truth about her abusive relationship, the betrayal of infidelity, and the relentless online abuse that followed her every move.
This is Faye Winter like you've never seen her before.
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(00:00) Intro
(01:47) Growing Up in Devon
(03:03) Faye's Parents
(07:01) What Did Love Mean to Faye Growing Up?
(10:03) Faye's First Relationships
(11:00) How Did Faye Know Her First Relationship Was 'For Life'?
(13:28) Why Didn't Faye's Boyfriend's Family Approve of Her?
(18:03) The Darker Aspects of Faye's Relationship
(21:28) Paul's Take on Domestic Abuse
(26:51) What Gave Faye the Strength to Leave?
(29:53) Faye's Next Relationship
(34:22) How Did Faye's First Two Toxic Relationships Affect Her?
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(38:13) How Faye Was Scouted for Love Island
(40:01) Faye's Perception of Her Looks vs. the Other Girls on Love Island
(41:59) Faye's Cosmetic Surgery Before Love Island
(44:45) What Was Faye Doing Before Love Island?
(45:52) Why Did Faye Want to Go on Love Island?
(47:33) Faye's Experience on Love Island
(50:52) Faye's Perspective on 'The Argument'
(54:05) Paul's Take on 'The Argument'
(54:55) The Impact of Ofcom Complaints on Faye's Wellbeing
(58:16) The Aftermath of Being on Love Island
(1:03:44) Why Did Her Love Island Relationship End?
(1:08:16) Moving Back to Devon
(1:10:42) Getting Therapy After Love Island
(1:12:21) Online Abuse After Love Island
(1:15:11) Faye's Charity Work
(1:18:33) Influencing as a Career
(1:20:59) Faye's Love Life Post-Love Island
(1:21:55) Faye's Experience of Stalking
(1:28:16) Paul's Take on Stalking
(1:32:55) Faye's Opinion on the World of Cosmetic Surgery
(1:42:08) Statistics Around Cosmetic Surgery
(1:44:30) Most Memorable Conversation
(1:47:07) Paul's Takeaways
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1:50:42
Jamelia EXCLUSIVE: The Dark Side of Being A SUPERSTAR! This is My Truth. Fame wasn't worth it!
In this episode of We Need To Talk, BRIT-nominated, MOBO award-winning singer Jamelia sits down for a raw and unfiltered conversation, sharing the untold chapters of her life - from rising to fame as a teenage Superstar to the dark realities of the music industry. She opens up about being groomed at 16, surviving an abusive relationship that inspired Thank You, and the relentless scrutiny of the tabloids, who hacked her phone for a decade.
Despite it all, Jamelia has never been happier. She reflects on fame, family, and resilience - how she’s navigated betrayal, heartbreak, and an industry that tried to break her, only to come out stronger. She shares how motherhood saved her, why she’s finally at peace, and the power of owning her story.
This is Jamelia as you've never heard her before - honest, fearless, and thriving.
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(00:00) Intro
(01:54) Growing Up in Handsworth
(03:01) Riots in '81
(04:27) How Would Jamelia Define Rastafarianism?
(10:26) Jamelia Father in Prison
(13:38) How Did Jamelia Father's Consistency Shape Jamelia Relationships?
(18:55) What Would Jamelia Say to Jamelia Father Now?
(22:28) Self-Work and Self-Reflection
(24:58) Forgiving Jamelia Parents
(27:12) Jamelia Mother
(29:32) How Did Jamelia Decide Music Was the Career?
(33:00) Making More Money Than Jamelia Mother
(35:32) Music Career Takes Off
(35:56) Jamelia Brothers Groomed Onto the Streets
(37:33) How Do Jamelia Define Grooming?
(41:42) Did Jamelia Blame Yourself for Jamelia Brother's Conviction?
(44:49) A Mother to Nieces and Nephews
(49:42) Career Regrets, Phone Hacking, and Press Harassment
(56:49) Sexualisation in the Industry
(1:04:10) Code-Switching
(1:07:46) Eating at Nelson Mandela's House
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(1:11:37) Thank You Song
(1:19:27) The Next Relationships
(1:33:00) Second Husband
(01:43:27) Our Children Are Angels
(01:49:44) Getting Back Up After Being Knocked Down
(01:54:36) New Album
(01:56:04) TV Career
(02:08:10) How Amazing Life Is Now
(02:15:15) Self-Actualisation (With a Partner)
(02:18:13) Breaking the Generational Curses
(02:21:20) Where Is Your Dream Partner?
(02:25:02) Flipping Society's Script
(02:31:49) Most Memorable Conversation
(02:35:11) Paul's Takeaways
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2:37:00
Chloe Ferry Exclusive: Reversing My Surgery - I Should’ve Done Things Differently
“I Should’ve Done Things Differently"
Reality TV star Chloe Ferry opens up about the dark side of fame, body image struggles, and the pressure of online scrutiny in this raw episode of We Need to Talk with Paul Brunson.
From Geordie Shore fame to undergoing multiple surgeries in search of confidence, Chloe shares how she lost herself—and why she’s now embracing self-love and a fresh start.
This episode contains discussions about mental health, body image, and cosmetic surgery, which may be sensitive for some listeners.
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00:00 Intro
01:27 Chloe Leaving Her Comfort Zone
03:10 Growing up in Newcastle
06:51 Chloe's Family Life
11:19 Speaking to Chloe's Inner Child
12:42 Ice Skating as an Outlet
18:33 "Being Scouted for Geordie Shore"
24:43 Chloe's Mindset on Geordie Shore
27:44 The Backlash
34:01 Chloe Lost Who She Was
38:34 Who Chloe Was
41:23 The Surgeries
51:03 External Validation
52:42 A Message from Chloe's Mum
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56:22 Tinder Ad
57:15 Relationships
1:03:17 Chloe, The Businesswoman
1:06:43 Body Dysmorphia
1:12:54 Therapy
1:14:33 Depression
1:16:47 The People in Chloe's Life
1:19:24 Anxiety
1:22:48 Beauty as a Currency
1:31:53 Is Surgery Ever a Good Idea?
1:37:27 More Surgery Plans
1:40:23 Coming Out of The Storm
1:45:36 Most Memorable Conversation
1:48:39 Paul's Takeaways
1:50:36 Keep Love Ad
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1:51:41
Kelsey Parker: I Was Never Part of Tom’s Plan! His Cancer Diagnosis Changed Everything.
In this episode of We Need To Talk, Kelsey Parker opens up about navigating life after the heartbreaking loss of Tom Parker, her husband and a member of the boyband The Wanted. Kelsey shares how she faced grief, public scrutiny, and the challenge of raising their children while keeping Tom’s memory alive. Kelsey also speaks candidly about love after loss, the reality of widowhood, and how she’s embracing a new chapter in her life.
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(00:00) Intro
(01:20) Shopify Ad
(02:59) Where Is Kelsey From?
(04:33) Kelsey's Absent Father
(05:47) Kelsey's Relationship With Her Stepfather
(07:04) Stigma of Blended Families
(09:40) Meeting Tom (From The Wanted)
(14:00) First Date With Tom
(16:47) The Industry Made Us Not Label Our Relationship
(22:16) Starting a Relationship With Tom
(23:38) Getting Engaged to Tom
(24:53) First Few Years of Being With Tom
(26:09) Did Fame Change Tom?
(26:41) How Did Tom Know He Wanted to Get Married?
(28:39) Marrying Tom
(30:15) The Honeymoon With Tom
(31:05) Tom's Protectiveness vs. Kelsey's Dad
(33:59) Running Businesses Together
(35:40) Conversation About Having Children
(37:37) First Symptoms of Tom's Illness
(42:56) Tom's Brain Tumor Diagnosis
(48:05) Managing Life With a Diagnosis
(54:04) Tom's Mindset Through Treatment
(56:37) Going Public With the Diagnosis
(58:46) Tom's Chemotherapy
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(01:02:51) Keeping a Sense of Hope
(01:08:36) Facing Reality and Getting Tom Into a Hospice
(01:14:38) The Last Conversation With Tom
(01:18:40) Focusing on the Children
(01:21:46) Life After Tom
(01:22:37) Feeling Lonely After Tom's Death
(01:24:00) Perception of Widows Who Try to Move On
(01:26:30) How Do Single Men React to a Widow?
(01:29:24) Vulnerability After Loss
(01:30:40) Criticism on Social Media
(01:37:11) Meeting New Partner Will
(01:39:40) Falling Pregnant With Will
(01:41:38) Going Public With Pregnancy
(01:45:24) Reaction of Tom's Family to the Pregnancy Announcement
(01:46:24) Experience as a Blended Family
(01:48:13) Kelsey's Spirituality
(01:54:47) Keeping Tom's Memory Alive
(01:58:22) Celebrating Tom's Life With the Children
(02:00:49) What Is Next for Kelsey?
(02:02:36) Will's Reaction to the Pregnancy
(02:04:08) What Kelsey Wants Everyone to Take Away From Her Experience
(02:04:42) Kelsey's Most Memorable Conversation
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2:09:22
Dr Julie Smith: How To Build Secure Relationships, Control Fear, & Live With Uncertainty.
In this episode of We Need To Talk we’re joined by Dr. Julie Smith, a clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and online educator known for making mental health tools accessible to millions. Dive deep into the realities of self-love, how to build secure relationships, and the hidden cost of always trying to "win" in arguments. Dr. Julie shares practical strategies to manage fear, navigate uncertainty, and transform anxiety into a source of strength.
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(00:00) Intro
(01:43) Dr. Julie's Upbringing
(04:00) Is Shyness Genetic or Learned Behavior?
(06:11) Dr. Julie's Relationship With Her Husband
(10:08) Why Did Dr. Julie Specialize in Clinical Psychology?
(13:02) Dr. Julie's Experience Working for the NHS
(16:55) Dr. Julie's Move Onto Social Media
(23:10) The Success of Dr. Julie's First Book
(24:40) Dr. Julie's Experience Writing Her Second Book Open When
(26:15) Dr. Julie's Cancer Diagnosis
(31:41) Dr. Julie's Thoughts on the Popularity of the Term "Self-Love"
(34:40) What Is Metacognition?
(37:23) Dr. Julie's Definition of Self-Love
(40:17) How Do We Correct Our Self-Destructive Thoughts?
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(45:41) What Is Dr. Julie's Definition of Self-Esteem?
(50:08) How Does Confidence Relate to Self-Esteem?
(54:43) How Should We Handle Criticism in Terms of Our Self-Esteem?
(58:52) Do Our Values Stay the Same or Change Over Time?
(1:00:07) Demonstration of Values
(1:06:33) Are We More Anxious Than Ever in Society?
(1:10:31) How Do We Manage the Anxieties of Modern Society?
(1:14:29) Dr. Julie's Thoughts on Today's "Self-Centered" Society
(1:16:57) How Do You Know if You're Ready for a Relationship?
(1:18:36) Why Do We Need Relationships With Others for Our Happiness?
(1:21:31) Dr. Julie's Tips for a Successful Relationship
(1:24:28) Dr. Julie's Definition of Attachment Styles
(1:28:01) How to Determine Your Attachment Style
(1:29:52) How to Make Your Attachment Style More Secure
(1:31:09) Dr. Julie's Ethos on Conflict in Relationships
(1:35:15) Most Memorable Conversation
(1:39:59) Paul's Takeaways
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When someone says to you 'we need to talk', how does that make you feel?
The hardest conversations to have are also the most important. Paul C Brunson, the world’s most influential matchmaker and TV star, brings his insightful commentary on how to create and sustain successful relationships through vulnerability, connection and understanding.
From weekly conversations with industry experts and familiar faces, Paul promises to support your personal growth, provide practical insights, and deliver actionable advice that will add value to your relationships.
Ready to deepen those connections? Then you’re in the right place.
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