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Megan Barton-Hanson Unfiltered! How I Became A Top Model On Only Fans! The Real Reason I Went On Love Island!
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Join Megan Barton-Hanson, a former Love Island finalist and one of the top creators on OnlyFans, where she shares her incredible journey from being severely bullied in her younger years, to becoming a global advocate for sex positivity and empowerment.
Megan opens up about the challenges she’s faced, from overcoming societal misconceptions about sex work to building a multi-million-dollar career rooted in authenticity and resilience.
With candid reflections on love, self-worth, and breaking free from judgment, Megan’s story is a powerful reminder of the strength it takes to own your narrative and defy outdated norms.
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00:00 Intro
2:11 Megan’s Childhood: Growing Up In Southend-On-Sea
3:20 Megan’s Relationship With Her Parents During Her Youth
4:19 Megan’s Brother: Their Bond And Memories
5:39 Highlights Of School Life And Living In Southend
6:59 Megan’s Struggles With Bullying At School
10:30 Who Supported Megan Through Her Bullying Experiences?
12:23 Megan’s Early Views On Intimacy And Self-Worth
13:55 When Did Megan First Experience Sexual Intimacy?
15:22 Megan’s Journey To Realizing Her Sexual Orientation
16:30 Megan’s First Lesbian Relationship: A Personal Story
21:46 Megan’s Cosmetic Surgery Experience: Why She Did It
24:02 How Megan Started Her Career: A Look Back
25:18 Megan’s Experience Working As A Stripper
27:59 Defining ‘Sex Work’: Megan’s Perspective
29:43 Was Megan Truly Happy While Working As A Stripper?
30:40 Megan’s Journey To Becoming A Love Island Contestant
32:47 Lessons Megan Learned About People From Her Time At The Strip Club
35:42 What Megan Discovered About Herself During Her Early Career
37:26 How Megan Got Cast On Love Island
39:31 How Megan Earned Money Before Joining Love Island
40:36 Why Megan Decided To Go On Love Island
41:43 Did Megan Have A Game Plan For Love Island?
42:52 Life After Love Island: Megan’s Story
44:21 Finding Love On Love Island: Megan’s Experience
46:12 Navigating Fame: Megan’s Life In The Public Eye
54:00 Megan’s Brother’s Mental Health Struggles
56:15 Why Megan Joined Celebs Go Dating
58:11 Facing Skepticism About Her Sexuality: Megan’s Response
1:00:22 When Paul Realized Megan Had Feelings For Demi
1:03:19 How Megan And Demi’s Relationship Ended
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1:07:39 Megan’s Current Dating Life: What’s Happening Now?
1:10:48 What Megan Wants In An Ideal Partner
1:12:48 Inside Megan’s Hinge Profile: Dating In The Digital Age
1:15:19 Megan’s Worst Experiences With Men: Lessons Learned
1:20:19 Megan’s Charity Work And Giving Back
1:29:33 Challenges Megan Has Faced In Relationships With Men
1:36:12 Megan’s Journey As A Successful Businesswoman
1:41:51 Why Megan Is A Top Creator On OnlyFans
1:43:12 The Most Unusual Requests Megan Has Received On OnlyFans
1:44:44 Funny And Unexpected OnlyFans Stories
1:46:32 Is OnlyFans Considered Pornography? Megan’s Take
1:52:27 Is Megan Truly Happy Now? A Reflection
1:55:27 Megan’s Most Memorable Conversations
1:57:21 Key Takeaways From Megan’s Journey
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2:03:23
Cindy Gallop - The Surprising Benefits of Staying SINGLE
Do younger partners make you happier?
In this episode, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, shares her bold perspective on living authentically and challenging societal norms. From rejecting pressures to marry or have children to embracing the joy of dating younger men, Cindy redefines intimacy and celebrates individuality.
Drawing on her successful advertising career and groundbreaking work in reshaping conversations about sex and relationships, she offers insights on breaking free from conventional expectations to live a uniquely fulfilling life.
Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to rethink what it means to live on your own terms.
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00:00 Introduction: Who Is Cindy Gallop?
02:02 What Does "Cindy’s Brand" Really Mean?
03:45 How Cindy Views Herself vs. How The World Sees Her
04:25 How Cindy’s Background Shaped Her Authentic Self
06:28 Steps To Embracing Your Authentic Self
09:00 Breaking Down The Most Harmful Societal Norms
12:07 Has Cindy Ever Experienced True Romantic Love?
13:47 Why Cindy Isn’t Focused On Finding Romantic Love
15:44 Why Young Men Are Choosing To Date Older Women
17:51 What’s The Age Gap Between Cindy And The Men She Dates?
20:56 Why Cindy Gallop’s Relationships Are Different From Love
24:53 Will Traditional Ideas About Love And Family Ever Change?
25:47 How To Stop External Pressures From Influencing Your Choices
27:19 The Dangerous Myth Of “The One” In Relationships
28:44 How Cindy Maintains Successful Relationships With Younger Men
35:25 Debunking The Myth Of The “Nuclear Family”
37:58 Advertising’s Misrepresentation Of Age And Its Impact
42:34 Is “Make Love Not Porn” Competing With Mainstream Porn?
46:26 Why Cindy Created “Make Love Not Porn” And Its Mission
53:16 What Is The Social-Sexual Revolution “Make Love Not Porn” Aims To Spark?
58:49 How “Make Love Not Porn” Differs From Mainstream Porn’s Addictive Traits
01:02:18 Cindy Gallop’s Definition Of True Consent
01:05:23 Can Sharing Your Sex Life Help Correct Misconceptions About Sex?
01:08:11 A Look At Paul’s Research On “Make Love Not Porn”
01:11:21 Cindy’s Innovative Approach To Educating Young People About Sex
01:13:42 How And When Parents Should Talk To Kids About Sex And Porn
01:16:15 Inside The “Make Love Not Porn” Academy
01:22:03 Cindy Gallop’s Most Memorable Conversations
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1:28:17
The SEX DOCTOR: Women's Orgasms - What You Didn't Know! Dr. Karen Gurney
Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction.
From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment.
Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.
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00:00 Introduction
1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life
1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?
3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know
5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?
7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?
10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference
15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios
18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations
21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters
27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary)
28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?
31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size
34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?
36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?
37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?
40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)
41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?
45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond
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49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?
52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships
1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship
1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)
1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting
1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life
1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?
1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?
1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life
1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships
1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?
1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship
1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important
1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?
1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex
1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex
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1:45:02
Toni Tone and Taiwo: The Reason Why Men AVOID Confident Women
Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong.
Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations.
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00:00 Introduction to the Episode
03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK
05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories
06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles
11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story
16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call
16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean?
18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship
20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach
25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship
29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating?
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33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love
35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact
38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men?
49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together
54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul
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58:04
Leading Psychiatrist: Is High Functioning Depression Harming Your Love Life? - Dr Judith Joseph
In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and mental health expert, to explore high-functioning depression and anhedonia—two often-overlooked mental health conditions that can profoundly affect both personal well-being and relationships.
Dr. Judith shares her insights on how people may appear to have everything under control while silently struggling, and she provides practical advice for identifying these hidden signs and managing them effectively. With her clinical background and deep understanding of trauma and attachment issues, Dr. Judith offers listeners tools to foster self-awareness, resilience, and healthier connections.
Whether you’re dealing with these challenges yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation will equip you with valuable strategies for navigating the complexities of these struggles.
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0:00 Intro
0:46 Judith’s Early Life and Background
2:33 Pros and Cons of Being an Immigrant
5:04 Judith’s Strong Work Ethic
6:06 Why Judith Switched to a Career in Psychology
8:45 How Judith Found the Confidence to Change Careers
10:18 Why Judith Chose to Pursue Psychiatry
12:08 What Exactly Is Psychiatry?
13:34 The Role of a Lab in Psychiatry and Why It Matters
15:40 How Race Affects Access to Therapy
18:28 Can You Overdo Therapy?
20:45 Understanding and Defining Trauma
23:38 How the Pandemic Has Shaped Our View on Trauma
24:42 What Is Scarcity Trauma?
25:55 What Happens If You Don’t Address Trauma
27:27 The Key Differences Between Guilt and Shame
28:56 How to Support Someone Going Through Trauma
32:20 What Is Scarcity Envy and How Does It Affect Us?
35:15 High-Functioning Depression Explained
36:38 What Is Depression? Signs and Symptoms
38:06 Ad Break
40:27 Are People More Depressed Than Ever?
42:23 What Is "High-Functioning Depression"?
44:03 How to Check In on Friends and Family
46:51 What Is Anhedonia and Why It Matters
51:33 The Impact of Anhedonia on Mental Health
53:18 Should We Slow Down to Improve Mental Health?
54:55 The 5,4,3,2,1 Exercise for Anxiety Relief
58:20 Procrastination Caused by Worry: How to Manage It
59:10 Should You Stay in a Relationship Where Depression Is Present?
1:01:59 Are We All Somewhere on the Neurodivergent Spectrum?
1:03:48 How to Raise Awareness Without Misdiagnosing Yourself
1:06:07 Taking Control of Your Thoughts
1:08:05 The Cognitive Behavioral Triangle Explained
1:08:47 What Judith Would Tell Her Younger Self
1:09:21 Is Judith Truly Happy?
1:11:23 Judith’s Most Memorable Conversation
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When someone says to you 'we need to talk', how does that make you feel?
The hardest conversations to have are also the most important. Paul C Brunson, the world’s most influential matchmaker and TV star, brings his insightful commentary on how to create and sustain successful relationships through vulnerability, connection and understanding.
From weekly conversations with industry experts and familiar faces, Paul promises to support your personal growth, provide practical insights, and deliver actionable advice that will add value to your relationships.
Ready to deepen those connections? Then you’re in the right place.
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