We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

The SEX DOCTOR: Women's Orgasms - What You Didn't Know! Dr. Karen Gurney
Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction. From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment. Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. Follow Dr Karen Here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxOb Karen's Book 'Mind The Gap' https://g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxOb Karen's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' https://g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxOb Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod -- 00:00 Introduction 1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life 1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter? 3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know 5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit? 7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist? 10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference 15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios 18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations 21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters 27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary) 28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter? 31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size 34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality? 36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common? 37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World? 40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary) 41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed? 45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond 47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad 48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad 49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter? 52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships 1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship 1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary) 1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting 1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life 1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex? 1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure? 1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life 1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships 1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship? 1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship 1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important 1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You? 1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex 1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex 1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad -- Sponsored by: Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB
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Toni Tone and Taiwo: The Reason Why Men AVOID Confident Women
Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong. Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations. Follow Toni Here: Toni's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/JazIAMKurOb Toni's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/sFCGcJOurOb Follow Taiwo Here: Taiwo's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/0wuUp8WurOb Taiwo's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/pUhyd2SurOb Follow Me Here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Introduction to the Episode 03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK 05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories 06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles 11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story 16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call 16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean? 18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship 20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach 25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship 29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating? 30:55 Shopify Ad 31:54 Huel Ad 33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love 35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact 38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men? 49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together 54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul 56:59 Tinder Ad Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB
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Leading Psychiatrist: Is High Functioning Depression Harming Your Love Life? - Dr Judith Joseph
In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and mental health expert, to explore high-functioning depression and anhedonia—two often-overlooked mental health conditions that can profoundly affect both personal well-being and relationships. Dr. Judith shares her insights on how people may appear to have everything under control while silently struggling, and she provides practical advice for identifying these hidden signs and managing them effectively. With her clinical background and deep understanding of trauma and attachment issues, Dr. Judith offers listeners tools to foster self-awareness, resilience, and healthier connections. Whether you’re dealing with these challenges yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation will equip you with valuable strategies for navigating the complexities of these struggles. Follow Dr Judith Joseph here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/CWNtxBUHfOb Dr Judith Pre-Order Link: https://g2ul0.app.link/JOBEG4qIfOb Dr Judith Anhedonia Quiz: https://g2ul0.app.link/iKrl1RxIfOb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 0:00 Intro 0:46 Judith’s Early Life and Background 2:33 Pros and Cons of Being an Immigrant 5:04 Judith’s Strong Work Ethic 6:06 Why Judith Switched to a Career in Psychology 8:45 How Judith Found the Confidence to Change Careers 10:18 Why Judith Chose to Pursue Psychiatry 12:08 What Exactly Is Psychiatry? 13:34 The Role of a Lab in Psychiatry and Why It Matters 15:40 How Race Affects Access to Therapy 18:28 Can You Overdo Therapy? 20:45 Understanding and Defining Trauma 23:38 How the Pandemic Has Shaped Our View on Trauma 24:42 What Is Scarcity Trauma? 25:55 What Happens If You Don’t Address Trauma 27:27 The Key Differences Between Guilt and Shame 28:56 How to Support Someone Going Through Trauma 32:20 What Is Scarcity Envy and How Does It Affect Us? 35:15 High-Functioning Depression Explained 36:38 What Is Depression? Signs and Symptoms 38:06 Ad Break 40:27 Are People More Depressed Than Ever? 42:23 What Is "High-Functioning Depression"? 44:03 How to Check In on Friends and Family 46:51 What Is Anhedonia and Why It Matters 51:33 The Impact of Anhedonia on Mental Health 53:18 Should We Slow Down to Improve Mental Health? 54:55 The 5,4,3,2,1 Exercise for Anxiety Relief 58:20 Procrastination Caused by Worry: How to Manage It 59:10 Should You Stay in a Relationship Where Depression Is Present? 1:01:59 Are We All Somewhere on the Neurodivergent Spectrum? 1:03:48 How to Raise Awareness Without Misdiagnosing Yourself 1:06:07 Taking Control of Your Thoughts 1:08:05 The Cognitive Behavioral Triangle Explained 1:08:47 What Judith Would Tell Her Younger Self 1:09:21 Is Judith Truly Happy? 1:11:23 Judith’s Most Memorable Conversation Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB
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Maura Higgins EXCLUSIVE: Fame Didn't Matter After Love Island!
In this exclusive episode, Love Island star Maura Higgins opens up about the intimate and personal aspects of her life journey, shedding light on the emotional challenges she’s encountered since entering the spotlight. From heartbreak, loss, and betrayal to the pressures of living in the public eye, Maura discusses how embracing vulnerability and practicing self-love have helped her stay true to herself. In her debut podcast episode, Maura’s story of resilience and personal growth is both empowering and relatable, especially for anyone navigating similar hardships. This conversation includes sensitive topics such as grief and sexual assault. If you are affected by anything in this podcast, please use these links to organisations that can offer support: CALM: https://g2ul0.app.link/uULaUXcM3Nb MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/gbuRaxjM3Nb Follow Maura here: https://g2ul0.app.link/7kCDv2mM3Nb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod — 00:00 Introduction 01:38 Maura Reveals Why She Rarely Shares Her Story 02:45 Why Maura Chose Now for Her First In-depth Interview 03:30 Exploring Maura's Complex Relationship With Her Mother 04:21 Insights into Maura's Childhood Experiences 05:39 Understanding Maura's Relationship With Her Father 08:59 Analyzing Maura's School Life Experiences 12:40 What Was It Like in Maura's Childhood Home? 13:49 Toxic School Experiences: Maura's Story 14:32 Weekends in Maura's Childhood: A Deep Dive 15:11 How Maura's Early Life Influenced Her Adult Relationships 15:58 Maura's Dating Life Beginnings Uncovered 16:25 Maura's First Romantic Relationship Explored 18:24 Maura's Journey to Becoming a Hairdresser 21:09 Maura's Early Days in the Public Eye 22:55 Promotional Segment: Tinder Advertisement 23:48 The Story of Maura and Her Best Friend 26:04 Can Men and Women Be Just Friends? Maura Discusses 28:24 Maura Confronts the Loss of Her Best Friend 35:26 Maura's Lack of Emotional Support from Her Father 36:08 The Truth About Maura's Cheating Ex-Partner 45:50 Maura Discusses Her Experience with Sexual Assault 52:22 Inside Maura's Love Island Adventure 58:54 Exploring Maura's Relationships on Love Island 01:01:34 Public Perceptions of Maura Post-Love Island 01:05:06 Life Changes for Maura After Love Island 01:10:54 Maura's Mental Health After Love Island: A Breakdown 01:25:45 Exploring the 'Triangular Love' Theory 01:27:11 Has Maura Ever Been in a Fulfilling Relationship? 01:29:44 Maura Discusses: What It Means to Truly Love 01:39:49 Maura on Staying Relevant: Career Pressures Post-Fame 01:41:58 Maura's Advice on Relationships 01:43:49 Maura at the BAFTAs: Celebrity Connections Revealed 01:50:41 Most Memorable Questions Asked to Maura 01:53:33 Key Insights from Paul's Interview with Maura 01:56:26 Advertisement Segment: Fiverr Promotion — Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul
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Gabor Mate: Your Partner Choice Reveals Everything! The Hidden Cost of Ignoring Trauma
In this episode, Dr. Gabor Maté, a world-renowned expert on trauma, stress and addiction, reveals how childhood experiences and emotional suppression deeply shape our relationships and overall wellbeing. He explains how unresolved trauma from our early years can lead to stress and challenges in adult relationships, and offers powerful insights on how embracing vulnerability and authenticity can foster healing and transformation in both one's personal life and relationships. Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges or seeking personal growth, Dr. Maté’s wisdom provides a path to healing and improvement, by understanding the root causes of emotional suppression and learning to live more authentically. Follow Gabor’s work here: On Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/BHvQI3ZySNb/ ..and his latest book, The Myth of Normal - https://g2ul0.app.link/gOaWoFWySNb/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod — 00:00 Introduction 01:52 Career Change Tips for Older Adults 04:27 How the Mind-Body Connection Impacts Relationships 11:51 How to Choose the Right Partner for Long-Term Happiness 13:08 Why Authenticity Matters in and out of Relationships 16:19 How Childhood Attachments Shape Your Adult Relationships 18:25 How to Be Your Most Authentic Self the Power of Saying No 28:41 How Social Status Affects Relationships 29:54 Different Types of Stress and How to Manage Them 36:37 Is Your Partner Hurting Your Well-Being 44:54 How to Develop a Secure Attachment in Relationships 49:10 The Health Effects of Avoidant and Anxious Attachment Styles 54:03 The Link Between Addiction and Attachment Styles 01:02:15 What Is Trauma and How Does It Affect You 01:05:41 How Many People Are Living with Trauma Today 01:07:30 How to Heal from Trauma and Move Forward 01:12:02 Important Topics That Need More Attention 01:15:24 Most Memorable Conversations on Relationships 01:17:24 Key Takeaways from This Discussion — Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/
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When someone says to you 'we need to talk', how does that make you feel? The hardest conversations to have are also the most important. Paul C Brunson, the world’s most influential matchmaker and TV star, brings his insightful commentary on how to create and sustain successful relationships through vulnerability, connection and understanding. From weekly conversations with industry experts and familiar faces, Paul promises to support your personal growth, provide practical insights, and deliver actionable advice that will add value to your relationships. Ready to deepen those connections? Then you’re in the right place. Instagram: @paulcbrunson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulcbrunson

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