3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

For years, I had a vision in my head of the kind of mom I was going to be. I would be present and patient. I would have snacks ready after school and summers full of creative activities. When I finally became a mom, I struggled to match the realities of the daily motherhood grind and the ideal images of motherhood I had in my head.

This week's guest is Amy Marie Hann, author of Master the Mundane. I asked Amy Marie to come on the show because of a Substack article of hers I read all about letting go of "shoulds." Amy Marie shares three big things she finally let go of and what opened up for her once she did.

✨ The difference between liking the idea of something and actually wanting to do it, and how to tell which one you're dealing with

✨ What changed when Amy Marie stopped trying to be the house all the kids wanted to be at

✨ How Amy Marie found a way to work that didn't require choosing between two extremes

If you've ever felt like you're forcing yourself into "shoulds" that don't quite match your reality, this one's for you.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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I have a friend named Laney who genuinely does not experience mom guilt. Not because she's a perfect mom, but because she's decided her kids are lucky to have her — and she means it! I used to laugh when she said things like that. But, now, after working for years on myself (I've come so far!), I understand that what I was struggling with wasn't only guilt over my shortcomings as a mom, but it was also guilt over the resentment I felt for everything I was carrying that led me to not enjoy my motherhood very much. The guilt was coming at me from every direction!

If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is going to feel like a very welcome exhale. This week's guest is JoAnn Crohn, certified life coach and author of The Best Mom is a Happy Mom. She helps moms go from martyr to model, and this conversation is full of honest, practical tools for getting there.

✨ Why JoAnn's husband didn't even realize the imbalance until they did this one exercise together

✨ The "guilt equation" from a psychologist that will completely change how you think about your own expectations

✨ The thing JoAnn's therapist said that cut through all the noise and told her exactly what being a good mom actually requires

If you've ever felt like the mental load of your family's life is sitting entirely on your shoulders, and if you've ever felt the guilt coming from every side, this episode is for you.

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I am recording the intro to this episode during one of the saddest weeks of my life. My beloved brother-in-law, Logan McKenna, died unexpectedly last Sunday morning. He was only 44 years old, and we are simply shattered by this loss.

As soon as I got the call, I got into my car and started driving to Utah to be with my sister and her two teenage children. And as I was driving, trying to wrap my mind around the immensity of this loss, I thought, "I am so glad that Logan agreed to be a guest on my podcast a year ago so that we can have his goodness and wisdom recorded forevermore."

This episode originally aired in February of 2025, where Logan talked about how to support a loved one who's struggling with mental illness. I decided to re-air it today as a tribute to him, so everyone who listens will get a taste of just how good he was — and will understand just how much he will be missed.

The world has lost one of the most special souls who ever lived. I will be clinging to his memory and his legacy this week and always.

I've spent a lot of time thinking about what the word "self-assured" actually means in the context of motherhood. And I think somewhere along the way, a lot of us accidentally absorbed this idea that being self-assured means being self-sufficient — that if we were really emotionally healthy or mature or confident, we would just… handle everything on our own.

But what I observed at my SAM Retreat last month completely reframed that for me. The women who seemed most grounded and alive and resilient weren't the ones who never needed support. They were the ones who knew how to seek it, receive it, and offer it to others.

In this episode, I'm sharing three takeaways from the retreat, and I hope you walk away feeling more convinced than ever that thriving in motherhood was never meant to be a solo endeavor.

💜 The nature phenomenon I learned about that made me almost tear up (and I'm not a crier!)

💜 Why "just think more positively" wasn't working — and what my nervous system actually needed instead

💜 How I turned a financially impossible dream into the best event I've ever hosted (hint: I didn't do it alone)

So here's to letting other people in. Here's to asking for what we need, receiving what's offered, and growing stronger because of the roots we share.

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If you've ever worried that you've messed up your relationship with your kids — whether it happened this morning or years ago — this episode is going to bring you a lot of comfort.

This week's guest is Wendy Snyder, founder of Fresh Start Family and author of the brand new book Fresh Start Your Family, and she is living proof that it is never too late to start fresh.Wendy shares some of her own biggest parenting mistakes in this episode with a vulnerability that I find so rare and so refreshing — and the hope she offers on the other side of those mistakes is something every mom needs to hear.

💜 The reason Wendy's 84-year-old father begged her not to write this book — and what he texted her when he finally read it

💜 What Wendy's four-year-old said to her after one of her worst parenting moments

💜 Why the parenting patterns you inherited aren't your fault — and how to update your system

It is never too late for a fresh start. I hope this episode feels like hope.

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