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Grief has been close to my family lately, and in the weeks since losing my brother-in-law Logan, I've found myself returning again and again to the memories that hold the people we love, long after they're no longer here.

This July 14th marks twenty-three years since my mother passed away from breast cancer. I was nineteen years old. And this episode (one of the most personal I've ever recorded) is my tribute to her.

My mom had a gift for seeing strengths in her children before they could see them in themselves — and for my mom, helping me find my voice, quite literally, was one of the most loving things she ever did for me. This episode is a musical tribute because music is where she first showed me who I was.

In it, you'll hear about

🎵 The nights my mom stayed up late making eight gorgeous costumes for me, and how those long hours spent together shaped me

🎵 What she said to me on the morning of July 14th, just a few hours before she passed

🎵 How my mom intentionally helped me see my strengths when I was an insecure seventh grade girl

This episode is about grief, yes, but it's also a celebration. It's a celebration of how my mom helped me find myself, and how her love is still shaping me today.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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One of the greatest gifts my mom gave me was helping me know my own strengths. If you're wondering how well you're doing at knowing and celebrating yours, we have a free three-minute quiz waiting for you at 3in30podcast.com/quiz — it will give you a visual snapshot of where you're thriving in your self-assured motherhood journey and where there might be a little room to grow.

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I have been a writer my whole life. Long before this podcast existed, writing was how I made sense of my hardest seasons, how I figured out what I actually thought and felt, and how I slowly found my way through pain I didn't know how to carry any other way.

Some of that writing happened in therapy. And some of the most important pages I ever filled were written during my recovery from an eating disorder.In this episode, I share three of those pieces: an essay I posted on my personal blog, a narrative therapy piece my counselor guided me through, and a letter I wrote to my own body. Together, they trace a journey from desperation to hope to something that finally, finally felt like peace.

In this episode, you'll hear me share:

✍️ What my counselor asked me to write that cracked something open in me, and why I think anyone doing hard inner work should try it

✍️ The running path conversation that changed everything

✍️ The letter to my body I was sure would come out angry — and what came out instead

This is soul care in its most honest, vulnerable form. I hope something in this episode gives you permission to honor your own needs and do deep, healing soul-care.

Note: This episode contains references to faith and prayer as part of my personal healing journey.

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I'm a word person. (Occupational hazard of spending years as an English teacher, I suppose.) I notice when words shift — when something that used to feel simple and clear starts carrying extra weight, or gets claimed by one group of people until the rest of us feel uncertain about whether we're still allowed to use it the way we always meant to.

That's what's happened, at least in my experience, to the word "patriotic." And more than my own discomfort, I started to feel genuinely unsure how to teach my kids how to be patriotic in a country that often feels so divided by partisan politics.

That question is exactly what brought Sharon McMahon back to 3 in 30. Sharon is known as America's Government Teacher and is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Small and the Mighty and her new children's book, We Are Mighty.

This conversation will give you language and a framework for the patriotism conversations you've been wanting to have with your kids, but haven't quite known how to start.

🇺🇸 Why loving your country and criticizing your country are not opposites

🇺🇸 Why narrating your small acts of service out loud shapes how your child understands what it means to love their neighbors — and their country

🇺🇸 Why getting your child to the polls just three times in a row may be one of the most lasting things you ever do for democracy

With the 4th of July coming up this week, and especially this year as we celebrate the 250th anniversary of the signing of the Declaration of Independence, we hope you find this conversation helpful.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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For years, I had a vision in my head of the kind of mom I was going to be. I would be present and patient. I would have snacks ready after school and summers full of creative activities. When I finally became a mom, I struggled to match the realities of the daily motherhood grind and the ideal images of motherhood I had in my head.

This week's guest is Amy Marie Hann, author of Master the Mundane. I asked Amy Marie to come on the show because of a Substack article of hers I read all about letting go of "shoulds." Amy Marie shares three big things she finally let go of and what opened up for her once she did.

✨ The difference between liking the idea of something and actually wanting to do it, and how to tell which one you're dealing with

✨ What changed when Amy Marie stopped trying to be the house all the kids wanted to be at

✨ How Amy Marie found a way to work that didn't require choosing between two extremes

If you've ever felt like you're forcing yourself into "shoulds" that don't quite match your reality, this one's for you.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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I have a friend named Laney who genuinely does not experience mom guilt. Not because she's a perfect mom, but because she's decided her kids are lucky to have her — and she means it! I used to laugh when she said things like that. But, now, after working for years on myself (I've come so far!), I understand that what I was struggling with wasn't only guilt over my shortcomings as a mom, but it was also guilt over the resentment I felt for everything I was carrying that led me to not enjoy my motherhood very much. The guilt was coming at me from every direction!

If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is going to feel like a very welcome exhale. This week's guest is JoAnn Crohn, certified life coach and author of The Best Mom is a Happy Mom. She helps moms go from martyr to model, and this conversation is full of honest, practical tools for getting there.

✨ Why JoAnn's husband didn't even realize the imbalance until they did this one exercise together

✨ The "guilt equation" from a psychologist that will completely change how you think about your own expectations

✨ The thing JoAnn's therapist said that cut through all the noise and told her exactly what being a good mom actually requires

If you've ever felt like the mental load of your family's life is sitting entirely on your shoulders, and if you've ever felt the guilt coming from every side, this episode is for you.

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