You're self aware but still in the overthinking spiral?
You’ve read the books, saved the Instagram carousels, diagnosed your attachment style (hi anxious girlies 👋), and can spot a spiral from a mile away… but you’re still spiraling?! 🌀
In this episode, we break down:
💭 Why high self-awareness doesn't stop the overthinking
🧠 The "anxious observer" trap (aka when you know you’re spiraling and still can’t stop)
🪞 How spiraling damages self-trust and your relationship
❤️🔥 The secret sauce to actually feeling safe (spoiler: it’s not just positive affirmations)
👩⚖️ A juicy client win (shoutout to M, our unbothered queen)
🌲 And what solo camping trips taught Clare about healing from abandonment wounds
✨ If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you.
🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
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When Overthinking Is Your Relationship Coping Mechanism (and why it’s not a Solution)
Do you go to overthinking the second the vibes are off?
Scroll TikTok for answers before the text even delivers?
Google “anxious attachment + texting” like it’s your part-time job? Yeah. Me too.
This episode is for the girlies who know they’re spiraling and feel like they can’t stop—especially when they’re dating someone good. If overthinking has become your coping mechanism in relationships, this episode will land.
We’re talking:
• Why your brain loves overthinking (hint: dopamine)
• Why it feels productive, but actually disconnects you from real connection
• How you're using mental work to avoid emotional work
• The real reason you can explain your triggers but still don’t feel better
I also share a story from my own spiral (yes, the lost RV keys) and shout out a few of my amazing clients who are breaking this cycle in real time—especially Seth and Autumn (you’re killin’ it 👏).
If you’ve ever felt like:
🌀 “I can’t relax until I figure it out”
🧠 “I keep overthinking even though I know I’m safe”
💔 “I keep creating problems when there aren’t any” …this episode is for you.
💌 Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we’re taking this even deeper all month long masterclasses, implementation days, tools, coaching… the works. If this episode hits, wait ‘til you see what we do inside the gang.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
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Why You Keep Spiraling Even When You Know Better
✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?!
In this episode I'm talking to YOU, the high-achieving, emotionally intelligent girlie who knows her patterns but still finds herself overthinking texts, replaying convos, and getting caught in the same loop with the same person... again.
If you’ve ever thought:
🧠 “I know better, but I can’t stop overthinking.”
😬 “Why do I keep doing this when I’m so aware of what’s happening?”
💔 “I feel like two different people—confident in my career, anxious in my relationship.” Then hit play because this episode is for YOU!
We’re breaking down:
• Why knowing your attachment style isn’t enough
• How your brain is prioritizing familiar over safe
• What it really means to “feel ready” for love
• Why you’re addicted to overthinking and calling it “clarity”
• And how to finally shift from spiraling to self-trust
👯♀️ Bonus: I shout out a few of my 1:1 clients (hey, Mrs. N 👀) and show you what real healing looks like...not just awareness, but actual transformation.
🎧 And if you’re loving this, this is just the surface. Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we go deeper with tools, practice, and coaching to help you stop overthinking for real, not just for the afternoon.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
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Is THIS The Most Toxic Habit of Anxious Attachment?
✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯
On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing… and why it’s actually keeping you stuck in the spiral. 😵💫
If you're a high-achieving, big-hearted babe who feels like she knows better but just can’t stop overthinking, this is your sign to tune in.
We’re breaking down:
- The real reason your brain loves to overthink (hint: dopamine hit 😬)
- Why spiraling feels productive, even though it’s sabotaging connection
- How overthinking is actually keeping you from intimacy—and what to do instead
- What makes this pattern so hard to quit, even when your partner is amazing
💡 Plus, I'm giving you tools, truth bombs, and a loving kick in the butt to help you finally break the habit FOR GOOD! 🎧 LISTEN NOW and drop a comment if you’re deep in the spiral lately (no shame, you’re not alone).
👯♀️ Want more support? Join our private membership, the Healing Girl Gang, where we’re doing a 5-day Overthinking Detox all month long! You get the trainings, the tools, and the coaching to actually heal… not just cope.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
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WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
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3 Things I Learned to Finally Stop Overthinking (after nearly 💩ing in a tent!)
After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong... this episode is going to hit deep.
Inside, we'll talk about:
✨ What it really means to listen to your body (and why it matters for your anxious brain)
✨ How productivity pressure secretly fuels relationship anxiety
✨ The difference between your gut and your fear brain
✨ And how I finally felt safe doing... nothing. Just being. Truly.
PLUS: tomorrow (Wednesday!) is Implementation Day inside The Healing Girl Gang and this month’s focus is on Overthinking. If you’re ready for the how, this is where we get specific and walk through the process together.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.
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