Is THIS The Most Toxic Habit of Anxious Attachment?
✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯
On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing… and why it’s actually keeping you stuck in the spiral. 😵💫
If you're a high-achieving, big-hearted babe who feels like she knows better but just can’t stop overthinking, this is your sign to tune in.
We’re breaking down:
- The real reason your brain loves to overthink (hint: dopamine hit 😬)
- Why spiraling feels productive, even though it’s sabotaging connection
- How overthinking is actually keeping you from intimacy—and what to do instead
- What makes this pattern so hard to quit, even when your partner is amazing
💡 Plus, I'm giving you tools, truth bombs, and a loving kick in the butt to help you finally break the habit FOR GOOD! 🎧 LISTEN NOW and drop a comment if you’re deep in the spiral lately (no shame, you’re not alone).
👯♀️ Want more support? Join our private membership, the Healing Girl Gang, where we’re doing a 5-day Overthinking Detox all month long! You get the trainings, the tools, and the coaching to actually heal… not just cope.
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3 Things I Learned to Finally Stop Overthinking (after nearly 💩ing in a tent!)
After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong... this episode is going to hit deep.
Inside, we'll talk about:
✨ What it really means to listen to your body (and why it matters for your anxious brain)
✨ How productivity pressure secretly fuels relationship anxiety
✨ The difference between your gut and your fear brain
✨ And how I finally felt safe doing... nothing. Just being. Truly.
PLUS: tomorrow (Wednesday!) is Implementation Day inside The Healing Girl Gang and this month’s focus is on Overthinking. If you’re ready for the how, this is where we get specific and walk through the process together.
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How to Get Out of the Overthinking Loop for Good
If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔
We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you).
We're breaking down:
⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear
⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from
⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is
⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it
Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿
Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month.
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What I’m Still Healing (Even as a Relationship Coach)
Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME.
In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-performing girlies who feel confident in their careers but are still spiraling in their relationships.
🎧 We’ll talk about:
✨The real reason your healing “isn’t sticking”
✨Why you might still spiral (even after tons of growth)
✨The sneaky trap of thinking healing means “no more conflict”
✨Why anxious attachment is less about perfection and more like tending a garden
I also share a little life update from my pre-retreat cleanse, what’s been going on with my body lately (ladies, let’s talk hormones + 90s low-rise trauma 🙃), and a deeply personal coaching answer to a listener’s question about giving a partner space without losing your mind.
❤️ If you’ve ever thought “I should be over this by now”… this one’s for you.
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The Hidden Damage Overthinking Does to Your Relationship
If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again...
Then this episode is your soft place to land.
In this episode we’re unpacking the hidden damage overthinking does to your relationships (even when things seem fine on the surface).
I’ll walk you through:
💭 Why overthinking feels productive but keeps you disconnected
🧠 How your brain uses spiraling as a safety strategy
💗 What it actually takes to shift into emotional peace and connection
🏕 Plus: a lil’ story about Blair Witch-level camping chaos (you’ll get it)
👯♀️ Also, shoutout to my Healing Girl Gang - we answer a listener Q about anxious attachment + space in relationships that SO many of you will relate to.
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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.
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