Learning To Mom ® Motherhood Podcast for First Time Moms, New Moms and Expecting Mothers

If you have a 2 or 3 year old who fights you on everything from shoes to snacks to leaving the library, this one is going to feel like someone finally gets it. Tara Vellella, The Calm Mom Coach, walked me through what's actually happening in a strong-willed toddler's brain and body during a tantrum, why they truly CAN'T calm down on command, and the step by step of what to do while it's happening.
We also got into why gentle parenting can feel like it isn't working, and why so many of us end up burnt out trying to do it "right."
In this episode:
Tara's story and what she does as The Calm Mom Coach
What "strong-willed" actually means 
How long tantrums normally last and when they stop being developmentally appropriate
What's happening in their brain and body mid tantrum
Why gentle parenting can feel like it's failing you, and the burnout nobody talks about
The step by step of what to do WHILE the tantrum is happening
How to actually help them calm down
Reinforcing the first small step and following through
Should you ignore a tantrum completely? 
Forcing the task vs waiting for calm and then practicing it
The mistakes that make tantrums bigger and longer
Public tantrums
Knowing your own boundaries and picking your battles
Power struggles and how to offer choices that actually work
When to lead with connection and when to hold a clear boundary
and more!
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This week Steven Rofrano, the founder of Ancient Crunch, BLOWS MY MIND on all things Seed Oils and how they're impacting our kid's minds and bodies. 
He breaks down what to look for on the ingredient label, the oils he uses instead, where seed oils sneak in that you’d never think about, and his hot take that health foods are a scam.
In this episode, we get into:
The 8 seed oils to look for on ingredient labels
Which cooking oils are considered safe
 Why your avocado oil and olive oil might not be what the label says
Sneaky sources of seed oils 
How seed oils may affect inflammation, skin, metabolism, and energy

and more!!
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Worried you're going to pass down the same patterns you grew up with? This episode is FOR YOU.
Eli Harwood (Attachment Nerd) is back, and she's breaking down what cycle breaking actually looks like day to day, without the pressure to heal everything before your kid turns five.
In this episode we get into:
What does breaking generational cycles actually look like in everyday parenting
How much of the time do you have to get it right for your kid to be securely attached
Why do I keep repeating my parents' patterns even though I swore I never would
Do I need to heal myself before I can be a good parent
How do I learn parenting skills that were never modeled for me
How do I get my husband to work on his stuff without it turning into a fight
What do I do after I lose my temper with my kids
Her words, and I have not stopped thinking about them: what has been traumatically created over generations will be healed over generations. You're ONE person. You get to do your part.

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