Support in unlikely places: Who really helps kids through parental separation?
In this episode, Kate is joined by the founder of Restored Lives Erik Castenskiold to discuss how to thrive as a child of separated parents, even as an adult.About the episode:Erik starts off by sharing his own experience of divorce and how it ultimately led him to found Restored Lives, a UK-based charity that provides resources and support for individuals and families affected by relationship breakdown. He then goes on to talk about Your Direction, a course that offers tools and skills for 12-30-year-old children of divorce to help them find future happiness and success. Kate and Erik explore why the course was created and what the sessions cover. They also address common concerns that parents may have about the initiative. Finally, they discuss the types of conversations that 12-17-year-old and 18-30-year-old children of divorce might be having during the sessions and how both age groups can benefit from this kind of support.About our guest:Erik Castenskiold is the founder of the charity Restored Lives which helps adults and children navigate the impact of divorce and separation. In the last 23 years, over 3,000 adults have been supported across 10 different countries with multiple resources, including an eight-week course, a book, and countless videos. Restored Lives has partnered with Spurgeons, a children’s charity, to launch Your Direction, a series of workshops for children of separated parents aged 12-17 and 18-30 years old. Your Direction helps to break the silence surrounding divorce and separation and helps children to build resilience, improve their wellbeing and enhance their relationships with their parents, as well as their friends and future partners. More resources:You can learn more about Restored Lives and Your Direction on their website. You can also follow Your Direction on Instagram for helpful tips and testimonials.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#Coparenting
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Blame, forgiveness and key traits for divorce recovery
In this episode, Kate is joined by the founder of Divorce Recovery Seminars, author, former barrister, and family court judge Christopher Compston to discuss his personal experience of divorce through his unique professional legal lens.About the episode:Kate and Christopher start by discussing Christopher’s parents’ divorce and how this formed his view of marriage. He shares an invaluable insider perspective on the legal process having worked as a barrister and a judge. Christopher then goes on to explore his own experience of adultery and divorce. Kate and Christopher finish off by sharing some tips on how to recover, move on and lead a happy life after divorce, as well as some hard-hitting truths about how painful the experience can truly be.About our guest:Christopher Compston is a former barrister and was a Circuit Judge for nearly thirty years, dealing with everything from criminal to family matters. He retired in 2013. Twice married, he has had six children. For many years he and his current wife, Caroline, attended Holy Trinity Church in Brompton where he started and ran Divorce Recovery seminars for ten years. Christopher has written two books on the subject: ‘Recovering from Divorce’ (1993) and ‘Breaking Up Without Cracking Up’ (2011).More resources:You can learn more about Restored Lives on their website, and you can purchase Christopher’s book ‘Breaking Up Without Cracking Up’ on Amazon.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#LifeAfterDivorce
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‘Silent’ separation, staying for the kids and writing to heal
In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning author Laura Pritchett to discuss how a lack of communication led to the end of her marriage – and how journalling and writing helped her understand the truth and ultimately move on.About the episodeKate and Laura begin by discussing Laura’s essay, ‘No sound, no fury, no marriage’, and her divorce experience, which inspired her to write the piece. Laura explains how a lack of easy banter and general communication barriers ultimately led to the end of her marriage – and how journalling and writing her latest novel, ‘Three Keys’, helped her understand the truth and move on. Finally, Laura reflects on her 22-year marriage and what she’s learned about the part she played in the divorce. She shares how she eventually told her kids the news and the lessons she's taking forward into her next chapter…About our guestLaura Pritchett is an award-winning author of seven novels, two nonfiction books and editor of three anthologies. Her essay ‘No sound, no fury, no marriage’ was featured in the Modern Love column of The New York Times, and her latest fiction book. ‘Three Keys’ is based on her own experience of divorce. All her work is rooted in the natural world, celebrating the people who live close to it. When not writing or teaching, she’s generally found exploring the mountains of her home state of Colorado, particularly those near the ranch where she was raised.More resourcesDiscover Laura Prichett’s work on her website.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#SeparationStories
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Money trauma, relationships and the truth about pensions in marriage
In this episode, Kate is joined by a multi-award-winning Financial Coach and international author Catherine Morgan to discuss pensions and other financial aspects of divorce. About the episode:Kate and Catherine begin by discussing Catherine’s journey to becoming a financial coach and how personal life trauma shapes her relationship with money. They consider how money trauma may affect thoughts and actions during a divorce or separation. The conversation moves on to discuss pensions and why many people have such a strong emotional attachment to them. Catherine gives advice on how to avoid unfair pension arrangements during a divorce and what steps can be taken to improve your financial situation post-divorce. Finally, Catherine shares her top tips on how to get on top of your finances through scheduling ‘money dates’ with yourself and much more. About our guest:Catherine Morgan is a Financial Wellbeing Speaker, multi-award-winning Financial Coach and international author. Her Amazon #1 best-selling book, It's Not About the Money, presents a trauma-informed psychological approach to money. As the founder of The Money Panel®, Catherine trains financial professionals through her acclaimed Financial Coach Certification programme and works with consumers under her personal brand by running courses and retreats. After 15 years as a regulated financial adviser, Catherine created her current business focussed on the psychology of money. Recognised as one of the top 32 female entrepreneurs by Business Leader, her expertise has been featured in Forbes, Grazia, Meta, Amazon, The Telegraph and more. Her podcast ‘It’s not about the money’ is in the top 0.5% in the world. More resources:Learn more about Catherine on her website. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#Finances
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Five arguments all couples need to have with Joanna Harrison
In this episode, Kate is joined by therapist, author and former divorce lawyer Joanna Harrison to share expert tips on how to have a healthy argument in relationships, as parents and post-separation. About the episode:Kate and Joanna begin by discussing Joanna’s book, Five Arguments All Couples (Need To) Have And Why The Washing Up Matters (Souvenir Press, £9.99). Joanna explains how key couple differences when it comes to communication, in-laws, daily chores, personal space and sex can all lead to arguments in relationships. Kate and Joanna also explore how these conflicts can manifest between ex-partners and co-parents. Throughout the conversation, they consider each sticking point and give expert tips on how to have healthier, more constructive disagreements. The episode ends with Joanna's communication tips for co-parents, including creating space and time for important decisions and encouraging curiosity about your ex-partner. About our guest:Joanna Harrison is an experienced couple therapist, former divorce lawyer and author of Five Arguments All Couples (Need To) Have And Why The Washing Up Matters (Souvenir Press, £9.99). She regularly speaks and writes about relationship issues in the media and specialises in supporting couples who are considering separation or going through it. More resources:Learn more about Joanna on her website or purchase her book in your local bookstore or online. You can also read our blog ‘Is it over? Should I leave?’ on our website.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today#EmotionalJourney
The Divorce Podcast is a podcast dedicated to looking at divorce from new perspectives and driving reform. Hosted by Kate Daly, each episode invites experts from a variety of backgrounds and disciplines to discuss their own views on divorce, and debate them with the other guests.
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