The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by parenting expert Oona Alexander to explore how parents can protect their children's wellbeing during divorce. They discuss what to say, how to listen and ways to limit the emotional impact on your family.
How to support your children through divorce without passing on your pain
Oona shares practical tips for starting conversations with children about divorce and how they’re feeling. She and Kate discuss how to maintain the fine line between pushing children to express their feelings too much and not discussing them at all. 
Oona also explains how to separate your own experience from your children’s and how not to project your feelings onto them. She gives invaluable advice on how to deal with your child’s challenging behaviours, navigate blame and prepare for conversations about the inevitable changes ahead.
What we cover:
How to start difficult conversations about divorce with your children
Why balance matters when encouraging children  to express feelings
Separating your own experience from your children’s
 Handling challenging behaviours and blame
Preparing children for changes ahead
About Oona Alexander: parenting expert and divorced mum
Oona is a leading UK parenting expert and co-parenting specialist - as well as a divorced mum. 
She helps divorcing parents move rapidly from despair and guilt to positivity and confidence, so they can create the best possible outcomes for their children. 
With Oona, you discover the practical, loving steps to limit ‘damage’ to your children and help them be secure, happy and well-behaved before, during and after divorce. 
Get in touch with Oona
You can get in touch with Oona on her website. There you can also find helpful divorce resources and book a consultation.
More divorce resources
You can get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 
If this episode felt useful, Kate’s upcoming book amicable divorce goes even further, with practical guidance for navigating separation with kindness. Preorder on Amazon today.
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In this Part 2 mini-episode, Kate shares practical, step-by-step guidance on how to approach difficult conversations with your ex-partner –  from finances to child arrangements.
How to have uncomfortable conversations with your ex-partner
Kate shares practical communication tips from preparing for the conversation to choosing language that helps keep things calm, and what to do if emotions run high. She also explains why documenting outcomes can make a real difference in reducing confusion and conflict later on.
What we cover:
How to prepare for tricky conversations
Language tips to keep discussions from escalating
Why documenting outcomes matters
More divorce resources:
Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.
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You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 
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This week Kate introduces Split Happens - a new digital platform created by amicable and Restored Lives to support young people aged 13-30 navigating parental separation.
Kate is joined by Anthony Syder, Divorce & Co-parenting Specialist at amicable, Shakira Paulas, Marketing Consultant at Restored Lives, and Helen Pittard, a family Relationship Specialist and one of the founder Trustees of Voices in the middle. They talk about how Split Happens uses AI to help young people process emotions, access support and build confidence during family separation and change.
Supporting young people through parental separation - a new approach.
Kate and her guests begin by exploring the lack of accessible support and resources for young people with separated parents, and how Split Happens was created to thoughtfully fill that gap. They introduce Yuni - an AI companion built on carefully curated expert guidance and real peer experiences - and discuss why young people may find it helpful for starting important conversations, accessing support and reassurance and building the emotional skills that can support young people in their future relationships and beyond.
The team explores why young people may find it easier to open up to Yuni than to parents or counsellors, and how the platform bridges the gap to real-world conversations and support.
Trigger warning: this episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing, including poor mental health and suicide.
Meet our experts 
Helen is a family Relationship Specialist working directly with families and their children, easing the separation process in order to reduce conflict. She is also a major advocate for the voice of the child and one of the founder Trustees of Voices in the Middle.
Anthony Syder is a Negotiation Specialist and the team lead for amicable's financial consent order drafting team. His areas of interest include the voice of the child in separation and diverse families. Anthony was previously an accredited family mediator and also sat on the board of the Family Mediators Association.
Shakira is the Social Media and Content Manager at Restored Lives, a charity supporting adults and children affected by divorce and separation. She works closely with the wider team to support course delivery, volunteer engagement, and participant outreach. 
Explore Split Happens
Whether you’re a young person navigating separation or a parent wanting to support them, Split Happens is here for you. Get the support you need at splithappens.co.uk, and follow @splithappensofficial on Instagram.
More divorce resources
You can get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 
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In this Part 1 mini-episode, Kate shares gentle guidance on difficult conversations during divorce - from finances and children’s arrangements to talking about the future.
Why difficult conversations matter during divorce
Kate explores why these conversations can feel so uncomfortable, what’s really happening beneath the surface when we avoid them and why leaning into them can make separation smoother and kinder for everyone involved.
Don’t miss Part 2 on the 14th of January, where Kate shares simple, practical strategies to help these conversations feel calmer, clearer and more manageable.
What we cover:
The conversations people most commonly avoid during separation
Why certain topics feel especially hard to talk about
Why difficult conversations matter for your future

More divorce resources:
Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.
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You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 
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This week, we’re revisiting a much-loved episode from last year to bring reassurance and support to parents navigating the holidays without their children.
In this episode, Kate is joined by amicable’s Divorce Specialists, Anthony Syder and Bec Jones, to share tips on coping with not being with your children. Perhaps your child is with their other parent, and you may be listening to this on Christmas or another special occasion.
About the episode:
This episode looks at tips and advice to help you get through. Kate and her guests begin by describing common arrangements for children and focus on typical holiday arrangements and the effects they might have on you as a parent if you don’t get to spend this time with your kids. They explore how arrangements might affect children’s feelings, and what steps you can take to ensure that everyone has a great Christmas day without feeling guilty or worried. Anthony and Bec also share tips on how to approach talking about Christmas or other holiday arrangements with your co-parent and planning the festive season in advance. They finish off by sharing some tips about self-care if you’re spending this Christmas without your children.
About our guests:
Anthony is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 8 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families. 
Having had over 10 years of experience as a divorce lawyer, Bec leads amicable's Negotiation team. Bec played a vital role in developing the amicable process and is renowned for her empathetic approach. With expertise in child arrangements, blended families, and complex finances, she is a fountain of knowledge.
More resources:
We understand that special occasions can be hard to cope with if you're not spending them with your children.
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Mind is a mental health charity that is always here to provide you with the help and support that you might need.
Alternatively, please get in touch with your GP or call 111 to get mental health help and advice.
Please get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.
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