Your Aunties Could Never

Told she was too young. Told it was her deodorant. Told to pray it away. Three Black women share what breast cancer really looks like and what life looks like after.

For Breast Cancer Awareness Month and Black History Month, the Aunties sit down with three incredible women from Black Women Rising, the UK charity supporting women of colour through every stage of a cancer diagnosis. Founded eight years ago with eight women in a room in Peckham, it now supports 950. This is honest, funny and full of hope.

⚡ Misdiagnosed at 27 with a toddler: "You're too young for cancer"
⚡ Chemo myths, herbal "cures" and why everyone suddenly becomes a doctor
⚡ Fighting for a mastectomy, implants, scars and loving your body after
⚡ Family reactions, "cancer for clout" and the rule: you get one cry
⚡ Cancer ghosting, losing people and becoming a new version of yourself
⚡ PLUS: our Lyric Hammersmith live show, the Blacklisted Honours, Kelso's "man before child" take and we run to the comments on Coach Anwar

This one is for every Black woman who has ever been brushed off, and every one of us who has been scared to say the word.

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⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Welcome to Extra Aunties + meet our guests
01:30 What is Black Women Rising?
02:30 Three diagnosis stories
08:30 "Am I gonna die?" – first reactions
10:30 Cultural myths: "Chemo isn't for Black people"
14:00 Soursop, vitamin C & CBD – everyone's a doctor
16:30 Why chemo isn't one-size-fits-all
19:30 Fighting for a mastectomy
21:00 The BRCA gene explained
24:30 Mastectomy vs lumpectomy
27:00 Implants, scars & body image after surgery
31:30 The "dark passenger": fear it'll come back
33:45 Family reactions & "you get one cry"
36:45 "You got cancer for clout"
40:00 Cancer ghosting & losing people
43:00 Grieving who you were
43:45 Peer support at Homerton Hospital
47:00 How Black Women Rising started
50:30 Why fear-based campaigns don't work for us
53:45 Can you reduce your risk?
56:30 "Get good at disappointing people"
59:00 How to support the charity
1:00:45 What the Aunties have learned from guests
1:06:30 Advice for aspiring health presenters
1:12:15 Auntie-vention: stop messing with our food!
1:13:30 Our Lyric Hammersmith live show – thank yous
1:20:15 The Blacklisted Honours 2026
1:24:45 Enemy of progress: Kelso's "man before child" take
1:30:15 Chrisean & Blueface, Sacha Baron Cohen & Drewski
1:33:15 Run to the comments: Coach Anwar
1:55:00 Bye bye now

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If he hasn't committed in three months, he's not confused — he's just not choosing you.
Dating and relationship coach Anwar White, the "fairy godbrother of dating," sits down with the aunties to break down why so many good Black women are stuck in the dating trenches, and what to do about it. From strategic vulnerability and the 3-month rule to why our "type" is really our trauma, this one is a whole free coaching session. Plus, Anwar diagnoses the aunties using the four dating archetypes from his new book, Girl, Get Your Guy.
⚡ Never ask a man "what are we?" — here's what to say instead
⚡ The 3-month rule and the 2-year rule: when to walk away
⚡ "Our types are our traumas" — and why butterflies are really anxiety
⚡ Should Black women date everybody? The numbers behind it
⚡ Noelle, Tia, Violet or the Perfect Girl — which dating archetype are you?
⚡ Auntie-ventions: she's letting him pay for law school… then leaving. Strategy or scam?

This is for every Black woman who's been told she's "too independent" and never once been shown how to receive.

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She put her grown son out after years of verbal abuse. Was she wrong, or had she finally chosen peace?
A.K., Farah and Nana discuss the guilt, expectations and pressure placed on Black mothers. When does protecting your child become accepting behaviour you would tell anyone else to walk away from?
Plus, a woman sets off on a 20-hour drive to confront a man who won’t answer her messages. The Aunties have questions, starting with: what happens when you have to drive home?
We also get into reparations, Britain’s slavery history, racial justice, Hasan Piker’s interview, co-parenting and whether staying together for the children actually helps them. And yes, we’re revisiting the argument that upset the comments: are beards makeup for men?
No guests this week. Just your favourite Aunties, honest opinions and plenty to debate.
Tell us in the comments: can you love your child and still tell them they can’t live with you?
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Being “ladylike” and the rules girls grow up with
03:00 Driving 20 hours for a man who won’t reply
13:00 A mother puts her adult son out
16:00 Why is the mother being blamed?
22:00 Meet the Aunties and live show chat
28:00 Welcome to the Family: Buy Back Brixton
30:00 Britain’s slave trade register
32:00 The Aunties challenge arguments against reparations
39:00 What should reparations actually involve?
46:00 An invitation to come and debate the Aunties
49:00 A Mississippi case and questions about justice
58:00 News narratives, state violence and accountability
1:00:00 Britain, slavery and whose history gets told
1:05:00 Hasan Piker, political interviews and Palestine
1:14:00 A mum carries the baby and everyone’s food
1:16:00 Co-parenting: can you change the dynamic?
1:20:00 Should parents stay together for the children?
1:26:00 Should women dress differently for their partners?
1:27:00 Unwanted touching and personal boundaries
1:28:00 Are beards makeup for men? We answer the comments
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Your favourite Aunties, Ak, Farrah and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by Aaron Dale, founder of Raising Boys 2 Men and author of the new book The Co-Parent: A Toolkit for Parenting Together, Apart.
AUNTYVENTION
🫂 Is he a good dad? A father cancelled his daughter's birthday mid celebration after she got her period, leaked and was too embarrassed to continue. He then took away $250 of her birthday money to teach her about "consequences". Her mum and family were furious. Was this parenting or punishment without compassion?
WELCOME TO THE FAMILY
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💐 Vatika Naturals, bringing more than 140 years of heritage and natural ingredients to haircare for diverse hair types.
💐 Nubian Jak Community Trust, following the unveiling of a blue plaque in Westbourne Park celebrating the history and legacy of Notting Hill Carnival.
💐 Your Aunties Could Never LIVE at the Lyric Hammersmith! Book your tickets now!
ENEMIES OF PROGRESS
🚩 A stepmother forcing her stepchild to call her "Mum". You can build a loving relationship with a child, but can you demand the title?
🚩 Joanna Wietrzyk, after the Hyrox world champion continued competing after soiling herself mid race. How badly do you need to win?!
🚩 Black girls walking barefoot down the street! Farrah and AK witnessed heels in hands and bare feet on the pavement and couldn't believe their eyes. Some traditions must be preserved. Gen Z, Gen Alpha ... fix up.
🚩 The Lindsay Clancy case, from the campaigning for her freedom to the doxxing of the Black male juror who reportedly held out against a not guilty verdict. We unpack race, sympathy, mental health, the treatment of that juror and whether the three young children who died are being lost in the conversation.
This is the honest conversation you won't hear anywhere else.
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Trillary Banks joins the Aunties for an honest conversation about family loyalty, public judgement and supporting her mother through a prison sentence following a fatal car accident. Trillary explains why she refuses to abandon her mum, while acknowledging the lives lost and the pain experienced by the families involved. Can you love someone, stand beside them and still accept that what they did was wrong? The conversation also explores the pressure on women to marry and have children, fertility, intentional dating, distrust, the realities of the UK music industry and why some people struggle to celebrate another person’s success.