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How do you balance providing your neurodivergent children with the right support, whilst empowering them to make their own decisions?
In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Hester Grainger - a former TV and BBC Radio presenter, certified ADHD coach, and mum of two neurodivergent teenagers who were diagnosed with autism in 2019 and then with ADHD in 2020. Hester speaks honestly and openly about her journey raising children with ADHD and autism, managing life as a neurodivergent parent, and her own journey with ADHD having been diagnosed later in life at 43. Their conversation provides a refreshingly positive look at ADHD traits, showing how deeply understanding and advocating for neurodivergence can have a huge impact on parents and children alike.
Hester shares the early signs of ADHD in her children that only became apparent during their lockdown homeschooling experience, which led to their diagnoses - and her own! She also reflects on how her children's true selves emerged during their assessments, showing behaviors they typically masked in school where they had mainly been viewed as ‘compliant children’. Hester highlights some of the challenges she faced getting the right school support in place for her children, and the benefits of home education for her daughter in particular.
Claire and Hester discuss how they balance providing their neurodivergent children with the right support, whilst empowering them to make their own decisions. Hester describes her own approach of giving them a safety net, with a ‘loving push’ to try new things and learn from their experiences. She stresses the importance of taking the time to understand our children’s individual needs, encouraging them to advocate for themselves, showing them empathy - and throwing in a bit of humour when needed!
Finally, Hester shares her experience of finding support from other parents who faced similar challenges and the importance of connecting with people who "get you." She advises parents of neurodivergent children to find their own supportive communities and to work on a loving yet firm approach to parenting, to help children build their resilience and self-awareness.
To find out more about Hester and her work, head to:
perfectlyautistic.co.uk
perfectlyadhd.co.uk
To buy tickets for Hester’s ADHD Unmasked tour, head to:
https://www.mapletreeentertainment.com/currently-touring/ADHD+Unmasked/36/summary/
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ADHD & Bedtime Battles
Did you know 40% of children suffer from sleep issues, which rises to 70-80% for neurodivergent children?
In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Fay Smith - a Children’s Sleep Consultant and Co-owner of The Little Dreams Franchise. Fay and her business partner Jenna share an intense passion for the importance of sleep and its role in health and wellbeing, not only for children but also for their parents. As members of the British Sleep Society and the British Paediatric Sleep Society, along with the Association of Professional Sleep Consultants, they pride themselves on their evidence-based practice.
Fay and Claire discuss the importance of sleep for all children, but particularly those who are neurodivergent - not to mention the importance for their parents! Fay explains what causes sleep issues for neurodivergent kids, describing the intricate role of melatonin and circadian rhythms in sleep regulation, along with sharing some fascinating insight into why sleep can suddenly become an issue for teenagers.
She also suggests some practical strategies parents can adopt to support their children to get a better night’s sleep, such as minimising screen time before bed, engaging in calming activities to decompress, and maintaining a consistent bedtime routine.
As well as delving into the use of weighted blankets, prompted by new research published at the end of 2023, which explored whether weighted blankets positively affect sleep and everyday activities for individuals with ADHD and/or ASD.
Fay finishes by sharing a success story of a child with ADHD who improved sleep quality and reduced symptoms using her methods, whose name listeners might just recognise!
If you or your ADHD child are desperate for some simple, effective ways to banish bedtime battles and ensure everyone gets a better night’s sleep, this episode is a must-listen!
To find out more about Fay and her work, or if you are experiencing problems with your child’s sleep, you can find your nearest Little Dreams sleep consultant here: Baby and Child Sleep Consultant Services | Little Dreams (littledreamsconsulting.com)
Resources mentioned in the episode:
‘Sleepy snacks’ blog:
Sleepy Snack - Little Dreams Consulting
Links to Weighted Blanket studies:
https://www.instagram.com/p/C7AASd0LNV8/?igsh=a3A5NzlkOWFqcWNs
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34184958/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36824380/
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Compassionate ADHD Parenting
What is compassionate inquiry and how can it help us better support our children with ADHD (and ourselves!)?
In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Caroline Hanson, Conscious Parenting Therapist and mum to 4 delightfully neurodivergent children aged 12 to 22. Caroline shares her story of emerging from a rigid, strict, overbearing parenting style inherited from her own emotionally challenged childhood into something much more open, approachable, compassionate and tender. Through the study of yoga, meditation, conscious parenting approaches and Gabor Maté’s psychotherapeutic model - Compassionate Inquiry - Caroline found the support she needed to become the conscious parent she wanted to be.
Caroline reflects on her journey into meditation and self-inquiry, which led her to better understand her own needs, and make the shift from traditional parenting to conscious parenting. Caroline and Claire discuss the need to support children as they are and, as parents, to focus on the emotional responses behind a child's behavior rather than the behavior itself. Caroline describes some of the challenges she faced with her own children entering their teenage years and her sense of feeling lost, unable to reach for a blueprint for parenting her neurodivergent children. She also introduces the beautiful concept of "along-sidedness", where parents focus on providing their children with unconditional support, rather than rushing in to fix their problems.
Claire and Caroline also talk about the need for self-compassion as a parent of neurodivergent children, both for themselves as individuals, and as someone who is ultimately modeling self-care for their children. They discuss the importance of prioritising the parent-child relationship rather than focusing on external outcomes and the massively positive impact Conscious Parenting can have on a child’s learning, confidence, self-esteem, and success in the future.
This episode is a must-listen for parents of ADHD children who are looking for a calmer, kinder and more supportive way to do parenting, allowing them to tune into the magnificence and wonder of their children and celebrate their unique qualities.
To find out more about Caroline and her work, head to: https://www.loveparentlove.co.uk
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Kirsti Nicole Hadley - My Parenting Story
How can we celebrate neurodiversity, rather than just viewing it as a disability? In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Kirsti Nicole Hadley - Brand Consultant, Neurodiversity Advocate and mum to a child with ADHD. Kirsti has worked with hundreds of household names, and as well as a cross-party parliamentary advisor. She is credited with playing an integral role in reframing the narrative around neurodivergence, and recently contributed to BBC Radio 4 Woman's Hour live studio debate about the SEND system: Is the SEND system working for children with special educational needs and disabilities?
After a lifetime of feeling misunderstood, Kirsti finally received a life-changing diagnosis of ADHD with autistic traits and dyscalculia, following her son's diagnoses of ADHD, autism, and OCD in 2021.
In this episode, she describes some of the early signs of ADHD and autism in her son, as well as the parallels with her own undiagnosed traits - describing the common experience of "familial blindness" (in the absence of a diagnosis, parents believe their children are just similar them in terms of personality). Kirsti shares how it was these resemblances with her son’s traits that delayed the initial identification of her son's conditions.
She and her son have been on a journey ever since - both learning and unlearning - including the tough challenge of navigating 1.5 years of emotional-based school avoidance in an education system that wasn't built for neurodivergent minds.
Kirsti shares some insight into how to frame assessment experiences positively for your child along with why being confident and excited for them is key to accepting their own diagnosis. She also provides some helpful strategies for managing school avoidance, so listen closely if you experience school refusal with your own child!
Claire and Kirsti discuss the importance of self-care as parents of neurodivergent kids and the massive impact finding a community of like-minded parents can have for those who are also on this journey. Kirsti offers many messages of hope and positivity in this episode, including the power we can tap into when we acknowledge and celebrate neurodiversity, rather than just viewing it as a disability.
To find out more about Kirsti and her work, head to:
https://www.sendreformengland.com/
https://www.instagram.com/futurpwrgang/?hl=en
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0022ss7
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SEN at School
What is a SENCO and how do they support children with ADHD? Do you need a diagnosis for your child in order for them to access special provisions in school? What is an ECHP and when is it needed?
In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, all your SEN questions will be answered - and more! Claire is joined by Lauren Lambert - a current serving school SENCO and mother to two neurodivergent children.
Lauren has worked across a range of schools on the south coast from infant to sixth form over her 20-year career as a teacher and has a wealth of first-hand experience in how schools can support children with ADHD, and the challenges faced by reduction in education budgets.
Claire and Lauren discuss the educational tensions in providing the right support for pupils with special educational needs and how parents can best navigate school systems. Lauren gives comprehensive overviews of:
- what a SENCO does and how they work with children within a school
- the SEND code of practice and how it governs what provisions are available to children with special educational needs
- the benefits of getting a diagnosis for your child with regards to their support at school
- the importance of the ‘assess plan do review’ cycle to monitor your child’s progress once provisions are in place
- how EHCPs work, when they are needed and the process to get one set up
Lauren emphasises the necessity of a ‘needs-led’ approach that is individual to the child, rather than putting them into categories by diagnosis. She also shares some fascinating insight into common difficulties for children with ADHD, along with examples of strategies to support them in their learning - including both short-term interventions and longer-term strategies they can take with them into their adult life.
This episode is a must-listen for parents embarking on their ADHD journey to better understand how they can work with schools to ensure the best outcomes for their children.
Please note this episode was recorded prior to the 2024 general election when the Conservative Government was still in power.
Here are links to resources discussed in this episode that you may find helpful:
IPSEA: https://www.ipsea.org.uk/
ADHD UK: https://adhduk.co.uk/
Goblin Tools: https://goblin.tools/
Find your local SENDIASS: https://councilfordisabledchildren.org.uk/about-us-0/networks/information-advice-and-support-services-network/find-your-local-ias-service
Research paper into educational experiences for children with ADHD by Dr Abigail Russell: https://news.exeter.ac.uk/faculty-of-health-and-life-sciences/children-with-adhd-face-cycle-of-negative-experiences-in-their-early-school-years/
Children’s Commissioner calls for radical rehaul of the SEND system:
https://www.childrenscommissioner.gov.uk/news/commissioner-calls-for-radical-rehaul-of-the-send-system/
All Aboard ADHD is a podcast for all parents and caregivers navigating the world of ADHD and keen to support their child with ADHD. Join us on a journey of exploration and education about ADHD, inviting all parents of children with ADHD, and those interested in learning more about it, to come on board.
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