How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

In today’s bucket-emptying episode, you’ll learn the three essential foundations your child needs before confidence can grow.

If you’ve got a child who avoids challenges, gets overwhelmed easily, or insists they’re “rubbish” at everything, this is where you start. In this episode you’ll discover
how to explain the mind–body connection in a way your child can actually understand,
why their brain often misreads situations as danger, and
how this shapes their confidence.

You’ll also learn why breathing techniques aren’t just “calming tools” but a physiological reset your child needs before they can face anything tricky.

Finally, you’ll explore how to build an exposure ladder - a simple, structured way to help your child take small, doable steps outside their comfort zone.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to lay the groundwork so your child feels capable, prepared, and ready to try.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:
Boost Your Child’s Confidence in 10 Days: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/boost-your-childs-confidence-in-10-days/
30 Second Reset: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/bucket-emptying-30-second-reset/

Highlights from this episode:
01:24 - It’s all about experience
03:31 - The connection between mind and body
08:01 - Selective hearing
11:41 - The invisible gorilla
13:27 - Breathing techniques
19:10 - Get the foundations right

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Today is my birthday, and it’s become a tradition of mine to reflect on life and what I’ve learned. So this year I’m reflecting in public, on the podcast with you.

I am going to share my top ten parenting lessons, drawn from my own experience, about how to raise confident children.

My two children are adults now, and I like to think I’ve learnt a lot over the years. I’ve gotten things right, and I’ve certainly gotten things wrong - we’re only human!

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:
01:13 - A birthday wish
03:44 - Parents to adult children
06:54 - Meal time is family time
08:55 - A roast dinner goes a long way
11:47 - Value systems are for life
15:19 - This too shall pass
18:36 - People pleasing
22:27 - Comparison through a softer lens
26:21 - Humans are complicated
28:51 - Don’t take yourself too seriously

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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I talk a lot about confidence, because it’s super important, and it’s something we all struggle with - yes, even us parents!

But a lack of confidence can manifest in so many different ways, it can be really tricky knowing how to spot the signs in our kids and support them through it.

So in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m giving you a cheat sheet, with five really powerful reflection questions you can use with any child at any age to help build their confidence.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:
00:44 - Reflection builds competency
02:34 - What was going on for you?
04:48 - What were you feeling?
06:37 - Focus on the unmet needs
08:19 - Building a growth mindset
09:55 - Encouraging self-regulation

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💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Anxiety is not a one size fits all thing. It can show up in so many different ways, from school refusal to bedtime worries and everything in between.

We think it’s our job as parents to find the magic solution, but there isn’t one! Instead, we have to find ways to navigate these tricky situations and the supportive presence our children need.

In today’s episode I am going to help you tackle your kids’ anxiety with some super practical tips you can start using right now. Plus, I share the words which are most likely to calm your child or teen and the things you should definitely avoid!

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:
The 30 Second Reset - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/bucket-emptying-30-second-reset/

Highlights from this episode:
01:02 - Introduction to anxiety
03:54 - What is the feeling of anxiety?
08:00 - 2 things you do that increase anxiety
11:54 - Stay calm and carry on
14:55 - Encourage and normalise
17:25 - Building long term confidence
20:05 - Skills take time to learn

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Spoiler alert: being a mum is hard.

It’s ok to be a good mum and feel like you’re not enough. You might feel like you can’t tell other mums that, but I promise you we are all feeling the same.

So in this bucket emptying episode, I talk about why that feeling is so common, why it’s not a personal failure, and why being a good mum can still feel exhausting and heavy.

This episode isn’t about fixing these feelings, because I can’t do that. What we will do together is get comfortable with those feelings, and get honest with ourselves.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:
01:38 - The two voices in your head
05:12 - Mad Mum
11:52 - Guilt is part of motherhood
14:32 - Final thoughts

💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together

💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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