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Building Children's Social and Emotional Skills: Part 1
Who am I?That’s what we’re asking In the first of a two part special on social and emotional skills.They’re not the things you can really see or measure, and there’s no right or wrong answer, but they are so important to how your children interact with the world, and in shaping who they grow up to be.Parenting styles come in all shapes and sizes, but unless you and your children know how to identify your super powers and your skills, knowing how to raise them, encourage them, and support them is just a big guessing game!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:33 - What are social and emotional skills?03:55 - Different ages and stages07:18 - Self-identifying your strengths11:23 - Who am I?14:20 - We become what people tell us we are17:45 - Having the conversation with older children20:00 - Part of a process23:10 - How they experience emotions💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: The Power of ONE
As parents there’s always a million things to do and it’s so easy to get overwhelmed, which is why in this bucket-emptying episode I’m talking about the power of one. When you focus on one thing at a time, you will find it easier to deal with, and that’s going to help you and your children.This episode is all about the three Cs - central, clarity, and consistency. I’m going to help you understand and apply the three Cs so that you can harness the power of one and channel your inner Super Parent.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:02:02 - The Three Cs04:29 - Working out your one06:48 - Create an objective measure09:07 - Example 1: pre-verbal children11:45 - Example 2: children who won’t listen14:34 - Example 3: battling tech use💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Connection is Not Just for Valentine's Day
It’s Valentine’s Day and love is all around… unless you have kids. A recent study shows that many parents with children have not had a date night in the past six months. However, as role models to our kids, it’s so important to make time for them, for ourselves, and for our partners.So this episode is all about connection. I give you five reasons why you need to be spending more time with your partner and share some practical advice to help you do that.Let’s keep the romance alive!Highlights from this episode:01:46 - Romance is dead… say the stats04:00 - 5 reasons to prioritise time with your partner06:47 - The secret to a long life10:36 - Make time for yourselves and each other13:36 - Plan, plan, plan15:31 - A change of mindset18:49 - Enlist help!💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: Helping Children Be More Courageous with Ebele Bright
On this week’s bucket emptying episode, I am joined by children’s author Ebele Bright (Fly Chico Fly and Shake Ben Shake).Ebele also founded Announce World to share beautiful stories with both children and adults, inspired by the truths and life lessons she is passing on to her daughters. Her picture books, which encourage deeper conversation with children, are perfect for children aged 3-8, parents, teachers and anyone who has an influence on kids.In this episode, we explore how we can help our own children feel more courageous, and how storytelling can be a super powerful way to unlock our kids’ inner superhero.Highlights from this episode:04:09 - Normalising emotion08:57 - Turning on the lightbulb12:38 - What would Mama Eagle do?15:22 - The mindset to stand when you’re not there18:38 - Learning how to failBuy Ebele’s Books:Fly Chico Fly: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fly-Chico-Ebele-Bright/dp/1838294708/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=0si2F&content-id=amzn1.sym.f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_p=f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_r=262-7026818-4147105&pd_rd_wg=78N5e&pd_rd_r=5a208941-5a93-4a87-b384-e0cf6b38d170&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dskShake Ben Shake: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Shake-Ben-Ebele-Bright/dp/1838294724/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=0si2F&content-id=amzn1.sym.f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_p=f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_r=262-7026818-4147105&pd_rd_wg=78N5e&pd_rd_r=5a208941-5a93-4a87-b384-e0cf6b38d170&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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When Children Feel Emotions Intensely
When your child struggles to handle their big emotions, what do you do? If you’re like me, you’ll listen to podcasts and read all the books. And, if you’re like me, you probably found none of them helped much in practice. Am I right?Well, in this episode, I’m going to help you cut through the noise, to understand the reasons why your child might appear to be acting out or struggling with intense emotions. I am going to help you go back to the source, figure out why they happen, and then help you figure out what to do about it.So, pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:49 - I don’t like labels03:10 - Early development08:16 - Is there a skills gap?12:35 - Tweaking the brain circuits15:00 - Validate the emotions16:46 - Label the emotions19:41 - Bridging the skills gap21:58 - A toolkit for managing big emotions23:37 - Change takes time and consistency💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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