It’s a moment most parents dread, but it’s inevitable for all of us… when your child tells you, for the first time, that have a boyfriend or girlfriend.And for many of us, this might be much sooner than we’d expect. Not teenagers, but while they’re still in primary school.When this happens, it’s so important to deal with it head on, and I’m here to tell you exactly how to do this. And, if you find this bucket emptying episode useful, listen out for an episode coming very soon where I dive into the topic of sex education and relationships in far more detail.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:05 - Going down the rabbit hole03:06 - Be curious and interested06:07 - Where are they getting their information?08:38 - Correct the knowledge gaps💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friendDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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What to Expect When You're Expecting... and Beyond
This week I am revisiting a classic episode from last year about what to do when expecting your child - however we find ourselves embarking on the journey to parenting.It's also supremely relevant for all the other stages of our children's lives as they reach them -as these are another birth - walking, talking, preschool, school, university, first job, leaving home...My six pointers will help keep you grounded and sane.Here are the highlights: (01:14) Parents-to-Be consume information by the barrel load (05:13) Read about different milestones, not just birth (08:02) Parenting isn’t black and white (11:12) It’s always messier than you expect! (14:16) Don’t fall into this parenting trap... (16:46) The right time to have difficult conversations with partners (20:36) Make sure communication with co-parents is open and often (23:17) Different do what they see, not what we say (26:32) Self-care is critical (30:22) Every child develops and adapts uniquely 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friendDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: How Not to Raise Entitled Children
Do you have entitled kids?Are you at a loss about what to do with them?In this bucket emptying episode, I give you some practical advice to help you tackle entitlement in your children, because we both know all kids are kind at heart, so let’s bring that out in bundles!So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:30 - Our kids have more than we did03:41 - Agency versus contribution08:21 - Acts of service10:36 - An important caveat💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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I'll Take of Myself When... Why Putting Off Our Own Needs May Be Negatively Impacting Our Children
As the great Ru Paul would say, “if you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else?”As parents, we instinctively put our children and family before ourselves, but that’s not always the best thing! In this episode I discuss the importance of self care, and why neglecting your own needs could be bad… not just for you, but for everyone.And joining me to discuss this is a super special guest, Tina Lond-Caulk, otherwise known as the Nutrition Guru. She is a bestselling author and speaker with over 20 years of experience as a clinical nutritionist.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Connect with Tina:The Nutrition Guru Website: https://www.thenutritionguru.co.uk/ Tina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenutritionguru/Tina on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTTPdaxsREbzkRKtl29OnXgThe Nutrition Guru on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenutritionguruMentioned in this episode:Sensate: https://www.getsensate.com/?variant=40503515250777Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/Highlights from this episode:01:24 - Mamma Mia!05:01 -The building blocks of self care09:44 - Food is medicine14:23 - Optimal versus recommended19:00 - For the coffee lovers23:56 - Placing ourselves at the bottom of the list29:30 - Habit stacking36:46 - Gina Ford, Get in the Bin!41:06 - Dealing with fussy eaters44:45 - Go nuts50:05 - The science of alcohol💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: A Little Bit of the Right Praise Can Go A Very Long Way
Confession time: I have put my kids’ artwork in the bin.Let’s face it, we can’t keep everything they do, and not everything they do will be successful or, in your opinion, praise-worthy.But praise isn’t just about the outcome; it’s not about winning or losing. Praise, when used at the right time and in the right way, can be super powerful at building confident, resilient children.In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five ways that you can give praise that will nurture skills, build character, and help you raise children who don’t fear failure and feel supported to try anything.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:29 - Hacks02:43 - A whole splodge of nothing05:36 - Be specific06:49 - Effort over outcome11:01 - Celebrate the small wins13:26 - Hone in on skills💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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