Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone ...
Does your child always leave their room in a mess?Do they leave tasks to the last minute?Are they always on their phone, or wanting to be?As parents we tend to think of things like this as an issue, but in this episode I’m going to help you pivot, because these are not flaws. They’re just skill gaps.When we can reframe these traits of our kids, then we can start to identify how they might need help and support, to gain new skills and overcome some of these day to day challenges.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:50 - We’ve all been there03:07 - Reframing makes a big difference07:50 - Neurodivergence💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The Five Things All Children Need
I am SO MAD!Or I was when I first listened to a guest discuss their parenting views on another top podcast. Her guidance - that children should not be in daycare and that women should stay at home for the first couple of years - I felt was too dogmatic, and I immediately jumped on the mic to record this episode.That professional’s opinion comes from an informed place. However, I strongly disagree with them, and in this episode I want to share what I believe are the five core things you should be providing for your children, irrespective of family structure and circumstances.Because if you can focus on providing these things, your children will flourish.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…(now who wants to guess what podcast I was listening to?)Highlights from this episode:00:49 - The story behind this podcast05:14 - Secure attachments13:04 - Emotional support19:29 - Communication24:08 - Boundaries and structure27:11 - Positive role models💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: How Can I Help My Child Manage Exam Stress?
Exams can be a stressful time for our children, which makes them a stressful time for us mums and dads too! There’s a lot of pressure, which can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t need to be like this.In this episode I help you to understand the difference between belief gaps, skills gaps and knowledge gaps, how to identify which one (or combination of) your child is struggling with, and share some tips on how you can help them manage this.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:47 - Expectation vs Reality02:23 - Identify the mismatch07:09 - Bridging the knowledge gap💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Seen But Not Heard: Helping Your Child Find Their Voice
Is your child quiet, shy or reserved?Do they struggle to get heard in group settings?Are you worried their introversion is holding them back?As parents we naturally worry about our children, but here’s some breaking news: just because they might be reserved or quiet, it does not mean they lack belief or confidence.They may not know how to assert themselves in certain situations as well as others, or even as well as you or their siblings, so in this episode I am going to help you spot the signs where additional support may be needed, and give you some expert advice on how to help your children find their voice.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:09 - Some children are naturally more reserved than others03:10 - Home is a safe space05:48 - The wooden spoon09:05 - Does your child need additional support?12:14 - Signs of low self-belief or lack of confidence14:53 - A compliment is like a non-stick pan18:53 - Finding opportunities for your child to test their capabilities21:56 - Practice practice practice23:36 - What are you modelling?💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: Daytime Nap or Quiet Time?
Do you dread nap time? And is your child always resisting a nap?As parents, we know there’s nothing worse than the tantrum of an overtired kid, so in this episode I’m here to help you create an effective routine to help your children rest and recharge.Spoiler alert: maybe it’s time to detach yourself from nap time and start thinking about it as quiet time instead.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:14 - Why do children need naps?03:55 - Tiredness is not an on-off switch05:15 - Repetition is effective07:39 - Pick up the cues09:45 - Creating resilient children through quiet time11:50 - Transitioning from naps to quiet time💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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