What does being the best really mean?What does ‘fitting in’ look like?Parents and children living with physical disabilities live with a unique set of challenges. They often find themselves judged or ridiculed, and this can have a big impact on our kids.On this week’s bucket emptying, I welcome back Cathy Reay, a disabled writer and journalist, and mum of two (plus a very cheeky cat!). She also works in educational publishing. How To Be Disabled and Proud (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...) is her first children’s book.We discuss how to empower our kids with self-confidence and resilience in relation to living with a disability, so they grow up seeing it not as a weakness, but as their superpower.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Connect with Cathy:Website: https://www.cathyreay.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathyreaywrites/ X: https://x.com/cathyreaywrites?lang=en How To Be Disabled And Proud: How To Be Disabled and Proud: (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...): Amazon.co.uk: Reay, Cathy: 9780241676967: Books Highlights from this episode:00:48 - The desire to just fit in04:28 - The power of community and connection06:32 - What does the ‘best’ even mean?💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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When the Stakes Feel High
WARNING: this podcast is not for parents.I spend a lot of my time visiting schools and speaking to classes full of children of all ages, so for once I’m dedicating a podcast episode to you, the kids.This episode is all about giving you the skills and the understanding you need to manage those days when things feel overwhelming. Maybe your mental health is taking a hit, and maybe you have moments when the pressure gets too much.Well here’s the secret: it’s ok! And here are some things you can do to manage that.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:45 - It’s about what matters to YOU02:46 - The seesaw05:29 - Your brain has one job08:40 - Two parallel lines11:29 - Inner critic versus inner cheerleader15:16 - The 1% rule19:58 - Your stress bucket23:58 - Doom scrolling💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: Sharing Bedrooms
Do your children share a room?Do they argue?Are you at your wits end?Sibling rivalries, particularly when it comes to shared bedrooms, can be fierce, but sometimes we just don’t have a choice.But there’s good news…There is a way to make it work. From pairing the right children (and it might not be what you think) to creating private space and time for each child, I am going to share some top tips and expert advice that will help you make sharing bedrooms feel less like a daily battle!So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:26 - Developmental matching02:28 - Managing expectations05:08 - Actionable day to day tips08:56 - Allowing private time for each child11:58 - The roommate agreement13:32 - Sleep💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why Paternity Leave Matters with The Dad Shift
Did you know the UK has the worst statutory paternity leave in Europe?Are you aware of the significant long term implications of reduced parental leave?And did you know that countries with better statutory paternity leave also have a smaller gender pay gap?In this episode, I am joined by Alex Lloyd Hunter, co-founder of The Dad Shift, to discuss everything from why he’s putting paternity leave on the agenda to breaking down traditional 1950s family stereotypes.This is one of my favourite conversations that will really get you thinking a bit differently about parental leave.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Learn more about Alex and The Dad Shift:Website: https://dadshift.org.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadshiftukHighlights from this episode:02:09 - What does the law currently mean?04:30 - The benefits of supporting fathers09:58 - The way we parent is changing12:42 - More companies are acting15:44 - The traditional male role has changed20:36 - Celebrity Dad quotes23:27 - Challenging male stereotypes26:21 - Losing the paternal bond31:35 - Upcoming campaigns34:42 - What does good change look like?💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: The Superpower of Eating Together
How often do you sit down and eat together as a family?If you’re a little embarrassed about the answer, then I have some news for you… you’re not alone. Most families do not regularly make time to eat together, and I get it! School, work, hobbies, errands - life gets in the way.But eating together can have real benefits, not just on your kids but on your whole family, and in this episode I explore some of those reasons, and encourage you to think about how you can find time to enjoy meals together more often.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:19 - This stat might surprise you…03:14 - Show your children who their tribe is05:34 - The benefits of family mealtime08:02 - Finding their voice to express themselves💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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