Bucket Emptying: How Do We Have Conversations About Disability?
“Disability is not an us and them conversation, and it’s not a pity conversation. It’s about teaching kids compassion and an openness to collaboration”These are the words of today’s guest Cathy Reay, a disabled writer and journalist, and mum of two (plus a very cheeky cat!). She also works in educational publishing. How To Be Disabled and Proud (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...) is her first children’s book, and on this week’s bucket emptying episode we are discussing how to have conversations with children about disability.Spoiler alert: we’re all accommodating disability every day, we just don’t realise it, so this may not be as challenging as you think!So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Connect with Cathy:Website: https://www.cathyreay.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathyreaywrites/ X: https://x.com/cathyreaywrites?lang=en How To Be Disabled And Proud: How To Be Disabled and Proud: (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...): Amazon.co.uk: Reay, Cathy: 9780241676967: Books Highlights from this episode:00:53 -The vast spectrum of disability04:04 - Disabled people have different skills, not lesser ones06:03 - We’re not there to make you feel better10:28 - It’s not a big deal… do don’t make it oneAdditional resources:The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”This quote from prolific American businessman Henry Ford is one I use often, because usually our fears - of failure, of self-worth, or of anything else - usually stem from within.The power of positive thinking, right? A positive attitude with confidence and resilience can manifest better outcomes, so in this episode I am going to tackle this with you.This episode is based on the international bestselling book Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I’m going to tackle Susan’s five truths about fear, and provide some real world examples and actionable steps you can take to manage your kids’ fears (and maybe your own, too!).So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:15 - As Henry Ford would say…02:37 - Fear never goes away06:12 - Everyone feels fear07:38 - Change creates fear11:06 - Action is the only way to get rid of fear13:20 - Doing comes firstAdditional resources:The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: Consequences Aren't Working
Does your child never seem to listen to you?Do punishments never work?Are you running out of ideas?Well, here’s some tough love: your consequences aren’t working, and it’s probably your fault. Of course we should make sure misdemeanors are met with consequence, but if your child doesn’t seem to listen, then the consequences clearly are not effective or appropriate.In this bucket emptying episode, I talk you through three things you can consider, so that consequences are not just punishments, but lead to a meaningful change in behaviour.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:27 - Consequences should be connected to the crime03:12 - What is driving the behaviour?06:23 - Consequences should be instructive, not punitiveAdditional resources:The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Adolescence: Lessons for Raising Boys
From the education system, to conflicting expectations, to technology and social media… Netflix’s hit TV show Adolescence has raised many issues about how young men and boys are being raised and the challenges they face.By ignoring some of these underlying problems, we are letting down our children.Our kids deserve to grow up in a world where they feel safe.This starts with making sure we - as parents, as teachers, as role models, and as a society - are raising our boys with the skills and the emotional intelligence to thrive in the real world.To help you with this, I am going to respond to some of the key questions and themes raised by Stephen Graham’s series, and give you some actionable advice that you can start putting into practice right away.This episode is not an easy one, so find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and get ready for the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:19 - Misogyny and Incel04:51 - The issues facing young men in today’s world06:46 - Start having conversations08:51 - Educate yourself12:12 - What steps can you take as a family?14:24 - Teaching empathy and acceptance17:44 - Identity creates agency20:10 - Role modelsAdditional resources:The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: How to Start Difficult Conversations
If you haven’t yet seen Adolescence on Netflix, what have you been doing?!Jokes aside, this TV show has been a triggering one for many of us, but especially those parents of boys. It has brought to light many issues around the manosphere, masculinity, and a generation of children who, without a safe space to have open and honest conversations with grownups, can be easily influenced by harmful content elsewhere.That’s why this week’s bucket emptying episode is all about how to have those difficult conversations with your kids. As the grown up in the room, it is your job to take the reigns with this, and I’m going to help you!So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:56 - We’re not looking for just one deep conversation02:56 - Seize natural opportunities05:07 - Instigate the conversation if needed08:33 - Don’t confuse silence for an opportunity to keep talking10:10 - Leave them wanting💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodesDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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