Autism, ADHD and Us Three

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In this episode, I’m joined by Yenn Purkis, an autistic and ADHD advocate, author of 18 books, TEDx speaker and PhD candidate. We talk about how Yenn was unexpectedly pulled into advocacy, and the moment that shifted everything for them. From there, we explore the realities of being visible, the impact of deficit-based narratives around autism, and why so many common assumptions about autistic people are still so harmful.

We also dive into gender identity, inclusion, and what it really means to stand up and be seen in a world that doesn’t always feel safe to do so.

This conversation is honest, thoughtful and at times challenging, but also incredibly grounding for anyone navigating identity, late diagnosis, advocacy or burnout.
​How Yenn found themselves in advocacy and what changed their direction
​The impact of deficit-based messaging on autistic people
​Why visibility and representation matter so much
​The truth about “functioning labels” and why they’re often misunderstood
​Navigating identity, including gender diversity and autism
​Dealing with criticism, pushback and online spaces
​Burnout, work and creating a life that actually fits
​Autism diagnosis should mean liberation
​Visibility is vital for change
​Functioning labels are not diagnoses

00:00 Introduction to advocacy and autistic identity
01:34 The journey into advocacy
04:54 Writing as a tool for change
10:37 The evolution of public speaking
15:26 Changing perspectives on neurodiversity
19:39 Balancing advocacy and academia
20:36 Embracing passion and overcoming adversity
24:50 Redefining work and income streams
28:05 Identity and advocacy in the non-binary and asexual community
32:11 Navigating pushback and promoting visibility
34:52 Debunking myths about autism
41:51 Future aspirations and life philosophy
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If you thought finally getting your autism or ADHD diagnosis would feel like pure relief… and instead you feel exhausted, foggy, emotional or completely flattened… this one’s for you.
In this solo episode of Autism, ADHD and Us Three, Jenny breaks down something nobody really warns you about. The post-diagnosis crash.
She explains why so many late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults experience burnout after finally getting answers, and why this isn’t weakness, regression or you not coping well enough. It is physiology.
Jenny explores what happens inside the nervous system after decades of masking, hypervigilance and pushing through environments that were never built for your brain. She talks about the relief that comes with diagnosis, and why that relief can actually trigger shutdown, exhaustion and emotional fallout.
Inside this episode:
Why diagnosis can act like a circuit breaker for your nervous system
How ADHD hyperfocus and autistic deep processing can accelerate burnout
The physical signs of nervous system recalibration
Why you cannot “optimise” your way out of this phase
Practical ways to stabilise when everything feels too much
What real recovery actually looks like
This episode is a permission slip to slow down. To stop turning yourself into a project. To let your body land after years of survival mode.
If you are in that shaky “who am I now?” space… you are not alone.
🎧 Chapters
00:00 Introduction and episode overview
01:05 Relief and the unexpected crash
01:34 Why burnout happens after diagnosis
02:30 What is happening inside the body and brain
03:34 Masking, hypervigilance and chronic stress
05:48 The nervous system under long-term pressure
07:42 Diagnosis as a circuit breaker
08:36 Physical signs of recalibration
09:29 Identity shifts and psychological changes
10:54 Grief after diagnosis
12:13 The post-diagnosis crash explained
12:53 ADHD hyperfocus and autistic deep processing
13:44 Medication and increased sensory awareness
15:09 Nervous system regulation and perceived regression
17:02 Acceptance and self-compassion
20:42 What to actually do during burnout
21:34 Myths about strength and recovery
22:55 Practical regulation and self-care
23:50 Small steps that help
24:46 Community and support
28:00 Final encouragement
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In this episode, Jenny Lucas speaks with Leanne Tran, a registered psychologist specializing in assessments for autism, ADHD, and specific learning disorders. They discuss the importance of early diagnosis and support for neurodiverse children, the impact of parental neurodiversity, and the assessment process. Leanne shares insights on navigating the challenges of accessing support in rural areas and the significance of individualized support in schools. The conversation emphasizes the need for understanding self-identity in neurodiverse children and innovative approaches to parental support.Contact Leanne Tran:
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Keywords
neurodiversity, autism, ADHD, assessments, parental support, self-identity, rural access, school support, psychological assessments, early diagnosis

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Neurodiversity and Early Support
02:48 Understanding Parental Neurodiversity
05:16 The Importance of Self-Identity in Assessments
08:00 Navigating the Assessment Process
10:35 Challenges in Accessing Assessments
13:15 Working with Schools for Support
16:02 The Role of Online Resources
18:45 Innovative Support Strategies for Parents
21:22 Conclusion and Resources for Families

In this powerful and deeply validating episode of Autism, ADHD and Us Three, Jenny is joined by TEDx speaker and bestselling author Taiba Bajar, whose personal and professional work has supported thousands of families navigating autism regression, burnout, and neurodivergent parenting.
Taiba shares her own son’s story of autistic regression which included a sudden loss of speech, connection, and developmental milestones, and the heart breaking gaslighting many parents face when they try to speak up about it. Together, she and Jenny explore the emotional toll of being dismissed, the grief of watching your child change before your eyes, and the quiet strength it takes to keep fighting for answers.
Taiba also breaks down her 7-Step Autism Action Plan, as featured in her book Unlock Autism: A Parent’s Guide to Help Your Child Recover Skills and Reduce Symptoms. From gut healing and oxytocin support to functional blood testing and nervous system care, she outlines practical, parent-led strategies that aim to reduce symptom severity without erasing identity.
This is not about fixing children. It’s about giving them the physiological safety and support to thrive and helping parents feel empowered instead of exhausted.
Keywords
Autism regression

Autistic burnout in adults

Neurodivergent parenting

Late autism diagnosis

Gut-brain connection

Unlock Autism book

Functional autism support

Symptom relief vs acceptance

Trauma-informed parenting

ADHD and sensory issues

---------------------------Website: www.autismbrainempowerment.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/autismbrainempowerment/LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/taibabajar

If you’ve ever found yourself whisper-screaming “Why won’t they just DO it?” in the hallway while your child refuses to put socks on for the tenth time… this one’s for you.
In this episode of Autism, ADHD and Us Three, Jenny sits down with Emma McDonnell, a neurodivergent mother navigating life, education, and holidays with children who have Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) which is a profile of autism that turns traditional parenting advice completely on its head.
Emma shares her real, raw journey from career woman to full-time carer, unpacking the WTF is happening?! moments that come with raising PDAers, and the mindset shifts that helped her move from panic to presence.
Together, they explore:
– Why compliance isn’t the goal
– How self-compassion might actually be your best parenting strategy
– The emotional landmines of holiday expectations
– And why “well-being” doesn’t have to mean spa days or 5am journaling
This episode is a permission slip for anyone parenting neurodivergent children through systems that don’t understand them and doing it while running on fumes.

Keywords
PDA parenting
Autism and demand avoidance
Neurodivergent motherhood
Holiday stress & family dynamics
Mental health and well-being
Education & unmet needs
Trauma-informed parenting
Self-compassion for mums
Autistic children and school
Emotional regulation in ND families
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