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123: How can I get better at dealing with rejection?
28/07/2026 | 1h 6 mins.
Ash dreams up a whole new category – Disasterclass – in order to talk about inevitable pain of rejection. Whether it’s jobs, romance, friends or success, how much damage can rejection ultimately cause? Plus: early reviews of the Andy Burnham era.

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Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
122: Can you change who you’re attracted to? w/ Annie Lord
21/07/2026 | 1h 7 mins.
Former Vogue agony aunt Annie Lord joins Ash and Moya to talk about what happens if you let go of your ‘type’ and allow your romantic ideals to change. Her debut novel, The Project, is out now. (NB: Annie recommends Sharon Olds’ poetry collection Stag’s Leap.) Plus: advice for a man who’s feeling romantically jaded.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
121: Is it time to stop height-shaming men?
14/07/2026 | 1h 2 mins.
Ash and Moya answer a not-so-mystery question about male self-image and whether short kings really do lose out in the dating market. How does modern masculinity look and dress? Plus: advice for a listener fantasising about a romantic spark with a former colleague.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
120: Help! I’m dreading moving to the suburbs with my partner
07/07/2026 | 57 mins.
Ash and Moya get stuck into your dilemmas. Featuring: a POC friend whose new boyfriend votes Reform, a male coworker who’s gone from supportive to creepy, a woman who’s struggling to think before she speaks, an independent woman who’s dreading suburban life with her boyfriend, and an environmentalist weighing up a job in big tech.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
119: I know I should forgive my enemies… but what if I don’t want to?
30/06/2026 | 1h 4 mins.
* Last call for our show at Crossed Wires in Sheffield this Saturday, 4th July! Final tickets: https://crossedwires.live *

A brush with an old enemy brings up big questions about letting go and moving on. What does forgiveness really mean in a secular society? Is punishment ever the answer? Plus: advice for a special one who fears they’ve outgrown their 15-year relationship.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

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About If I Speak

Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean sort the personal from the political, tackle listener dilemmas and air their opinions on the frustrations of modern life.

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