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121: Is it time to stop height-shaming men?
14/07/2026 | 1h 2 mins.
Ash and Moya answer a not-so-mystery question about male self-image and whether short kings really do lose out in the dating market. How does modern masculinity look and dress? Plus: advice for a listener fantasising about a romantic spark with a former colleague.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
120: Help! I’m dreading moving to the suburbs with my partner
07/07/2026 | 57 mins.
Ash and Moya get stuck into your dilemmas. Featuring: a POC friend whose new boyfriend votes Reform, a male coworker who’s gone from supportive to creepy, a woman who’s struggling to think before she speaks, an independent woman who’s dreading suburban life with her boyfriend, and an environmentalist weighing up a job in big tech.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
119: I know I should forgive my enemies… but what if I don’t want to?
30/06/2026 | 1h 4 mins.
* Last call for our show at Crossed Wires in Sheffield this Saturday, 4th July! Final tickets: https://crossedwires.live *

A brush with an old enemy brings up big questions about letting go and moving on. What does forgiveness really mean in a secular society? Is punishment ever the answer? Plus: advice for a special one who fears they’ve outgrown their 15-year relationship.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
118: Can a hen party ever be chic?
23/06/2026 | 55 mins.
* We’ll be at Crossed Wires festival in Sheffield on 4th July! Final tickets: https://crossedwires.live *

‘Tis the season! Moya and Ash explore the etiquette of the modern wedding, from cringey hen do to lavish ceremony to nightmare groupchat. And how does anyone afford it?! Plus: are we expecting too much from single straight men?

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.
117: Is screen addiction ruining our connection to art?
16/06/2026 | 1h 3 mins.
* We’ll be at Crossed Wires festival in Sheffield on 4th July! Final tickets: https://crossedwires.live *

Moya has a big theory about why wealthy elites seem to have stopped caring about culture, which leads to wondering if addiction and dependency are the best framework for understanding modern society. Plus: when you’re body-shamed by a much younger hook-up.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

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About If I Speak

Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean sort the personal from the political, tackle listener dilemmas and air their opinions on the frustrations of modern life.

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