If I Speak

Moya is worried about status – and so are increasing numbers of men in therapy, according to a recent report. So what does status look like in this economy? How are men adapting to not being guaranteed breadwinners? Can you be both downwardly mobile and satisfied with your life?

Plus: what to do when you suspect your friend is in love with you.

Read the article on men in therapy: https://www.theguardian.com/society/ng-interactive/2026/aug/19/men-therapy-achievement-grief

Read John Burn-Murdoch on women breadwinners: https://www.ft.com/content/4b7b8d3f-5625-4dba-ad90-66192c101956?syn-25a6b1a6=1

Get tickets for Ash at the Southbank Centre on 26 September: https://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/whats-on/ash-sarkar-the-future-of-relationships

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

Ash has had life-changing experience for only £38. Has she found the key to escaping her fight-or-flight response? And what’s the best way to process anxiety? Plus: how to respond when your partner’s porn habit makes you feel weird.

Get tickets for Ash at the Southbank Centre on 26 September.

Get tickets for Heated: Carnival Afters at Vespers on 30 August.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

Have we finally had enough of hyper-consumerism? Moya and Ash confront the political crises that are changing our attitudes to spending, and what that’s got to do with the World Cup and cerulean sweaters. Plus: what to do when you’ve lost all motivation.

Read the Vulture article about lifestyle influencers mentioned in the show.

Get tickets for Ash at the Southbank Centre on 26 September.

Get tickets for Heated: Carnival Afters at Vespers on 30 August.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

Trapped in the attention economy, Moya wonders if our reading habits are affecting our sense of self, and Ash offers a feminist analysis of ‘main character’ versus ‘NPC’. Plus: what to do when your politics drift away from your friends’.

Get tickets for Ash at the Southbank Centre on 26 September.

Get tickets for Heated: Carnival Afters at Vespers on 30 August.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

Ash dreams up a whole new category – Disasterclass – in order to talk about inevitable pain of rejection. Whether it’s jobs, romance, friends or success, how much damage can rejection ultimately cause? Plus: early reviews of the Andy Burnham era.

Get tickets for Ash at the Southbank Centre on 26 September.

Get tickets for Symeon Brown in conversation at the Bernie Grant Arts Centre in North London on 5 August.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.