When I started reading Leland Vittert's book Born Lucky, I wasn't expecting to cry. I don't know anyone with autism, and honestly, I didn't think it would resonate with me. But within pages, I was in tears—because his story of feeling different, misunderstood, and alone is something I've carried my whole life. Leland was born with the umbilical cord around his neck, diagnosed autistic at 8, and told by doctors there was "not much you could do." His father quit his job and did something radical: no medications, no accommodations, no labels—just thousands of hours coaching his son through hell. Teachers mocked him in class, kids bullied him relentlessly, and his kindergartner sister held his hand while he cried walking home every day. What Leland didn't know until writing this book was that his father went downstairs alone every night and cried until 2am.
In 2020, Leland lost everything in three months. Fox News fired him after he questioned Trump's stolen election claims (Lachlan Murdoch literally sent an email saying "Leland's done"), he ended an 8-year relationship, and he nearly died from COVID. His father told him the same thing he'd said in 8th grade: "You can do this." The lesson Leland learned as a bullied kid became his survival guide as an adult—you get out of hell by keep walking. He joined NewsNation and met his wife on a blind date his second day of work. His father almost refused to publish the book because it was "too raw," but wrote the afterword in one hour. When Leland read it, he sobbed.
What nobody knows about Leland is that he's still autistic. Communication doesn't come naturally—it's a skill his father taught him through years of practice. When his NewsNation talent coach asked why emotional connection was so hard, he finally told her: "I'm autistic." She had no idea. We also talk about the accommodation crisis destroying kids today—40% of Stanford students now claim disabilities, and we're medicating 3-year-olds into dependency. This isn't a story about curing autism. It's about a father who chose to walk through hell with his son instead of taking the pain away. And it's proof that love, not accommodations, changes lives.
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