Life, love and the law

🎙️Does adultery affect divorce in the UK?🎙️
Adultery doesn’t always cause the breakdown of a relationship, there are ways to repair after infidelity. But when a couple decides that their marriage or partnership has come to an end after an affair, the main question people ask is ‘does adultery affect divorce’. The reality is that legally speaking, no it doesn’t.
In this episode, host Liza Gatrell is joined by her colleague Emily Beven, a UK divorce lawyer based in Reading to discuss adultery and divorce. In what circumstances might an affair impact a divorce settlement or child arrangements? Find out in the episode.
00:17 Introductions
00:38 How does no-fault divorce impact divorce proceedings?
02:00 Are there any circumstances when adultery might be taken into account in divorce
03:35 Cases where ‘conduct’ has impacted financial settlements 
04:54 Reframing how to deal with resentment against an ex-partner
06:47 What happens if the adulterer has a new partner?
09:57 Top tips for divorcing after an affair
Useful links
Adultery and divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/adultery-and-divorce/ 
Top myths about divorce and affairs https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/adultery-and-divorce-the-top-ten-myths/ 
What should I do if my spouse is having an affair? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-should-i-do-if-my-husband-wife-is-having-an-affair-2/ 
Keeping children in the centre - not the middle - of divorce and separation https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/keeping-children-at-the-centre-not-the-middle-of-separation-and-divorce/
Navigating the conversation: telling your children about your new partner https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/navigating-the-conversation-telling-your-children-about-your-new-partner-after-divorce/ 
Life after an affair: divorce and blended families https://open.spotify.com/episode/37l9HFDZj0BmxH37QEJWd3?si=a5650db3aba645d1
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🎙️Life after an affair: divorce and blended families🎙️
Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law
This episode of Life, love and the law welcomes our first ever couple to the podcast. Tom Nash, a regular face with us, brings along his partner Donna to discuss their lived experiences of affairs, divorce and building a blended family.
Tom takes off his ‘divorce coach’ hat, to get into the nitty gritty of how the affair came about, the fallout and the next 9 years of hard work and pain to get to where they are now - a successful, happy blended family with his ex-wife and Donna’s ex-husband!
00:53 Introductions
02:28 Tom introduces the topic of his affair and Donna goes on to discuss her separation and parenting
04:38 How Tom and Donna met and the end of Tom’s marriage
06:38 How could conversations have happened in those early days to be more respectful?
09:00 Coping with the aftermath of telling your spouse you want to divorce
11:08 Donna discusses the breakdown of her marriage and her experience of divorced parents
14:45 Lack of understanding around the divorce process itself
15:25 The legal implications of an affair on divorce proceedings
18:28 How does a divorce coach work with people on the edge of a breakup 
20:20 Can you recover from an affair?
23:00 The role of a stepparent in a blended family
24:14 Should you stay together for the kids?
26:00 How did Tom and Donna get from the affair to a successful blended family?
33:45 Biggest reflections on the impact of an affair and how to move forward

Useful links
Adultery and divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/adultery-and-divorce/ 
Top myths about divorce and affairs https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/adultery-and-divorce-the-top-ten-myths/ 
What should I do if my spouse is having an affair? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-should-i-do-if-my-husband-wife-is-having-an-affair-2/ 
Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6?si=138279a774194e5b 
How to introduce a new partner to the kids https://open.spotify.com/episode/3j7T2cGqTrFqb0rV9xat8u?si=3aaf756e1a9647c7 
Parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/SFL_Premium-handbook-Parenting-plan-template.pdf 
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🎙️Understanding a sexless marriage🎙️
Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law
A sexless marriage is one in which the couple has sex less than 10 times a year, as expert sex therapist Natasha Silverman explains. But the important thing is not necessarily the frequency, but the emotional connection between two partners, and what happens when that disappears.
In this episode of Life, love and the law, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell is joined by relationship and psychosexual therapist Natasha Silverman to discuss sexless marriages, understanding how they come about and what you can do as a couple if you are struggling with intimacy. They also explore how to know if your marriage or relationship has come to an end. 
00:35 Introductions with Liza and Natasha 
02:10 What is a sexless marriage or relationship
02:50 Key trends among sexless partners
03:52 How do you handle periods of sexlessness in relationship
05:35 How does sexual desire work in men vs women?
06:50 The normalisation of duty and expectation around sex 
08:30 How to recover from a sexless relationship as a couple and as individuals
11:42 What are the common traits of an unhealthy sexual relationship?
13:34 Why do people go through sexlessness in relationships?
15:17 The honeymoon period and what happens after
17:55 Does a sexless relationship lead to cheating?
19:02 How to broach the topic of sex therapy with a partner
20:53 When do you know it’s time to break up?
22:52 Do you need to share why your marriage has ended with a lawyer?
23:50 Moving forward after a sexless relationship
25:55 Top tips if you’re in a sexless relationship
Useful Links
Signs your partner doesn’t love you anymore https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/signs-your-partner-doesnt-love-you-anymore/
Is it normal to have doubts in a relationship? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/is-it-normal-to-have-doubts-in-a-relationship/ 
How can you tell if your marriage is over? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-can-you-tell-if-your-marriage-is-over/ 
Is it normal to feel unsure even if your relationship looks good on paper? https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hbSuuBZcEPKghfwrmjMzs?si=f182d7fe46c04703 
If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 
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🎙️The importance of health and fitness during divorce and separation🎙️
Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law
When you’re going through a stressful life event, keeping up with your workout schedule, eating well, or even just getting outside for a walk can feel overwhelming. But it’s so important for your mental and physical wellbeing to include activity, movement and good nutrition in your day-to-day. 
In this episode of Life, love and the law, Alana Ellis, personal trainer and nutritional coach, explains the value of exercise even when you really don’t feel like it. She talks about lowering the bar, not expecting too much of yourself, and taking small steps. 
00:25 Introductions
01:55 The impact of stress on the body
03:21 Fight or flight vs rest and digest physical and emotional states
04:57 How important is sleep and how can you improve your sleep
08:22 Supplementing with magnesium and how it can help support good sleep
09:57 How can meditation support the nervous system?
11:53 What are the main obstacles for people when it comes to healthy food routines?
13:14 The impact of stress on relationships with food
14:36 What can replace food as an emotional coping mechanism?
15:28 Easy wins when it comes to health and fitness
16:50 The value of exercise in building up your energy bucket, not depleting it
18:20 Debunking the all or nothing mindset when it comes to exercise
23:45 Finding the motivation to exercise especially when you’re stressed
25:15 Lowering the barrier to entry with exercise 
27:17 Divorce and separation to do list vs exercise and wellbeing
30:13 Top tip for health and fitness during divorce and separation
Useful links
Why emotional wellbeing matters during divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/why-emotional-well-being-matters-during-divorce-and-how-it-affects-legal-outcomes/ 
Looking after your mental health through divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/looking-after-your-mental-health-during-divorce/ 
The first steps to divorce https://youtu.be/p6ZWYK7zXN0?si=eh0aaj6K_r2nykE5 
Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6 
If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 
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🎙️Is it normal to feel unsure, even if the relationship looks good on paper? Navigating relationship uncertainty🎙️

We've all heard the phrase 'looks good on paper' - the relationship has everything you ever wanted, you've got the house, the kids, the date nights. But something doesn't feel right and you can't understand why. Is it normal to feel that uncertainty? Can you come back from it? And what happens if actually it's not that you can't fix things, it's more that you don't want to?

In this episode, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes Kate Nestor, a divorce coach with a combined role as Content Lead at Stowe, to discuss all things insecurity in relationships and understanding our emotions.

00:50 Introductions
02:24 What is a divorce coach?
03:25 Feeling unsure or unhappy in your relationship and taking initial advice
04:30 Expectations in relationships - the impact of modern life
08:35 Feeling uncomfortable in your relationship and the build of disconnection
09:55 How does uncertainty manifest mentally and physically
11:10 Facing your emotions head on
16:25 Are doubts and overthinking always a linear process ending in separation?
18:55 Pressure of expectations from others about your relationship
21:15 Our own expectations of how our partners should behave - the mental load
27:39 The importance of safe place to work through and listen to your emotions: emotional awareness
29:27 How a divorce coach or therapist can support through emotions and practicalities
32:10 Taking the first steps and building resilience
35:20 The tipping point from uncertainty into a decision
37:18 Top tip for the understanding a period of uncertainty

Useful links

How can you tell if your marriage is over? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-can-you-tell-if-your-marriage-is-over/
Reality TV to real life: why compatibility matters more than a 'spark' https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/reality-tv-to-real-life-why-compatibility-matters-more-than-the-spark/
When growing apart doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/when-growing-apart-doesnt-have-to-be-the-end-of-your-relationship/

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 

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If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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