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• The motherhood penalty: £125,000 lost and how we fix it with Joeli Brearley

  AHHH this is a big one!! In this week's episode, I sit down with the legend herself, Joeli Brearley, founder of Pregnant Then Screwed and now Growth Spurt, one of the UK's most relentless advocates for parents in the workplace. After being fired by voicemail two days after announcing her pregnancy, Joeli turned her personal story into a movement, one that has changed laws, secured billions in government investment, and supported hundreds of thousands of mothers. And the timing couldn't be better. Brand new ONS data just dropped showing that mothers lose £65,000 in the five years after their first baby, and £125,000 if they have three children. When people say "of course you'll earn less, just be grateful you have a baby," what they're actually saying is your financial freedom doesn't matter. But Joeli's here to tell you: it absolutely does, and it doesn't have to be this way. This conversation isn't just about documenting the problem—it's about the solutions. From why parental leave is the single biggest lever we have to change everything, to why companies that hide caregiving are shooting themselves in the foot, to what Growth Spurt is doing to support the return-to-work transition that breaks so many of us. This is essential listening for every working mother who's been told she should just accept less.

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• "Welcome to the Workstyle Revolution!": Reimagining work for the reality of modern motherhood with Lizzie Penny

  As working mothers, we're told that flexible working is the solution. Work from home two days a week. Do compressed hours. Start at 10am instead of 9am. But if these solutions actually worked, why do we still feel like we're constantly drowning? Why are we still apologizing for our lives? Why does the motherhood penalty persist? Flexible working has been around for more than 70 years, yet employment gaps for mothers aren't closing. We're not failing...the system is. In this episode, I sit down with Lizzie Penny, mother of three and cofounder of the Workstyle Revolution, a charity on a mission to create a world of work without bias. Lizzie's story is a masterclass in why we need to stop tweaking the edges of an outdated system and start demanding something entirely different. Lizzie introduces the concept of "work style"—NOT flexible working, but a fundamental reimagining of how we measure value, productivity, and contribution in the workplace. She explains why mothers are actually the most productive workers (yes, there's data!), why you shouldn't have to apologise for going to your child's school play, and how the complexity of our lives is our superpower, not our weakness. This conversation will change how you think about your worth at work and give you the language and permission to start advocating for what you actually need to thrive, not just survive, as a working mother.

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• 'You've been tricked!' Raising boys who smash stereotypes with Lauren Currie

  How do we raise kind, thoughtful boys in a world that still tells them they have to be tough? What happens when we realise the systems we’ve grown up in don’t serve any of us... including our children? In this episode, I sit down with the brilliant Lauren Currie, author, advocate, founder of UPFRONT, and mum to a young son. Lauren’s new children’s book, Taylor Meets The Trick, gives families a simple, hopeful way to spot gender stereotypes (“the trick”) and have real conversations about fairness, kindness, and confidence. We explore: How to raise boys who see beyond gender roles and lead with empathy Everyday ways the patriarchy shows up in parenting (and how to call it out) Why the language we use with our kids matters more than we think How children can become the teachers when it comes to spotting bias The subtle ways adults are “tricked”... and how to unlearn them Lauren also shares how she’s raising her son to question stereotypes without shame, what she’s had to unlearn herself, and how parents can make these conversations part of everyday life without it feeling heavy. Whether you’re a parent, caregiver, teacher, or simply someone who wants to help create a fairer, softer future, this episode will give you ideas, language, and a lovely story to share with the children in your life. Resources & links Taylor Meets The Trick – Order the book here Connect with Lauren on Instagram and LinkedIn Learn more about UPFRONT: weareupfront.com

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• Finding your village in a digital world with Kate Westlund Tovsen

  Motherhood is full of contradictions. You’re never truly alone -- kids, partners, colleagues are always nearby -- yet it can feel like one of the loneliest seasons of life. In this conversation, I sit down with Kate Westlund Tovsen, communications consultant and founder of The Society of Working Moms (SOWM), to talk about why working motherhood so often feels isolating and what it takes to build the kind of community we all crave. Kate shares the story behind creating SOWM, an online Slack-based community designed to be a real village for women navigating both careers and motherhood. We dig into the surprising ways digital connections can become lifelines, how to overcome the hesitation of engaging in online spaces, and why vulnerability is the secret ingredient to building real support. We also explore: Why motherhood can feel more isolating than expected—even when you’re surrounded by people. The value of connecting with women at different stages of life and motherhood. How digital communities can replicate the generational wisdom that many of us are missing. Practical ways to use your voice, share what you need, and start building your own village. Stories of how small acts of honesty and courage sparked meaningful connection inside SOWM. If you’ve ever felt like your “village” is missing, this episode is for you. Whether online or offline, connection is possible, and it often starts with one brave step. Links and resources: Connect with Kate on LinkedIn Learn more about The Society of Working Moms: working-moms.com

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• “We’ve normalised not feeling okay” Alison Campbell on why so many mothers are burning out

  Hello and welcome back to the penultimate episode of Season 1 of WDIG? If you’ve been feeling foggy, exhausted, or like everything’s a little heavier than it should be, this episode is for you. Alison Campbell, founder of Unburnt, talks honestly about why working mums are especially at risk of burnout, how the expectations of an “always-on” culture quietly stack the pressure, and why none of this is your personal failure. Alison shares her own wake-up story and explains why normalising constant overwhelm is exactly what keeps people stuck. If you want practical, doable tools (not more toxic productivity pep talks), you’ll love the micro-habits Alison walks through in this episode.  This is a conversation about naming the load instead of carrying it alone. Permission to stop pushing through, to ask for help, and to carve out space for yourself. If you’re drowning in the idea that you must do it all, this episode gently reminds you: you’re not failing, you’re being let down by unsustainable expectations. It might not always feel this way, but you DO have choices and there ARE  manageable ways to stay unburnt. Want to go deeper? Alison’s work is at getunburnt.com and she shares practical tips on LinkedIn under Alison Campbell. Now, take a breath, and let's get into it. 

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