Help! My Child's Anxious

When should you give your child their first smartphone? And how do you protect them from what they might see online?

Former Hollyoaks star Sarah Jayne Dunn joins Vanessa Feltz and child therapist Saskia Joss to discuss one of the biggest dilemmas facing modern parents: children, smartphones and social media.

Sarah's son Stanley is now 10, and while he doesn't yet have a phone, she's already thinking about what happens when he starts secondary school.

In this episode, they discuss:

When children should get their first smartphone and what rules parents should set.

The dangers of social media algorithms, explicit content and online peer pressure.

Sarah's experience growing up on Hollyoaks, the pressures of body image and finding confidence through pole fitness.

How simple family activities can help children feel connected without screens.

Plus, Saskia shares practical advice on managing screen time, having honest conversations with your children and creating safer online boundaries.

Would you give your 10-year-old a smartphone? Let us know in the comments.

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Chapters:
00:00–00:32 The dangers of social media for children
00:32–01:25 Meet Sarah Jayne Dunn
01:25–03:24 When should children get their first phone?
03:24–06:35 Setting rules before giving your child a smartphone
06:35–08:53 The disturbing content children can encounter online
08:53–11:02 Keeping children safe online and at playdates
11:02–13:07 Algorithms, misinformation and peer pressure
13:07–15:46 Are basic phones safer for children?
15:46–17:42 Setting healthier screen-time boundaries
17:42–18:03 Break
18:03–20:41 Growing up on Hollyoaks at just 14
20:41–23:21 Photoshopping, sexualisation and body image
23:21–25:08 OnlyFans, trolls and finding confidence
25:08–27:14 How pole fitness helps Sarah's mental wellbeing
27:14–30:21 Sarah's favourite screen-free family activity
30:21–32:13 How pets help children feel connected

From birthday parties and loud noises to school and social situations, everyday experiences can feel overwhelming for an anxious child. But what's actually happening, and what can parents do to help?

This week on Help! My Child's Anxious, Vanessa Feltz and her daughter, child therapist Saskia Joss, go back to basics to explain childhood anxiety and share practical ways to help children feel safer and more confident.

In this episode:
- Why children become anxious, even when they're safe
- How anxiety can spread from one situation to another
- How to identify what's really worrying your child
- Why forcing an anxious child into a situation can backfire
- Small changes that can help children build resilience
- How parents can manage their own phobias without passing their fears on to their children

Plus, Saskia answers a listener's question about her fear of cats, shares a fun game to play with children, and explains why Strictly Come Dancing can be brilliant family viewing.

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The BBC has cut scenes from Horrible Histories, including sketches about child labour and slavery. But are we protecting children from frightening subjects, or avoiding conversations they actually need?

In this episode of Help! My Child's Anxious, Vanessa Feltz and her daughter, child therapist Saskia Joss, tackle a big parenting question: how much should we shield children from the frightening realities of life.

From the Titanic and the Great Fire of London to death, divorce and scary films, Saskia explains why some children become fascinated by frightening things while others develop fears that spread into everyday life.

They discuss how parents can talk about difficult subjects, why age-appropriate explanations matter and whether shielding children from distressing content really builds resilience.
Plus, a parent asks why their previously adventurous eater is suddenly refusing familiar foods. Saskia explores food anxiety, fussy eating, texture sensitivity and practical ways to help children feel more comfortable trying different foods.

And in Never Felt So Good, the family's extraordinary pet marrow continues its adventures.
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A new study suggests baby girls may be more drawn to faces than baby boys from the first hours of life. But does that actually mean parents should raise boys and girls differently?

Vanessa Feltz and child therapist Saskia Joss unpack what these differences might mean for parents, why gender stereotypes can stop us from seeing the child in front of us, and whether girls may sometimes become better at hiding anxiety.

Saskia also explains why children need a mix of calm, connection, physical play and emotional freedom, regardless of whether they're a boy or a girl.

Plus, they tackle a parent's bedtime dilemma after their child suddenly refuses to sleep alone, and Saskia reveals how she threw a brilliant children's birthday party without spending thousands trying to recreate Instagram.

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Help! My Child's Anxious is hosted by Vanessa Feltz and child therapist Saskia Joss. Subscribe for practical, compassionate conversations about childhood anxiety, parenting and emotional wellbeing.

This podcast provides general information and discussion. It is not a substitute for individual medical or mental-health advice.

Are today’s children really a “snowflake generation”, or are they dealing with levels of anxiety that previous generations simply didn’t face? Vanessa Feltz and child therapist Saskia Joss unpack the growing mental health crisis among children and young people, following Professor Peter Fonagy’s argument that today’s young people are not “snowflakes” and that it has genuinely become harder to be young.
Saskia explains why the pandemic may have left a lasting imprint on children’s anxiety, how prolonged emotional states can influence the way we respond to the world, and why parents should listen before immediately trying to fix an anxious child’s problem.
They also answer a difficult question from a parent whose seven-year-old has started calling herself “fat” and restricting her food, discussing body image, self-esteem and what parents can do when children begin criticising their bodies. Plus, Vanessa discovers that sometimes the best childhood memories cost absolutely nothing… provided you have an enormous marrow.
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