No Worries If Not!

Thin is back and she’s thinner than ever. From Skinny Tok and cosmetic weight loss injections to trad wife influencers and far-right femininity, this episode draws on Kate Manne’s book Unshrinking to explore how women are taught to shrink themselves in response to a right-wing political landscape. How do we talk about this trend among celebrities without commenting on individual women’s bodies? What’s the origin story of the BMI? How does misogyny and racism find an ally in fatphobia?

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Guests:⁠ Kate Manne

Unshrinking: How to Face Fatphobia

Kate's Substack: More to Hate

No Worries If Not! is written, hosted and produced by Lily O'Farrell. The script editors were Jackie O'Farrell and Will Hilton, also produced by Will Hilton. Theme music composed by Meg Jenkins.

Sources:

Children’s Commissioner: Young people with eating disorders in England on the rise (2023)

BEAT eating disorders: Statistics for Journalists

The Independent: The people most likely to use weight loss jabs, according to new research (2026)

Institute for Employment Statements: Weigh more and get paid less: why the obesity wage penalty for women matters (2023)

Unshrinking, Kate Manne (2024)

BBC News, TikTok blocks searches for extreme thinness 'skinnytok' hashtag (2025)

Careless People: A Cautionary Tale of Power, Greed, and Lost Idealism, Sarah Wynn-Williams (2025)

What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat, Aubrey Gordon (2020)

Fat Is a Feminist Issue, Susie Orbach (1978)

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fatphobia, Sabrina Strings (2019)

100+ women’s rights groups warn against racist weaponisation of VAWG, the End Violence Against Women Coalition (2025)

The New York Times: Who Is Liv Schmidt, and Why Was She Barred From TikTok? (2024)

Reddit: LivSchmidtsnark

The Cut: Inside Influencer Liv Schmidt's Subscriber-Only Group Chat (2025)

Evie: Banned For Being Honest? Meet Liv Schmidt, The Girl Who Made Skinny Go Viral (2025)

Evie: Ballerina Farm And The New American Dream (2024)

KPCW: Ballerina Farm pauses raw milk sales after samples fail health tests (2026)

Going Mainstream: How Extremists Are Taking Over Julia Ebner (2023)

Pink-Pilled: Women and the Far Right Lois Shearing (2025)

Wikipedia: Karen Carpenter
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Remember the bestselling pickup artist book The Game by Neil Strauss? Since its release, pick up culture has evolved alongside the internet - from online forums to viral 'cold approach' videos filmed using Meta smart glasses (and uploaded without the women’s consent.) In this episode, I speak to two men who've made these videos, alongside a leading expert in image-based abuse, to unpack the online masculinity grift driving it all.

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Guests:⁠ ⁨⁠⁠Professor Clare McGlynn⁠⁠ ⁠

Michael Asibuo⁠

'Joe' (not his real name)

No Worries If Not! is written, hosted and produced by Lily O'Farrell. The script editors were Jackie O'Farrell and Will Hilton, also produced by Will Hilton. Theme music composed by Meg Jenkins.

Sources:

⁠The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists⁠ - Neil Strauss

⁠Neil Strauss: 'My thinking was: If this woman’s going to be naked with me – I must be OK. It doesn’t last’⁠ - The Guardian, 2015

⁠Adnan Ahmed: 'Pick-up artist' conviction quashed on appeal⁠ - BBC News (2020)

⁠Campaign win: law to stop deepfake abuse⁠ - The End Violence Against Women Coalition (2025)

⁠Survivors and campaigners welcome new deepfake law but call on government to go further⁠ - The End Violence Against Women Coalition (2026)

⁠I cold approach 100 women to get over my fear of rejection⁠ - Michael Asibuo (2025)

⁠A Disastrously Bad 6-Minutes Of Cold Approach (REJECTIONS)⁠ - Kristian Kasanova (2024)

⁠Watch me face Rejection for 16min repeatedly (2025)⁠ - Alex Leon (2025)

⁠How To Pick Up 9s and 10s (Infield Example)⁠ - Social Stoic (2025)

⁠Todd vs Dating⁠

⁠The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory⁠ - Marilyn Fry (1983)

⁠41 Tenets⁠ - Andrew Tate

⁠If Books Could Kill Podcast⁠ - The Secret (2023) ⁠Everything I’ve learned about incels⁠ - Lily O’Farrell (2021)

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Botox has gone mainstream. Once exclusive to the celebrity class, it’s now marketed as routine beauty maintenance for women. When the widespread use of injectables is challenged, a common defence is “it’s her choice, and feminism is about choice, right?” But it's not that simple.

In this episode we pick apart 'choice feminism' - its origin and its impact, and we look at how to talk to our friends who get Botox with compassion and empathy.

When you picture yourself as a middle aged woman, what does she look like?

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Guests:⁠ ⁨Alice Cappelle⁩

'Meg' (not her real name)

No Worries If Not! is written, hosted and produced by Lily O'Farrell. The script editors were Jackie O'Farrell and Will Hilton, also produced by Will Hilton. Theme music composed by Meg Jenkins.

Sources:

⁠The Double Standard of Aging, Susan Sontag (1972)⁠

⁠Job age discrimination for women starts at least 10 years earlier than for men, University of Liverpool - Professor Ian Burn (2023)⁠

⁠Actors warned to keep off the Botox, The Guardian (2003)⁠

⁠Dataclysm: Who We Are When We Think No Ones Looking, Christian Rudder (2014)⁠⁠

⁠The Mandarins (Les Mandarins), Simone de Beauvoir (1954)⁠
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It’s a great time to be a horny woman! Women are going offline to get off. We’re reading Romance Fiction and Romantasy, watching male-on-male hockey smut, listening to audio erotica and reading confessional sex stories. Why are we leaving video porn behind? How does erotica authored by women offer an alternative to the violence of the male gaze, and what do the feminist porn wars of the 70s and 80s have to do with all of this?

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Guests:

Sarah Maxwell, Saucy Books

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Carly Pifer, Aurore

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No Worries If Not! is produced, written and hosted by Lily O'Farrell.

The script editors are Jackie O'Farrell and Will Hilton, also produced by Will Hilton. The theme music was composed by Meg Jenkins and the title animations were animated by Angelica Lena.

Sources for this episode in chronological order:

Women on Porn, Fiona Vera-Gray (2024)

'Not just smut': Why it's happily ever after for romance books, BBC News (2025)

Top 10 Most Popular Shows on Netflix of All Time, Netflix (2026)

The female-only book club: Why women read more than men, Times Literary Supplement (2020)

Rebecca Yarros’s ‘Onyx Storm’ Is the Fastest-Selling Adult Novel in 20 Years, New York Times (2025)

Bloomsbury had its highest sales year ever thanks to Sarah J. Maas, Business Insider (2024)

‘Heated Rivalry’ Reaches 10.6 Million Viewers in The U.S. With Audience Increasing by Over 100% Since Finale, Variety (2026)

What do women really want from men? I delved into romantasy and found a good few clues, The Guardian (2025)

Dr Karen Gurney - Sex and Pleasure, No Worries If Not!

Women are feral for Heated Rivalry. What does that say about men? The Guardian (2026)

Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys: Women and Gay Male Pornography and Erotica, Lucy Neville (2018)

Pornography: Men Possessing Women, Andrea Dworkin (1981)

Thinking Sex: Notes for a Radical Theory of the Politics of Sexuality, Gayle Rubin (1984)

Pornhub to restrict access for UK users from next week, BBC News (2026)

Children as young as nine exposed to pornography, BBC News (2023)

The Right to Sex, Amia Srinivasan (2021)

The world wants to ban children from social media, but there will be grave consequences for us all, The Guardian (2026)

Quinn audio erotica

'Hot Priest' actor, TikTok are drawing Gen Z to this audio-erotica app, Business Insider (2024)

Quinn: Gender demographic of listeners, TikTok (2024)

r/QuinnAudios, Reddit (2024)

Perfect White Shirt, Aurore
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No Worries If Not! is now a YouTube show featuring hand-drawn, lo-fi animations, expert guests and a documentary-style exploration of women and internet culture.

Watch the trailer and subscribe to the ⁠No Worries If Not! YouTube channel⁠ so you don’t miss an episode. For audio listeners only - you’ll still be able to listen to the raw audio from each episode here in podcast form.
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