EP 126: ADHD Parenting: Heal Yourself, Help Your Child with Randy Free of Aspire Coaching
What if your journey to help your child with ADHD actually begins with healing yourself? Randy Free, founder of Aspire Coaching, offers a refreshing perspective that might just transform your family dynamics.When traditional parenting approaches fail with neurodivergent children, parents often feel trapped in cycles of conflict, meltdowns, and mutual frustration. Randy's personal story of raising two children with ADHD resonates deeply—the hours spent on homework, the struggles within an inflexible education system, and the constant worry about how their story would end. Through this journey, he discovered a profound truth: healing the family system creates space for the child to thrive.The heart of our conversation explores Randy's PEACE framework (Perspective, Ease tension, Attune, Connect, and Empower), offering a structured path toward calmer, more connected parenting. We unpack how children's emotional outbursts aren't manipulative or defiant but distress signals from a brain where logic becomes inaccessible during emotional moments. Randy introduces practical tools like the STOP method for identifying emotional warning signs and creating personalised calming strategies before reaching full meltdown.Perhaps most importantly, we challenge the misconception that gentle parenting means permissiveness. Randy articulates the crucial balance between empathetic connection and maintaining clear boundaries, showing how fewer, more focused expectations actually create space for children to thrive. The conversation takes a beautiful turn as we recognize how neurodivergent children flourish when their education aligns with their passions—like Randy's son who struggled to get out of bed for school but achieved perfect attendance at motorcycle mechanics school.Whether you're in the trenches of daily ADHD challenges or simply seeking to better understand neurodivergent minds, this episode offers compassionate insight alongside practical strategies. Join us to discover how one breath, one conscious choice at a time, you can transform both your parenting approach and your relationship with your wonderfully unique child.Click here for Randy FreeClick here for access to private SEND Parenting WhatsAPP Communitywww.sendparenting.com
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EP 125: Financial protection for neurodivergent children with Lisa Chauhan & Cara Roughani of Send Protect
Financial planning for neurodivergent children is not just about money but about love, responsibility, and the legacy we leave when we're no longer here.• Cara explains how her journey with her autistic son during COVID lockdown led to creating SendProtect after noticing financial advisors weren't addressing SEND-specific needs• SendProtect offers free educational events, webinars and consultations to help SEND parents understand long-term financial planning• Life insurance policies should be written in trust to prevent inheritance tax and provide immediate access to funds• Children's ISAs can become problematic at age 18 if your child lacks financial capacity, requiring court applications• Vulnerable person's trusts provide a government-approved way to save money for SEND children without affecting benefits• Even £5 per week can provide meaningful financial protection through properly structured life insurance• Having a will with children's guardianship specified is essential to prevent SEND children entering temporary care• Workplace support for SEND parents is crucial—employers need to understand the additional caring responsibilitiesJoin the conversation in our private WhatsApp community where SEND parents connect for support, insights and understanding. Find the link in the show notes.Click here for SEND Protect www.sendparenting.com
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EP 124: When your child slips away with Guy Shahar of Transformative Autism
What happens when the child you thought you knew begins to slip away? For Guy Shahar, watching his one-year-old son Daniel lose words, self-feeding abilities, and connection was heartbreaking. "It's like you're losing your child," Guy shares, describing the helplessness that washed over him and his wife as traditional medical pathways offered little beyond frustration and dismissal.Their story takes an unexpected turn when they follow their intuition to a small therapy center in Israel, emptying their savings on what Guy calls "stronger than a whim, but without any rational basis." What follows is nothing short of remarkable - a transformation that begins on the very first day when Daniel, who hadn't touched solid food in over a year, sits calmly at a table feeding himself. The magic, Guy explains, isn't in mysterious techniques but in learning profound attunement and containment - creating safety while truly seeing and responding to what his son actually needed rather than what conventional parenting expected.Guy's journey doesn't end with Daniel's progress. While establishing the charity Transforming Autism, he discovers his own neurodivergence, adding layers of insight to his understanding: "Autistic children are often particularly sensitive and empathic - turbocharged even. It's overwhelming, that's why they shut down." This revelation reshapes his advocacy work, focusing on helping parents understand their children's extraordinary potential from the earliest moments. Through intensive home-based therapies and accessible online parent groups, his charity now guides families toward the confidence to parent neurodivergent children on their own terms.For parents just beginning this journey, Guy offers compassionate wisdom: allow yourself to grieve the future you imagined, seek community with those who understand, and remember that while the path may not resemble what you expected, the connection waiting on the other side can be more profound than you ever thought possible. Connect with the Send Parenting WhatsApp community through the link in our show notes, where you'll find others walking similar paths with open hearts and shared understanding.Click here for Transforming AutsimClick here for Guy's book Transforming AutismClick here to join the private SEND Parenting WhatsApp Communitywww.sendparenting.com
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EP 123: Creating calm in the classroom with Lisa Danahy, Founder & Director of Create Calm
Dr. Olivia Kessel speaks with Lisa Danahy, Founder & Director of Create Calm, yoga therapist and author of Create Calm in the Classroom, a book about understanding and supporting children's nervous systems through breath and movement techniques. She talks about why playful approaches work better than verbal instructions for neurodivergent children and:• Why we need to understand behaviours as nervous system communications rather than problems to fix• How to use the "volcano" movement exercise to release tension and anxiety• The importance of validating emotions rather than labelling them as good or bad• Practical ways to help children navigate emotional storms through body awarenessClick here for Lisa's book Creating Calm in the ClassroomJoin our private WhatsApp community for support, insights and real conversations with like-minded parents who truly understand. www.sendparenting.com
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When educators and parents work together with WITH Lynn How of Positive Young Mind & Izzy Felton, host of the SEND Network Podcast
The SEND Parenting Podcast joins forces with the SEND Network Podcast to explore the transformative power that emerges when parents and educators collaborate effectively for neurodiverse children, featuring Lynn Howe who brings unique insight as both a SENCO and parent of a neurodivergent child. We delve into how:• Children frequently mask difficulties at school, causing disconnect between home and school experiences• The EHCP process remains challenging, even for those with insider knowledge• Regular check-ins and addressing concerns early prevent escalation to crisis points• The magic formula of letting go• Support networks provide validation and practical strategies for both parents and professionalsSEND NetworkPositive Young Minds Join us in the private SEND Parenting WhatsApp community by clicking the link in the show notes. It's been wonderful to communicate with everyone in the community and join together to help each other navigate challenges and celebrate successes.www.sendparenting.com
Welcome to the Send Parenting Podcast. I'm your neurodiverse host, Dr Olivia Kessel, and, more importantly, I am a mother to my wonderfully neurodivergent daughter, Alexandra, who really inspired this podcast. As a veteran in navigating the world of neurodiversity, I have uncovered a wealth of misinformation, alongside many answers and solutions that were never taught to me in medical school or in any of the parenting handbooks.Each week on this podcast, I will be bringing the experts to your ears to empower you on your parenting crusade.
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