The Aspiring Psychologist Podcast

In this episode of The Aspiring Psychologist Podcast, we explore the psychology of raising boys in today’s cultural climate. I’m joined by clinical psychologist Dr Matt Slavin, and together we discuss masculinity, misogyny, adolescence, identity, belonging, and emotional development. We explore why polarising narratives about manhood can feel so compelling, how fear and shame shape behaviour, and what parents, clinicians, and educators can do to support boys to grow into emotionally strong, compassionate men. We discuss attachment, aggression, peer influence, incel culture, parenting, sport, curiosity in therapy, and how to respond to challenging views without judgement. This episode is relevant for aspiring and qualified psychologists, parents, educators, and anyone interested in mental health, masculinity, and developmental psychology.Links:📲 Connect with Dr Matt Slavin: https://www.instagram.com/drmattslavin/Check out Dr Matt's websites: http://www.drmattslavin.com/ https://getmentaladvantage.com/🫶 To support me by donating to help cover my costs for the free resources I provide click here: https://the-aspiring-psychologist.captivate.fm/support📚 To check out The Clinical Psychologist Collective Book: https://amzn.to/3jOplx0📖 To check out The Aspiring Psychologist Collective Book: https://amzn.to/3CP2N97💡 To check out or join the aspiring psychologist membership for just £30 per month head to: https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/membership-interested🖥️ Check out my brand new short courses for aspiring psychologists and mental health professionals here: https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/short-courses✍️ Get your Supervision Shaping Tool now: https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/supervision📱Connect socially with Marianne and check out ways to work with her, including the Aspiring Psychologist Book, Clinical Psychologist book and The Aspiring Psychologist Membership on her Link tree: https://linktr.ee/drmariannetrent💬 To join my free Facebook group and discuss your thoughts on this episode and more: https://www.facebook.com/groups/aspiringpsychologistcommunityLike, Comment, Subscribe & get involved:If you enjoy the podcast, please do subscribe and rate and review episodes. If you'd like to learn how to record and submit your own audio testimonial to be included in future shows head to: https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/podcast and click the blue request info button at the top of the page.Hashtags: #raisingboys #masculinityandmentalhealth #aspiringpsychologist

In this episode of The Aspiring Psychologist Podcast, we explore why modern life feels so overwhelming through the lens of evolutionary psychology and neuroscience. I’m joined by clinical psychologist Dr Matt Slavin, and together we discuss how our brains are still wired for survival in an ancient world, not the constant demands, uncertainty, and stimulation of modern society. We explore anxiety, negativity bias, rumination, avoidance, the impact of technology and news, lessons from the pandemic, parenting conversations about death, and how understanding our “ancient brain” can reduce shame and increase compassion. This episode is ideal for aspiring and qualified psychologists, therapists, and anyone interested in mental health, wellbeing, and why distress is a deeply human response rather than a personal failure.Timestamps00:00 – Why our brains are ancient and modern life feels so hard01:08 – We discuss why understanding our evolutionary wiring really matters02:10 – Ancient survival drives and why they clash with modern expectations03:05 – Avoiding discomfort, uncertainty, and why that blocks the life we want05:29 – Maslow, privilege, and how self-actualisation is a modern luxury06:52 – Why our neurobiology hasn’t caught up with modern society08:03 – Negativity bias and why our brains are wired to spot danger first09:56 – Rumination, worry, and the exhaustion of a threat-focused mind12:02 – Loss, mortality, and how ancient humans related differently to suffering13:36 – News, technology, and constant activation of our threat systems16:11 – The pandemic as a leveller between clinicians and the people we serve19:42 – Functional contextualism and why behaviour makes sense in context21:22 – Nature-based practice and meeting clients as humans, not hierarchies23:18 – Legacy, meaning, parenting, and what we want to leave behind27:03 – Shame, compassion, and understanding survival strategies in mental health29:51 – Self-awareness, skills, and what really helps people live wellLinks: 📲 Connect with Dr Matt Slavin: https://www.instagram.com/drmattslavin/ Check out Dr Matt's websites: http://www.drmattslavin.com/ https://getmentaladvantage.com/ 🫶 To support me by donating to help cover my costs for the free resources I provide click here:

In this episode of The Aspiring Psychologist Podcast, we explore how travelling can genuinely make you a better psychologist by building empathy, perspective, flexibility and emotional intelligence in ways that classrooms cannot. I speak with Ben, an aspiring psychologist currently travelling in Chile, about backpacking across Canada and South America, using Workaway to combine voluntary work with travel, and taking on a remote research role while on the road. We discuss letting go of rigid timelines to qualification, managing internal pressure, funding trips on a shoestring, the role of privilege and safety nets, and how uncomfortable journeys can become powerful stories and sources of resilience. I also share my own experiences of extended travel after my undergraduate degree, shorter UK breaks during clinical training, and how nature, awe and time away from traditional routes can support aspiring and qualified psychologists to live in line with their values and return to their careers more grounded and reflective.Highlights00:00 – Why travelling can shape you as a psychologist as much as formal training00:51 – I introduce Ben, an aspiring psychologist currently travelling in Chile01:34 – We discuss releasing the pressure to qualify quickly and follow rigid timelines02:31 – Ben on career expectations, presence and learning to slow down05:27 – Finding relevant psychology experience while travelling, including Workaway08:02 – My own six-month trip around the world and how I funded it10:35 – Coming home with £20 and jumping straight into work and training13:02 – Standout travel memories and how uncomfortable journeys build resilience17:19 – Sleeper trains, ferries and why challenging travel experiences matter18:13 – Travel doesn’t need to be expensive or international to be meaningful22:00 – We reflect on privilege, safety nets and the ability to take time out24:18 – How family support, grief and life experiences shape perspective26:01 – Travel as exposure therapy and confidence building29:20 – Nature, awe and using time away to support mental health33:22 – Leaving space for uncertainty and choosing your own career timelineLinks:🫶 To support me by donating to help cover my costs for the free resources I provide click here: https://the-aspiring-psychologist.captivate.fm/support📚 To check out The Clinical Psychologist Collective Book: https://amzn.to/3jOplx0 📖 To check out The Aspiring Psychologist Collective Book: https://amzn.to/3CP2N97 💡 To check out or join the aspiring psychologist membership for just £30 per month head to: https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/membership-interested🖥️ Check out my brand new short courses for aspiring psychologists and mental health professionals here: https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/short-courses✍️ Get your Supervision Shaping Tool now: https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/supervision📱Connect socially with Marianne and check out ways to work with her, including the Aspiring Psychologist Book, Clinical Psychologist book and The Aspiring Psychologist Membership on her Link tree:

In this episode, I speak with trainee clinical psychologist Skie Hewitt about the reality of training and working in psychology while registered blind. We discuss stigma at interview, navigating inaccessible systems, working with a guide dog, using technology to adapt practice, identity-first language, the emotional labour of disability, and what supervisors and services need to know to genuinely support visually impaired trainees. Skie shares practical strategies, personal reflections and hopeful encouragement for disabled aspiring psychologists, alongside essential insights for anyone committed to building an inclusive profession. This episode is ideal for aspiring psychologists, educators, supervisors and anyone interested in accessibility, disability and clinical training.Highlights00:00 – Opening reflections on inclusion and the reality of inaccessible systems01:20 – Introducing Skie: her route from A Levels to two master’s degrees and AP roles02:34 – Discovering the Snowden Trust and how their scholarship opened doors03:20 – Talking impostor syndrome, resilience and the impact of adversity04:26 – Understanding Skie’s visual impairment and what “registered blind” actually means05:58 – Why this episode aims to empower both disabled and non-disabled listeners06:35 – The stigma Skie faced at interview and why it was illegal08:54 – Choosing a workplace based on how people made her feel, not just the offer09:36 – Where guide dogs can and cannot go and why misconceptions persist10:48 – Access refusals in taxis, Airbnbs and public spaces, and the emotional toll11:53 – How Derek, Skie’s guide dog, can be an asset and an icebreaker in therapy12:33 – How Skie discusses her dog and visual impairment with clients14:44 – Identity-first vs person-first language and why it varies15:44 – The social model of disability and why systems are often the barrier17:22 – The practical tools that support Skie at work: magnification, voiceover, contrast18:40 – The constant problem-solving required just to get through a day19:06 – How supervision and open communication create real accessibility20:25 – How Skie takes notes in assessment sessions and adapts traditional processes21:37 – Recording sessions as a tool for accessibility and learning22:32 – Braille, literacy and why many visually impaired people don’t rely on it24:00 – Technology that transforms independence, including Meta AI glasses25:00 – The braille smartwatch and why subtle timekeeping matters in therapy26:44 – Universal design vs specialist devices28:17 – Audible, audiobooks and the power of accessible learning29:14 – Managing eye health, hospital appointments and disability-related leave31:19 – Caring for Derek on placement and setting him up with his own workspace31:42 – What glaucoma is and how it affects vision32:35 – The challenges Skie’s mum faced raising a blind baby33:14 – Childhood independence, confidence and proving professionals wrong34:46 – Hobbies, travel and aerial fitness as a potential new adventure35:36 – Why disabled voices strengthen the profession — and why the work is still hard36:59 – Final reflections on making psychology inclusive and empowering future trainees38:25 – Your post-session reflection about accidentally saying “lovely to see you”39:31 – Subscriber-only content and how listeners can support the podcast40:40 – Information about the Snowden Trust for disabled studentsLinks:The Snowdon Trust - investing in disabled students:

In this episode, I speak with first year trainee clinical psychologist Jack Griffiths about his unconventional journey from football coaching in Wales to securing a training place after six DClinPsy application cycles. We discuss how he used non traditional experience to build his psychology identity, the challenges of being a male applicant in a female dominated profession, the pressure to demonstrate vulnerability in interviews, and what helped him stay grounded through years of uncertainty. Jack reflects on assistant psychologist roles, rejection, resilience, supervision, and the value of authenticity in developing as a clinician. This episode is ideal for aspiring psychologists preparing applications, strengthening reflection skills and carving out their own unique path into the profession.Highlights00:00 – Introducing Jack’s journey and years of persistence on the path to training01:20 – Meeting Jack and how his football coaching background first caught my attention01:54 – Jack’s route into psychology after repeated ACL injuries led him into coaching02:49 – Working with teenage academy players and using psychology to build culture, leadership and communication03:31 – How a love of psychology began early, and why Jack followed curiosity rather than a fixed plan05:28 – Staying grounded and authentic while entering a new profession06:11 – Using experiences from football and lifeguarding to strengthen reflections and clinical applications07:37 – Applying motivational interviewing and coaching models on the pitch, including autonomy and self leadership09:14 – Bringing personal style to coaching and rejecting outdated coaching stereotypes09:59 – We discuss being male in a female dominated psychology profession and how this shapes vulnerability and growth11:51 – How gender dynamics shape reflection and openness in interviews and supervision14:19 – Applying six times to training, losing confidence and feeling stuck as an assistant psychologist16:23 – Why assistant roles vary, and the emotional toll of years of striving for a single outcome18:25 – Interview challenges: authenticity vs playing “the reflection game” in high pressure situations20:32 – How men in psychology often start at a disadvantage around vulnerability expectations22:47 – Thoughts on equality, diversity and inclusion, and how men sometimes fall outside the conversation24:13 – Navigating assessment during training and handling power dynamics in supervision26:23 – How allowing yourself to start from zero on placement can lead to the biggest growth29:31 – The emotional impact of not being “chosen” for a placement and managing ego and comparison32:17 – Early anxieties about meeting supervisors and fitting into new teams33:42 – Final reflections and encouragement for aspiring psychologists on their own unconventional pathsLinks:📚 📲🫶 To support me by donating to help cover my costs for the free resources I provide click here: https://the-aspiring-psychologist.captivate.fm/support📚 To check out The Clinical Psychologist Collective Book: https://amzn.to/3jOplx0 📖 To check out The Aspiring Psychologist Collective Book: https://amzn.to/3CP2N97 💡 To check out or join the aspiring psychologist membership for just £30 per month head to: