Ep.16 How to See Your Child in a More Positive Way — Even in the Hardest Moments
Does your child feel like one big trigger? In this episode, I explore how chronic stress rewires your brain to see your hypersensitive or PDA child as a threat—and how to shift your nervous system back into connection using glimmers, curiosity, and regulation practices.📖 Read the full blog on my website: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/how-to-see-your-child-in-a-more-positive-way-even-in-the-hardest-moments 🎁 Get the Free Ebook + Video Series: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulated-and-resilient-parenting 7 Steps To Regulated & Resilient Parenting With your highly reactive, hypersensitive, high needs child
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Ep.15 When You Feel Like You're Being Abused by Your Child
What do you do when the person hurting you is your own child—and you love them more than anything?In this deeply personal and trauma-informed episode, Afshan Tafler shares her story of parenting a hypersensitive, high-needs, PDA child whose violent outbursts left her terrified, exhausted, and full of shame. From calling 911 to navigating complex PTSD and nervous system collapse, she unpacks the raw truth many parents are afraid to admit:Sometimes it feels like abuse. And your body doesn’t lie.This episode explores: • Why your nervous system interprets your child’s violence as threat • What trauma from your own child does to your brain, body, and beliefs • How to reclaim safety, agency, and meaning—even in the chaos • Research that validates your experience • A soul-level perspective that may help you feel less aloneWhether you’re in the thick of it or still healing from what you’ve lived through, this is a powerful, compassionate reminder:You are not broken. You are not failing. You are not alone. And there is a way to feel whole again.👉 Read the full blog article on my website: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/when-it-feels-like-abuse-making-sense-of-violence-control-and-trauma-in-parenting-a-high-needs-child📘 Get my free eBook + video series: 7 Steps to Regulated & Resilient Parenting with Your Hypersensitive, High Needs Child Download it here: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulated-and-resilient-parenting🎧 Listen now and feel seen, understood, and empowered.#nervoussystem #highneedschild #pdaautism #parentingtrauma #traumainformedparenting #afshantafler
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Ep 14. Part 3 - From Grief to Growth: The Hidden Gift of Parenting a High Needs Child
In this powerful episode, we explore how the heartbreak of parenting a hypersensitive, high-needs child can become a gateway to healing, meaning, and transformation.This is Part 3 of a 3-part series on Loss, Grief, and Growth—and it’s one of the most important messages I share.You’ll learn:How past trauma shapes your parenting triggersWhat post-traumatic growth looks like in real lifeHow to reclaim your joy, peace, and purpose from the inside outThe psychology behind growth, meaning, and nervous system transformationWhy your child may not be breaking you—but awakening youThis isn’t about bypassing pain. It’s about discovering who you are beneath it all.📝 Read the full blog here: 👉 https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/from-grief-to-growth-the-hidden-gift-of-parenting-a-high-needs-child🎁 Download my free e-book + video series: “7 Steps to Becoming More Regulated and Resilient with Your Hypersensitive, High Needs Child” 👉 https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulated-and-resilient-parenting
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Ep. 13 Part 2 - Understanding the Grief That Comes With Parenting a High Needs Child
Grief shows up in unexpected ways when you’re parenting a hypersensitive, high-needs child. And most of it goes unnamed.In this episode of The Regulated Mother, I explore the deeper grief that lives in the nervous system—the kind of grief no one prepares us for.We talk about:The 5 stages of grief adapted for parentingAmbiguous loss, ongoing loss, anticipatory grief, and loss of reciprocityWhy you might feel stuck in a shame-grief loopHow grief from the past gets reactivated in the presentAnd how to begin working with grief in your body, one breath at a timeIf you want to read instead, the full blog is available on my website: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/understanding-the-grief-that-comes-with-parenting-a-high-needs-childThis episode is especially for parents navigating Autism, PDA, ADHD, trauma, and other nervous system differences—who are grieving not because they’ve given up, but because they love deeply.
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Ep. 12 Part 1 - The Loss No One Talks About in Parenting a High Needs Child
In this episode of The Regulated Mother, we name the invisible losses that come with parenting a hypersensitive, high-needs child—loss of identity, dreams, freedom, health, and more. If you’ve ever felt like your life no longer looks or feels like your own, this conversation will help you understand why—and remind you that you’re not alone.🖊️ You can also read the full blog on my website: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/the-loss-no-one-talks-about-in-parenting-a-high-needs-childAfshan’s instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/afshantaflerAfshan’s YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/@afshantaflerFree Ebook and Video series on the 7 Steps to Regulated & Resilient Parenting with your hypersensitive, high needs child: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulated-and-resilient-parentingListen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-regulated-mother/id1817810402
If you're raising a hypersensitive, high-needs child — including Autism, PDA, OCD, ODD, ADHD, or anxiety — this podcast is for you. I'm Afshan Tafler, a Nervous System Resilience Coach for mothers like you. Here, we talk about what most people don’t: how it really feels, how your nervous system responds, and how to find your way back to calm, courage, and connection — even on the hardest days. You're not alone, and you were never meant to do this without support.
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