Where do you draw the line of financially supporting a man you care about? Are men more likely to take advantage of generous women? What happens if that man can't pay you back? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the slippery slope of borrowing money to men...whilst being in a sexual relationship with the man you're financially supporting! Are there exceptional scenarios? Or should we just leave men to fix their own financial problems? Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

This episode was voted for by my patrons over on my Patreon! In the longest episode so far, join The Slumflower as she talks about raising your self-esteem, through the lens of observing rejection sensitivity, desperation, and comparing yourself to women who are in relationships you idolise. Do men target women who they detect have low self-esteem? Is it too late to raise your self-esteem and date better? Does a woman need to be stupendously beautiful for a man to desire and respect her? It all goes down in this episode - hilariously and as usual, impactfully! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses: what's the difference between ‘being bought’ and being where your worth feels valued? Do you feel comfortable asking men for things or are you scared they will think you're 'fleecing' them? What makes a man worth being the 'right' man for you? Sometimes, you might not even by asking for too much...sometimes, he's just the wrong man! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

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Are men trustworthy? Are there times when it's okay for a man to lie to you? Are you too honest with men? In a rather hilarious episode, Chidera unpacks the reality that the man you love will at some point, lie to you - and how we can make peace with the insincerity of men, whilst also accommodating the layers of nuance and reasoning as to why a man might lie; plus how we can benefit from catching him in said lie...depending on how damaging the lie is! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!