Why Isn't Everyone Doing This? with Emily Fletcher

What if ninety seconds on a dance floor could do what ten years of therapy couldn't?

In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Sah D'Simone, a spiritual teacher, humanitarian, and bestselling author whose approach to healing was forged through over 300 days of silent meditation, clinical spiritual care training at Cedars-Sinai Hospital, and years of direct service in the margins. Sah is the creator of the Somatic Activated Healing (SAH) Method and founder of the Somatic Dance Institute, and his work has drawn collaborations with Harvard, Columbia, and the UN.

They trace Sah's path from meditation teacher to dance mystic: the night in Bali when a trance on the dance floor cracked him open into a full-body recognition of strangers dancing beside him, the year his mother died and everything he'd built around joy fell apart, and why he believes talking about trauma can trap you in a cycle of blame while dancing it moves the charge all the way through. They also get into how Christian missionaries turned the god of dance into the devil, the nuanced difference between chasing pleasure and finding it inside whatever is true, and why no feeling, however big, is the one that finally breaks you.

In this episode, Sah explores:

Why talking about your trauma can trap you in a cycle of blame, while dancing it moves the charge all the way through

The night in Bali when a trance on the dance floor cracked him open into a full-body recognition of strangers he'd apparently known before

How Christian missionaries turned Pan, the god of dance and revelry, into the image of the devil

The difference between chasing pleasure as an escape and finding the ecstasy inside whatever is true, even rage or grief

What his mother's death taught him about prayer, pain, and the limits of visualization

A Vipassana retreat gone sideways, and the wave of full-body release that followed once he stopped resisting

Opening for a DJ with five minutes' notice, and the closest he has come to a physical experience of the divine on a stage

Why no feeling is too big to survive, and what actually makes people exhausted

Key Moments:

00:00 – Emily's introduction: from meditation teacher to dance mystic, and why Harvard and Columbia came calling
03:02 – Why the most prestigious universities on the planet are studying his work
05:10 – His mother's death, and the six months of "sanctioned insanity" that followed
07:48 – The Osho line: why a woman dancing is closer to God than a man meditating
08:40 – Why talking about your trauma can trap you in a cycle of blame and victimhood
14:11 – How Christian missionaries turned Pan, the god of dance, into the devil
19:40 – The night in Bali when dance cracked him open into a past-life recognition on the floor
27:06 – 2020, and the moment "the goddess" rewired his entire career overnight
28:00 – "Part rave, part ritual": why the fastest, most industrial beats create the safest place to disappear
30:47 – His pushback on spiritual bypassing in ceremony culture, and Emily's response
40:34 – What his mother's death taught him about pain, prayer, and the edges of joy
42:27 – A Vipassana retreat, "princess and the pea," and the full-body release that followed
44:23 – The Iceland eclipse festival, and opening for a DJ with five minutes' notice
49:31 – The first-ever multi-day festival at the pyramids, and the Egypt eclipse he's building toward in 2027
51:16 – What he'd say to the exhausted parent of three who says they don't have time to dance
54:05 – His one request: dance to a single song, eyes closed
58:04 – A Lakota elder's line: all the suffering on the planet traces back to uncried tears

About Sah D'Simone

Sah D'Simone is a spiritual teacher, humanitarian, and bestselling author of Spiritually Sassy and Spiritually, We. He is the creator of the Somatic Activated Healing (SAH) Method and founder of the Somatic Dance Institute, where he has trained teachers and guided communities worldwide in trauma-informed, body-based practice. A chaplain intern in spiritual care at Cedars-Sinai Hospital and guest teacher at Columbia University, his work has been recognized with the City of Los Angeles CARE Award. He hosts the podcast Solving the Riddle of Being Human.

Website: sahdsimone.com
Instagram: @sahdsimone

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What if the word apocalypse was never about the end of the world, but about what gets revealed once the veils come down?

In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Elayne Kalila, a psychotherapist turned priestess and the founder of the Priestess Presence Mystery School, for a conversation that travels 30,000 years back to trace the deliberate erasure of feminine spiritual authority. Elayne walks through the Venus of Willendorf, the moment agriculture and land ownership gave rise to patriarchy, and why the women burned as witches were so often the post-menopausal landowners, healers, and midwives, not young women at all.

They also get into Freud's diagnosis of hysteria and its roots in the idea of a wandering womb, why 43 million American women between 45 and 65 are entering their power rather than their decline, and Elayne's own confronting practice for holding the men causing harm on an altar of healing instead of hatred. This is a conversation about rage as initiation, aging as beauty, and what it means to priestess yourself and everyone around you through change.

In this episode, Elayne explores:

Why the witch burnings targeted post-menopausal landowners, healers, and midwives, not young women

How agriculture and land ownership seeded patriarchy 10,000 years ago

Why "apocalypse" actually means the lifting of the veils

Her altar practice: naming powerful men who've caused harm and calling them into their hearts

Freud's diagnosis of hysteria and its roots in the idea of a wandering womb

Why 43 million American women between 45 and 65 are entering their power, not their decline

Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and Inanna's seven gates as the oldest map for this transition

Why rage in perimenopause is information, not dysfunction

Key Moments:

00:00 – Emily's tribute to Elayne, and welcome to Why Isn't Everyone Priestessing Themselves
01:20 – Introducing Elayne Kalila: psychotherapist turned priestess
04:50 – Going back 30,000 years: the Venus of Willendorf and the first evidence of goddess worship
05:42 – How agriculture and land ownership seeded patriarchy 10,000 years ago
06:56 – The witch burnings: who was really targeted, and why
09:59 – The apocalypse, meaning the lifting of the veils
13:34 – The case for the feminine, made directly to the man who thinks this isn't for him
21:48 – Elayne's altar practice: naming powerful men who've caused harm and calling them home
35:42 – What it means to priestess yourself: navigating the unknown without a map
47:54 – Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and the echo of Inanna and Ereshkigal
50:53 – Hysteria: how a wandering womb became a medical diagnosis for a woman's power
53:04 – 43 million American women are entering perimenopause, and why that's power, not decline
58:05 – Premenstrual rage as information, not dysfunction
1:00:45 – Inanna's seven gates as the oldest map we have for this transition
1:01:54 – Aging as beauty: the story of her partner and her white hair

About Elayne Kalila

Elayne Kalila Doughty, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist turned priestess and the founder of the Priestess Presence Mystery School, where she has spent over a decade ordaining women into the Divine Feminine mysteries. She is the author of The Sacred Call of the Ancient Priestess and The Magdalene Rose Oracle, and hosts The Red Podcast.

Website: elaynekalila.com
Instagram: @elayne.kalila

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What if the darkest season of your life isn't a punishment, but an initiation?

In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with her friend and former roommate Regena Thomashauer, known around the world as Mama Gena, for a conversation about her new book, On Our Knees. Regena is the New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation and the founder of the School of Womanly Arts, and this book was written by hand, one card and one page at a time, over years of 5am mornings.

Regena walks through the myth of Inanna's descent into the underworld, why she believes hell is a patriarchal invention built to keep women small while the underworld exists to make them whole, and what it costs a woman to keep playing “fine” instead of the full range of who she is. She also shares her own story: a goddess who visited her bedside at five years old, an acting class that told her she had no sensuality, and the years at what she calls “the Vatican of orgasm” that taught her pleasure is a biological miracle, not a luxury. The conversation closes with Regena reading live from the book's chapter on Kali, the goddess who arrives precisely when a life has grown too small to hold who you're becoming.

Get the book: On Our Knees by Regena Thomashauer, available now →
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In this episode, Regena explores:

Why hell is a patriarchal invention, and why the underworld belongs to the feminine instead

The myth of Inanna, and why a throne can get a woman adored but never whole

Her own childhood visits from an unnamed goddess, and years spent searching for her

The acting class that sent her looking for orgasm instead of a callback

Life inside what she calls “the Vatican of orgasm,” and the neurochemistry that let her heal

Why pleasure regulates the nervous system in ways therapy and to-do lists cannot

A live reading from On Our Knees: the Kali chapter

Raising sons inside a goddess-centered household, without leaving them out of the story

Key Moments:

00:00 – Welcome back Regena Thomashauer, and the poetry behind On Our Knees
03:11 – Why she's proudest of how vulnerable this book is: “Broken is the new shiny”
04:48 – The erotic as the doorway that opens both radiance and rupture
08:49 – Hell versus the underworld: two very different stories about the dark
12:02 – The myth of Inanna, and why the goddess runs an initiation, not a prison
14:45 – The 88 keys: why “I'm fine” is the smallest note women are allowed to play
19:47 – What the goddess says instead of “you're failing”: “You're mid initiation”
21:38 – Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and Emily's own discovery of the unmanifest
22:45 – The goddess who visited Regena's bedside at five years old
25:02 – The acting class that sent her looking for orgasm instead of a callback
28:15 – Inside Lafayette Morehouse, “the Vatican of orgasm”
30:01 – The neurochemistry of pleasure: oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, and prolactin
32:15 – For the exhausted single mother who thinks pleasure is a luxury she can't afford
38:02 – Why pleasure regulates the nervous system in ways nothing else does
41:56 – Live reading from On Our Knees: the chapter on Kali
46:35 – Why she wrote the book for every gender, but chooses to lead with the feminine
48:08 – Raising sons inside a goddess-centered household without leaving them out
53:59 – Regena's deepest hope for what this book changes

About Regena Thomashauer

Regena Thomashauer, known to millions as Mama Gena, is the New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation and the founder of the School of Womanly Arts, where she has spent almost three decades helping women reclaim their pleasure, power, and erotic aliveness. Her new book, On Our Knees: Loving Your Life Even When You Hate What's Happening, is available now.

Website: mamagenas.com
Instagram: @mamagena

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The average age a child first sees porn online is nine to eleven. They are not looking for it. It finds them.

In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Dr. Shefali, who has been on Oprah more than any other guest and is one of the most trusted voices in conscious parenting alive today. She joins Emily with two new books just weeks apart, Raising Conscious Sons and Raising Conscious Daughters, and the two go deep on the questions Emily is sitting with in real time as a mother to a seven-year-old boy.

They talk about what a screen is actually giving a child that a parent can learn to give instead, why the average boy is never initiated into his own sexuality or his own masculinity, and why that single gap traces a direct line to shame, misogyny, and the abuse now surfacing everywhere from the Epstein files to a website called Motherless. Dr. Shefali also opens up about what writing these two books dissolved in her, a judgment of an entire generation she didn't know she was carrying, and a new compassion for men she wasn't expecting to find.

In this episode, Dr. Shefali explores:

Why the average age for a child's first exposure to porn is nine to eleven, and why no one is looking for it

What a screen is actually giving a child, and how to build an analog version of that same reward at home

Why sons need to be initiated into their sexuality the same way a daughter is initiated into her body

The tribal initiation story behind the book Of Water and the Spirit, and what it reveals is missing today

Why testosterone is a hormone of pursuit that needs somewhere to go, not a behavior to suppress

The four pillars of raising a conscious son: mentors, authenticity, accountability, competency

What changed in Dr. Shefali's own judgment of an entire generation once she wrote these books

Why remothering the good men already in your life may be the fastest path to protecting your daughters

The risk no parenting book saw coming: chatbot friends, chatbot lovers, and children gambling their parents' money online

What never changes about a child's needs, no matter how fast the world moves around them

Key Moments:

00:00 – Welcome back Dr. Shefali, and why this conversation was two years in the making
02:11 – The real challenge of raising a son across two households
03:44 – Detox and withdrawal: what happens the moment the iPad disappears
05:55 – Building an analog surrogate for the dopamine a screen provides
09:38 – The average age kids first see porn, and why it finds them unbidden
11:04 – Sacred sexuality, shame, and what pornography is teaching in its place
12:08 – Talking to a son about arousal the same way you'd talk to a daughter about her period
14:00 – A hundred kids interviewed, and the one answer nobody expected
17:33 – Life force is neutral: Emily's own kundalini awakening and learning to receive
20:38 – Why Raising Conscious Sons exists: Adolescence, misogyny, and a culture in crisis
21:34 – Isis remembers Osiris: the myth behind putting a wounded masculine back together
22:27 – The site called Motherless, and 81 million views in a single month
24:01 – Of Water and the Spirit: a stolen initiation into manhood, reclaimed
26:38 – Sovereignty for daughters, tribe for sons: why the initiation is different
29:46 – The Urban Explorers: how boys build their own dangerous rites of passage
34:39 – The Hadza hunt, and why testosterone needs somewhere to go
37:11 – The four pillars of conscious masculinity
42:52 – What writing these books dissolved in Dr. Shefali's own judgment
46:37 – Mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, and remothering the men already in your life
49:05 – The Pac-Man fix: what happened when Emily brought a screen into her own house
51:20 – Why the books are already outdated: chatbots, AI relationships, and kids gambling online
53:59 – What never changes: safety, soothing, and significance
58:44 – Retiring as "the mother," and letting a 23-year-old daughter adult on her own

About Dr. Shefali:

Dr. Shefali Tsabary holds a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and is a New York Times bestselling author who pioneered the conscious parenting movement. She has appeared on Oprah more times than any other guest and is the author of nine books, including The Conscious Parent, The Awakened Family, A Radical Awakening, and The Parenting Map. Her two newest books, Raising Conscious Sons and Raising Conscious Daughters, are available now.

Website: drshefali.com
Instagram: @DrShefali

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You cannot escape a cage you cannot see.

In this episode, Emily Fletcher welcomes back Jim Curtis, a coach and author who has spent years healing his own life and now helps others move from suffering into possibility. Jim's own story includes a difficult childhood and an undiagnosed illness at 19 that left lesions on his spinal cord, taking him from an athletic identity to a wheelchair, and forcing him to rebuild who he was. His new book, The Book of Possibility: Release, Align, Become, distills what he learned into a path anyone can follow, out Sept 1.

Emily and Jim go deep on judgment, forgiveness, and what Jim calls invisible cages, the patterns running our lives that we can't change until we see them. Emily shares two of her own stories along the way, a New York street encounter with a disabled Uber driver's quiet generosity, and the night her own back gave out after months of overgiving. Jim also breaks down the neuro-linguistic programming behind his book and reads a passage live.

In this episode, Jim explores:

– The two-word answer he received when he asked a channeled being why we're here– A judgment story from Burning Man, and the pattern of becoming exactly what he judges– Why forgiveness is so hard, and why the ego doesn't want to let someone off the hook– Quantum jumping, memory reconsolidation, and hypnosis– His own story: a difficult childhood, an illness at 19, and rebuilding from a wheelchair– The invisible cages concept, and why the door out is always unlocked– Why your actual outcomes, not your intentions, reveal what's really running your life– The classic trope of the over-giving healer, and learning to charge for his work– The line he calls his favorite: "pain is part of the human experience, suffering is optional"– Miracle stories from his career, and why he won't try to fix the pain people write to him about– The NLP behind the book's language, and its parallel to the pain-relief mechanics of BDSM– His next project: a certification school for hypno coaches

Key Moments:

01:16 – The Osho quote: a woman dancing is closer to God than a man meditating05:39 – Channeling Metatron: "see beauty, spread beauty"07:16 – The Burning Man judgment story10:03 – Forgiveness as the way out of closed fists14:47 – Quantum jumping and rewriting memory through hypnosis17:28 – Jim's own story: an abusive childhood and an illness at 1921:27 – The invisible cages, and why the door is always unlocked23:02 – Finding what's running your life by looking at your outcomes29:06 – The Uber driver story: a disabled man's quiet generosity34:05 – The classic trope of the over-giving, unboundaried healer44:47 – "Pain is part of the human experience, suffering is optional"49:15 – Miracle stories: fear eradication, eyesight, and unexpected divorces51:40 – Emily's own story: her back giving out after months of overgiving57:26 – A live reading from the book: "You are the love you seek"1:03:31 – The surprising parallel between NLP and BDSM's pain-relief mechanics1:05:57 – Book details: Sept 1 release, 17 chapters, why to buy the hardcover

More from Jim Curtis:Get The Book of Possibility: www.bookofpossibility.comVisit Jim's website: www.jimcurtiscoaching.com

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