You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

What if the thing you’re most afraid to say out loud is the very thing that would save you?

I opened this conversation with a line from the Gospel of Thomas: “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”

Preston's response was exactly what I didn't know I needed.

Preston has spent two decades as a transformational coach, speaker and author. He is a father of four, and for more than a decade he’s led The Bridge Experience alongside his wife, Alexi.

For Preston, bringing forth what’s within you isn’t only about your purpose or your mission. It’s moment to moment. It’s the first hit in your body, and whether you act on it or talk yourself out of it. Every time you override it, you erode trust within yourself.

So in this conversation we went looking for it. We talked about how we were trained from childhood to outsource our power to our parents, our teachers and our priests long before we knew we were doing it, and why intuition is almost always the first thought, not the fifth. He explained why God, to him, is like electricity, and why the real question is whether you’ve built the infrastructure for what you’re asking for. And he told me how scheduling play into every single day, right in the middle of a launch, doubled his business.

We talked about brutal honesty versus artful honesty in relationships, what actually creates safety in a woman’s body, why arguing more brought him and his wife closer, and how to hold your ground without people pleasing or running.

We went deep on money too. Why money is the spoon, not the food. Why he sent back a $30,000 payment from a client he didn’t want to coach. How writing a book called Spiritual Millionaire took him down to his last $20,000. How to pick the one thing that moves the needle and put everything else down. And why he can sit at a table with men who have far more money than him and feel like the richest one in the room.

The line that stuck with me:“When a bird lands on a tree, its faith is not in the branch. Its faith is in its wings.”

If you’re carrying something you haven’t said yet, this one is for you. Go bring it forth!

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I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.
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I left this conversation more inspired, uplifted and connected to the texture of my existence than I have felt in a long time.IN-Q is an emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, and best-selling author.This is an intimate window into his creative process, the perspective he adopts to create meaningful art, and a live demonstration of a few poems, both his and mine, that have touched the lives of many. It was a pinch me moment to have the opportunity to sit across from and read poetry to a man who has been the core icon I have looked to for inspiration when translating my world into words. I believe you will be touched by this conversation, and if you are, please let me know. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that offer you a deeper sense of belonging to yourself and the world. It is an honor to have you tuning in. You belong here. - Billy xFollow IN-Q: https://www.instagram.com/inqlife/?hl=enFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow You Choose Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters:0:00 Intro2:05 Having an Alias Gave Him Courage5:09 Inside Out vs. Outside In Creativity6:43 Write What You Wishe Someone Had Said8:26 Finding Flow9:24 Curiosity, Then Passion, Then Purpose12:28 What Does It Mean to Be Human?13:21 Math and Magic: Three Rounds of IVF16:37 The Duty of Finishing a Poem21:23 IN-Q Performs "Life Is All About You"24:36 Is the Art More Important Than the Artist?25:34 Do You Have to Suffer to Create?27:08 Why You Have to Learn Some Lessons Twice28:51 The Nine Breakup Poems30:53 How Your Art Becomes Your Mantra32:15 You Can Tell the Truth and Still Be Lying36:21 Anchors vs. Kites: Family and Success38:35 What a Good Mentor Actually Does39:35 Why Society Looks Up or Down, Not At41:47 IN-Q Performs "Right Before I Die"46:07 How a Single Idea Becomes a Poem48:47 Where "Life Is a Game" Came From50:35 How Long a Poem Takes to Write55:51 Don't Make It Great, Make It Honest57:07 Billy Performs "Darkness"1:02:33 IN-Q Performs "Life Is a Game"1:08:07 Why Being a Mom Is a Revolutionary Act1:11:33 How Fatherhood Changed Who He Is1:14:05 How to Detach From the Outcome1:15:50 How to Reach the Creative Space More Often1:17:07 Why More Can't Be the Goal1:20:31 What Play Looks Like as a New Dad1:23:36 Inspiration vs. Assignment

Brendan, the founder of Santa Cruz Medicinals, may be the most influential voice in the world for young men right now. He walks down the street and cars pull over so kids can yell "Santa Cruz!" out the window. He funds his own content, he doesn't take the gambling money, and he shows people exactly how he lives.
I didn't sit down with him to talk about supplements. I wanted to talk about the inside of a young man's life, because I believe that's where the real crisis is. The loneliness. A dating world that feels rigged. A brain so cooked by the scroll that it feels nothing and everything at the same time.

We spoke about larping, looksmaxxing, mogging, mewing, monk mode, rage baiting, sexual market value, AI girlfriends, sports betting and the manosphere itself. A few of his answers surprised me!

If you're a young man who feels stuck, lonely, or like the game is rigged against you, this one is for you. And if you love one, send it to him.
I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.
I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.
This episode includes a conversation about those who contemplate taking their life. If you're struggling, you are not alone. In the US, call or text 988 to reach the Crisis Lifeline. Outside the US, findahelpline.com lists free support near you.
The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

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Chapters
0:00 Mental and Physical Health Are The Same Thing
1:23 Why Gambling and Alcohol Run the Internet
4:29 The Biggest Crisis Facing Young Men
6:09 Black Pill Crowd
7:30 Why Dating Is So Hard Right Now
8:54 How Short-Form Scrolling Blunts Your Dopamine
12:26 Men Need to Get Closer to Rejection
13:14 The Best Dating Advice
14:35 Get Your Health Right
15:38 Happiness Is the Wrong Goal
18:05 You Need Hobbies Rooted in Nature
19:00 Homies, Health, Hobbies
19:27 What Women Are Actually Attracted To
23:24 Influencers, Parents, and Personal Responsibility
25:23 Why Manosphere Creators Are So Popular
27:19 The Hard Truth About the Dating Market
28:20 What Makes a Man Attractive
32:32 Billy on Being the Unattractive Kid
37:45 Control Your Breath
40:39 Tell Someone WHat You're Going Through
42:00 "Nobody Cares", and That's Good News
49:38 The Three-Minute Morning Routine
51:20 The Evening Wind-Down Routine
53:32 Labelling, ADHD, SSRI's
59:55 Why Cutting Recess and PE Backfires
1:06:50 Larping: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:12:22 Sexual Market Value: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:13:46 Looksmaxxing: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:21:33 Mogging: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:23:39 Mewing: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:25:12 Monk Mode: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:26:30 Rage Baiting: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:29:59 AI Girlfriends: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:35:27 Sports Betting: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:38:45 The Manosphere: Healthy or Unhealthy?
1:40:11 No Friction, No Fulfillment
1:48:43 What Losing His Dad Taught Him
1:55:28 Why Friendship Comes Before Everything
1:57:35 Lock In for 30 Days

You are under no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday.

These are Charlie Rocket's recipes for reinvention.

Not many are more qualified to speak on this than Charlie.

He got fired twice in the music business, then went on to manage 2 Chainz. At 29, he was 300 pounds with a brain tumor. Nine months later, he was a Nike athlete. He then left that world behind to build a multinational charitable organization called the Dream Machine Foundation, where he travelled the country making people's dreams come true. He has since established himself as a global speaker, and in this episode talks openly about his next phase of reinvention: becoming a NYT Bestselling Author.

He is a testament to the power of delusional optimism, as well as the profound humility to begin again, time and time again.

His life is vibrant because he has been willing to choose again when his spirit longs for something new, and this conversation invites you into the 'how' behind it all.

Enjoy :-)

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Chapters:
0:00 Why Charlie Rocket Calls Himself Crazy1:56 The Recipes Behind Every Reinvention4:31 Having a Brain Tumor, 300 Pounds, and Total Loneliness6:40 Why Everything Wrong With You Is a Gift12:18 The Alter Ego Effect14:39 The Science of the Batman Study16:26 The Golden Circle of Identity18:37 Dress the Part, Becoming CEO Charlie22:39 Why Success in Music Left Him Empty27:31 Becoming a Nike Athlete33:13 How Your Reticular Activating System Filters Reality35:18 The Winning Streak38:52 The Backwards Manifestation Method48:41 The Law of 6258:12 The 20 Hour Rule1:02:04 Why Imposter Syndrome Means You're on Track1:07:20 Tell No One or Tell Everyone?1:15:37 Abracadabra: Speaking Nike Into Existence1:20:22 People Treat Your Dream How You Do1:22:27 The $10 Million Dumpster Test 1:28:30 How to Make Embarrassment Your Fuel1:31:10 How to Utilize Your Ego1:32:59 Train Your Ego Like a Dragon: Feed, Aim, Tame1:40:55 The Art of Quitting1:42:19 Finding Your Purpose: Progress Before Purpose1:49:42 Faith Is Just Imagination1:58:55 The Wow Method2:06:20 Take Field Trips to Your Future2:12:49 The Domino Method and Pin Action2:23:07 Money as Energy2:26:57 Every Rebirth Takes Nine Months2:30:43 The Airport Rule for Feeling Too Late2:37:27 The Art of Disappointing People: Avicii and Dylan2:45:17 Why the Hero Must Look Like the Villain

Grayson Hart had the life we're all told to want. Professional Rugby player, founder of a company worth millions, a wife on the cover of magazines...and he burned it all down in the name of truth.This a public sharing of what years of devotion to truth, authenticity, and the courage to be who you are will afford you.It won't be comfortable, but comfort is never what your soul wanted anyway. Comfort is why you're deeply uncomfortable. As the age old saying goes: The truth will set you free.I KNOW this conversation will touch many people, as it did me. There is nothing more important to a fulfilling life than honoring what's true, even and especially when that truth hurts to admit.Enjoy, and let us know by subscribing and commenting if you do :-)Follow Grayson: https://www.instagram.com/graysonjonhart/Check out Hart Workshop: https://hartworkshop.com/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters:0:00 Introduction1:35 We Are Not Separate 2:55 The Paradox of Belonging5:05 All You Have to Do Is Be True7:17 Whatever Falls Away Is a Blessing8:25 The Dolphin on the Beach13:17 Reframing the Ten Thousand Hour Rule15:15 Billy on Athletes Who Look Too Relaxed21:15 Conor McGregor and Israel Adesanya26:17 Your Own Being Is Your Home27:08 The First Step to Being True Is Being Fake29:33 How Do You Know What's True?30:12 Truth Is a Knowing, Not a Belief33:51 The Myth of Personal Responsibility40:28 Crazy Story About Boarding School44:30 How Grayson Became Untouchable48:13 Words Are the Least Purveyor of Truth51:47 You Don't Have to Change Anything54:46 Choosing the Hard Truth After 8 Years of Marriage1:00:02 Let It Be a Possibility First, Then Decide1:02:13 Inauthenticity Often Gets Rewarded by the World1:06:51 Be Your Whole Self, Unapologetically1:12:51 Life Will Show You the Answer1:16:15 The Illusion That Love Lives in Another1:19:37 How to Be Charismatic While Inside a Committed Relationship1:21:12 Stop Giving Your Energy Away1:30:52 Making Love to the Universe1:32:00 Billy on Flirting With the World1:34:55 Nothing Is Worth More Than Freedom of Truth1:35:44 Be Like Jesus on the Cross1:37:56 Can You Trust a Man Everyone Likes?1:40:24 The Note He Wrote While Meditating1:41:20 Giving Yourself Away Is Not Love1:42:19 Dermot Kennedy's Lyrics1:46:30 Forgiving Everyone That Hurt Him1:50:16 Why Forgiveness Protects Other People1:54:32 The Most Personal Is the Most Universal1:57:20 Billy on Not Needing to Be Understood1:59:41 The Worst Thing God Could Do for You2:06:43 Hart Workshop and the Heart Behind It