Avoiding My Anxiously Attached Boyfriend

In this episode, we’re joined by musician, former RuPaul’s Drag Race UK contestant and queer artist Rom-1 (formerly known as Baby) for an honest and revealing conversation about the dark side of reality television, racism in the gay community, Black masculinity, cultural identity and his decision to walk away from drag.

Romone opens up in detail about their experience on RuPaul’s Drag Race UK, revealing why they really chose to leave the competition and the lasting impact it had on his mental health. From allegations of manipulation by producers and having anxiety and depression used for entertainment to uncomfortable racial comments from RuPaul himself, Romone reflects on what happened behind the scenes, why they felt exploited and how the experience ultimately changed their relationship with drag.

We also explore Romone’s upbringing in a Jamaican family, growing up Black and gay in London and the complicated relationship between sexuality and cultural belonging. 

The conversation also explores racism, fetishisation and the unspoken hierarchies within gay dating. Romone opens up about being made to feel undesirable because of their race and femininity, dating white men who held racist attitudes and the pressure he once felt to change their body to fit into predominantly white gay spaces. 

Finally, Romone reflects on leaving their drag persona behind, embracing their non-binary identity and building a music career that allows them to express every part of himself without compromise.

In this episode, we’re joined by Palestinian-Jordanian queer activist and writer Hasan Kilani for an honest and open conversation about growing up gay in Jordan, LGBTQ+ life in the Middle East, Palestine, Israeli pinkwashing and the complicated relationship between sexuality, identity and political liberation.

Hasan challenges the narratives often pushed about queer people in Arab and Muslim communities, particularly the argument that LGBTQ+ people shouldn't support Palestine because of homophobia in the region. Drawing on his experiences growing up between Jordan and Palestine, he explains how Israel's promotion of LGBTQ+ rights can be used to distract from the realities of occupation and why queer Palestinians often find themselves fighting for their rights while having their experiences used against their own communities.

We also get into Hasan's upbringing in Jordan, where his experience of being gay was very different from the stereotypes often associated with the Middle East. From growing up in an accepting family and experimenting with femininity to discovering Amman's gay bars, queer spaces and LGBTQ+ activism, Hasan reflects on the queer Arab communities that have existed for decades but rarely receive recognition. 

The conversation also explores Western hypocrisy, racism, Islamophobia and the assumptions made about Arab and Muslim men. Hasan discusses why he approaches conversations about homophobia differently in Arabic and English, the contradictions he has experienced living in Britain compared with Jordan and how colonial attitudes continue to shape perceptions of the SWANA region. 

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In this episode, we’re joined by sociologist, writer and researcher Dr Chantelle Lewis for a wide-ranging conversation about mixed-race identity, Blackness, whiteness, family, colourism and the complicated realities of growing up between different racial worlds.

Chantelle takes us into her PhD research on Black mixed-race families who moved from multicultural cities into predominantly white suburban areas. She reflects on speaking to different generations within the same families and hearing children describe racism, bullying and isolation that their parents often didn’t realise they were experiencing. We unpack the idea of being “torn between two identities” and why Chantelle believes the conversation around mixed-race identity needs to move beyond simply feeling rejected by both sides.

We also get into the relationship between mixedness, desirability and privilege. Chantelle discusses the fetishisation of mixed-race people, why mixed-race men in particular can be hypersexualised, the desire some people have to “have mixed babies” and how proximity to whiteness can shape the way mixed-race people understand themselves. We also explore why saying “I don’t see race” can be damaging within interracial families and what happens when children feel unable to talk to their parents about racism.

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In this episode, we’re joined by artist, filmmaker and activist Topher Campbell for a wide-ranging conversation about Black queer history, race, sexuality, masculinity, fetishisation and the experiences that shaped his understanding of identity.

Topher takes us back to growing up in care before moving in with his Jamaican mother as a teenager, navigating religion, sexuality and eventually finding his way into London’s Black queer scene. He reflects on coming of age in the 80s and 90s, a time when Black queer people were rarely visible in mainstream culture and how those experiences later influenced his work documenting and preserving Black LGBTQ+ history through the Rukus! archive.

We also get into the complicated relationship between race, masculinity and desire. Topher opens up about being fetishised by white gay men from a young age, the expectations placed on Black men and how his appearance and the way he spoke could simultaneously give him access to certain spaces while still leaving him boxed in by racial stereotypes. He also reflects on racism within theatre and the arts and the feeling of being wanted sexually while still being denied professional opportunities.

Later, we unpack Topher’s complicated relationship with the word “gay”, why he believes mainstream gay culture can centre a white male experience and why he prefers the openness of “queer”. We also get into the history behind top and bottom labels, their links to BDSM culture and how the internet helped turn sexual preferences into identities and categories.

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In this episode, we’re joined by actor Laquarn Lewis, known for *What It Feels Like for a Girl* and *Jamie Johnson*, for an honest conversation about growing up Black and gay, code-switching, masculinity and finding your place in a queer community that doesn’t always reflect your own experiences.

Laquarn opens up about the reality of being a Black queer actor and why opportunities can still feel limited for people who don’t fit what the industry is looking for. We get into playing Lady Die in *What It Feels Like for a Girl*, how stepping into the role introduced him to a side of queer culture he’d never experienced before and why he was warned that taking the part could lead to him being typecast.

We also explore Laquarn’s relationship with masculinity and femininity, growing up pretending to be straight and becoming so good at code-switching that he felt like he had “100 personalities”. He reflects on entering queer spaces for the first time, feeling disconnected from parts of gay culture and learning that being queer doesn’t mean having to fit into one particular version of what a gay man should be.

From his parents’ reactions to his sexuality to learning to stop editing himself depending on who was around him, Laquarn reflects on what it took to finally become comfortable with every side of himself and the advice he would give to the younger version of himself who was terrified of being found out.

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