Come Curious

We're camera nerds. We're film geeks. And we really, really like making seggs tapes. 🎥🍑Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Florence and Reed get gloriously geeky about the art of making an er0tic home movie. Drawing on their backgrounds in film and TV production, porn directing and content creation, they're sharing how to take your intimate videos from shaky phone footage to something a little more cinematic.

Because why just film yourself having sex when you could give yourself the full director's cut?

We get into:

- Lighting is everything: Ring lights, soft boxes, diffusers, natural light and coloured LEDs, how to create a sexy, cinematic atmosphere.

- Camera equipment: Smartphones vs DSLRs, vlogging cameras, lenses and getting that gorgeous depth-of-field effect.

- Location, location, location: Choosing the right setting, styling your space and creating a visual mood.

- Camera angles and techniques: POV, multiple cameras and why getting someone else behind the lens can transform your footage.

- Scripts, planning and spontaneity: How to create a scene without making your seggs life feel like a film set.

- The magic of editing: Turning your footage into something that actually tells a story.

- Consent and distribution: What to agree before filming, what happens afterwards and the realities of sharing intimate content online.

- Corn brain: Why we sometimes see everyday seggs toys and objects differently when they're on camera.

Plus, we're discussing Erika Lust's approach to erotic filmmaking, reading from her new book 'LUST' and exploring why pleasure, nuance and removing shame matter when it comes to porn.

Basically, if you've ever wanted to make a home movie with a little more production value, this is your masterclass in getting the shot.

Lights, camera, sensation! 😈

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From vampire roleplay and knife play to terrifying bedroom mishaps and stories that might make you sleep with the lights on, this Halloween we're getting into the spooky, the k'nky and the downright f*cking frightening.

Florence and Reed catch up on life behind the scenes, from navigating new motherhood and changing libidos to managing endometriosis and PMDD. Then, things take a darker turn as we play Hot or Not: Scary Sex Edition.

We get into:

Vampire roleplay: Sexy, spooky or just a bit bloody?

Knife play and blood play: Exploring edgy fantasies, personal limits and why consent is everything.

Kidnapping fantasies: Why consensual roleplay needs clear boundaries and careful planning.

Sounding: What it is, why it's polarising and whether it's hot or horrifying.

Terrifying s"x stories: Reed shares a home-invasion roleplay that went wrong before becoming a positive experience.

Real-life ghost stories: Unexplained noises, mysterious figures and some seriously creepy encounters.

Listener confessions: Bats, dissociation, unexpected accidents and the s'x stories that are almost too scary to tell.

Plus, we get honest about how motherhood, chronic health conditions, work and changing hormones can affect intimacy, identity and desire.

Whether you're into spooky roleplay or would rather keep the bedroom firmly ghost-free, this episode is packed with k'nky curiosities, creepy encounters and plenty of reasons to ask: is that a turn-on, or should we actually be worried?

Sweet dreams, curious fuckers. 😈🎃

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Fancy making a s_x tape? 🎥🔥 Whether it's a private little keepsake for you and a partner or you're thinking about creating your own amateur corn, there are a few things you should know before you hit record.

In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed draw on their experience as corn directors and OnlyFans creators to share their guide to making a home movie. From camera angles and lighting to consent, privacy and getting comfortable in front of the camera, we're covering the practical tips and the conversations you absolutely need to have first.

We get into:

- How to film a s_x tape: Camera angles, POV shots and easy ways to make your footage look intimate and natural.

- Lighting that works: Natural light, ring lights and creating the right mood without making everything look like a hospital.

- Amateur porn vs professional porn: Why authentic, imperfect and relatable content can be so appealing.

- Consent before cameras: How to agree on boundaries, storage, sharing and whether footage should be deleted.

- Privacy and leaked n00des: The risks of filming intimate content and what to consider before pressing record.

- Feeling confident on camera: Outfits, toys, locations and creating an environment where you can relax and enjoy yourself.

And it's a watershed episode so our Patreon subscribers get behind-the-scenes stories from Florence and Reed sharing some of their own unconventional filming adventures. Sign up here!

Plus, we discuss the double standards women face when creating sexual content and why making a home movie should be about what feels good to you - not trying to recreate a professional corn scene.

The golden rule? Get consent, talk about the risks, and remember that the best home movie is one everyone involved actually wants to make.

Ready for your close-up? 😈

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⁠Ticklethusiasm⁠ - 12 December 2026

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Got a k'nky fantasy you're too embarrassed to ask about? Wondering what your desires mean, how to explore them, or how to bring them up with a partner without making things awkward? 👀

In this episode of Come Curious, Reed - seggs educator, seggs worker and ki'nk and f3tish specialist - answers your questions about the wonderfully weird world of k'nk. From discovering what turns you on to navigating taboo fantasies and negotiating boundaries, we're getting into the things you might be Googling in private.

We get into:

K'nk vs f3tish: What's the difference, and when does a fantasy become an essential part of your seggs life?

Discovering your desires: How to explore new turn-ons, experiment with fantasies and figure out what you're into.

Controversy: Navigating a controversial fantasy through trust, consent and honest communication.

Cuckolding: How to discuss a partner's desires, set boundaries and avoid resentment.

Talking about k'nk: How to have open, non-judgemental conversations about what you want in the bedroom.

Listener stories: Anonymous confessions featuring roleplay, power exchange, sensory play and food play.

Plus, we discuss seggual health, STI testing and condoms.

Whether you're a curious beginner or a seasoned k'nky fcker, this episode is your reminder that having questions is normal, exploring is personal, and consent and communication are always the hottest things in the room.

📍 Come and see Reed in London:

At Your Own Risk - kinky market social, 29 November 2026

Ticklethusiasm - 12 December 2026

Come curious. Leave with a few more things to think about.

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Why don't I feel horny anymore?

And is there actually anything you can do to get your sex drive back?

In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed dive into the surprisingly complicated world of libido, low sex drive and sexual desire - and why feeling less horny doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you.

From hormones and medication to stress, relationships, parenthood and mental health, we unpack the many reasons your libido can change throughout your life.

We get into:

- Why around 1 in 4 couples experience mismatched libidos

- How antidepressants, hormonal birth control and other medications can affect desire

- How stress, exhaustion, mental load, body image and emotional safety can put the brakes on sex

- Why pregnancy, breastfeeding and parenthood can dramatically change your sex drive

- How trauma, shame, upbringing and neurodivergence can influence desire

- Why asexuality isn't the same thing as having no interest in pleasure or masturbation

- Why you don't always have to wait until you're spontaneously horny to start exploring desire

And we finish with our four-step toolkit for getting your sex drive back: from identifying what's actually killing your libido to rebuilding your erotic world and making sex easier to want.

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