Come Curious

Why don't I feel horny anymore?

And is there actually anything you can do to get your sex drive back?

In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed dive into the surprisingly complicated world of libido, low sex drive and sexual desire - and why feeling less horny doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you.

From hormones and medication to stress, relationships, parenthood and mental health, we unpack the many reasons your libido can change throughout your life.

We get into:

- Why around 1 in 4 couples experience mismatched libidos

- How antidepressants, hormonal birth control and other medications can affect desire

- How stress, exhaustion, mental load, body image and emotional safety can put the brakes on sex

- Why pregnancy, breastfeeding and parenthood can dramatically change your sex drive

- How trauma, shame, upbringing and neurodivergence can influence desire

- Why asexuality isn't the same thing as having no interest in pleasure or masturbation

- Why you don't always have to wait until you're spontaneously horny to start exploring desire

And we finish with our four-step toolkit for getting your sex drive back: from identifying what's actually killing your libido to rebuilding your erotic world and making sex easier to want.

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Motherhood changes you. Your body, your brain, your relationships, your priorities — sometimes even your sense of who the fuck you are.

In this episode, Florence gets brutally honest about the reality of becoming a new mum, from postpartum anxiety and breastfeeding to body changes, sex after birth and the pressure to somehow “bounce back”.

We get into:

The enormous identity shift that comes with becoming a mother

Postpartum anxiety, mental health and why we need to talk about it

Breastfeeding, body changes and the judgement new mums face

Sex after birth, low libido, pain and learning to listen to your body

How social media can affect postpartum body image

Returning to work and the reality of corporate parental leave

The wildly different ways motherhood can make you feel — from depletion and loss to empowerment and love

Plus, we hear from our community about what motherhood changed for them and why there is no such thing as “bouncing back”.

Because you don't go back to who you were before.

You become someone new.

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Our question this week is - Would you have seggs with a robot?

As loneliness rises and AI becomes increasingly woven into our relationships, Florence and Reed ask a very important question: what happens when technology can give us pleasure, companionship and even something that feels a little like intimacy?

In this episode, we explore the future of sex, from AI companions and sex robots to the loneliness epidemic and whether technology could make pleasure more accessible or make real human connection even harder.

We get into:

- Seggs dolls vs seggs robots and what AI actually changes

- AI companions, loneliness and the future of intimacy

- Can technology provide pleasure without replacing human connection?

- Why Gen Z and millennials are turning to synthetic intimacy

- The benefits and potential pitfalls of AI seggs tech

- We try out SensOn, an AI-powered interactive pleasure experience where stories, characters and physical sensations respond in real time

- Plus we reveal whether we'd actually consider having seggs with a robot...

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Plus, Reed shares details of an upcoming k'nky, queer-friendly and sustainable marketplace in London, and we ask you the question that might define the future of seggs: Would you do a robot?

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Rejection fcking hurts. So how do we get better at handling it without taking it as a verdict on our worth?

In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed get into the messy reality of rejection across dating, relationships, friendships and work. They explore why rejection can feel so painful, how the way we're rejected can make a huge difference, and why learning to say (and hear) “no” is such an important life skill.

We get into:

Why rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain

Dating rejection, friendship breakups and workplace rejection

ADHD, neurodivergency and rejection sensitivity

How to reject someone without making them feel worthless

Why people-pleasing and fawning can make rejection harder

Navigating rejection inside long-term relationships

What kink can teach us about boundaries and respecting “no”

The three-step rejection toolkit for having difficult conversations

Plus, Florence and Reed share their own experiences of rejection and challenge us to stop treating someone else's “no” as a judgement on who we are.

Because rejection isn't proof that you're unlovable. Sometimes it's just information.

So let's make rejection our b*tch.

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Is it chemistry… or is it just hormones?

Florence and Reed dive into the science and psychology of attraction - exploring dopamine, adrenaline, ovulation, attachment styles and why the people who make our nervous systems go wild aren't always the people who are actually good for us.

We get into:

The brain chemistry behind attraction and obsession

Can ovulation really change who we fancy?

Why intense chemistry doesn't always mean compatibility

Hot-and-cold behaviour, anxious attachment and addictive relationship cycles

Gen Z, phones during sex and what it says about intimacy

K'nk, consent and the criminalisation of str4ngulation in 🌽

How alcohol, stress and hormones can seriously influence our decisions

And because this is a watershed episode, our Patreon members get the unfiltered second half - including some very candid stories about recent sexual experiences, orgasm denial, roleplay, tickle torture and the mental aftermath of intense play.

Maybe you don't like them. Maybe you're just ovulating.
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