Abuse, Suicides and Bombing - How a Police Officers' Experience Is Helping Thousands Through His Charity - Gary Hayes - PTSD 999
In today's episode, Donna interviews Gary Hayes, the founder of PTSD 999, a charity dedicated to supporting frontline staff with their mental health. Gary shares his compelling life story, beginning with his childhood in East London and his early passion for football, which fostered a sense of teamwork and leadership. He discusses his military service in the army and his subsequent career in the British Transport Police, where he faced the challenges of dealing with traumatic incidents, including the aftermath of the 2005 London bombings. Throughout the conversation, Gary reflects on the importance of trust, the emotional toll of public service roles, and the lack of mental health support for emergency responders. KEY TAKEAWAYS Individuals often pursue careers in public service due to a desire to help others, driven by personal experiences and a sense of responsibility, as illustrated by Gary's early life experiences and his roles in the army and police. The podcast highlights the psychological toll that traumatic experiences in public service roles can have on individuals, including feelings of guilt, anxiety, and moral injury, particularly after dealing with distressing incidents like suicides or fatalities. There is a significant gap in mental health support for frontline workers, as many officers, including Gary, faced traumatic events without adequate resources or training to process their emotions and experiences. Many individuals in high-stress public service roles resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as self-medication with alcohol, to manage the emotional burden of their work, which can lead to long-term mental health issues. Maintaining relationships with colleagues and peers is crucial for emotional support in public service roles. Shared experiences can foster camaraderie and provide a network for discussing challenges and seeking help. BEST MOMENTS "I was a victim of sexual child abuse. I became that child looking out for everyone else. As long as I was looking out for everyone, nothing could happen to them." "I ended up joining the TA. It was fantastic. It was just almost like being back in my battalion." "I was dealing with someone who, unfortunately for this individual, was still alive at the time. It just throws your world upside down." "It's about how you as a person have been able to portray that you're empathetic, in the kindest and least ambiguous way." "We normalise stuff that's not normal. I was self-medicating through booze." ABOUT THE HOST Donna is a Registered Nurse who has worked in the NHS for three decades. She brings you real-life stories from people in front-line public service roles. Some of the stories discuss war, terrorism, suicide, abuse, COVID, death, and vicarious moral injury, which may be triggering for some listeners. Alongside these are stories of joy, hope, empathy, and humanity, highlighting the positive impact individuals have made. Many of her guests have navigated career changes, found work-life balance, or transitioned into new roles, including charity work or entrepreneurship. If you have a story to share that could inspire others seeking change or additional income, please get in touch. Inviting individuals from fire, police and probation services, healthcare, military, teaching, social services, local government, and civil service. https://www.facebook.com/share/1FjUrwC7qS https://www.lifeafterpublicservice.co.uk/ Email:
[email protected] Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donna-bentley-carr This podcast features real-life stories from frontline public service workers, covering tough topics such as war, trauma and loss, and may be triggering to some listeners. Guests also share their tales of everyday heroism, inspiring joy, hope, empathy and humanity. If you have a story to share that could encourage others seeking change or additional income, please get in touch.