Silent Strength with Invisible Warriors

Episode overview In this episode, Deborah Mallow, a motivational speaker and “ray of sunshine,” shares practical ways to choose happiness, interrupt negative thinking, and bring more light into everyday life. A central theme is the power of simple tools—like a gratitude jar—to retrain the brain to notice what is going right instead of what is wrong.​ About Deborah Mallow Deborah is a positive energy and success coach who helps people shift out of self-sabotage and chronic negativity.​ She is the author of “6 Steps to Fewer Days That Suck,” where she offers stories, strategies, and science-backed tips for cultivating a more uplifting mindset.​ Key topics discussed Negativity bias and the brain: How the brain’s ancient focus on problems and danger creates more “bad days” than necessary, and what it takes to interrupt that pattern.​ Being personally considerate: Treating yourself with the same kindness you offer others and replacing harsh self-talk with more supportive thoughts.​ Small daily practices: Simple habits—like dancing to a favorite song or using a “make me smile” box—that help your nervous system shift toward calm, joy, and resilience.​ The gratitude jar practice Deborah explains the gratitude jar: writing one good thing each day on a slip of paper and dropping it into a jar to create a visible record of what’s going well.​ On tough days, pulling out a few slips offers concrete reminders that life holds many moments of joy, connection, and progress, even when current circumstances feel heavy.​ Practical takeaways Start with one small shift: notice when your mind spirals into worst-case scenarios and gently ask, “What would I rather be thinking right now?”​ Create your own happiness tools: a gratitude jar, a smile box, or a short list of “go-to” feel-good activities to use when your mood dips.​ Remember that you have more control over your daily happiness than you think; your choices and focus can steadily lead to fewer days that “suck.”​

Key Takeaways Self-compassion and perspective-taking are crucial for managing mental health challenges Breathing techniques (especially extended exhales) can help regulate anxiety and stress Small, gradual steps and support systems are key for overcoming avoidance behaviors Acknowledging issues, seeking help, and celebrating small victories are important for progress Topics Podcast Introduction and Guest Welcome Nancy Becher introduces "Silent Strength" podcast, focused on women veterans with PTS/military trauma Podcast aims to share stories, provide expert insights, and create a supportive community Renee Zukin welcomed as guest to share her personal journey and insights Renee's Background and Book Renee wrote "Every Day I'm Brave" about transforming her relationship with fear Book includes journal prompts to help readers process their experiences Renee has multiple diagnoses (anxiety, depression, OCD, panic disorder, agoraphobia) but doesn't let them define her Challenges of Self-Compassion and Perspective Nancy shares personal struggle with depression and self-judgment Renee emphasizes importance of self-compassion and avoiding shame spirals Discussion on reframing negative self-talk and gaining broader perspective on situations Coping Strategies and Techniques Breathing technique: Focus on extended exhales to slow heart rate (inhale for 4, exhale for 5-7 counts) Writing/journaling to gain outside perspective on thoughts and feelings Gradual exposure therapy for facing fears (e.g., small steps for leaving the house) Distraction techniques (e.g., playing phone games during stressful car rides) Importance of Acknowledgment and Support Difficulty in getting women to acknowledge invisible illnesses and seek help Veterans more open to seeking support through Invisible Warriors organization Value of creating safe spaces for women to connect and share experiences Three Key Pieces of Advice Practice self-kindness and allow feelings without judgment Seek support (therapist, friends, podcasts, books) from understanding sources Remember your inherent bravery and resilience Added by Nancy: Celebrate even small steps of progress Next Steps Listeners encouraged to leave reviews/ratings for the podcast on iTunes Follow Invisible Warriors on LinkedIn and YouTube for updates Upcoming wilderness retreat in late September focusing on mental health topics Interested participants should contact Nancy for sign-up information

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