To kick off Season 3, Mark welcomes back Neuroshambles favourite Heidi Mavir - bestselling author, speaker, fearless advocate and proud neurodivergent parent - for a lively and cathartic deep dive into swearing. From F-bombs on the trampoline to grandparent-safe alternatives, they explore how language, context, and neurodivergent wiring all shape how (and why) our kids swear.
This warm and witty episode unpacks the relationship between swearing and regulation, impulse control, PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), sensory overload, and social context. Expect plenty of laughs, the occasional C-bomb, and a ton of relatable chaos for anyone raising autistic, ADHD, or otherwise differently-wired kids.
Whether you’re a proudly sweary household or struggling to police your neurodivergent child's potty-mouth moments, this episode is packed with nuance, honesty, and a surprising amount of empathy - even for those who hate bad language.
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CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS (Estimated):
00:00 - Welcome Back & Meet the Guest: Heidi Mavir
03:00 - School Turbulence, Burnout & Finding Your Flow
08:00 - Why Swearing Is This Week’s Topic
12:00 - What Is a Swear Word Anyway?
18:00 - Swearing, Context & Cultural Taboos
25:00 - Family Rules: “Nana Swears” vs “F-Bombs at Home”
33:00 - Parenting Through Swearing: Where Do You Draw the Line?
41:00 - PDA, Equalising Behaviour & Rage Rooms
50:00 - When the Swears Are Aimed at You
58:00 - Swearing as a Self-Regulation Strategy
1:03:00 - Should We Be Policing Swearing at All?
1:12:00 - Swearing and Impulse Control in ADHD
1:17:00 - Teaching Context Without Policing Expression
1:25:00 - Workarounds, Wordplay & Sweary Shenanigans
1:30:00 – Tiny Epic Wins
1:35:00 – What the Flip? Moments
1:40:00 - Wrap-Up & Where to Find Heidi
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LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:
Heidi Mavir website - https://www.heidimavir.com/
Heidi’s “Your child is not broken” book - https://amzn.eu/d/cjoih9W
Eliza Fricker “Can’t not won’t” book - https://amzn.eu/d/91m7voc
PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) - https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/what-is-pda/
“F*ck you I won’t do what you tell me”, song lyric by Rage Against The Machine - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWXazVhlyxQ
Lindsay McGlone - https://www.instagram.com/rollinwithlindsay_/
Reclaimed Means Business - https://lindsaymcglone.kartra.com/page/RMB2025
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