What The Nanny Heard

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss the difficult and sometimes uncomfortable reality of being a nanny when a child simply doesn’t seem to like you.

Is it something the nanny is doing? Is it about the child? Or is there something deeper going on? The girls explore how a child’s emotions and personal circumstances can affect their relationship with a nanny — from separation from a parent to feeling unsettled, anxious or lacking control.

They also discuss how to begin a new role and find the right balance between setting clear boundaries and allowing the relationship to develop naturally. The conversation explores how they personally build bonds with children, negotiate boundaries and respond sympathetically to difficult emotions.

Finally, they look at the powerful role parents can play and how the language they use about a nanny and the childcare arrangement can significantly influence how a child feels.

A thoughtful conversation about navigating rejection, building trust and remembering that sometimes, it isn’t personal.

Charlotte’s Dms
We’ve just experienced a mad heatwave in London and most of the country to be fair. This is likely to happen again next year. What are reasonable adjustments to ask our boss for.

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Charlotte, Charlie and Millie explore what happens when a Nanny role becomes overbearing and crosses the line into micromanagement.

Parents are, of course, entitled to be involved in their children's care, but Nannies also need to be trusted and given the space to do the job they were hired to do. The ladies discuss the importance of autonomy, realistic expectations and recognising when demands become unreasonable.

As usual it is all about communication and boundaries! Passive aggression is never the answer. Nannies cannot address a problem if they don't know it exists, and honest, respectful conversations are far healthier than unspoken frustrations and growing tension. As well as respecting a Nanny's finish time to ensuring they are always spoken to with kindness and respect.

The conversation also explores the pressure Nannies can put on themselves to be perfect. Balancing an employer's expectations with their own professional standards can be challenging, particularly when there simply isn't enough time to complete everything expected of them. There is a difference between working efficiently and being expected to achieve more than one person reasonably can.

Ultimately, the Nanny/employer relationship is a two-way street. Nannies should respect the family, their home and their expectations, while employers should equally value the Nanny's time, professionalism and expertise. The strongest working relationships are built on trust, communication and mutual respect.

Charlotte’s DMs

I am at the end of my tether! I have no idea where to go or what to do. My employer is such a micromanger. I have tried to speak with him but it doesn't seem to calm down. Can we as Nannies try and change someone's way or do we just have to agree to disagree?

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Charlie and Millie celebrate Charlotte's remarkable 30-year career in childcare, reflecting on three decades of dedication to the Nanny profession.

Charlotte shares an honest account of her journey, from leaving school and starting her first nanny role through to the career she has today. She reflects on how the profession has evolved over the last 30 years, the lessons she's learned along the way, and her hopes for the future of Nannying.

The conversation explores how Charlotte's priorities and perspective have changed over time, why she believes it's important to move on from roles that no longer bring fulfilment, and how experience has shaped the way she approaches her career.

Finally, Charlotte offers her advice to both nannies and employers, sharing the insights she's gained from a lifetime dedicated to caring for children.

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Charlotte, Charlie and Millie revisit the important topic of building confidence as a Nanny.

They explore how Nannies can develop confidence in their abilities, while also protecting it when things don’t go quite to plan. A small mistake can sometimes feel much bigger than it actually is, so the ladies discuss ways to rationalise these moments, learn from them and avoid allowing them to knock their confidence.

Drawing on their own experiences throughout their careers, the ladies share times when they have struggled with their confidence and the things they have done to rebuild it.

They also look at the relationship between confidence and experience, and whether confidence naturally grows with time, or whether it is something we need to actively work on throughout our careers.

Ultimately, the conversation is about recognising that confidence isn’t about getting everything right — it’s about trusting yourself, learning from your experiences and having the resilience to keep moving forward.

Charlotte’s DMs
I’ve been with my current family for 2 years and I have never had a pay rise. How do I broach the subject without seeming as if I'm a money grabbing person?

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Charlotte, Charlie and Millie explore the vital role of play in a child's development and ask whether children have forgotten how to be bored.

They discuss why unstructured play is so important, the developmental skills it nurtures, and the value of spending time outdoors—even in the depths of winter—with plenty of practical ideas to encourage children outside.

The conversation also looks at the Nanny's role in play: when to step in, when to stand back, and how to strike the right balance between guiding children and allowing them the freedom to lead.

Finally, the ladies discuss the rise of screen time, with Millie sharing her own family's experience of how excessive screen use directly affected her son.

Charlotte’s Dms
How should I ask about taking my 2 and 4 year old children I look after out; without sounding like I don’t want to be in the house all day.

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