Where You Left Them - The dadhugsforyoursoul Podcast

Season 4 continues with Episode 2, an introduction to Bhavna Radia.
Bhavna spent years as a divorce lawyer before moving into coaching, and she talks to us about where the early pull towards law came from, what happened when she went through her own divorce, and how she now works with women using both sides of that: the professional training and the lived experience of it.
She also explains Mesher orders, which come up constantly and are understood by almost nobody until they're sitting in front of one. A Mesher order lets the family home stay unsold after a divorce, usually until the youngest child finishes education or turns eighteen, at which point it's sold and the proceeds split. It sounds like a solution and for some families it is, but Bhavna is clear about what it costs the person who stays in the house, and why it's worth understanding properly before agreeing to one.

Then it's on to Unsent, the new thing Harry has been building. It's a place to send the message you wrote and never sent, the paragraph that sat in your drafts at two in the morning and stayed there. You write it, you send it to us, and it goes somewhere rather than nowhere. It's at dadhugsforyoursoul.com/unsent

As we always say, if you're having relationship problems, going through a relationship breakup or experiencing heartbreak, then know this: we are with you. Because you can and will survive, heal and thrive.
Everyone who appears on our podcast can take positive steps forward, and so can you.
Find Bhavna on Instagram at @bhavna.radia.
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Did you miss us? Or didn’t you notice we’d been gone? Well, nevermind because we are back!

We are kicking off season 4 with an interesting letter from Jenny who has been dipping her toe into dating and finding it’s stirring up more than just passion….

Jenny’s concerns are common, but maybe not openly discussed. We are here to blow the lid off the idea that everything must be perfect, and that your past should be completely forgotten.

In the second half of the podcast, we are delighted to be chatting to the wonderful Candida Crewe about her new novel, Disapproval, and how it was shaped in part by her own romantic experience with avoidant attachment and betrayal.

You can find Disapproval on Amazon here:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Disapproval-Candida-Crewe/dp/1068527366

You can also ask your local bookshop to order you a copy.

As we always say, if you're having relationship problems, going through a relationship breakup or experiencing heartbreak, then know this: we are with you. Because you can and will survive, heal and thrive.

Everyone who appears on our podcast can take positive steps forward, and so can you.

Listen to the audio version on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Deezer, and anywhere you get your podcasts. Watch the full episodes on YouTube, too. Head to the socials (search dadhugsforyoursoul) to have your say on every episode.

Or visit www.dadhugsforyoursoul/podcasts to comment, submit your quick-fire questions and even your own story.

In this podcast, we see how complicated life can be for everyone. We see that there's always hope. And we see that there's a lesson in every story for our own lives.

Big Hug x

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Back to the familiar format of a letter from a listener - and this one is another all to common theme.

This week, we hear from Helen.
Helen's story has a bit of everything: financial isolation, the slow unravelling of a long marriage, infidelity, divorce, and a turn none of us saw coming.
It's a story about giving yourself entirely to a life and a person, and discovering how little of it was ever really yours. About the particular cruelty of being deceived by someone whose kindness you fell for. And about what happens when the life you thought you were grieving takes one final, shocking turn.
But more than any of that, it's a story about meeting yourself again. About a woman who lost almost everything she thought defined her, and found, on the other side of it, something quieter and steadier and entirely her own.
If you're rebuilding from a place you never expected to be, this one's for you.

As we always say, if you're having relationship problems, going through a relationship breakup or experiencing heartbreak, then know this: we are with you. Because you can and will survive, heal and thrive.

Everyone who appears on our podcast can take positive steps forward, and so can you.

Listen to the audio version on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Deezer, and anywhere you get your podcasts. Watch the full episodes on YouTube, too. Head to the socials (search dadhugsforyoursoul) to have your say on every episode. Or visit www.dadhugsforyoursoul/podcasts to comment, submit your quick-fire questions and even your own story.

In this podcast, we see how complicated life can be for everyone. We see that there's always hope. And we see that there's a lesson in every story for our own lives.
Big Hug x
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Today we go back to basics with Harry and ask him some of the most common questions we hear a lot:

- How do you know so much about mid-life women and how did you get to the point of speaking on topics that are relevant to them
- What is Anxious Attachment, how do we become anxiously attached and is it changeable?
- Why go No Contact - does it really work?
- Somatic work: how can this help in heartbreak?

Listen to the audio version on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Deezer, and anywhere you get your podcasts. Watch the full episode on YouTube Head to the socials (search dadhugsforyoursoul) to have your say on every episode. Or visit www.dadhugsforyoursoul/podcasts to comment, submit your quick-fire questions and even your own story.

If you're interested in the packs mentioned in the podcast, you can find them at https://dadhugsforyoursoul.com/packs

If you're new to the channel or new to Dadhugsforyoursoul, or (how?) new to Harry - then you're very welcome here and, whatever you're going through, you're not going through it alone!

Big hug
x

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**Content warning: This episode includes discussion of economic abuse and a brief, non-graphic reference to domestic violence. Please listen with care and feel free to skip this episode if these topics may be difficult for you.**

Our very difficult discussion this week is anecdotal, via a friend of Harry, and deals with the complicated and painful subject of economic abuse.

There are organisations to help you if you are in this, or a similar position and we urge you to contact them if you can. Here are links to some exceptional services, and you should note that they have quick exit buttons so you can very quickly remove evidence of visiting the websites.

In the UK:

https://survivingeconomicabuse.org/

https://refuge.org.uk/

https://womensaid.org.uk/

In the US:

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://nnedv.org/

As usual, we end with a q&a session and we would welcome
your questions. Do submit them in the
comments or via our website.

Listen to the audio version on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Deezer,
and anywhere you get your podcasts. Watch the episode on our YouTube channel. Head to the socials (search
dadhugsforyoursoul) to have your say on every episode. Or visit
www.dadhugsforyoursoul/podcasts to comment, submit your quick-fire questions
and even your own story.

If you're interested in the packs mentioned in the podcast, you
can find them at https://dadhugsforyoursoul.com/packs

In this podcast, we see how complicated life can be for
everyone. We see that there's always hope. And we see that there's a lesson in
every story for our own lives.

Big Hug x
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