Parenting teenagers untangled. 🏆 The audio hug for parents of teens and tweens.

• Spilling the tea: Exams, family get-togethers and a Big Hug

  Send us a textExams discussions. How to parent through the pressure: https://www.teenagersuntangled.com/exam-revision-parenting-through-the-pressure/How exams fail everyone: An interesting interview with Sammy Wright on the impact of grades and why we need to rethink them.https://www.teenagersuntangled.com/102-why-our-obsession-with-grades-fails-everyone-an-interview-with-exam-nation-author-sammy-wright/Bowling:https://lane7.com/venue/london-victoria/Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/teenagersuntangledThe Big Hug membership group:https://teenagersuntangled.supercast.com/Support the showThank you so much for your support. If you'd like to step into the Big Hug Community Cafe and form a closer bond with me, you'll find a warm welcome from a non-judgemental community of fellow parents, and lots of extra perks: A regular community catch up Exclusive interviews with my teens on a range of topics A chance to ask me anything, and I'll research for you Access to all past interviews Links to downloadable PDF documents Try it for free here: https://teenagersuntangled.supercast.com/ Please hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. I don't have medical training so please seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. My email is [email protected] My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact us:www.teenagersuntangled.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/Susie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:www.amindful-life.co.uk

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• 127: Worries about skin care obsessions? The social media 'Sephora' kid craze from a teen perspective

  Send us a textMost teens go through a phase of being hyper-focused on looking good; whether it's clothes, bodybuilding, skin-care or makeup. What can seem like an obsession could be a normal part of the process, so when should we start to worry and how should we step up? When Clare wrote in worried about her daughter's skin-care regime she was hoping to get a teen perspective. Here's what she said.I would like you to advise on though and maybe your daughters can help?  My 13 year old has been heavily influenced in the last year or two by social media posts on skin care. She has now changed from being content with a simple cleanse and moisturise before bed to having a morning and evening skincare ritual lasting more than an hour.  She is getting up at 5.30 every morning to start the ritual!  The most concerning thing is the use of products and preparations that I would normally associate with more mature ladies ( things I would use!) and these often include hyaluronic acid,  retinol, collagen etc.  she spends all her pocket money, birthday and Xmas money on these products and is constantly asking for extra jobs to earn more money to support to this expensive obsession. I am hoping it’s just a short lived phase and thinking that I should treat it a bit like ‘bad fashion’ and keep cool and non judgemental about it, rather than expressing my concerns, which would probably make things worse!  Do you have any advice? In this episode I talk at length with my girls about the trend, how her daughter might be feeling, and what Clare can do to support her without shutting down communication and connection. PRODUCT MENTIONED (NO AFFILIATE OR SPONSORSHIP INVOLVED) Garnier Vitamin C Daily UV Brightening Fluid Sheer Glow, SPF50+,  For all skin types, Cruelty-Free, Vegan, 50mlSupport the showThank you so much for your support. If you'd like to step into the Big Hug Community Cafe and form a closer bond with me, you'll find a warm welcome from a non-judgemental community of fellow parents, and lots of extra perks: A regular community catch up Exclusive interviews with my teens on a range of topics A chance to ask me anything, and I'll research for you Access to all past interviews Links to downloadable PDF documents Try it for free here: https://teenagersuntangled.supercast.com/ Please hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. I don't have medical training so please seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. My email is [email protected] My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact us:www.teenagersuntangled.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/Susie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:www.amindful-life.co.uk

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• 126: Parenting stages: Coaching and mentoring teens and young adults

  Send us a textBefore I had kids I literally had no real idea of what I should expect. I think that's partly why I have spent the years as a mother panicking and reading everything; having learnt that I was wrong about how complicated the job is. Susie and I are in a similar stage with our kids but feel differently about it, so I thought it would be lovely to bring her in to have an open, honest conversation about how the stages unfold and what it really feels like for us. What do you think? Send me a message on [email protected] Galinsky's six stages of parenting:Nurturer - Birth to one yearYour baby learns that they are safe and the more they find their needs met the more confident they'll become as a youth. Boundaries - Ages one to fiveChildren start to test boundaries. They need to be clear and consistent. When you set a boundary it needs to be the same every time, and the consequences need to be applied consistently. Training the Heart -Ages six to twelveYou begin answering questions about boundaries and consequences, and putting them in context with the way society works. It's important to listen to your child, and respect their opinions.Coaching - Ages thirteen to eighteenGive advice but allow the child to make the ultimate decision. We also have to allow our children to suffer the consequences of bad decisions. Nagging, or constant correction, will just cause our kids to tune our voice out. Mentoring - Ages eighteen to job or marriageRefrain from telling them what they should do and from judging the decisions they make. Understand - and treat them - as if that they are capable of solving their own problems. Our job is to offer advice when asked and not to judge. Be curious. Friendship - Job or marriage and beyondNow our kids are established as adults it's time to tone down the parenting and allow them to be our equal. The one key thing to remember is that they will always  crave our unconditional love and acceptance, regardless of how old they become. Support the showThank you so much for your support. If you'd like to step into the Big Hug Community Cafe and form a closer bond with me, you'll find a warm welcome from a non-judgemental community of fellow parents, and lots of extra perks: A regular community catch up Exclusive interviews with my teens on a range of topics A chance to ask me anything, and I'll research for you Access to all past interviews Links to downloadable PDF documents Try it for free here: https://teenagersuntangled.supercast.com/ Please hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. I don't have medical training so please seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. My email is [email protected] My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact us:www.teenagersuntangled.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/Susie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:www.amindful-life.co.uk

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• 125: Supercharge your teen's life skills with a working holiday.

  Send us a textSponsored by JENZAPositively life changing is how I would sum up the time I spent working abroad during my gap year. I met people with a completely different world view, different language, and learnt to navigate many challenges alone. It gave me a positive, can-do attitude to life.Now my teens are 16 and 18, I want to make sure they have the confidence to meet whatever life throws at them head-on. Given my own experience, I'm convinced that a working holiday is an ideal way of giving them the skills they need with an added boost to their 'explorer' mindset.  I’ve already made an episode talking in general about gap years, but I'm still getting a lot of enquiries about specific opportunities, so when JENZA - the earn as you explore youth travel group - offered to sponsor an episode it was an obvious way to get lots of useful tips for us parents.In this discussion with JENZA’s head of Global Operations, Adam Janaway, he shares:The benefits of working abroad, emphasizing skills like responsibility, adaptability, and problem-solving. The career advantages of cultural exposure and work experience in foreign settings. Three types of work abroad experiences: short-term structured programs, longer-term flexible working holidays, and professional internships. His own experiences, including working at a US summer camp and in Canada, and stresses the importance of asking for help and building emotional intelligence. Advice for us parents to encourage independence and planning for our children's working holidays.JENZA: www.jenza.comGAP YEAR EPISODE: https://www.teenagersuntangled.com/gap-years-what-is-a-gap-year-and-should-our-teens-take-one/Support the showThank you so much for your support. If you'd like to step into the Big Hug Community Cafe and form a closer bond with me, you'll find a warm welcome from a non-judgemental community of fellow parents, and lots of extra perks: A regular community catch up Exclusive interviews with my teens on a range of topics A chance to ask me anything, and I'll research for you Access to all past interviews Links to downloadable PDF documents Try it for free here: https://teenagersuntangled.supercast.com/ Please hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. I don't have medical training so please seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. My email is [email protected] My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact us:www.teenagersuntangled.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/Susie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:www.amindful-life.co.uk

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• 124: How to be a good parent to teenagers, using evidence. An interview with Matilda Gosling

  Send us a textIt's one thing to get advice on how to parent, it's another to have independent studies that give real evidence on how well one approach works rather than another. Faced with raising two young kids in a COVID lockdown, social scientist and skilled researcher Matilda Gosling looked for a book that gave her advice that was based on sound evidence. She discovered that such a book didn't exist, so set out to write it.Described by investigative journalist Hannah Barnes as 'A rare entity: a parenting book that is accessible, well evidenced, practical, gritty and not hectoring. In short, one that is genuinely helpful.' I knew we all needed to hear about what Matilda had found. THE BOOKTeenagers: The Evidence Base, weaves together insights from fields including social and experimental psychology, neuroscience, family systems and adolescent development. CONTACTING MATILDA:https://www.matildagosling.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/matilda-gosling-11a95521/?originalSubdomain=ukhttps://matildagosling.substack.com/In the interview we cover:Navigating the ups and downs of the teenage years - The book discusses how the teenage years are not just constant "storms and stress" but have complex weather patterns with both positive and negative aspects.Supporting teenagers' identity exploration - The book advises letting teenagers experiment with different identities and not labeling them, to allow them room to continue developing.Facilitating healthy friendships and relationships - The discussion covers how parents can support their teenager's friendships, even if they don't approve of all their friends, and have conversations about healthy romantic relationships.Talking to teens about sex and sexuality - The book emphasizes the importance of parents proactively discussing sex, sexuality, and porn with teenagers, rather than leaving it to schools or the media.Maintaining self-care as a parent - The book stresses that parents taking care of their own needs and well-being is crucial for supporting their teenager's well-being.Support the showThank you so much for your support. If you'd like to step into the Big Hug Community Cafe and form a closer bond with me, you'll find a warm welcome from a non-judgemental community of fellow parents, and lots of extra perks: A regular community catch up Exclusive interviews with my teens on a range of topics A chance to ask me anything, and I'll research for you Access to all past interviews Links to downloadable PDF documents Try it for free here: https://teenagersuntangled.supercast.com/ Please hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. I don't have medical training so please seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. My email is [email protected] My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact us:www.teenagersuntangled.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/Susie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:www.amindful-life.co.uk

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