Beyond Words with Najwa Zebian

Send us a textThey knew what they were doing.They knew it would hurt you.And they did it anyway.We’re told, “Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you.” But what if that message is exactly what keeps you in cycles of betrayal, self-blame, and repeated hurt?In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa Zebian reframes what it means to take things personally. Not as self-blame, not as shame, and not as “I must have deserved this”, but as a powerful way to validate your pain, revoke people’s access to you, and rebuild your definition of love.If someone has lied to you, betrayed you, humiliated you, or consistently disrespected you behind your back, this conversation will help you say:“You no longer have access to the perimeter of my life where you can get close enough to hurt me in that way.”In this episode, you’ll hear:Why “don’t take it personally” can become spiritual gaslightingThe difference between internalizing blame and claiming your painHow to use hurt as data: this person knew what they were doingWhy people who rely on your maturity count on you not reactingHow to revoke emotional access and rebuild your sense of self-worthHow to redefine love so it no longer equals being used, walked on, and manipulatedNajwa also reads from her book The Only Constant, exploring what it really means to take something personally, without making it mean you deserved the pain.🎧 Listen when you’re ready to stop minimizing what was done to you, and start holding people to their choices.Books by Najwa Zebian mentioned / related to this episode:📚 The Only Constant 📚 Welcome Home 📚 The Book of HealingExplore the books here:https://www.najwazebian.com/bookshttps://www.amazon.com/s?k=Najwa+Zebian

Send us a textWe often wait for the person who broke us to bring us the medicine that will heal what they broke.Their apology.Their acknowledgment.Their guilt.Their suffering.But when you give someone the power to heal you in the same way you gave them the power to break you, you place yourself in a dangerous position, because the source you’re waiting on has already proven to be a source of pain.In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa Zebian explores what it truly means to be your own medicine. Not as a way of becoming cold, detached, or self-sufficient in isolation — but as a way of reclaiming your power, your compassion, and your wholeness.This episode is for anyone who:Is waiting for closure that may never comeGives endlessly to others but neglects themselvesConfuses love with self-depletionHas been conditioned to believe they are last on their own priority listNajwa speaks about:Why the person who caused the wound cannot be the source of the cureHow people-pleasing trains us to abandon ourselvesThe difference between survival safety and expansive safetyHow to give yourself the empathy, validation, and care you give so freely to othersWhy revenge is a distortion of your medicine, and self-return is its true powerThis episode includes a reading from Mind Platter and reflections from The Only Constant on healing, self-worth, and becoming the person you’ve been waiting for.🎧 Listen when you’re ready to stop begging for crumbs,  and start giving yourself the whole meal.

Send us a textWe often believe that happiness lives in a different version of our life — a new job, a new relationship, a new body, or a new place. But real transformation doesn’t start from the outside in. It starts from the inside out.In this deeply reflective episode of Beyond Words, Najwa reminds us that the most important glow up isn’t about what the world sees, but who we become within. She explores the illusion of external validation, the beauty of integrity, and what it truly means to embody the person you say you are.Najwa reads from her first book Mind Platter and shares insights from The Only Constant, guiding you to shift your focus from changing your circumstances to strengthening your character.You’ll learn:Why external success can never heal internal emptinessHow to stop chasing validation and start embodying wholenessWhat it means to have a “soul’s glow up”How to rebuild your self-worth from the inside outYour job isn’t to create a new life that looks better. It’s to become a new you that feels better.#BeyondWords #NajwaZebian #Healing #PersonalGrowth #GlowUp #SelfWorth #Podcast

Send us a textLetting go isn’t a single decision. It’s a slow, sacred process.In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa explores what it really means to release someone, something, or a dream that once felt like home. You’ll learn why your struggle to let go is not a sign of weakness, but proof of how deeply you love, care, and stay loyal to what matters.Through stories, analogies, and soulful reflection, Najwa guides you through the gentle art of loosening your grip without abandoning yourself in the process."Your struggle to let go is not failure. It’s evidence of your depth.”🕒 Timestamps00:00 — The truth about why letting go feels impossible 01:26 — How do you actually make peace with what’s gone? 03:45 — The beauty in your ability to hold on 06:17 — Why holding on isn’t weakness 07:21 — When people make you feel foolish for still caring 08:23 — Listening to what your pain is trying to say 09:26 — The power of going slowly 10:38 — How to ground yourself when you shut down 12:52 — Numbing and distraction as survival 14:59 — “God doesn’t burden a soul more than it can bear” 17:22 — Relapse is not failure 19:36 — Practical steps for letting go 20:41 — Journal prompts to understand your attachment 22:38 — Why time alone doesn’t heal you 25:20 — The rope analogy: how healing happens in layers 28:54 — Climbing your emotional mountain 30:16 — Grieving what you thought would last 31:55 — The parts of you that still hold on 33:03 — Words That Found Me: Epictetus on acceptance 35:07 — The nature of impermanence 36:16 — Final reflection and gratitude🧭 Show NotesIn this episode, Najwa shares:The real reason it’s so hard to let goHow holding on can be an expression of loyalty, not weaknessThe difference between forcing closure and finding peaceWhat grief actually looks like when love still lingersHow to stop judging yourself for still caringWhy letting go takes safety, patience, and timeKey quotes:“If it took you years to hold on, you can’t let go in a day.”“Your ability to hold on shows not your weakness, but your power.”“You don’t let go by deciding to forget; you let go by deciding to feel.”“Maybe you were never meant to drop the mountain — only to climb it.”Mentioned in this episode: 📖 The Only Constant – “I will go as fast as the slowest part of me feels safe.” 🎵 Gentle With Myself by Karen Drucker 📜 Epictetus — “Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish...”Reflection prompts:What am I still holding on to that no longer holds me?What part of me is afraid of what life will look like when I finally let go?What small step could I take today to release one thread of that rope?Listen and remember: You don’t let go by being stronger. You let go by being gentler with the parts of you that still care.

Send us a textWe all have habits that feel harmless but quietly drain our energy and self-worth. In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa Zebian breaks down how habits born from pain (people-pleasing, shrinking, over-explaining) keep us stuck in survival mode.Learn how to stop punishing yourself through your routines and start creating habits that honor your healing, growth, and peace.✨ “Some of your habits aren’t neutral. They’re teaching you to abandon yourself.”🕒 Timestamps00:00 — Opening hook: The habits that betray your peace 02:14 — How childhood wounds shape your patterns 05:32 — Habits that look “good” but are rooted in fear 09:00 — Why discipline without compassion becomes self-punishment 12:45 — Replacing self-betrayal with self-respect 16:08 — The question that changes everything: Is this habit building me or breaking me? 19:40 — How to make healing a daily habit 22:10 — Closing reflection: becoming who your habits believe in🧭 Show NotesYou’ll learn: • The emotional roots of destructive habits • How “good habits” can still come from self-rejection • Ways to replace punishing routines with nurturing ones • How to make peace a daily practiceReflective prompts: • Which habit feels like a quiet betrayal of myself? • Which new habit would help me feel more at home in my own life?Mentioned: 📖 Welcome Home — learning to build emotional safety 📚 The Only Constant — on conscious transformationConnect: Follow @najwazebian for more reflections, and leave a 5-star review if this episode helped you build habits that honor who you’re becoming.