The Sabrina Zohar Show

Ever wonder why you keep dating the same type of person, people-please everyone around you, or never feel like enough no matter how much you achieve? It could be a father wound. Licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole, author of Father Wound, joins Sabrina to break down how an absent, emotionally unavailable, or abusive father shapes your self-worth, boundaries, attachment style, and relationships, and why calling it “daddy issues” misses the real worthiness wound underneath.

You’ll learn the signs of an unhealed father wound (perfectionism, overgiving, hypervigilance, codependency, chasing avoidant partners and friends), how repetition compulsion keeps you stuck in the same painful relationship patterns, the role a mother plays in co-wounding, and 3 questions to tell when you’re reacting from childhood trauma instead of your adult self. Plus, real steps for healing the father wound, grieving the dad you didn’t get, and finally feeling worth protecting.

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Chapters:

00:00 What Is a Father Wound?

04:48 Signs of an Unhealed Father Wound

10:39 How to Heal a Father Wound

16:37 Mother Wound and Co-Wounding

21:22 Overachieving to Prove Your Worth

26:29 Father Wound in Friendships and Dating

32:31 How Transference Shows Up in Your Life

37:39 Fear of Becoming Your Parent

42:57 Why Avoidants Deserve Empathy

48:09 Feeling Too Much and Not Enough

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Love Is Blind UK star ⁠Tom Stroud⁠ sets the record straight on his reality TV villain edit, including why Netflix made him reshoot the altar scene. He shares how therapy after the show led him to build ⁠Shoulder to Shoulder⁠, a men’s community tackling the male loneliness epidemic, and he and Sabrina get honest about men’s mental health, why so many men avoid therapy, and why shaming men for their feelings only pushes them further away.Tom also opens up about his father wound, losing his dad before they could reconcile, and what his relationship has taught him about conflict, anger, and emotional safety. Plus: why men need male friendships, red flags that look like green flags, scheduling sex in a busy relationship, and what women and men need to understand about each other.Come see me on tour! ⁠https://sabrinazohar.com/tour⁠Order Sabrina's book,⁠⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠⁠If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠Product of the week! ⁠https://amzn.to/4v1eHW⁠jGet Ad free ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠ Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠ Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠ Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Love Is Blind UK Altar Truth

05:28 Reality TV Hate and Mental Health

11:08 Equal Partnership in Relationships

16:00 Fear of Rejection and People Pleasing

21:09 Why Men Won’t Go to Therapy

27:26 Male Loneliness Epidemic Explained

34:22 Father Wound and Unspoken Regret

39:15 Why Men Hide Their Emotions

43:19 How to Make Men Feel Emotionally Safe

48:59 Red Flags That Look Like Green Flags

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Why do you keep checking if they watched your story, waiting for your ex to text, or feeling bored the moment someone is actually good to you? In this science-heavy episode, Sabrina breaks down the neuroscience of attachment and repeating relationship patterns: why your brain gets hooked on hot and cold people like a slot machine, why healthy relationships can feel boring, why you can’t get over your ex, and why you self-sabotage the moment you get what you wanted.

Sabrina shares her own story of learning to receive secure love, plus what actually helps you break the cycle after a breakup, during no contact, or in a relationship where you keep having the same fight. You’ll also get a simple 90-second nervous system check-in to start catching your anxious attachment patterns before you act on them, so you can stop chasing the people who give you the least.

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Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns

03:02 Why Healthy Relationships Feel Boring

05:45 Why the Wrong Person Feels Like the One

08:55 Why You Keep Waiting for Your Ex to Text

11:07 Why You Self-Sabotage Good Relationships

14:50 Why You Stay When Your Needs Aren’t Met

17:53 Why You Can’t Stop Stalking Your Ex

20:46 How to Break Anxious Attachment Patterns

23:41 Why You Keep Getting Ghosted

26:37 90-Second Nervous System Check-In

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It’s pub day for Why Am I Like This?, and Sabrina’s mom Helly joins the show to talk honestly about Sabrina’s old dating patterns: texting nonstop, chasing emotionally unavailable men, people pleasing, and losing herself trying to make someone love her. Helly shares the advice she gave Sabrina for years, like “be careful what you wish for” and “you have to love yourself more than you need to be loved,” and explains why choosing yourself is where real change starts.

Sabrina then opens up about imposter syndrome, needing outside validation, the pressure of content creation, and her mom’s health, and how hearing “I’m proud of you” changed things for her. If you struggle with anxious attachment, self-abandonment, low self-worth, or letting go of people who don’t choose you, this episode is a reminder that healing is messy, there’s no fully healed version of you, and you can still become who you want to be.

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Order Sabrina's book,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Mom Reveals My Past Dating Patterns

03:00 Obsessive Texting and Losing Yourself

06:00 Choosing Yourself After Hitting Bottom

09:00 Stop Waiting for Someone to Rescue You

12:00 Letting Go of Ego in Relationships

15:00 Chasing Validation and Self-Worth

18:00 Imposter Syndrome and Fear of Failure

21:00 There Is No Fully Healed Version of You

24:00 You Get to Choose How You Show Up

27:00 Stop Chasing the Spark, Choose Safety

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Why do I keep choosing the wrong people? Why can't I let go of someone who won't choose me? If you're stuck asking "why," this episode is for you. Sabrina breaks down why self-awareness alone won't heal anxious attachment, how childhood patterns follow you into dating and relationships, and what Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation study shows about anxious and avoidant attachment: avoidants feel the panic too, they just hide it.

She also reads from Chapter 4 of her new book, Why Am I Like This?, about a dating story that taught her what self-abandonment really looks like. Learn the better questions to ask yourself, how nervous system regulation changes the story you tell yourself, and how to stop people pleasing and start choosing you.

Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠

Chapters:

00:00 Stop Asking Why: Ask Better Questions

04:03 Why Self-Awareness Isn't Enough

07:06 How to Trust Yourself and Choose You

09:41 The Strange Situation Attachment Study

13:10 Family Patterns and Outgrowing People

16:04 Feeling Insecure? Stop Being Perfect

18:37 Childhood Trauma and Anxious Attachment

21:42 Abandoning Yourself to Get Chosen

25:09 Self-Abandonment Is a Trauma Response

28:41 Third-Person Self-Talk Stops Rumination

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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