EP 10. How to Stop Overthinking When Life Doesn’t Go to Plan (Setbacks & Redirection)
In Episode 10 of The Real Scoop, we explore how you can begin to see setbacks not the end of the road, but an opportunity for redirection. This episode is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself- “Why does this keep happening to me?”“How do I cope when things feel out of control?”“How do I stop spiralling and trust the process?”Whether this is because you have had a relationship end, missed out on a job/ promotion at work, or felt you worked really hard towards an opportunity and it didn't fully pay off, and your first thought is "Why have I failed?!"I share my own journey of feeling disconnected from my future and how self-sabotage, nervous system dysregulation, and lack of self-trust can lead to impulsive choices. You’ll also learn how to shift your perspective so you can move through life’s challenges with more grace and clarity.Key parts throughout the episode- 1:00 – How to reframe setbacks as redirection1:30 – What an “expectation hangover” is and how to know if you’re experiencing one2:50 – Why we feel disconnected from our future and how to realign5:00 – What’s really in (and out of) your control, and how to shift your focus5:30 – How to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of avoiding them6:50 – Navigating impulsive decisions and what drives them9:30 – Why nervous system regulation is key to better decision-making11:25 – How to feel both happy and sad at the same time, and why this is so hard12:40- The power of self-compassion and slowing down your thinking16:37 – Why you need to trust what’s happening behind the scenes in your life17:22 – How to navigate self-doubt when it inevitably comes up18:16 – How to visualise and trust the process when you can’t see results yet18:50–Why you should celebrate nontraditional milestones23:20 – Understanding the mind-body connection24:40 – How self-sabotage and procrastination play into setbacksRegulate, Refocus & Reset sessions, which I reference at the end of this podcast episode. Join me live- Monday Morning- 7am- 18.08/ 25.08/ 01.08 Thursday Evening- 8pm- 21.08/ 28/08/ 04.08 Join the FREE Regulate, Refocus & Reset sessions here Connect with Erin:Instagram: @iamerintaylorIf you haven't already follow the podcast to get the episodes straight to your inbox every Thursday morning. Also if you haven't already to help with boosting the podcast out to more people I would LOVEE if you could give the Podcast a review as well!
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EP 9- The People Pleasing Trap- Why as women we 'Yes' when we really want to say 'No'.
In this episode of The Real Scoop, I dive deep into the topic of people-pleasing, what it is, why we do it, and how it's affect every area of our lives.If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes when you really want to say no, feeling guilty for prioritising your own needs, or struggling to make decisions because you’re constantly trying to please others, this episode is for you.We explore,The true definition of people-pleasing and how it shows up in daily life.Why people-pleasing often comes from childhood and can have been a coping mechanism and trauma response. The physical, mental, and emotional effects of constantly saying yes.How people-pleasing impacts your nervous system, boundaries, and self-trust.The difference between supporting others and sacrificing yourself to be liked by others.Practical questions and exercises to identify people-pleasing patterns.How to start saying "no" confidently without guilt.My own personal journey from people-pleaser to confidently setting boundaries in relationships and work. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clearer and deeper understanding of why you do what you do, tools to stop the spiral of approval-seeking, and how to confidently start putting yourself, to lead your life on your own terms.Regulate, Refocus & Reset sessions, which I reference at the end of this podcast episode. Join me live- Monday Morning- 7am- 18.08/ 25.08/ 01.08 Thursday Evening- 8pm- 21.08/ 28/08/ 04.08 Join the FREE Regulate, Refocus & Reset sessions here Connect with Erin: Instagram: @iamerintaylorIf you haven't already follow the podcast to get the episodes straight to your inbox every Thursday morning. Also if you haven't already to help with boosting the podcast out to more people I would LOVEE if you could give the Podcast a review as well!
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EP 8. Break ups, Attachment Styles & Healing: How to confidently date without losing yourself.
In this week’s episode of The Real Scoop, I’m joined by breakup coach Kelly for a real, honest conversation about attachment styles, marriage, breakups, dating, and building healthier relationships.Kelly shares honestly and openly about her own powerful story, and how she left her marriage after just 6 months, and the turning points that led her to becoming a breakup coach. I also open up about how my own breakups have shaped me, (Yes there has been a few ladies!!) & what I’ve learned, and how those experiences have shaped me and why I am able to look back and not regret them. Why both of us believe you should work on yourself while single, but also why some of the deepest healing only happens once you’re in a relationship.Here are some of the key topics we cover in this episode and the moments you can jump straight to-10:45- The traits of avoidant, anxious, and secure attachment, and how they play out in relationships11:30- Where attachment styles come from and how childhood shapes them13:10- Warning signs to look for if you’re anxious and dating someone avoidant24:00- The role of nervous system regulation in relationships — and how to calm anxiety in love34:00- Why it’s important to have single friends when you’re single (and why being at a similar life stage matters)37:00- How to be single and genuinely happy45:00- The difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships54:00- Why you should delete those photos, block your ex, and protect your peace50:00- How to leave when you feel too intertwined to walk away57:00- Tools like the pros and cons list and why its important to do this after a break up 59:00- Who are you posting the photos really for? You or them?1:04:00- How dating should feel, and why deep conversations won’t scare off the right person for you off1:14:00- Why you need honest conversations sooner rather than later, especially as you grow older1:22:00- Avoiding comparison and defining your own version of relationship success1:17:00- What to aim for on a first date, and how to trust yourself and your body in the processWe also reference two books that have deepened both our understanding when it comes to relationships during the episode- Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel HellerThe Chimp Paradox by Dr. Steve PetersConnect with Kelly: Instagram: @kellyskoachingConnect with Erin: Instagram: @iamerintaylorIf you haven't already follow the podcast to get the episodes straight to your inbox every Thursday morning. Also if you haven't already to help with boosting the podcast out to more people I would LOVEE if you could give the Podcast a review as well!
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EP 7- What if comparison was trying to show you what you REALLY wanted?
Comparison is something we all do, especially as ambitious women trying to find our way through change, uncertainty, or a new season in life.In this episode of The Real Scoop, I’m diving into the science behind why we compare, how a dysregulated nervous system can make it even worse, and what to do when you catch yourself spiralling into negative self-talk.What you can expect to hear during the episode-The truth about where comparison comes from (and why it makes sense your mind goes there)Why you compare more when you’re in a season of transition or experiencing low self-worthMindset shifts that I have personally used to flip comparison into inspirationHow to anchor into what you do have, even when your brain wants to pull you to focus on what’s missingPrompts that will help you turn jealousy into clarity and forward movementThis episode if a pure reminder for that someone else’s success should not take away from your own timeline, and how if you use comparison in the right way, it can actually guide you back to what you really want, if you let it!🎧 Loved this episode?Screenshot it, share it to your IG stories & tag me at @iamerintaylor
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EP 1. The Real Scoop on rewriting your identity, regulating your nervous system & owning the next season of your life
In this very first episode, I am giving you The Real Scoop on what this podcast is all about, why I created it after walking away from everything that felt safe and familiar to me.My corporate job, my relationship, the city I called home for 6 years, and how this season of my life has forced me to move through the messy middle like never before!I’ll take you behind the scenes of my biggest identity shift yet, → What I’ve had to let go of to become the version of myself I always knew was there. → Why I created the Inner Clarity Code and how it’s helped women (and me) move through the “messy middle” of change with confidence. → The butterfly metaphor that’s guided my entire rebirth, and new becomings. → What nervous system regulation really is, and why it’s essential before you can feel clear or take aligned actionThis is for the ambitious woman who’s outwardly successful but knows something deeper is shifting within. Because, you’re not lost, you’re just in your cocoon. And you no longer have to feel like you need to navigate it alone.What to expect from this podcast series-Real, honest convos on mindset, clarity, and regaining personal powerSolo episodes and expert guests who’ve walked through real changeBreathwork, belief system rewiring, nervous system regulation, to give you that fully body calibration. A whole lot of permission to start over🎧 Loved this episode? Screenshot it, share it to your IG stories & tag me @iamerintaylor So we can reach more ambitious women who are rewriting the rules!
Welcome to The Real Scoop, the self-help and mindset podcast for ambitious women who seem to have it all, but feel a deeper shift calling within. If you’re ready to break free from society’s “shoulds” and create life onyour terms, you’re in the right place. Each week, host Erin Taylor shares empowering tools, real talk, andinspiring conversations to help you reconnect with yourself, build unshakable self-belief, and confidently take aligned action towards the life you truly want. If you’re ready to stop just looking successful and start feeling fulfilled hitsubscribe and let’s dive into The Real Scoop.
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