This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil

Leadership is already messy. Add culture, identity, power dynamics, and a workplace that rewards sameness… and suddenly you’re not leading—you’re surviving. In this episode, Nicole talks with Aiko Bethea, founder of RARE Coaching & Consulting, about what actually creates diversity (spoiler: it’s not a checkbox) and why diversity is the outcome of great leadership. We get into: Why “diversity” isn’t a skill set (and why treating it like one makes you a worse leader) Power-sharing vs. power-hoarding and how that impacts belonging, equity, and performance The real reason leadership advice feels like a chaotic buffet of contradictions How to measure leadership impact beyond “we hit the number” (because people aren’t spreadsheets) Why leaders making mistakes feels riskier than ever—and why ownership is still the right move The “punching a ghost” feeling when reality is being rewritten in real time  What it means to be a well leader: aligned, accountable, humane—not perfect Because the goal isn’t to lead like the “stereotypical old-school leader.” The goal is to lead like your full self—and create workplaces where more people can do the same. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Aiko: Website: https://www.rarecoaching.net/  IG: https://www.instagram.com/rare_coach  Invite to join RARE community  -  https://www.rarecoaching.net/membership/ Related Podcast Episodes: Leadership Unblocked (The Hidden Beliefs Sabotaging Your Ability To Lead) with Muriel M. Wilkins | 367  How to Push Back: From People-Pleasing to Power with Tonya Lester | 369 How To Be Yourself At Work: Authentic Presence Over Executive Presence with Claude Silver | 366 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Manifesting has been turned into a social media vending machine: think it, post it, get it. Spoiler alert: the universe is not Uber Eats. In this episode, Nicole goes full curious skeptic with Colette Baron-Reid, internationally respected intuitive, oracle expert, and bestselling author—to reclaim manifesting from influencer fluff and bring it back to what it actually is: alignment over attachment, being over chasing, partnership over control. This is not about “good vibes only” or visualizing a yacht and waiting for it to dock. It’s about who you’re becoming, how you’re showing up, and what you’re rehearsing every single day—consciously or not. What We Get Into: Why performative spirituality cheapens real intuition (and why it feels so off) The truth bomb: you don’t manifest what you want—you manifest what you are Why attachment to outcomes kills trust, joy, and momentum How curiosity + gratitude open the door to synchronicity The science behind perception, focus, and your brain’s internal “sorting system” Colette’s Art of Manifesting practice: a meditative drawing method using circles and flowy lines to rewire patterns and co-create with intention Destiny vs. free will—and why it’s not either/or Why manifesting doesn’t eliminate pain or challenge, but can radically transform how you experience your life Bottom line: manifesting isn’t a magic trick—it’s a practice. You don’t get to control the universe, but you do get to control how you show up, what you rehearse, and what you’re available for… and that’s where the real power (and real transformation) lives. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Colette: Website: https://www.colettebaronreid.com  Book: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Manifesting-Meditative-Drawing-Practice/dp/1401997856/ref=  FB: https://www.facebook.com/colettebaronreid  IG: https://www.instagram.com/colettebaron_reid/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ColetteBaronReid/featured  Related Podcast Episodes: Practical Intuition For Bold, Better Decisions with Laura Day | 360 The Icelandic Art of Intuition with Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir | 307 How To Breathe: Breathwork, Intuition and Flow State with Francesca Sipma | 267 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole sits down with Tamala Floyd - psychotherapist, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Lead Trainer, author, and longtime guide for healing trauma and inherited burdens—to break down what “parts work” actually is (spoiler: you’re not broken, you’re multidimensional). Tamala explains how our protector parts (critic, caretaker, people-pleaser) form to keep our wounded parts safe—and how real healing starts when you stop silencing them and start listening. What You’ll Learn The Big Takeaway: What Internal Family Systems (IFS) is—and why “having parts” is normal, not dysfunctional The difference between Self (your calm, grounded core) and parts (your protective strategies) How to unblend from parts so you’re not being driven by fear, approval-seeking, or old survival roles What it looks like to heal wounded parts through witnessing, compassion, and unburdening A practical workaround if talking to your parts feels “too weird” (drawing, objects, externalizing) Healing isn’t about becoming one perfect, polished “whole” person. It’s about becoming the leader of your internal system—with your parts on the bus, but not driving the bus. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Tamala: Website: https://tamalafloyd.com/about/  Book:https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/748042/listening-when-parts-speak-by-tamala-floyd-lcsw/?utm_source=chatgpt.com  The Living Ancestor Retreat: https://mailchi.mp/tamalafloyd.com/listeningwhenpartsspeakretreat-17566020  Related Podcast Episodes How Our Dysregulated Nervous Systems Are Impacting Us with Victoria Albina | 244 How To Rewire Patterns That No Longer Serve You with Judy Wilkins-Smith | 323 People-Pleasing & Being “Needy” with Mara Glatzel | 147 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Six years. 375 episodes. Nearly 2 million downloads in 2025 alone. This episode is a sweaty, unfiltered victory lap — celebrating what worked, what stretched us, what scared the hell out of us, and what clearly mattered most to you, the listener. Every year, we look at the numbers and let you decide. These aren’t just popular episodes — they’re a reflection of what women were wrestling with, questioning, building, and boldly reimagining in 2025. From spiritual health to entrepreneurship, belief, boundaries, death, defiance, and codependency — this list tells a story. If you’re new here, welcome — any one of these episodes is a great place to start. If you’ve been here a while, this is your reminder to go back and re-listen. Trust me — they hit differently the second time. 🏆 The Top 6 Most-Listened-To Episodes of 2025 #6 – How Is Your Spiritual Health? with Dr. Lisa Miller | Episode 287 A grounded, research-backed conversation about spirituality that isn’t preachy, dogmatic, or exclusionary — even when the audio wasn’t perfect. Proof that meaningful content beats perfection every time. Connect with Lisa #5 – How to Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | Episode 271 Defiance reframed as values-driven courage, not rebellion for rebellion’s sake. For every woman who’s been conditioned to comply, accommodate, and stay quiet — this one hit hard. Connect with Sunita #4 – How to Have a Good Death with Suzanne B O’Brien, RN | Episode 292 A calm, compassionate, no-BS conversation about death — and why planning for the end can actually help you live better now. Heavy topic. Powerful impact. Connect with Suzanne #3 – The Hard Truths of Entrepreneurship with Dr. Darnyelle Jervey Harmon  | Episode 313Entrepreneurship without the hustle porn. Honest, funny, deeply validating — even if you’re not building a business. Also: yes, sand-in-the-crotch made the list. Connect with Darnyelle #2 – What Does a Woman Have to Do to Be Believed? Sexual Assault, Accountability & Double Standards with E. Jean Carroll | Episode 363  Human, sharp, and unexpectedly funny. A conversation about power, credibility, money, belief, and backbone — without turning it into a political shouting match. Connect with E. Jean #1 – High-Functioning Codependency: When Being the Strong One Is Slowly Killing You with Terri Cole | Episode 341 This episode didn’t just perform — it changed people. Including me. If you’ve ever been “the capable one,” “the reliable one,” or “the one who handles everything,” this is your wake-up call. Connect with Terri Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. JOIN NICOLE’S COMMUNITY & GET HER WEEKLY EMAIL! - https://nicolekalil.myflodesk.com/newsletter  Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you grew up thinking adulthood meant “figure it out once and then coast,” this episode is your loving wake-up call. Reinvention isn’t a plot twist anymore — it is the plot. Careers shift, relationships change, industries get AI’d, and your dreams evolve faster than your LinkedIn headline. In this conversation, I sit down with Ilana Golan — F-16 flight instructor turned tech exec turned founder & CEO of Leap Academy, a career reinvention platform that helps driven professionals leap into leadership, entrepreneurship, and portfolio careers.  We talk about what it actually takes to reinvent yourself (again and again), build a portfolio career that doesn’t burn you out, and turn your hardest seasons into rocket fuel instead of reasons to shrink. Because staying stuck isn’t a personality trait. It’s a habit. And you’re allowed to outgrow it. In This Episode, We Cover: Reinvention as a life skill, not a crisis – why you’ll need to reinvent every 1–2 years in today’s world, and how to stop making that mean you did something wrong. IQ, EQ, and now AQ (Adaptability Quotient) – the new metric that matters Breadcrumbs & clues – how to spot your zone of genius in the patterns, feedback, and “random” skills you’ve picked up along the way. From failure to fuel – how Ilana rebuilt after being kicked out of her own company, and how to move from spiral to experiment when life blows up.  The 5 days / 5 weeks / 5 months framework – a simple, non-scary way to test new directions without burning your life to the ground. Portfolio careers 101 – what they are, why one job won’t meet all your needs, and how to add new income/impact streams without looking like a confused hot mess.  Stability and possibility – how to choose a “baseline” role or revenue stream so you feel safe enough to play, experiment, and leap. Reinvention after rejection, grief, or trauma – why you can’t tell your story from the open wound, and how to move from bleeding to scar to superpower. Because the moment you stop chasing the life you think you should want, you finally make space for the one that was meant for you all along. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Ilana: Website: https://www.ilanagolan.com Leap Academy: https://www.leapacademy.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/ilanagolanleap LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ilanagolan/ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@ilanagolan-leap-academy LeapCon (free gift and discount code): http://leapacademy.com/tiww (Code: TIWW) Related Podcast Episodes: Your Value Doesn’t Expire: Career Reinvention Over 40 with Loren Greiff | 344 Confidence Isn’t Born, It’s Built — Lessons from the Cockpit to Real Life with Michelle “MACE” Curran | 343 7 Keys To Unlock Your Dynamic Drive with Molly Fletcher | 229 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices