This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil

Somewhere along the way, a lot of us got way too practical. We learned what’s realistic, reasonable, and likely to work. We became responsible adults who pay the mortgage and don’t launch every half-baked idea that hits us in the shower.

Great. But what if being “realistic” is sometimes just fear with better branding?

In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil talks with Dr. Salima Bhimani, moonshot architect, entrepreneur, former Alphabet Chief Strategist for Responsible Technology, CEO of 10x Responsible Tech, and author of Invent Now: The Next Leap in Moonshots.

Salima challenges the idea that innovation, AI, emerging technology, and moonshot thinking belong exclusively to Silicon Valley geniuses with billion-dollar budgets. Instead, she argues that human ingenuity exists everywhere—and that the future gets a hell of a lot more interesting when everyday people stop being passive recipients of technology and start participating in what gets built.

They explore:

What a moonshot idea actually is—and why it’s not just for tech billionaires

Why Salima believes we’re wasting enormous amounts of human genius and potential

How AI and emerging technology are lowering the barriers to innovation

Why humanity—not technology—is the real moonshot

How to stop underestimating your own ability to create change and make an impact

The importance of community and collaboration when solving complex problems

Why we tend to underestimate our own impact while wildly overestimating everyone else’s

How purpose and creativity can emerge during messy, uncertain seasons of life

Why friction, frustration, and problems may be exactly where the best ideas are hiding

What Salima calls the “third space,” where human ingenuity and technology come together

This isn’t about convincing everyone to cure cancer, build the next Google, or become an inventor. It’s about getting a little less impressed by what’s “realistic” and a lot more curious about what could be possible.

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Connect with Salima:

Website: https://salimabhimani.com/

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Invent-Now-Next-Leap-Moonshots/dp/1394394020

IG: https://www.instagram.com/moonshotmaven_salimabhimani/

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We’re living in the age of the quick fix. Three steps to happiness. One habit to eliminate anxiety. A supplement for every symptom. Enough already.

Because grief is complicated. Mental health is complicated. Relationships are complicated. We are complicated. And when we reduce deeply human experiences into easy solutions, we don’t just oversimplify the problem—we risk making people believe they’re the problem.

In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil talks with Dr. Celeste Birkhofer, clinical psychologist, adjunct clinical faculty member at Stanford Medical School, and author of Beyond Quick Fixes. Together, they explore the five inner resources that support mental health, emotional resilience, healthy relationships, and personal growth—and why strengthening ourselves from the inside out matters more than finding the next hack.

They explore:

The five inner resources that create a stronger foundation for mental health and well-being

How to develop a healthy sense of self, self-esteem, agency, and self-compassion

Why coping strategies learned in childhood may no longer serve us as adults

The difference between healthy coping and patterns of over-control, avoidance, numbing, or perfectionism

Why strong relationships—and learning to tolerate disappointment and repair ruptures—are essential to well-being

How to ask for the kind of support you actually need instead of expecting people to magically know

Why self-compassion and personal growth can (and should) exist at the same time

What the “wise self” is and how to strengthen and trust that internal voice

Why professional mental health support matters when life becomes painful or overwhelming

The work isn’t to constantly fix ourselves. It’s to know ourselves, strengthen ourselves, and build the inner resources that help us meet whatever life hands us with more capacity, compassion, resilience, and trust.

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Connect with Celeste:

Website: https://www.celestebirkhofer.com/

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Quick-Fixes-Ingredients-Fulfilling/dp/B0GRWSRJLK

IG: https://www.instagram.com/celestebirkhofer

FB: https://www.facebook.com/celeste.birkhofer

LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/celeste-birkhofer-phd-psyd-85525a9/

Substack: https://drcelestebirkhofer.substack.com/

Brainzmagazine: https://www.brainzmagazine.com/executive-contributor/celeste-birkhofer

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Women have been told for years that they need to negotiate more—but what if that isn't the real problem?

In this episode, Nicole welcomes negotiation consultant, Harvard research fellow, and founder of Moon Negotiation, Joan Moon, to unpack what the research actually says about women and negotiation. Together, they challenge outdated myths, explore the impact of gender bias at the bargaining table, and share practical strategies that help women advocate for themselves without abandoning who they are.

From salary conversations to flexible work arrangements and everyday communication, this conversation reveals that negotiation isn't about becoming more aggressive—it's about becoming more strategic.

In This Episode Nicole and Joan Discuss:

Why the idea that women are "bad negotiators" is a myth unsupported by research.

How gender bias—not lack of skill—often influences negotiation outcomes.

Why women excel when negotiating for others but face different expectations when advocating for themselves.

The power of the win-win approach and how to frame requests around shared success.

How asking better questions leads to stronger negotiation outcomes, and why listening is often a negotiator's greatest advantage.

The importance of uncovering the other person's underlying interests instead of making assumptions.

How to negotiate non-salary benefits like flexibility, time, and professional support.

Practical strategies for performance reviews, raises, and promotion conversations.

Common negotiation mistakes women make—and how to avoid them.

Together, these insights offer a practical roadmap for approaching negotiation with confidence, clarity, and a win-win mindset.

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Connect with Joan:

Website: ww.moonnegotiation.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/moonnegotiation/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moonnegotiation

LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanmoon413/

Mini Online Course: https://course.moonnegotiation.com/fundamentals-of-negotiation-for-women-EXPRESS

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Women are told to be strong, but not hard. Confident, but not intimidating. Emotional, but for the love of God, don’t be too sensitive. Apparently, there’s some magical “just right” version of womanhood—but nobody seems to have the address.

In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil talks with Dr. Sasha Hamdani, board-certified psychiatrist, mental health educator, and author of Too Sensitive about why feeling deeply isn’t a flaw to fix. They unpack rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), what happens when emotions hijack logic, how hormones impact sensitivity, and practical ways to regulate without stuffing, numbing, or apologizing for what’s being felt.

In This Episode:

Why sensitivity isn’t weakness—and can actually be a leadership strength

What rejection sensitive dysphoria is and why rejection can hit so damn hard

How to regulate emotions without suppressing them

Why hormones matter more than women have been taught

Why the goal isn’t thicker skin—it’s greater self-awareness and control

Feeling deeply isn’t the same as being fragile. The goal isn’t to become less sensitive—it’s to understand it, work with it, and stop shrinking perfectly human parts of ourselves just because they make someone else uncomfortable.

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Connect with Sasha:

Website: https://www.drhamdanimd.com/toosensitive

Book: https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250423764/toosensitive/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/thepsychdoctormd/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepsychdoctormd

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Working mothers are often told they can "have it all." But what many actually hear is that they're expected to do it all—build a successful career, raise thriving children, manage a household, nurture relationships, and somehow make it all look effortless. It's no wonder so many women feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and convinced they're somehow falling short.

In this episode of This Is Woman's Work, Nicole Kalil welcomes Julia Sewell—performance coach, founder of the Self-Made Mom movement, entrepreneur, and author of The Self-Made Mom: Thriving at Home and at Work Without Compromise. Together, they challenge outdated expectations surrounding motherhood and success while exploring what it truly means to build a life that honors both ambition and well-being.

In This Episode, Nicole and Julia Discuss:

What it means to become a "Self-Made Mom."

The concept of "noble self-abandonment" and how it keeps women depleted.

How tying self-worth to productivity leaves women feeling like they're never enough.

Julia's personal "broken red cup" story and the wake-up call that transformed her marriage and life.

Why self-awareness often has to come before relationship repair.

How partners can become allies in building healthier family systems.

Why working moms should apply business strategies to their personal lives.

Using values, systems, and planning to reduce stress and decision fatigue.

Communicating effectively with family members and other key stakeholders.

Delegating responsibilities based on strengths instead of outdated assumptions.

How hiring help can reduce burnout and create more presence at home.

Letting go of the myth of perfect work-life balance.

This powerful conversation is about what it really takes to redefine success on your own terms as a working mom. Offering a new way forward for women who are ready to stop measuring themselves against impossible standards and start building lives that actually work for them.

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