This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil

In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole sits down with Tamala Floyd - psychotherapist, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Lead Trainer, author, and longtime guide for healing trauma and inherited burdens—to break down what “parts work” actually is (spoiler: you’re not broken, you’re multidimensional). Tamala explains how our protector parts (critic, caretaker, people-pleaser) form to keep our wounded parts safe—and how real healing starts when you stop silencing them and start listening. What You’ll Learn The Big Takeaway: What Internal Family Systems (IFS) is—and why “having parts” is normal, not dysfunctional The difference between Self (your calm, grounded core) and parts (your protective strategies) How to unblend from parts so you’re not being driven by fear, approval-seeking, or old survival roles What it looks like to heal wounded parts through witnessing, compassion, and unburdening A practical workaround if talking to your parts feels “too weird” (drawing, objects, externalizing) Healing isn’t about becoming one perfect, polished “whole” person. It’s about becoming the leader of your internal system—with your parts on the bus, but not driving the bus. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Tamala: Website: https://tamalafloyd.com/about/  Book:https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/748042/listening-when-parts-speak-by-tamala-floyd-lcsw/?utm_source=chatgpt.com  The Living Ancestor Retreat: https://mailchi.mp/tamalafloyd.com/listeningwhenpartsspeakretreat-17566020  Related Podcast Episodes How Our Dysregulated Nervous Systems Are Impacting Us with Victoria Albina | 244 How To Rewire Patterns That No Longer Serve You with Judy Wilkins-Smith | 323 People-Pleasing & Being “Needy” with Mara Glatzel | 147 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Six years. 375 episodes. Nearly 2 million downloads in 2025 alone. This episode is a sweaty, unfiltered victory lap — celebrating what worked, what stretched us, what scared the hell out of us, and what clearly mattered most to you, the listener. Every year, we look at the numbers and let you decide. These aren’t just popular episodes — they’re a reflection of what women were wrestling with, questioning, building, and boldly reimagining in 2025. From spiritual health to entrepreneurship, belief, boundaries, death, defiance, and codependency — this list tells a story. If you’re new here, welcome — any one of these episodes is a great place to start. If you’ve been here a while, this is your reminder to go back and re-listen. Trust me — they hit differently the second time. 🏆 The Top 6 Most-Listened-To Episodes of 2025 #6 – How Is Your Spiritual Health? with Dr. Lisa Miller | Episode 287 A grounded, research-backed conversation about spirituality that isn’t preachy, dogmatic, or exclusionary — even when the audio wasn’t perfect. Proof that meaningful content beats perfection every time. Connect with Lisa #5 – How to Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | Episode 271 Defiance reframed as values-driven courage, not rebellion for rebellion’s sake. For every woman who’s been conditioned to comply, accommodate, and stay quiet — this one hit hard. Connect with Sunita #4 – How to Have a Good Death with Suzanne B O’Brien, RN | Episode 292 A calm, compassionate, no-BS conversation about death — and why planning for the end can actually help you live better now. Heavy topic. Powerful impact. Connect with Suzanne #3 – The Hard Truths of Entrepreneurship with Dr. Darnyelle Jervey Harmon  | Episode 313Entrepreneurship without the hustle porn. Honest, funny, deeply validating — even if you’re not building a business. Also: yes, sand-in-the-crotch made the list. Connect with Darnyelle #2 – What Does a Woman Have to Do to Be Believed? Sexual Assault, Accountability & Double Standards with E. Jean Carroll | Episode 363  Human, sharp, and unexpectedly funny. A conversation about power, credibility, money, belief, and backbone — without turning it into a political shouting match. Connect with E. Jean #1 – High-Functioning Codependency: When Being the Strong One Is Slowly Killing You with Terri Cole | Episode 341 This episode didn’t just perform — it changed people. Including me. If you’ve ever been “the capable one,” “the reliable one,” or “the one who handles everything,” this is your wake-up call. Connect with Terri Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. JOIN NICOLE’S COMMUNITY & GET HER WEEKLY EMAIL! - https://nicolekalil.myflodesk.com/newsletter  Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you grew up thinking adulthood meant “figure it out once and then coast,” this episode is your loving wake-up call. Reinvention isn’t a plot twist anymore — it is the plot. Careers shift, relationships change, industries get AI’d, and your dreams evolve faster than your LinkedIn headline. In this conversation, I sit down with Ilana Golan — F-16 flight instructor turned tech exec turned founder & CEO of Leap Academy, a career reinvention platform that helps driven professionals leap into leadership, entrepreneurship, and portfolio careers.  We talk about what it actually takes to reinvent yourself (again and again), build a portfolio career that doesn’t burn you out, and turn your hardest seasons into rocket fuel instead of reasons to shrink. Because staying stuck isn’t a personality trait. It’s a habit. And you’re allowed to outgrow it. In This Episode, We Cover: Reinvention as a life skill, not a crisis – why you’ll need to reinvent every 1–2 years in today’s world, and how to stop making that mean you did something wrong. IQ, EQ, and now AQ (Adaptability Quotient) – the new metric that matters Breadcrumbs & clues – how to spot your zone of genius in the patterns, feedback, and “random” skills you’ve picked up along the way. From failure to fuel – how Ilana rebuilt after being kicked out of her own company, and how to move from spiral to experiment when life blows up.  The 5 days / 5 weeks / 5 months framework – a simple, non-scary way to test new directions without burning your life to the ground. Portfolio careers 101 – what they are, why one job won’t meet all your needs, and how to add new income/impact streams without looking like a confused hot mess.  Stability and possibility – how to choose a “baseline” role or revenue stream so you feel safe enough to play, experiment, and leap. Reinvention after rejection, grief, or trauma – why you can’t tell your story from the open wound, and how to move from bleeding to scar to superpower. Because the moment you stop chasing the life you think you should want, you finally make space for the one that was meant for you all along. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Ilana: Website: https://www.ilanagolan.com Leap Academy: https://www.leapacademy.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/ilanagolanleap LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ilanagolan/ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@ilanagolan-leap-academy LeapCon (free gift and discount code): http://leapacademy.com/tiww (Code: TIWW) Related Podcast Episodes: Your Value Doesn’t Expire: Career Reinvention Over 40 with Loren Greiff | 344 Confidence Isn’t Born, It’s Built — Lessons from the Cockpit to Real Life with Michelle “MACE” Curran | 343 7 Keys To Unlock Your Dynamic Drive with Molly Fletcher | 229 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re calling BS on the idea that “health” is only pills, trackers, and willpower. In this conversation with journalist and TEDx speaker Julia Hotz, author of The Connection Cure, we dig into social prescribing—evidence-based referrals to movement, nature, art, service, and belonging—that can lower stress, boost mood, and make our lives feel human again.  Edgy truth: we’ve replaced community with convenience. The remedy? Re-connect to what matters to you and let your nervous system exhale. Julia advises Social Prescribing USA and Walk with a Doc, collaborates with the Solutions Journalism Network, and teaches in medical schools—turning research on connection into care that actually changes lives. We cover: What social prescribing actually is (no, your doctor isn’t forcing you to make friends) and why up to 80% of health is socially determined—think stress, access to green space, and community, not just clinic time. The five social-Rx categories: Movement, Nature, Art, Service, Belonging—and how most prescriptions blend at least two. A nature-based case study: how a 10-week outdoors program reduced insomnia, rumination, and stress—plus why time in nature can feel like it gives you time back. From “shoulds” to want to: questions that surface your personal Rx (awe/flow/glimmers, what lit you up as a kid, and where you’d spend two extra hours a week). Turning workouts into joy: travel-style discovery walks at home, walking groups, or pickup games that deliver cardio and connection. Blue-zones energy without the gym membership: everyday movement, long chats, shared meals, and community as longevity multipliers. The U.S. landscape: why social prescriptions can complement meds (not replace them), and how orgs like Social Prescribing USA and Walk with a Doc are moving this forward. So whether your version of medicine looks like a morning hike, a pottery class, or finally joining that book club, the point isn’t perfection—it’s participation. Because when we choose connection over isolation and curiosity over compliance, we’re not just improving our health—we’re reclaiming our humanity. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Visit beducate.me/womanswork69 and use code womanswork69 for 65% off the annual pass.  Black Friday has come early at Cozy Earth! Right now, you can stack my code WOMANSWORK on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. Connect with Julia: Website: https://www.hotzthoughts.com/  Social Prescribing: https://www.socialprescribing.co/  Book:https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Connection-Cure/Julia-Hotz/9781668030349?utm_source=chatgpt.com  Related Podcast Episodes: Loneliness And The Value Of Connection with Kasley Killam | 218  The Power of Conscious Connection with Talia Fox | 263  The Power Of Connection with Tory Archbold | 105  Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If your default answer to “How are you?” is “I’m fine, it’s just a busy season” (and that “season” has started to feel like winter in Alaska), this one’s for you. In this episode, we’re talking nervous system regulation for high-achieving women — the ones juggling all the things, smiling through the stress, and low-key running on fumes. I’m joined by Michelle Grosser — nervous system strategist, podcast host, and former trial attorney — who now helps high-achieving women regulate from the inside out. We dig into why you can’t mindset your way out of burnout, how your body is sending four times more messages to your brain than the other way around, and what it actually means to live and lead from a grounded state instead of constant fight-or-flight chaos. In this episode, we get into: The difference between playing an outside-in game (chasing success for validation) vs. an inside-out game (being who you want to be first, then acting from that place) Why your nervous system only cares about one thing — safety — and how that impacts your ability to create success, confidence, and fulfillment What really happens in your brain when you’re in fight, flight, or freeze The three daily nervous system regulators every woman needs: movement, stillness, and play — and why “high-intensity workout” isn’t always the flex you think it is How emotional suppression, weak boundaries, and crappy coping mechanisms quietly shrink your bandwidth and fast-track you to burnout What it actually feels like to be grounded  Back-pocket, in-the-moment tools for when shit hits the fan: the physiological breath, temperature shifts, and full-body shaking (yes, like your dog) to help your system reset How to stop confusing over-functioning with being “driven,” and start leading from a regulated, resourced version of you Because you can read all the leadership books and take all the courses, but if your nervous system is fried, you’ll keep defaulting to hustle, panic, and perfectionism instead of clarity, creativity, and calm power. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Michelle: Website: www.michellegrosser.com Nervous System Reset guide: www.michellegrosser.com/reset  IG: https://www.instagram.com/itsmichellegrosser/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themotherhoodvillage  Related Podcast Episodes: Burnout 2.0: BurnBOLD with Cait Donovan | 331 The Resilience Myth with Soraya Chemaly | 249 How Our Dysregulated Nervous Systems Are Impacting Us with Victoria Albina | 244 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices