Adult Child

You don't know who you are because you were too busy being who she needed you to be.
Viviana Vozmediano is a trauma-informed coach who works with women who grew up with emotionally unavailable mothers - and she's speaking from experience. After spending her childhood as a Jehovah's Witness trying to be the perfect daughter to earn her mother's love, she was excommunicated and lost her entire community overnight. 
✨ What this episode explores
▪️Why Being the "Good One" Never Works — How becoming the easy, rule-following child was never about being good, but a strategy to earn love that was never available on those terms
▪️The Grief of Losing Someone Who's Still Alive — What it means to mourn a parent you can still call but can't actually reach, and why no one prepared you for that kind of loss
▪️When Your Whole Identity Belongs to Someone Else — How growing up performing for an emotionally unavailable parent can leave you with no idea who you are once the performance stops
▪️Why a Healthy Relationship Feels Like the Hardest Thing You've Ever Done — How finally being safe with someone can surface everything you suppressed to survive the relationships that weren't
▪️What Happens When You Lose Everyone Overnight — How being cut off from your entire world creates an abandonment wound so deep it keeps you in the next bad situation for years

🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:
Ep 136 | Healing the Mother Wound: Why It Hurts and How We Begin to Heal w/ Bethany Webster
Ep 103 | Religious Trauma & Abuse w/ Dr. Laura Anderson
Ep 161 | Abandonment Trauma Expert Susan Anderson on Rejection and Equating Love with Insecurity Connects
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What if the anxiety you feel didn’t start with you at all? This episode uncovers how inherited trauma and unconscious patterns shape our lives,
Mark Wolynn is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and director of the Family Constellation Institute. , and author of the acclaimed ‘It Didn’t Start with You.
He recently published a revised and updated edition of his international bestseller It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, along with The Official It Didn't Start with You Workbook.
The 4 Unconscious Themes — The most common ways we carry or repeat family trauma without knowing it
The Latest in Epigenetics — What new research shows about inherited trauma
Your Core Trauma Language — How the key to healing often lies hidden in your own words
What You Carried From the Womb: How in-utero trauma shapes your nervous system
The Break in Early Attachment: Why not feeling seen, known, or soothed by your mother qualifies as big T trauma
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This is an epidemic no one is talking about: adult phone addiction.
Millions of people are struggling worldwide—and most don’t realize how much it’s impacting their focus, mood, relationships, and ability to be present.
In this episode, I break down 8 manifestations of compulsive phone behavior, how to tell when you’re in it, and why “just stop” doesn’t work when your phone has become your nervous system’s fastest relief.
Device checking compulsion
Social media compulsion (passive scrolling + active participation)
Mobile gaming
Information/content compulsion (news, rabbit holes, constant consuming)
Online shopping
Dating apps
Work/productivity compulsion
Fitness/biometric tracking compulsion

Internet and Technology Addicts Anonymous
Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked by Adam Alter
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