Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

• 75: The Truth About Rewards, Stars, Stickers, and Points with Megg Thompson

  Are We Training Kids to Perform? The Truth About Rewards, Behaviour & Connection with Megg Thompson.We’ve all used them—sticker charts, gold stars, rewards for good behaviour. But what if these systems aren’t actually helping kids grow? What if they’re just training them to comply? (And then when we're not around, they stop "performing" because the motivation was never really theirs to begin with...)In this episode, I sit down with Megg Thompson, a former Kindergarten teacher turned neuro-affirming Certified Behavior Consultant and Life Coach, to unpack the real impact of rewards and compliance-based parenting and teaching.We dive into:✨ Why kids "hold it together" at school but melt down at home✨ The hidden problems with reward charts and behavior incentives✨ Why compliance shouldn’t be the goal—and what to focus on instead✨ How traditional discipline alienates neurodivergent and struggling kids✨ What actually works to build cooperation, trust, and connectionMegg brings her signature humour and deep insight to a conversation that will challenge what you think you know about kids’ behaviour.Also, she made me keep in the drunk-squirrel moments she and I had around 22-23 min mark - enjoy listening to us rack our brains when she lost her train of thought!If you're ready to shift from power-over to partnership, ditch the rewards, and start building real, lasting connection with your kids—this episode is a must-listen.Find Megg Thompson here:http://www.instagram.com/meggthompsonbehaviorhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn5Q6ZPasX6ebCZ59ClM4qwhttps://meggthompson.com/*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community! 🎉➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I am an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives! Book a consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements. 💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.comOr stalk me on the socials...Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parentFB: fb.com/stephpinto Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  --------  

  52:21
• 74: A Little Rant (The Double Standards in Emotional Intelligence)

  We all want our kids to be emotionally intelligent, right? Buuut are we actually teaching it in a way that helps them thrive?In this episode, I let loose a mini-rant (sorry not sorry) about some common myths and misconceptions that are sending mixed messages about emotions to our kids - without us even realising it.🤔 We tell kids to “calm down” when they’re upset, but do we always model calmness when everything goes wrong?🤔 We expect them to “use their words,” but are we showing them how?🤔 The truth is, emotional intelligence isn’t just something we teach... it’s something our kids learn from us.Join me as I share simple, powerful ideas that can help us guide our kids through big emotions, build REAL connection, and create a home where feelings are understood, not shut down.No guilt, no pressure. Just an honest chat (aka rant) about how we can show up as the emotional leaders our kids need.Let’s rethink the way we teach emotional intelligence - starting today. 💛Share with someone you know might find this helpful or insightful!Steph.***Welcome to the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast,I’m Stephanie Pinto. I’m an Aussie mum of 2, a best-selling author, international speaker and award-winning coach… And I love all things Emotional Intelligence and parenting.Although we’re far from perfect as parents and our kids still have big emotions from time to time, meltdowns are few and far between.Compassion, listening and problem-solving are our go-to strategies when things go sideways, and our home is a really nice place to be.Oh and, our house is a punishment-free zone!!We’re only able to do all of this because we’ve learnt to handle our own emotions, we understand our kids’ emotions and behaviour, and we work together to solve problems as a team.If you have caught some of the episodes I've recorded with my husband Alex, go back to these episodes:Ep 54: Parenting on the Same Page: My Husband’s Journey into Emotional Intelligence.Ep 60: How We Failed As New Parents with Steph and Alex.Ep 64: When Meltdowns Turn Physical - Handling Hitting, Throwing, Kicking, And Keeping Your Cool.Follow me on Insta @emotionally.intelligent.parentHave you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 130,000+ parents in the community! 🎉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.💡 Head to https://www.stephaniepinto.com/ Or stalk me on the socials...Insta: https://www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent/FB: fb.com/stephpintoFB Business: fb.com/stephaniepintoeqcoach Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  --------  

  10:33
• 73: Soulful Single Parenting: How to Thrive as a Solo Parent with Dr. Gila.

  Parenting is always challenging, but doing it solo comes with its own set of unique hurdles that can feel utterly overwhelming at times. In this episode, I chat with the amazing Dr. Gila - a single parent coach, psychologist, neuropsychologist, and a single mum who’s been through it all.We dig into why single parents need supportive spaces (no one should have to do this alone) and explore the unique challenges and unexpected joys of raising kids solo.Dr. Gila gets real about the pressure to be perfect and why letting go of that myth can be one of the best gifts you give yourself and your kids.And let’s get into the buzzword of the moment: self-care. Dr. Gila introduces her practical “sink model” for managing emotions, showing us why it’s not about the one drop that overflows but the build-up that leads to it.Learn how to spot when your sink is filling up and what true self-care looks like when you’re already stretched thin.If you’re a single parent or know someone who is, this episode is packed with insights, practical tips, and the reassurance that you’re not in this alone.We can tackle the messy, beautiful chaos of single parenting—together.🩷🩷🩷 DR. GILA'S SINGLE PARENTING SUMMIT IS NOW LIVE! 10-12 Feb, 2025.Your free ticket is here:https://qnghcne02w.krtra.com/t/G34pWzhLgTrKWeb: www.drgilaparenting.com Email: [email protected]: www.instagram.com/drgila_parentingFB: www.facebook.com/drgilaparenting/Free resources: PDF GUIDE: Tantrums, & Meltdowns, & Rages...Oh My! The single parent's guide to understanding challenging behaviours (https://www.drgilaparenting.com/SP_tantrum_signup)AUDIO: Guided Meditation for Single Parents (https://www.drgilaparenting.com/SP_meditation)VIDEO: What Every Parent Needs to Know When the S**T Hits the Fan. (https://www.drgilaparenting.com/3truths) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  --------  

  38:35
• 72: Stop Being Hijacked By Your Emotions: 10 Lessons in Emotional Intelligence Every Parent Needs to Know.

  Most of us were never taught how to handle our emotions... we were just told to "calm down" or "stop overreacting."But here’s the truth: all emotions are okay, not all behaviour is. And as parents, the way we handle our emotions directly shapes how our kids learn to manage theirs.Today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast, I’m sharing 10 powerful lessons about emotions:How to work with them instead of against them, how to stop stress from taking over, and how to develop the emotional intelligence you need to parent with confidence, calm, and connection. Stop taking things personally, stop believing there are bad emotions, and stop thinking your kids' emotions are out of control (even when it really seems like they are!)Because let’s be real... if we don’t learn to handle our emotions, they’ll handle us. 🫣🌟🌟🌟 I forgot to mention my upcoming Emotional Intelligence for People-Pleasers live class - it's in February, tickets via my Facebook Community, link below.🎟️ Here: https://www.facebook.com/share/1WiQyUxynD/I mentioned my Emotional Intelligence courses for parents and educators, here are a few of them:Introduction to Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsSupporting Anxious KidsFrom Reactive to Responsive Parenting: Stop the Yelling with Emotional IntelligenceEFT Tapping: Overcoming Stress and Strong Emotions RapidlyFrom Blowups to Balance: Supporting ADHD Kids✅ All available at www.stephaniepinto.com/courses*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community! 🎉➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I am an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives! Book a consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements. 💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.comOr stalk me on the socials...Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parentFB: fb.com/stephpinto Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  --------  

  41:46
• 71: Tough Kids vs. Snowflakes: The Science of Raising Resilient Humans with Tim Curtis.

  💪 Are some people just naturally more resilient? Or is resilience something we can actually build? And what if we’ve been thinking about stress and adversity all wrong when it comes to raising kids?Today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by Tim Curtis—former Aussie SAS Squadron Commander, resilience expert, and co-author of The Resilience Shield. Tim has spent years leading high-stakes military operations, consulting for the UN, and now helping people understand what actually makes us resilient.And trust me, his insights will challenge everything you thought you knew. Sorry!We speak about:🛡 The science of resilience—how much is genetic, and how much can we change?⚖️ Why kids actually need some stress and adversity to grow stronger🚁 The downside of helicopter and bulldozer parenting💡 The key factors that build resilience: mindset, social connections, and physical healthAlso he’s given us all free access to his online resilience assessment you can take today!Tim brings fascinating research, real-life stories, and game-changing insights on how to help both ourselves and our kids become more resilient.If you want to raise strong, adaptable, and confident kids (and build your own resilience while you’re at it), this episode is a must-listen! 🎧✨Find out more about Tim and his work at:www.mettle.globalwww.resilienceshield.comwww.linkedin.com/in/tim-curtis-64b8581*** Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  --------  

  43:23

More Kids & Family podcasts

Trending Kids & Family podcasts

About Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto