We come to parenting with all the patterns we learned in our own childhood. Together in this podcast, we uncover the roots of our reactivity and grow in educati...
You are right to notice that there are a million scary things flying at you at all times right now. And you are right to want to fix these immediately in order to not feel so uncomfortable and in order to keep you and your family safe. But we cannot be effective if we are reacting every minute to fear. In this episode I share how we can create a safe place internally so we can be effective externally. If you are called to work with me please reach out: [email protected] I would love to coach you through this and be a safe place during an unsafe time. And please, share this with a friend who is feeling the weight of the external chaos. Podcast episodes referenced: Episode 74: The Stories We Tell Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-74-the-stories-we-tell-ourselves Episode 39: 4 Buckets to Fill in Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-39-4-buckets-to-fill-in-ourselves FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you’ll have access to me DAILY through DM’s and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You’ll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course “The Strong-Willed Language Series!” Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
--------
21:22
78. The OTHER “F” Word…Friends
This episode explores friendships. My son had a run in with his “best friend” and he was essentially told “you’re not my friend.” So wounded and so confused he felt blindsided by this. He admires this kid so much and truthfully this kid is awesome. I totally get why my son wants to be his bestie. But this kid already has a bestie who loves all the same things he loves, is lock step with this kid and it shows. My son shares a few similar interests but not a lot. When I was able to share the “Capital F” and “Lowercase f” framework with him it allowed him to see that his worth wasn’t dependent on the approval of this one kid. And that true friendship doesn’t require constantly proving yourself, fear that they’re going to ditch you any second, or any type of coercion to be friends. Real “Capital F” friends like you for you. They accept you, they enjoy being with you and they are willing to work on the challenging things. I hope this supports you when you run into the inevitable friendship challenges. (note: this was not my concept. I cannot remember where I heard this so if you know, please send me a message and I’ll source them for credit). FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you’ll have access to me DAILY through DM’s and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You’ll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course “The Strong-Willed Language Series!” Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
--------
15:21
77. Parenting with External Stress
This is possibly the most important episode I’ve ever made. After experiencing the unrelenting stress of fires, arsonists, hurricane force winds + fire was almost too much for the human body to bear witness too. Most everyone in LA right now is walking around as a zombie. We are in “low power mode” and from what I’ve heard from almost everyone, “we’re just putting one foot in front of the other.” Many of us know at least 1 person who lost everything. Many of us know 20+ people who only have the clothes they evacuated in. It’s devastating. However, the focus of this episode is not the fires. The focus of this episode is the incredible wisdom we hold in our bodies that has been biologically primed to keep us safe when our stress levels surpass our threshold. And unfortunately for every parent in America today, that threshold is maxing out regularly. So this episode focuses on understanding WHY our bodies do what they do. And how you can actively participate in what your body is doing so you can support yourself and your goals as a parent even further. Please feel free to reach out to me, share this with a friend and once again, thank you for being here. The episode I mentioned with the 5 senses exercise is this: Episode 74: The Stories We Tell Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-74-the-stories-we-tell-ourselves FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you’ll have access to me DAILY through DM’s and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You’ll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course “The Strong-Willed Language Series!” Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
--------
24:19
76. My son’s passing - and the lessons I continue to learn
Trigger Warning. This episode is about my son who was stillborn in 2019. I share a few moments that I experienced in the hospital. If you have lost a child, experienced a stillbirth or miscarriage, please be gentle in your listening. My hope is that you find comfort in my story, that you are not alone. And that we can continue to heal together. My son Jackson would have been 6 years old this year. And on his 6th birthday (1/5/2025) I connected the dots to a major lesson from that experience to where I struggle as a parent still today. I think this is a great way to reframe our goals as parents in 2025 and how to approach this whole thing in a new way. I invite you to listen, to cry, to be WITH the hard feelings. And to connect with me afterwards. Sending you so much love as we embark on a new year together. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you’ll have access to me DAILY through DM’s and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You’ll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course “The Strong-Willed Language Series!” Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
--------
21:13
75. What I learned from my son knocking out his teeth
In this episode, I share a personal story about my four-year-old son's traumatic accident during a holiday recital rehearsal, where he severely injured several teeth. I reflect on his resilience, the lessons we’ve learned, and the importance of connection, asking for help, grounding tools, and letting go of control as a parent. Let's talk about navigating trauma, finding joy in adversity, and responding with intention. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! This is where the magic happens! Inside the Community you’ll have access to me DAILY through DM’s and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You’ll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course “The Strong-Willed Language Series!” Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
We come to parenting with all the patterns we learned in our own childhood. Together in this podcast, we uncover the roots of our reactivity and grow in education, capacity, awareness, and skills so we will be able to respond vs. react to our strong-willed children. The beauty of this process is as you become a ResponseAble Parent, the “misbehavior” of your children will lessen, the yelling will fall away and a new level of companionship and cooperation will take its place. Welcome to the journey of ResponseAble Parenting. Take a deep breath in, slow exhale out, and let’s get to work.
Listen to ResponseABLE Parenting, Mum's The Word! With Georgia Jones & Kelsey Parker and many other podcasts from around the world with the radio.net app
UK