105. Why is it easier to be compassionate to others?
Have you noticed it’s so much easier to be there for someone else than it is to show up for yourself? There’s a reason for that! In this week’s episode I give you a challenge. I want you to explore your own patterns and programming and see if you can track it to the unmet need that’s screaming out to you! When you find it shoot me a DM on Instagram @responseableparenting and tell me what you uncovered!! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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104. Threats on a road trip
On a 5 hour road trip my boys started fighting over the most benign thing…a book. I share the annoying details, the default patterns we fell into when we hit our breaking point, and ultimately what I did to recover the moment. It highlighted for me just how important it is to have regulation practices built into the day. How they cannot be back burner, “if I can get to it today” actions. These moments in parenting show us our tolerance level. And we are only as effective as we are regulated. Knowing that everything is tied to the nervous system it’s crucial we adopt nervous system regulation practices as parents. It’s the way through the tough moments. If you haven’t already joined, head over to Fast Way To Regulate (just below) and dive in. You’ll get a masterclass in regulation practices and be able to read your patterns faster and faster as you begin to embody regulation practices into your life. GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdowYou absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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103. The reason it’s not working
In this episode I share more about that really frustrating cycle of trying something to break a negative cycle, it not going well, and then how we can often compare our journey to others - which creates more shame, self judgement, and tends to further solidify the negative pattern we’re trying to get rid of in the first place. But don’t worry, I don’t leave you in that :) I also share how to change that. I offer a lot of mindset shifts and tools to start using in order to creat real, meaningful, but most importantly AUTHENTIC change in your parenting. GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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102. Hardest Part of Parenting
In this episode I share a negative parenting pattern I discovered about myself while going through Fast Way To Regulate. As I was tracking my triggers and getting clear about why things were upsetting me the way they were I realized this one pattern was happening all the time and I hadn’t even noticed it. This is the power of this challenge. It takes the hard parts that are hiding in the shadows, brings them into the light, and allows us to heal, find support, and practice so that the negative pattern doesn’t continue to have power over us. I cannot wait for you to connect some massive dots of your own inside Fast Way To Regulate. You can still join, it’s not too late! Let’s go! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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101. Why is it hard to hold a boundary?
In this episode I tackle 3 sneaky reasons why it might be hard for you to hold a boundary. On top of that, I share a boundary protocol routine. In this protocol I share how to set a value based boundary system, engage your children in the process, and have a clear protocol for when the boundary is crossed. Don’t forget to join the Fast Way To Regulate challenge with the dozens of other amazing parents who are working towards the same goal! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
We come to parenting with all the patterns we learned in our own childhood. Together in this podcast, we uncover the roots of our reactivity and grow in education, capacity, awareness, and skills so we will be able to respond vs. react to our strong-willed children. The beauty of this process is as you become a ResponseAble Parent, the “misbehavior” of your children will lessen, the yelling will fall away and a new level of companionship and cooperation will take its place. Welcome to the journey of ResponseAble Parenting. Take a deep breath in, slow exhale out, and let’s get to work.
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