The JOY Broadcast

This week Ali is sharing something close to her heart. Tom, her eldest son, has just finished his final A-level, and with it, an entire chapter of life has come to a close. In this episode she takes you into the lay-by on the side of the road where she had to pull over because the tears wouldn't stop. The full circle moment. The rush of pride, grief, love and terror all at once.
And from that place she asks a question that changes everything: why would you want to regulate this emotion?
This is an episode about emotions and why feeling them fully, all of them, is not something to be managed or controlled but something to be honoured. About the midlife transition so many women are standing in right now. About what it really means when the children start to fly. About why Ali refuses to call it empty nesting and what she's calling it instead.
If you're in this season, approaching it, or supporting someone who is, this one is for you.
In This Episode
The moment Tom walked out of school for the last time and what it stirred up in Ali
Why "emotional regulation" is a phrase Ali takes issue with and what she thinks it costs us
The dam analogy and what really happens when we suppress instead of feel
Why Ali pulled over in a lay-by and what happened when she let it all come through
Roller coasters versus teacups and which one Ali is always going to choose
The bungee ski jump in Austria, the boys cheering at the bottom, and what fear really feels like when you walk straight into it
Why Ali refuses the phrase "empty nest" and what she's renaming this chapter
Joy Nesting. Bird launching. And why this era might be the most exciting one yet
Fiji 1999, the dreams James and Ali cast on that beach, and what it means to have actually built them
The question every woman in midlife needs to ask herself right now
Why this is your time. Just On You.
Quotes From This Episode
"Why would you want to regulate that feeling? I have never felt so alive."
"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving completely safe and preserved and pristine. We're going to be skidding up to those pearly gates, totally spent, totally exhilarated, going — holy fck, what a ride."*
"Nothing is wrong. Your feelings are finally getting their turn."
"We're not the people who go to the fairground and ride in the teacups. We're the people who run for the roller coaster."
"Joy Nesting. Because we have created a home with joy, and they will always come back to it."
Mentioned In This Episode
The Hawkins Scale of Consciousness : Number 11 in the Joy Emporium  https://www.alimortimer.com/the-joy-emporium
The Joy Rebellion → https://www.alimortimer.com/the-joy-rebellion
Connect With Ali
Website: alimortimer.com 
Instagram: @alimortimer_thejoycoach
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This podcast is a A real masterclass, using my eighteen-year-old as the live case study.
If you wish to follow along with your chart, your child's chart or someone you know, you can download and get your chart here: https://www.alimortimer.com/human-design-introduction
My eldest son Tom finishes his final A level on Tuesday. Eighteen years old, the whole world in front of him, and a thousand possible paths to choose from. Uni, gap year, apprenticeship, something else entirely. How do we guide them without overriding them?
So this week on the Joy Broadcast, I'm doing something a little different. I'm pulling up Tom's Human Design chart in front of you and walking through, line by line, exactly how I'm using it to support him at this pivotal moment. His energy type as a Generator. His emotional authority. His G Centre. His 2/4 Profile. The three gates I'm watching most closely. The Triple Split that means he needs more space than most to make a decision.
I've had Tom's chart in front of me for five years now. It was first gifted to me by a coach back in 2021, and the closest way I can describe what reading it did for me was like looking into a mirror that had been really, really dirty and finally getting to clean it all off. That's what it does. It hands you back yourself. And once I'd had mine, I did Tom's, Will's and James's. We started using these charts almost like guidebooks for our boys, who are very, very different in how they live and how they make decisions. Honestly, I think every parent should be given one of these the moment they have a child.
The thing I want every parent to hear: The more we tell our children who they are, the harder it becomes for them to hear themselves.
So in this episode, I'm not telling Tom who he is. I'm using his chart to help him hear himself. And I'm walking you through exactly how to do the same for your child, whether they're standing at the school-leaver crossroads, navigating a friendship, choosing subjects, or simply trying to figure out who they are in the world.
What I'm doing differently with Tom right now: Stop asking them what they want to do with their life. Start asking them what would feel good right now. What feels frustrating. What feels yummy. What's being offered. What's being shown. That one shift, especially for Generator children, is how they will navigate unchartered waters.
My takeaway: Parenting isn't directing. It's recognising. Your child's design is already inside them, waiting to be seen. Human Design just helps you take the noise off so they can hear themselves, and so you can stop trying to mould them into a version that was never theirs. It's the permission slip for them to be themselves. And honestly, for us to let them.
A very special pop-up | 9th June 2026
To mark the day Tom finishes school, I'm hosting a Pop-Up Joy Day.
Buy one Human Design reading with me, gift one to your child, and my Joy in HD mastercourse is 75% off for one day only. Twelve modules covering every energy type, authority, profile line, chakra and gate, with lifetime access so you can pull and understand as many charts as you like, for the people you love.
Make sure you're on my emails so you don't miss it. All links below.
To continue your journey in Human Design with me: 
FREE : Download your chart & be guided through level one interpretation here: https://www.alimortimer.com/human-design-introduction
Pop-Up Joy Day booking | the buy-one-gift-one HD reading offer for 9th June only: Purchase the £555 offer and you get a chart for the loved one of your choice FREE:
Joy in HD mastercourse | with the 75% off for 9th June only:  https://www.alimortimer.com/joy-mastercourse-2026 use code JOYINHD75 on 9th June only.
Email signup | so you don't miss the pop-up day or any Joy Pop up days in the future and for my weekly special offers and quick links: subscribe here:  www.alimortimer.com/newsletter
Lots of love
Ali xo
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This week I am letting you in on a very real, very honest moment. I went to the doctors for an HRT check this week and the scales told me I had put on three kilos. Once upon a time, that would have sent me into a flat spin. This time? I sat with it, got curious, and decided it was exactly what I wanted to talk about on the podcast.
My health,  your health does not have to be complicated. And the women I work with, the ones running businesses and homes and families and ageing parents, do not need another twelve step protocol. They need it simple. They need it doable. They need it to fit into a life that is already full.
So I am walking you through my Three E's. The framework I come back to again and again, for health now and longevity long term.
Eat for fuel. What you are actually doing in your day decides what you need on your plate. Whole foods, good protein, plenty of water. Not fancy. Not complicated. Just real.
Exercise. Walk daily. Move daily. Add weight bearing work for your bones, your strength, your future self. It does not have to be hours in a gym or running a marathon (unless that brings you joy!)
Easy does it. The hardest one for me. Stillness, sleep, joy moments, the breath work, the meditation, the protected pockets of quiet to ensure your cortisol drops, your digestion turns back on, and your brain does its night time clearing out, which I learned through my research into Alzheimer's is so much more important than most of us realise.
This episode is part personal share, part practical framework, part gentle nudge to put yourself back near the top of your own list.
Mentioned in this episode
 This week's Substack: The 'F-Ugly' Girl in the Mirror → [read it here]
Lean for Life, the four week programme I co-host with nutritionist Tiffany Rowlands, inside the Rose Library with access through the Joy Rebellion
Ready to go deeper & lock in your joy?
If this episode landed and you want accountability, community and the full library of work I have built on this over the last decade, here are the two best ways in.
🌹 The Joy Rebellion — my year long membership and home of the Rose Library, where you get every course and programme I have made, including Lean for Life, Wired and Tired, and Rebel HD. We meet every Monday to align as a collective and set our intentions across every area of life. £222 for the year, or £22 a month. → [Join the Joy Rebellion Here]
🌹 Brilliance — my private 1:1 mentorship. This is where we work deeply on how you feel in your body, so you can outperform in the boardroom and feel good in the bedroom. By application here. 

If this episode helped, the kindest thing you can do is share it with a woman who needs the reminder, and leave a review wherever you listen. It helps so much.
With love, joy and peace always, Ali xo 🌹
https://www.alimortimer.com/

Want to follow along with your own chart?
This episode is about cracking your confidence code with joy — and along the way I talk about your fears, how you're wired, and how you lead yourself.
If you'd like to know your own Human Design before you press play, get your free chart here → [FREE HUMAN DESIGN CHART LINK]
You'll need your date, time, and place of birth. No chart to hand? No problem — listen anyway. Everything in this episode applies to you, whether you know your design or not.
About this episode
This week's episode is my keynote speach recorded as a dress rehearsal before I delivered it live at Grantley Hall, for the brilliant charity SmartWorks, who help women back into the workplace after a loss of confidence.
Ten years ago, I had no confidence at all. I'd separated from James, lost my mum, left my corporate career, and I had two small boys and no idea who I was without all the things that used to define me. No title. No team. No map. No salary. No mum to call.
I had to build my confidence back from nothing.
This episode is the recipe I found. The five ingredients — and the one thing that binds them all together.
In this episode I walk you through my five ingredients of confidence: inner strength, self-leadership, courage, truth, and power and the one binding ingredient: JOY. Just On You.
My favourite line of the whole episode: joy isn't the reward for getting confident. Joy is the practice that makes confidence inevitable.
Mentioned in this episode
This week on Substack — Be the Peach, Not the Egg. The values work behind ingredient one and ingredient four. Why your core values are your morning activators, your anchors in a storm, and your antidote to poison arrows. → [SUBSTACK LINK]
 SmartWorks — the charity behind the Grantley Hall event, helping women across the country back into the workplace and into their confidence. Please go and find out about them.  The event I went to was hosted by the Leeds Office, but it is a nationwide charity. → [SMARTWORKS LINK]
Work with me
Joy in HD™ — if this episode made you curious about how you're actually wired, this is where you go deeper. My Human Design mastercourse and mastermind, where you learn to use your chart across every part of your life. Body. Boardroom. Bedroom. Pull your free chart first (link at the top), then come and learn what it actually means. → [JOY IN HD LINK]
Brilliance — my private one-to-one mentorship, by application. Limited spaces. → [BRILLIANCE LINK]
The Joy Rebellion — my year-long community for women who know that joy is the most powerful place to create from. → [JOY REBELLION LINK]
Stay connected
Sign up to The Joy Brief — my weekly newsletter — and never miss an episode, an offer, or an invitation saved just for my list. → [JOY BRIEF LINK]
Find me on Instagram — @alimortimer_thejoycoach
If this episode lands for you, please share it. With a woman in your life. In a story on Instagram. With a friend who's been telling herself she has no confidence.
That is how the message moves.
With joy, always, Ali xo 🌹

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This week's episode talks about your Fear Gates in Human Design, the specific places fear shows up in your body, your mind, and your decisions, based on your unique design.
If you'd like to know yours before you press play, get your free Human Design chart here → FREE HUMAN DESIGN CHART LINK
You'll need your date, time, and place of birth.
If you don't have it to hand, no problem at all, listen anyway. Everything in this episode applies to you, whether you know your design or not.

About this episode
I have a real bee in my bonnet about the phrase "imposter syndrome."
I want it banished.
In 1978, two psychologists coined a term that gave generations of brilliant, boundary-pushing, ambitious women the worst possible name for the voice inside them. They called her an imposter. They told us to distrust her. Silence her. Override her.
She isn't an imposter.
She is fear. And fear, when you understand her, is one of the most important voices in the room.
In this episode I walk you through:
– Why "imposter syndrome" is the most dangerous label we've handed to high-achieving women
– The only two fears you were actually born with (and what that means for every other fear running your life)
– Your Fear Gates in Human Design — what they are, where they live, and why knowing yours changes everything
– How to invite your fear friends in for coffee instead of trying to kick them out
– Why fear is evidence that what you're doing actually matters
If you've ever called yourself an imposter, or had that voice tell you you're not enough, not ready, not allowed, please listen to this one. And then share it with a woman who needs to hear it.

Mentioned in this episode
📖 This week on Substack — Dear Boo, you were right. Vulnerability is the bloody stone. A letter to my 40-year-old self about the wheel I drew on a scrap of paper in 2016 and how it became the whole thesis of my life's work. → SUBSTACK LINK
🌹 Mindfulness Mondays — my new paid Substack series. 100 mindfulness practices to bring you peace, calm in the chaos, and a quiet mind in a busy life. Five practices a week, every Monday morning, for twenty weeks. Sign up before Sunday night and the full meditation album is yours, completely free. → MINDFULNESS MONDAYS LINK

Stay connected
 Sign up to The Joy Brief — my weekly newsletter — and never miss an episode, an offer, or an invitation saved just for my list. → JOY BRIEF LINK
Find me on Instagram — @alimortimer_thejoycoach

If this episode lands for you, please share it. With a woman in your life. In a story on Instagram. With a friend who's been calling herself an imposter for too long.
That is how the message moves.
With joy, always, Ali xo 🌹
https://www.alimortimer.com/