Adulting with Autism

What if "adulting" isn't failing—it's just doing life without the tools your brain actually needs?
In this episode of Adulting With Autism, host April talks with Natalie Diggins—technologist and author of The Autistic Adults Toolbox—about practical, real-world systems that make autistic life more manageable without shame, fluff, or forced positivity.
Natalie shares why she built a "toolbox" in the first place (starting with the moment she couldn't even find a template to tell a surgeon what she needed), and how autistic adults can stop reinventing the wheel—at work, in relationships, in social situations, and during burnout.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to anticipate sensory overload instead of just enduring it (Natalie's simple day-by-day framework)
The three times disclosure can make sense: helping someone, trust/intimacy, or the "thermonuclear option"
How to plan for holidays and parties by protecting your "sensory calories" (before/during/after strategies + finding quiet spaces)
The difference between meltdowns and tantrums, and how to explain meltdowns to a partner
How Natalie spots burnout early with a "hurricane warning system"—plus her written down plan for recovery
A minimalist executive-functioning setup: the "Top 3" notepad rule (when apps are too much)
Relationship communication that works: shifting to "I want / I need" language and making needs understandable across neurotypes
If you've ever felt "too much," "too sensitive," or like you're behind in life—this conversation is a reminder: you're not broken. You need tools.
Find Natalie's book: The Autistic Adults Toolbox (online or at your local bookstore)
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If you're ambitious, high-performing, and secretly exhausted—this episode is for you.
In this episode of Adulting With Autism, we talk with Carol Enneking, former corporate VP in Talent and Leadership and author of The Rebalancing Act, about redefining success in a way that doesn't cost your health, relationships, or sense of self.
Carol shares what she saw inside high-performance culture: many of the most "successful" people were also the most depleted. Together we unpack why "balance" isn't a stable destination, how to rebalance in real life, and how autistic and neurodivergent adults can navigate burnout, sensory load, and masking—without sacrificing ambition.
In this episode, we cover:
Why high performers often achieve more while enjoying it less
"Balance" vs rebalancing (and why balance is basically a myth)
Boundaries for ambitious people: when to dial it up vs dial it back
People pleasing + perfectionism: how to loosen your grip without doing sloppy work
Burnout signs (physical + cognitive) and why time can prevent escalation
How to redefine success using values, legacy, and intentional choices
A healthier relationship with failure: "failed" vs "I am a failure"
Practical questions to stop spiraling: best case, worst case, likely outcome
Connect with Carol:
Website: carolenneking.com
Book: The Rebalancing Act (wherever books are sold)

If you're an autistic or ADHD adult struggling with clutter, executive dysfunction, burnout, or decision fatigue, this episode of Adulting with Autism is for you. Professional Organizer and Life Organizing Strategist Takilla Combs (founder of Xtreme Audacity Organized Solutions) breaks down why organization isn't about pretty bins, Pinterest pantries, or perfect routines—it's about building sustainable systems that support how you actually live.
We talk about how clutter can be physical, mental, emotional, and operational, why high performers can look "together" at work while feeling overwhelmed at home, and how to create flexible routines that work for neurodivergent brains—without shame or perfectionism.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why clutter often starts as brain clutter and shows up in your environment
The real reason "motivation" and quick productivity hacks don't stick
Takilla's S.Y.S.T.E.M. framework: clutter costs Space, Time, Energy, Money
How to build routines around your natural rhythms (and adjust as life changes)
What to do when your systems fall apart due to mental health dips or a busy season
A simple approach to paper clutter: handle what's already open first, one pile at a time
Guest: Takilla Combs — Life Organizing Strategist + Professional Organizer
Website: https://extremeaudacity.com (starts with X)
Podcast: The Organized Life with Takilla Renee
Social: @extremeaudacity | @takillarenee
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Pressure can be motivating… or it can be a fast track to overwhelm—especially for autistic and ADHD adults.
In this episode of Adulting With Autism, we talk with Michael Dugan, corporate trainer with 20+ years experience and 20,000+ hours teaching performance under pressure, and author of Turning Snowflakes to Diamonds: Turning Pressure Into Power in an Age of AI.
Michael shares his Becoming Diamond framework and explains emotional mastery in everyday language. We explore how to distinguish growth pressure from harmful overwhelm, how to set boundaries that protect your nervous system, and practical, repeatable tools for emotional regulation.
In this episode, we cover:
Pressure vs overload: what's "growth" and what's too much
Emotional mastery (what it actually is—and what it isn't)
The Swiss Army Knife method: Body, Breath, Brain
The ART process: Accept, Release, Transform
Breath and body cues for calming the nervous system
Staying grounded in a world of AI, uncertainty, and information overload
How attention shapes your state (and how to "bookend" your day)
Where to find Michael:
Book: Turning Snowflakes to Diamonds (Amazon / Audible)
Online: Michael Timothy Dugan (YouTube + socials)

Money management can be extra hard when you're autistic or neurodivergent—especially if executive functioning challenges make it difficult to track expenses, remember bills, or plan long-term.
In this episode of Adulting With Autism, we talk with George Thomas, financial coach and CEO of a financial coaching company focused on making finance simple and accessible. George shares how to build a practical money system, why a budget still matters (when it's realistic), and how to reduce money anxiety by getting organized and focusing on what's leaving your account first.
We also discuss the myth that you "have to work to make money," the difference between net income and net worth, how to use automation safely, and small steps you can take this week—even if you feel behind.
In this episode, we cover:
Why finance feels overwhelming (and how to make it more digestible)
The importance of a personal "why," mission, and vision
Net worth basics: income – expenses and where to start
Executive functioning-friendly systems: reminders, organization, and review routines
Automation: what's safe to automate vs what to review manually
Handling setbacks and planning for "expected unexpected" costs
Defining financial freedom beyond social media hype
One change to make this week: review your expenses and find "money leaks"
Learn more: Freedom Builders Academy 
https://george-thomas-s-school1.teachable.com/p/freedombuildersacademy
Freedom Builders Academy is a self-paced, instructor-led financial education program that teaches budgeting, expense management, investing fundamentals, and time/action planning. It includes guided video lessons, mini study guides, and quizzes, and typically takes 2–4 weeks to complete.