When Your Body Makes You Stop And listen To What It Has To Say - It Might Just Surprise You | Ep 53
Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise? In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a lot of us can struggle to do!I talk about my NHS and people-pleasing days when having time off made me feel guilty and anxious and like I was a failure.This episode invites you to consider how often you listen to what your body is saying and talks about the importance of tuning in to discover what it might have to say.A recent visualisation session with my own coach Audrey https://www.instagram.com/audrey_thesocialcoach recently opened me up to another level of connection with the purpose and meaning behind the work I do (something analytical, logical only past me would have rolled her eyes at 🤣) Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/ Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt. Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video
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It’s Not a Rebrand — It’s a Remembering | Ep 52
I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading. I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I should or shouldn't post etc. but I’ve realised those rules don’t always honour the depth of my work - or who I truly am.In this episode I acknowledge my recent reflections and confirm this isn't about a rebrand - it's about remembering and a return - is about returning to my why — the part of me that began this work in the first place. I talk about the difference between rebranding and remembering, why it’s time to stop softening our truth to fit expectations, and how I’m reshaping this podcast to reflect the depth, emotion, and honesty I want to bring to every episode. This isn’t just my podcast - it’s ours. For you, for me, and for the little girl inside each of us who deserves to know: She’s safe to be seen. Safe to rest. Safe to take up space again. She is here.Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/ Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt. Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video
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How To Stop Feeling Guilty For Saying No | Ep 51
Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.”I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice to help you start rewriting those rules into something kinder and more realistic — so you can honour your needs without feeling like a bad person.This isn’t about swinging from people-pleasing to being cold or uncaring. It’s about learning that you can be kind and have boundaries. You can rest and still be responsible. You can say no and still be good.If you’re ready to start letting go of guilt and creating new, flexible guidelines to live by, this episode will gently walk you through how.Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/ Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt. Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video
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Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Saying No? (And What It Really Means) | Ep 50
If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty.In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting myself first is selfish.”This episode includes:Why guilt feels so intense when you say no or prioritise yourselfHow to reframe guilt so you can see it as a sign of growth, not wrongdoingA guided reflection exercise to help you uncover the root of your guilt and begin reframing itIf this episode helps you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it - and stay tuned for the next episode, where we’ll explore practical strategies to rewrite those old rules for good.Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/ Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt. Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video
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As An Anxious People-Pleaser I Used To Think I Wasn’t Confident Enough — But It Was Never About Confidence | Ep 49
For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough.Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing — that you just need to “push through,” “fake it till you make it,” or somehow be braver.But recently, something happened that made me realise the problem isn’t about confidence at all.In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about:The two inner voices we all carry — the one that tells us to stay quiet, and the one that dares us to speak up.The powerful experience that reconnected me to my purpose and voice Why confidence isn’t the real issue — and what you truly need instead.If you’ve ever felt like you’re hiding parts of yourself or holding back from sharing your gifts, this episode will help you understand why — and give you hope that it’s possible to show up authentically, without pushing or pretending.Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/ Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt. Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video
About Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey
Do you often wonder why you find it so hard to say 'no' to people?Maybe you struggle to make time for yourself because you can't switch off — you feel like you should always be doing something.Perhaps you've always felt too sensitive, too dramatic, too needy, too different... 'too much' — and yet never quite enough.Maybe you've been self-sacrificing, suppressing, and masking for so long that it doesn't even feel like a mask anymore — you can’t remember who you really are beneath it.Or you're a therapist or a woman with her own business, someone who cares deeply about what you do — but ‘good girl’ conditioning and spiralling overthinking hold you back from marketing yourself, because being seen doesn’t feel safe.I'm Charlotte, an experienced psychotherapist, speaker and coach and mentor for women business owners who care deeply about what they do but struggle with overthinking and showing up without the cringe.I'm so passionate about what I do because for decades, I lived as an anxious people-pleaser—constantly trying to keep others happy so I’d be accepted, always feeling like I was 'too much.'Until one day, I realised I’d lost myself completely. Something had to change.When it did, it brought a level of freedom I’d never felt before.Getting to the root cause helped me let go of the need to please—and finally connect with the real me I’d been suppressing for so long.With that came a new sense of self-trust, self-belief, and authentic confidence.And I want you to know: you can find that too.In the podcast I explore all things people-pleasing, trauma and good-girl conditioning; why you people-please, what the signs are, and the impact it can have on all aspects of your life.I'll share personal and professional insights and you'll discover tips and strategies to help you stop people-pleasing and break free from what's holding you back, so you can move forward as your authentic self with confidence - in life and in business.
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