Rewind: We Have Good Reason to Be Angry with Yara Heary
Did you feel totally unprepared for just how angry you might feel after becoming a mom? You’re not alone. In this episode, Rachael sits down with psychologist Yara Heary to unpack why anger shows up so often in early motherhood and why it’s not something to feel ashamed of.
Together, they explore the identity shifts that happen postpartum, the strain on relationships, and the nervous system challenges that can leave us feeling triggered. Yara offers compassionate, practical tools to understand your anger, support yourself before it boils over, and move through motherhood with more ease and self-compassion.
Inside this episode:
Why anger is a normal and valid part of postpartum life
How shifting identities and relationship changes fuel resentment
The role of expectations in couples after a baby
Tools to support your nervous system before anger escalates
What to do when you feel triggered by your kids or partner
Practicing self-compassion and connecting with your inner child
How to assume the best of our children and others around us
Mentioned in this episode:
Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Follow Yara on Instagram
Life After Birth with Yara Podcast
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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Rewind: How to Fight for Your Rights at Work with Daphne Delvaux
In this episode, Rachael sits down with attorney and women’s rights advocate Daphne Delvaux to uncover what every working parent needs to know about their rights in the workplace. Known as The Mamattorney, Daphne has built her career fighting for fair treatment, equal pay, and family-friendly policies and she’s here to share the essential tools you need to advocate for yourself at work.
Together, they dive into pregnancy and postpartum protections, how to navigate discrimination, and why knowing your rights is one of the most empowering things you can do as a parent.
Inside this episode:
What to line up before and after announcing your pregnancy at work
How and when to share your pregnancy with your employer
Your legal rights around maternity leave, partner’s leave, and pumping accommodations
How to handle discrimination, unfair treatment, or wrongful termination
Negotiating family-friendly policies for better work-life balance
Tips for easing the transition back after maternity leave
Why knowledge is power when it comes to planning your family and your career
And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
The Mamattorney Academy membership
Employment Rights Guide
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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Rewind: Fostering a Secure Attachment with Michelle Charriere
Rachael chats with birth-to-five mental health specialist Michelle Charriere about what it really takes to build (and repair) a secure attachment with your child. They cover the four attachment styles, why repair matters more than perfection, and how to choose childcare that supports connection...plus real talk on daycare and sleep training without the internet drama.
And because they couldn’t resist, they end with a little Bravo TV fun, including Michelle’s pick for the best Housewives franchise to start with and a round of “F**k, Marry, Kill” (Bravo edition).
Inside this episode:
The four attachment styles (and why secure is the goal)
How repair builds trust after ruptures
Choosing childcare that supports emotional connection
Thoughts on daycare and sleep training
What to look for in a caregiver
Bravo TV picks and guilty pleasures
Mentioned in this episode:
@babiesandbrains
Parenting Through Attachment Course
Childcare & Preschool Guide
New Sibling Guide
If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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Rewind: Maintaining Intimacy After Kids with Vanessa & Xander Marin
Maintaining Intimacy After Kids with Vanessa & Xander Marin
Parenthood changes a lot, including your relationship. In this episode, Rachael sits down with New York Times bestselling authors (and real-life couple) Vanessa and Xander Marin to talk about keeping intimacy alive after kids, the infamous “roommate phase,” and why honest conversations about sex matter more than you think.
Vanessa, a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, and Xander, her “regular dude” husband, share how they’ve navigated their own ups and downs while helping millions of couples do the same. They dive into the five conversations from their book Sex Talks, why emotional connection is the real foreplay, and what to do when one partner isn’t feeling ready for intimacy. Plus, they share how couples therapy, online courses, and even their own podcast have helped them, and can help you, build a more connected, playful, and passionate relationship.
Inside this episode:
The inspiration behind Sex Talks and the five key conversations couples need to have
How to break out of the “roommate phase” and reconnect
Tips for navigating mismatched readiness for intimacy
Why emotional connection is just as important as physical intimacy
The benefits of couples therapy (and other resources that work)
How to keep sex and pleasure on the table even when life is hectic
Mentioned in this episode:
Instagram: @vanessaandxander
Vanessa & Xander’s Online Courses
Rediscovering Us: Intimacy and Sex for Parents Course
Pillow Talks Podcast
Sex Talks Book
If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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Rewind: Bridging Separation at Bedtime with Dr. Gordon Neufeld
Bridging Separation at Bedtime with Dr. Gordon Neufeld @neufeldinstitute
This week Rachael has a very special guest, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, to discuss the importance of attachment and the challenges parents face when it comes to bedtime and sleep. Dr. Neufeld is a renowned authority on child development and you will learn so much in this powerful episode!
Here’s what they discuss inside this important episode:
How attachment is a fundamental aspect of child development
Learn all about Dr. Neufeld's Model of the Six Stages of Attachment
The crucial role parents play in providing the necessary conditions for children to grow up and develop their capacity to hold on when apart
Why is society so focused on independence?!
How quick-fix strategies often overlook the importance of preserving the connection between parents and children
Bedtime challenges and separation struggles
How parents can support their children by bridging the separation at bedtime
And so much more!
Dr. Neufeld has accumulated more than 40 years of experience as a clinical psychologist with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld continues to be an international speaker, a best-selling author and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he has devoted the best part of the last two decades to creating courses for parents, teachers and helping professionals. These courses are offered primarily through the Neufeld Institute – an online educational institute and world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld’s life's work has been to help adults provide the conditions for children to flourish. He is a father of five and a grandfather to seven.
Mentioned in this episode:
Free resources from Dr. Gordon Neufeld:
https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/
Online conference with Dr. Neufeld:
The Current Crisis of Well-Being: What's Happening to Our Kids? https://neufeldinstitute.org/conference-2024/
See presentations and talks from Gordon Neufeld:
https://www.youtube.com/@neufeldmedia
Follow Dr. Gordon Neufeld's work on:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NeufeldInstitute
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neufeldinstitute/
Dr. Neufeld’s Book: Hold Onto Your Kids
https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/hold-on-to-your-kids-book/
If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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No One Told Us the truth about parenthood. WHY?!
Welcome to No One Told Us, the podcast where we uncover the raw, unfiltered truths about parenthood. I'm your host, Rachael Shepard-Ohta, mom of three and founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby. Each week, join me as we dive deep into the joys, challenges, and surprises of raising children with a mix of expert insights, personal anecdotes, and candid conversations.
From navigating postpartum anxiety to mastering the art of making mom friends, and from introducing solids to tackling tantrums, we cover it all. Whether you're a first-time parent or a seasoned pro, this podcast is your go-to resource for honest advice, relatable stories, and plenty of laughs along the way.
Join me as I sit down with experts in their fields, as well as friends, family, celebrities, and influencers, to share their experiences and wisdom on everything from sleepless nights to rocky relationships. No topic is off-limits, and no story goes untold on No One Told Us.
So grab a cup of coffee, pop in your headphones and join the conversation. This is the podcast everyone needed before they had kids- because now that those little ones are here, there's a lot to unpack. So let's pull back the curtain on becoming a first-time mom (or dad!) to share the good, the bad and the ugly. A little education, a little fun, and a whole lot of heart goes into each and every episode of No One Told Us to have you feeling less alone and way more empowered.
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