Soaring Child: Thriving with ADHD

In this episode of The Soaring Child Podcast, we are continuing our Summer Series by sharing another fan favorite episode. Tune in as  Dana Kay shares how to have a non-toxic summer.
Summer is full of outdoor activities and memorable adventures. But it's also a time when our children are more exposed to various environmental toxins, like chlorine from swimming pools, chemicals in sunscreens, etc. These toxins can add a significant load to their bodies, exacerbating ADHD symptoms.
In this episode of the Soaring Child podcast, discover how to have a non-toxic summer (and how to safely and effectively detox from any toxins your child might be exposed to).
To watch this episode on YouTube, go here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ofVk4AWCZUA&t=1s
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
My favorite magnesium flakes: https://amzn.to/3PISJEE
My favorite HM-ET binder: https://shop.adhdthriveinstitute.com/hm-et-binder-120-capsules.html
ADHD Fast Class: https://hubs.la/Q042HdWQ0
Detoxification Episode – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/podcast/soaring-child-episode-88/
KEY TAKEAWAYS
[3:20] Common toxins kids are exposed to during the summer
[7:20] Tips to make swimming less toxic
[11:38] What to look for in a sunscreen
[15:38] How parents can ensure a toxin-free environment at summer camp
[18:14] Natural ways to support detoxification and reduce the impact of toxins
MEMORABLE MOMENTS
"During the summer, children are often more active and spend a considerable amount of time outdoors, which, while very beneficial for kids with ADHD, also increases their exposure to various environmental toxins."
"Because children's bodies are still developing, they are more vulnerable to the adverse effects of chemical exposures. Their smaller size, higher rates of metabolism, and the fact that they're closer to the ground (where some toxins settle) further increase their risk."
"Though chlorine isn't ideal, there are things you can do to help your  kids detox those chemicals before and after swimming."
"You can still use sunscreen but choose a cleaner brand and this will go a long way in reducing your child's overall toxic load!"
"It's much easier to limit a child's toxic exposure when they're at home with us under our supervision, but many of our kids will also be going to summer camps so we need to think about this too."
"The goal is to support the body's natural detoxification processes, which include the liver, kidneys, digestive system, and skin, in a gentle and supportive way."
"Remember, small tweaks can make a significant impact."
DANA KAY RESOURCES
🔗 WEBSITES:
https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/
https://dana-kay.com/
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute
📕 INTERNATIONAL BEST SELLING BOOK:
Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/
💻 FREE MASTERCLASS:
Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass - https://bit.ly/3QzvFHm
⭐ COURSES & PROGRAMS:
ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd
ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/

In this episode of The Soaring Child Podcast, we are continuing our Summer Series by sharing another fan favorite episode. Tune in as  Dana Kay talks with Child and Family therapist, Ashley Gobeil, about screen time and its effects on children, especially those with ADHD. Ashley Gobeil has over 15 years of experience in child and adolescent mental health, and this important discussion unpacks how technology impacts emotional regulation, impulsivity, and overall well-being.
Ashley provides valuable insights into the neuroscience behind screen time's effects on ADHD brains, as well as practical strategies for parents to manage it. From setting boundaries to navigating meltdowns and fostering healthier habits, this episode equips parents with actionable tools to create a balanced approach to technology in their homes.
To watch this episode on YouTube, go here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qhYty22QRg&t=8s 
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Healthy Habits for Digital Kids: Managing ADHD and Screen Time – FREE PRINTABLE  – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/free-guide-managing-adhd-and-screen-time 
ADHD Thrive Jumpstart 4 Parenting: https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parenting-landing-page 
CONNECT WITH ASHLEY GOBEIL
Ashley Gobeil's Website: https://ashleychildtherapies.com.au
Ashley Gobeil on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healing_with_ashley
Ashley Gobeil on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ashley.gobeil.50
ADHD Thrive Institute: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/
ADHD Thrive Jumpstart 4 Parenting: https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parenting-landing-page 
Free ADHD Masterclass:  https://bit.ly/3QzvFHm
KEY TAKEAWAYS
[3:14] The Impacts of Screen Time on ADHD Symptoms
[11:21] How Screen Time Affects Emotional Regulation and Dopamine Loops
[11:47] Social and Cognitive Effects of Excessive Screen Time
[12:04] Strategies for Managing Screen Time Effectively
[16:08] Setting Boundaries Around Screen Time
[20:21] Tips for Navigating Screen Time Detox and Alternatives
[36:35] Practical Scripts and Tools for Parents
MEMORABLE MOMENTS
"Screen time can act as a temporary escape for kids, but it doesn't increase their internal regulation."
"For children with ADHD, screen time often becomes a way of seeking dopamine, creating a reward loop that's hard to break."
"Screen time doesn't just overstimulate—it can actually decrease a child's ability to control impulses."
"Excessive screen use inhibits imagination, natural play, and the development of critical emotional processing skills."
"We're not here to eliminate screens completely but to find a healthy balance that supports emotional and mental well-being."
"Screen time is designed to leave children wanting more—it's a bucket with a hole that can never be filled."
"Setting boundaries is hard but essential. It's okay for kids to feel big emotions when limits are set—it's part of learning."
"Boredom isn't a bad thing—it's an opportunity for kids to build creativity, imagination, and self-regulation."
"Start small, stay consistent, and be proactive about setting screen time rules—it will pay off in the long run."
"Healthy screen habits are a team effort. Explain your decisions to your kids, and adjust based on what works for your family."
DANA KAY RESOURCES
🔗 WEBSITES:
Order Lab Tests Here - https://adhdthriveinstitute.wellproz.com/patient/home 
https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/
https://dana-kay.com/
👋 SOCIALS:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute
📕 INTERNATIONAL BEST SELLING BOOK:
Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/
💻 FREE MASTERCLASS:
Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass - https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl
⭐ COURSES & PROGRAMS:
ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd
ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/

This episode kicks off our special summer series, where we're bringing back some of our most-loved previous episodes from The Soaring Child Podcast. We chose these episodes because they speak directly to what so many families are navigating this time of year: more screens, disrupted routines, travel, toxins, processed foods, picky eating, meltdowns, burnout, and the eventual transition back to school. We're starting with this episode on The Most Effective Natural Solutions for ADHD because it is the perfect starting point for parents who are just starting out and for those who have been on this road for a while.
If you could only choose three things to focus on to reduce ADHD symptoms naturally, what would they be? Dana Kay, holistic health and nutrition practitioner, answered that question in this episode.
If you're just starting out, she shared 3 beginner strategies. If you've been doing this for a while and feel like you've got a grasp on the beginner strategies, she shared some intermediate strategies. Finally, if you consider yourself an expert, she shared the top strategies for experts as well.
These strategies are the pillars that can make a significant difference in the life of a child with ADHD. So, whether you're just starting out on the journey or you're looking to refine your approach, this episode is for you!
To watch the video recording of this podcast episode, go here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0GW2Imxw7E
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
ADHD Fast Class – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl
The ADHD Diet, Part 1 Podcast episode – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/podcast/soaring-child-episode-5/ 
The ADHD Diet, Part 2 Podcast episode – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/podcast/soaring-child-episode-6/ 
Pro Essentials (formerly called Pro Thrive) – https://shop.adhdthriveinstitute.com/pro-essentials.html
Omega Essentials (formerly Omega Thrive) – https://shop.adhdthriveinstitute.com/omega-essentials-liquid-6floz.html
Exercise podcast link – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/podcast/soaring-child-episode-97/ 
Functional Lab Testing Podcast episode – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/podcast/soaring-child-episode-83/ 
Detoxification Podcast episode – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/podcast/soaring-child-episode-88/ 
Maintenance Supplement Bundle – https://shop.adhdthriveinstitute.com/adhd-maintenance.html
KEY TAKEAWAYS
[3:18] The Top Areas to Focus on – Beginner Level – Diet, Supplements, Exercise
[14:22] The Top Areas to Focus on –  Intermediate Level – Functional Lab Testing, Targeted Supplementation, Optimizing Detoxification
[24:42] The Top Areas to Focus on – Advanced Level – Dietary Flexibility, Maintenance Supplements
MEMORABLE MOMENTS
"Diet is the foundation of any plan to reduce ADHD symptoms naturally. The food we consume plays a crucial role in how our bodies and brains function."
"Supplements should never be considered the be-all and end-all for ADHD support. As I say often, you can't supplement your way out of a poor diet. BUT, in conjunction with dietary changes, supplements can be very beneficial."
"Research shows that taking probiotics can help support that gut-brain connection. But, the problem with a lot of probiotics is that the strains don't survive digestion."
"Functional lab tests can uncover underlying issues that might be contributing to ADHD symptoms, such as nutrient deficiencies, parasites, leaky gut, food sensitivities, mold, etc."
"Our bodies are constantly exposed to toxins, and for children with ADHD, reducing this toxic burden is really important."
"It is impossible to get rid of all toxins from your life, so that's why it's important to optimize detoxification."
"Once you're in the thriving phase, it's important to reassess the supplements your child is taking. Maintenance supplements are about supporting ongoing health and preventing regression."


DANA KAY RESOURCES
🔗 WEBSITES:
Order Lab Tests Here - https://adhdthriveinstitute.wellproz.com/patient/home 
https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/
https://dana-kay.com/
👋 SOCIALS:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute
📕 INTERNATIONAL BEST SELLING BOOK:
Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/
💻 FREE MASTERCLASS:
Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass - https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl
⭐ COURSES & PROGRAMS:
ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd
ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/

Most parents assume ADHD and eczema are completely separate. One is the brain. One is the skin. But what if both are signs that the body is overloaded? In this episode of the Soaring Child Podcast, Dana Kay sits down with Andra McHugh, founder of Eczema Kids and creator of the Eczema Elimination Method, to explore the powerful connection between the gut, immune system, inflammation, skin, environment, nervous system, and brain.
After watching two of her own children struggle with severe eczema as a baby and toddler, Andra stopped asking, "What cream do I use next?" and started asking, "Why does this keep happening?" That one question changed everything. Through years of research, trial and error, and hands-on experience with families, Andra developed a whole-body approach to eczema that looks beyond symptom management and starts addressing the deeper stressors underneath.
In this conversation, Dana and Andra discuss why eczema is not just a skin issue, how gut dysfunction and inflammation can show up through both skin and behavior, why food triggers are only one piece of the puzzle, and how hidden environmental stressors like mold, off-gassing, and EMFs can contribute to flare-ups. Parents will also learn practical first steps they can take right away, including whole foods, opening windows, reducing toxic exposures, and using Epsom salt baths to support detoxification, mineral levels, and nervous system regulation.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Eczema Kids: https://eczemakids.com
Skin Comfort Trio: https://eczemakids.com/products/eczema-kids-organic-skin-comfort-trio?variant=43030641672239
7 Eczema-Friendly Meals Your Kids Will Actually Eat: https://eczemakids.com/pages/7-eczema-friendly-meals-and-snacks-kids-will-actually-eat
Connect with Andra McHugh:
Web: https://eczemakids.com
Eczema Kids YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EczemaKids
Eczema Kids Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1hya9jpNSRCfbLHc84Oi1h
Eczema Kids Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eczema-kids-natural-eczema-solutions-eczema-diet-eczema/id1607911865
Eczema Kids Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eczema.kids/
Eczema Kids Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/3218060598452484

KEY TAKEAWAYS
[0:00] Dana opens by asking whether eczema, itchy skin, allergies, skin flare-ups, and ADHD may be more connected than most parents realize.
[0:28] Dana explains that eczema often overlaps with gut issues, allergies, sensory sensitivity, sleep problems, anxiety, big emotions, and inflammation.
[1:53] Dana introduces the idea that chronic symptoms are often the body's way of communicating that something deeper is overloaded.
[3:50] Andra shares the moment conventional advice failed her family, when she was told to use steroid creams and hope her children grew out of eczema.
[4:17] Andra explains that she knew this could not be the ceiling of her children's health or the story they were meant to live.
[5:43] Andra reminds parents that they are often the true drivers of their child's outcomes because they shape food, home environment, and daily routines.
[7:07] Andra explains that eczema is not really a skin condition at its root, even though the rash and itching show up on the skin.
[7:32] Andra describes eczema as something that can spread like a wildfire and explains that the outside skin can mirror what is happening inside the gut.
[8:43] Dana connects eczema and ADHD by explaining that both are often treated as isolated conditions instead of signs of deeper stress in the body.
[12:23] Andra explains that she often saves testing for later and starts by reducing systemic inflammation through food and lifestyle changes first.
[14:40] Andra connects eczema to the total load concept, explaining that some children's inflammation buckets seem full from the very beginning.
[16:20] Andra names hidden environmental stressors that may contribute to eczema, including mold, new furniture, new cars, renovated homes, drywall, flooring, adhesives, and off-gassing.
[19:50] Andra explains why she was concerned about both conventional steroid creams and many natural skincare products that still contained ingredients not ideal for eczema-prone skin.
[24:39] Andra shares that real whole foods are one of the best first steps parents can take to reduce inflammation and support healing.
[25:39] Andra's final practical tip is Epsom salt baths, which may help with inflammation, mineral support, detoxification, and nervous system regulation.
MEMORABLE MOMENTS
"What if the skin is actually another way the body communicates overload?"
"It's almost like the body is waving little red flags everywhere saying, hey, something deeper is going on here."
"so often the body is trying to communicate that something underneath the surface is overloaded."
"the best you can do is really slather on these steroid creams and know, hope in a prayer, hope they grow out of it."
"this just can't be the ceiling of their health."
"This cannot be their story. This is not what my children are here for."
"my kids were so uncomfortable and itchy and their skin was just literally falling off."
"You're the buyer and the server of the food. You're the CEO of the home and the creator of the environment."
"It's not really a skin condition at all."
"It feels like a wildfire that you just like cannot get, can't get a handle on it."
"your outside skin is a mirror of your intestinal lining."
"how are they born with just their inflammation buckets already overflowing?"
"They're already full. And now you have to take these extra measures to take some things out of their bucket"
"they're just little sponges."
DANA KAY RESOURCES
🔗 WEBSITES:
Order Lab Tests Here - https://adhdthriveinstitute.wellproz.com/patient/home 
https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/
https://dana-kay.com/
👋 SOCIALS:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/
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Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute
📕 INTERNATIONAL BEST SELLING BOOK:
Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/
💻 FREE MASTERCLASS:
Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass - https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl
⭐ COURSES & PROGRAMS:
ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd
ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/

When a child screams, "I hate you," "You're the worst mom ever," or "I wish you weren't my parent," it can feel deeply personal. But in this episode of the Soaring Child Podcast, child and family therapist Ashley Gobeil explains that these explosive moments are often not signs of defiance, manipulation, or bad parenting. They are often signs of a dysregulated nervous system, emotional overwhelm, and a child who does not yet have the language or tools to express what is really going on inside.
In this powerful conversation, Dana Kay and Ashley unpack what is really happening underneath intense ADHD-related meltdowns, why shame can keep both parents and children stuck in painful cycles, and how parents can respond in a way that calms the storm instead of feeding it. Ashley shares practical language parents can use in the moment, how to hold boundaries without escalating the situation, and why repair after a rupture is so important for building emotional regulation, connection, and long-term accountability.
This episode is a compassionate reminder that parents do not have to get it perfect. They simply need to keep showing up, one moment at a time.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Ashley Gobeil's Website: https://ashleychildtherapies.com.au
Ashley Gobeil on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healing_with_ashley
Ashley Gobeil on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ashley.gobeil.50
ADHD Thrive Institute: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/
ADHD Thrive Jumpstart 4 Parenting: https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd
Free ADHD Masterclass: https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl
KEY TAKEAWAYS
[03:50] Hurtful words during meltdowns are usually communication, not defiance.
When a child says things like "I hate you," Ashley explains that there is usually something much deeper happening underneath the behavior.
[04:44] In the moment, it is not deliberate disrespect.
Ashley emphasizes that these moments are often intense overwhelm, not a conscious choice to attack the parent.
[05:42] Kids with ADHD often have very few tools available when dysregulated.
When their nervous system is overwhelmed, the tools they may have learned often "go out the window."
[06:39] Their nervous system can experience ordinary requests as threats.
Even something as simple as being asked to put shoes away can trigger fight, flight, or freeze when a child is already overwhelmed.
[07:35] "I hate you" may really mean "I feel out of control."
Ashley explains that hurtful words often point to feelings like fear, shame, grief, lack of control, or not feeling understood.
[09:15] Parents can shift their response by changing the lens.
Instead of seeing the child as disrespectful or defiant, parents can view the behavior as a window into distress.
[10:28] Shame can create a painful loop for both parent and child.
The child may feel ashamed after losing control, and the parent may spiral into thoughts like "Have I failed?" or "What am I doing wrong?"
[15:44] The parent's internal response comes first.
Ashley encourages parents to remind themselves: "My child is not giving me a hard time. They're having a hard time."
[17:35] Naming the feeling can help deescalate the moment.
Parents can say things like, "You're really angry with me right now," or "Something really big must have happened for you to say that."
[22:43] Repair is essential, and it is never too late.
Ashley explains that repair after rupture helps rebuild connection, reduce shame, and teach emotional accountability over time.

MEMORABLE MOMENTS
"Have you ever had one of those moments where your child looks straight at you and says, I hate you. You're the worst mom ever. I wish you weren't my parent."
"children's behaviors are a form of communication."
"it is not a deliberate defiant moment or a deliberate disrespect."
"they just go straight into the survival nervous system response."
"There's just like tons of stuff happening at once and like their nervous system's on fire."
"I feel really out of control. I feel like I don't get to make choice. I don't feel understood."
"So so many of them actually feel terrible by themselves."
"every single child has this deep innate desire to have a positive, loving relationship with their parent."
"These are just words. This is not an emergency. This is not a reflection of my parenting."
"It is never too late to go back and have a repair conversation."
DANA KAY RESOURCES
🔗 WEBSITES:
Order Lab Tests Here - https://adhdthriveinstitute.wellproz.com/patient/home 
https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/
https://dana-kay.com/
👋 SOCIALS:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute
📕 INTERNATIONAL BEST SELLING BOOK:
Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/
💻 FREE MASTERCLASS:
Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass - https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl
⭐ COURSES & PROGRAMS:
ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd
ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/