This week on the Soaring Child, my guest Casey O’Roarty and I are exploring Positive Discipline Strategies.  Casey is a facilitator of personal growth and development and for the last 15 years, her work has encouraged parents to discover the purpose of their journey and provide them with tools and a shift in mindset that has allowed them to deepen their relationships with not only themselves but also their families. Casey is a Positive Discipline lead trainer and coach. She hosts a podcast, parenting summits, and live and online classes. Her book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey, is a must read for parents!  In this episode, Casey shares tips for connecting with teens, strategies for parents to help them maintain their sense of peace, and so many more golden nuggets for parents! I absolutely LOVE the mantra she shared - “fiercely committed, loving detached.”   Key Takeaways: [4:54] Positive Discipline - what it is and how it benefits the relationship between the child and the parent [10:45] Personal growth for parents as they begin implementing Positive Discipline [14:45] Tips for parents of teens for keeping peace in the home [19:21] The Mantra - Fiercely Committed, Lovingly Detached [24:56] What surprised Casey the most about the teen years [31:38] Where to find Casey online   Memorable Moments: “Positive discipline is based in Adlerian theory, with the core concept being that human behavior is motivated by our perception of belonging and significance.” “Most of us were raised with the idea that we can reward and consequence our kids into doing the right thing. This is totally different.” With “relationship centered parenting…you will foster a space and an environment and a relationship that is going to allow your kids to move through the hard things…to move through the rebellion…to move through the risky behavior and still have a place to land.” “It has created the dynamic where my kids will come to me and say, ‘I need to tell you something.’” “We are the sum of the experiences and the relationships that we have had over our lifetime.” “Did I show up the way I wanted to show up? What was the mistake that I made? I’m going to own that with my kid.” “Finding peace… is a moment by moment experience.”  “Everything is temporary. The highs last for a while. The lows last for a while. But there’s always a swing back.” “Those hard places are where our kids get to develop so many tools.”   How to Connect with Casey O’Roarty Website: https://www.besproutable.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joyful_courage/?hl=en  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BeSproutable/  Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joyful-courage-a-conscious-parenting-podcast/id996079418      Dana Kay Resources: Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/mycompany/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute    International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/  Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl   ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/  

Many parents of children with ADHD live in a state of chronic stress. Their nervous systems are on high alert all the time, just waiting for that next meltdown or phone call from the school or problem to occur.  In this episode of the Soaring Child podcast, Svetlana Dubinsky shares her expertise about how to rewire stressed out brains.  Svetlana is the founder and president of Mindset Shifts Happen Here. With over 30 years in the healthcare industry,  she is known for inspiring change and transformation through her organizations and the clients she has worked with. Svetlana has worked for and with the most recognizable organizations at the highest senior levels. Her partnerships have spanned many strategic focus areas. Her passion and purpose is to help individuals, organizations, leaders, and teams unlock their human potential. She holds an MBA in healthcare, is a certified Neurochange Solutions Consultant, and is a HeartMath Resilience Advantage Trainer. If you’re a caregiver of a child with ADHD who feels stressed out, you definitely want to tune in to this powerful episode to discover how to break emotional addictions to stress and overwhelm.    Key Takeaways: [3:25] Svetlana’s ADHD story [9:05] The first step to breaking an addiction to stress [14:50] What parents can do when they feel like they can’t change [18:50] When someone is not able to see in imagery and only sees in black [23:43] How Svetlana’s son is doing now [25:37] Changes other families are seeing [29:01] Why it’s so hard to change mindsets [31:35] The benefits of moving to these elevated emotions [32:49] 3 types of stress [40:00] One thing listeners can do to take that first step   Memorable Moments: ”Our personality - the way we think, the way we act, and the way we feel - creates our personal reality or our life.” ”If you want to create a new life…if you want to create a new personal reality for yourself, you have to change your personality. You have to change how you think, how you act, and how you feel.” ”We become addicted to this life that we don’t even like.” ”It’s first of all becoming aware. That’s the very first step. Without awareness, we become automatic.” ”If I’m aware of it, then I can change it.” ”When the thought can match the action, you’re going to have a new experience.” ”If you can teach people why you’re doing something and what you’re doing, the how becomes easier.” ”We use meditation to change the belief system.” ”It’s literally how we think, how we act, and how we feel that dictates everything.” ”No organism can live in emergency mode forever.” ”Chronic stress creates a PTSD brain.”     How to Connect with Svetlana Dubinsky: Website: https://www.mshh.org/who/      Dana Kay Resources: Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/mycompany/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute    International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/  Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl   ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/  

Have you ever considered ADHD life coaching for kids and how it may be the difference between surviving and thriving with ADHD? Laurie Dupar is a 20 year experienced ADHD life coach and the head of the International ADHD Coach Training Center. She is a qualified psychiatric nurse practitioner. She helps people of all ages succeed by utilizing her unrivaled knowledge in the neurology and behavior management of ADHD.  Key Takeaways: [1:18] What made Laurie passionate about ADHD? [1:35] How did she help her son when he was diagnosed with ADHD? [5:49] Why did Laurie go back to school to do life coaching for ADHD? [6:00] Why coaching makes Laurie compassionate [6:20] What is helpful for parents to know about their child's brain style? [10:00] What age is best to try coaching a child? [23:33] Why conversation with your kids is important [25:00] How ADHD becomes their superpower Memorable Quotes: “When I'm working with families with children under the age of 12, we have a conversation about that. And it makes a huge difference for them to understand that if their child is not doing what they want them to, it's not because they don't want to. It's because they can't do it.” “I've now been an ADHD life coach for 20 years and have opened my own training program for coaches, usually parents who have children with ADHD, and it still amazes me 20 years later, how much is misunderstood and the lack of awareness.” “When parents go through the struggles and then they come out at the back end with all this information, they've just got this passion to be able to share it with others.” “I'm a natural learner. I always look for, as you said, the why underneath the behavior.”  “Kids are pre-programmed to try and please adults. It's to their benefit to be able to do that.”  “I want them to be happy and to be able to take care of themselves and to have good relationships, even though the issues that a parent might call with are very different.”  “One thing to know about kids with ADHD…when they're either angry or they can anger somebody else or frustrate somebody else, it actually is like getting a natural dopamine hit for them.” How to Connect with Laurie Dupar: Website: https://www.iactcenter.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iACTcenter/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/iactcenter/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iactcenter/    Dana Kay Resources: Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/mycompany/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute    International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/  Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl   ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/  

Do you have a teen or preteen with ADHD? If so, you do not want to miss this episode of the Soaring Child.  We are joined by Carrie Jackson, a PhD and a licensed child psychologist. Carrie is a speaker and an author, working in San Diego, California. She has published over 20 articles and book chapters related to parenting, ADHD, and defiance. In this episode, discover common signs of ADHD in girls, tips for managing screen time with teens, tools and strategies to help teens be successful at home and at school, some of Carrie’s favorite apps to support teens with ADHD, and so much more!    Key Takeaways:  [2:47] Why Carrie began working with teens with ADHD [5:15] Common signs of ADHD in girls [7:37] Tools for working with teens with ADHD [8:23] Screens & helpful apps [11:51] Setting appropriate boundaries with screens [13:08] Other activities outside of screens that teens can do [15:07] Other tools for parents [16:04] Self-esteem for teens with ADHD [18:49] The impact of COVID-19 on mental health for teens [20:07] Connection between ADHD and eating issues [22:13] How parents can support their teens with school [24:14] What Carrie wishes parents knew about ADHD [25:58] Carrie's program for parents of teens [27:06]  Final tips   Memorable Quotes: "Screen time use is a huge challenge for teens with ADHD...It's more about learning to work with it rather than against it." "Teenagers with ADHD may do things more impulsively, including on social media and screens." "Teenagers with ADHD can engage in more risky driving behaviors, and so, as a parent, to be able to monitor their safety, that's very important." "What I recommend for parents is that you actually take a look at how your child and teenager are using their screens and to come up with other activities that they can do that are beneficial as well, outside of screens." "Screens are not inherently bad, based on the amount of time you are using them, but it's just how are you using them?" "Don't throw the kitchen sink at your teenager. Just look at, what are my child and teenager's biggest challenges right now, and then, how can I address that?" "When kids and teenagers have more positive self-esteems, it's going to protect them from things like anxiety and depression, so they're going to have a higher quality of life." "For teenagers with ADHD, they are often receiving more negative messages than those without ADHD." "One of the things I love to include for teenagers is either mastery or leadership activities into their life." "A big piece of teenager challenges around school is there is so much to organize and plan for...Parents can really support their kids in planning and organizing by helping them in the early stages of seeing what they have coming up over the upcoming month." "It will get better, even though it is difficult right now." "Finding your own support network is huge." "It's not about you. You're not the problem, but you can be part of the solution."   How to Connect with Carrie Jackson Website: https://iparentadhd.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carriejackson/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.carriejackson  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@the.parent.therapist    Dana Kay Resources: Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/mycompany/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute    International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/  Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl   ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/  

What if there was a place where men could come to learn how to become better husbands, fathers, and leaders in their community, a place where men could openly talk about their successes and their struggles in their marriages and their lives? In this episode of the Soaring Child, Doug Holt provides that place.  Doug is a father of a beautiful son and daughter and a successful serial entrepreneur who is on a mission  to help other businessmen lead their families well. Doug now runs The Powerful Man, with a mission of helping these men save their marriages and become the best men, fathers, and husbands they can be.  In this episode, discover Doug’s advice for both men and women about how to better handle conflict, restore love to a stagnant marriage, and bring that spark back.    Key Takeaways: [2:52] Doug's story & what brought him to this work [5:54] Common frustrations of dads & the suicide epidemic [9:43] 2 common responses to conflict [14:25] Why many couples go from lovers to roommates [15:41] An explanation of DEER mode & why men sometimes fall into this [18:32] How couples can restore love to a stagnant marriage [21:26] How women can bring up this topic with their husbands [23:32] Quick things men or women can do to bring that spark back [26:50] The hidden motives technique   Memorable Moments: "Marriage actually takes a lot of work. It's not just a checkbox thing." "I felt like I had a roommate with a ring, rather than a wife. And my wife felt the same way. But of course, we didn't know how to communicate that. We lay six inches apart but were six miles away emotionally." "Men, just as much as women, want that connection." “Suicide is the #2 cause of death for men.”  "There's a lot of men that are in this lifestyle of quiet desperation, and what they want more than anything is to be an amazing father." "Often I hear, 'I feel like a stranger in my own home.'" "The only people I've talked to that have perfect marriages are liars...If you've never had a problem in your marriage, that's a problem." "You deserve more than average. This is your life...so don't wait for things to happen. Take action." "Your energy matters when you bring it into the home." "A wife wants to be seen, heard, and desired." “Get to know your partner–who they are today. What are their dreams today? What are their fears?...You married this person for a reason.”   How to Connect with Doug Holt Website: https://www.thepowerfulman.com/    Dana Kay Resources: Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/mycompany/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute    International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/  Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl   ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/