ADHD Chatter

Clinical psychologist, therapist and ADHD expert Dr Jacob Ambrose returns to explore what a dysregulated nervous system really looks like, why anxiety and hypervigilance can become your normal, and what happens when you finally begin to feel safe.

We discuss why rest can initially feel uncomfortable, the difference between being perceptive and hypervigilant, why rejection can feel so personal, and a difficult question: if fear has powered you for most of your life, what replaces it when you begin to heal?

Chapters:

01:14 What does ‘healing your nervous system’ actually mean

02:17 What does a dysregulated nervous system actually look like

04:50 Why healing makes you feel worse to start with

06:21 The first rule of healing

08:06 The big emotions that come with healing

12:23 How healing reduces anxiety and makes you less productive

17:42 If your life has been powered by fear, what replaces it

19:31 How can you feel exhausted but not realise

21:10 Restorative solitude vs unhealthy isolation

23:55 Tiimo advert

25:30 The early warning signs of a dysregulated nervous system

29:22 Why reason leaves you when you’re triggered

32:51 When rejection stops feeling so personal

37:23 The difference between being perceptive and hypervigilant

38:51 Are you healing when things that bothered you no longer do

41:42 Healing from narcissistic abuse

47:37 Advice for anyone who’s trying to heal

48:49 A letter to my younger self

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Producer: Timon Woodward

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

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Professor Gina Rippon is a revolutionary Autism specialist . Having written multiple books on the topic, Gina Rippon PHD shares the ultimate guide to spotting autism in high masking autistic women.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

01:19 How Autism Can Be Hidden — Even From Yourself

03:25 Are You Socialising… or Performing?

05:10 Masking Can Start Earlier Than You Think

07:20 Why Making Friends Can Feel So Hard

09:53 The “Contradictory” Personality Nobody Understands

11:35 What Are Autistic Girls Trying to Hide?

15:25 How Masking Affects Romantic Relationships

20:58 What Happens When You Can’t Mask Anymore

22:25 The Hidden Cost of Masking for Years

24:19 How Much Are You Actually Masking?

27:58 Tiimo advert

29:17 How ADHD Can Hide Autism in Women

34:25 Can You Accidentally Mask During an Autism Assessment?

37:01 The Dangerous Side of People-Pleasing

38:28 The Questions Autism Assessments SHOULD Ask

39:42 What I Wish Every Autistic Woman Knew

41:17 Why Autism Can Look Like OCD

43:07 A Letter to My Younger Self

46:00 Focused survey read

Find Gina on LinkedIn 👉 https://uk.linkedin.com/in/gina-rippon-33287819

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Focused are running a new survey and a prize draw giveaway, where you can win £150 in Amazon vouchers just for taking part.

It's just 5 simple questions about how ADHD affected you (or affects you now) at college and university.

Take the survey here. 👉 https://uk.focused.clinic/adhd-education-survey/quiz

It's open to anyone living with ADHD aged 18 or over.

(The results from their previous survey about ADHD & health are in too -- results here 👉 https://uk.focused.clinic/myhub/adhd-health-survey-results )

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Producer: Timon Woodward

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Why does something as simple as replying to an email, doing the washing or starting a task feel almost impossible with ADHD?

In this episode, leading ADHD advocate Hester Grainger reveals what’s really happening inside the ADHD brain when we procrastinate, and shares 4 practical, brain-based ways to finally get started.

We also explore dopamine, motivation, shame, and what happens when years of struggling begin to change the way you see yourself.

If you’ve ever called yourself lazy because you knew what you needed to do but still couldn’t do it, this episode is for you.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

01:57 Why Your ADHD Brain Just Can’t Start

07:06 Dopamine Explained Simply

10:14 The First ADHD Hack That Gets You Moving

13:57 The Second Hack: Make Your Brain Care

17:13 The Brutal Things ADHD Makes You Believe About Yourself

20:18 When ADHD Turns Into Shame

21:43 When Procrastination Becomes Your Identity

24:01 Tiimo advert

25:20 The Third Hack: Why Pressure Actually Works

30:34 The Fourth Hack: The ADHD Motivation Switch

33:38 A Letter to My Younger Self

Visit Hester’s website 👉 https://www.perfectlyautistic.co.uk

Find Hester on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/hestersvibe/

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Producer: Timon Woodward

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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Dr Judith Mohring is an award winning Cambridge-educated psychiatrist and psychotherapist specialising in ADHD, autism and mental health. In this episode, she explores why understanding yourself doesn’t always lead to healing, how overthinking can become a form of emotional avoidance, and what it really takes to reconnect with yourself after years of masking.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

02:13 “I don’t know who I really am”

03:54 Why understanding yourself doesn’t always lead to healing

08:09 Why you can understand your brain and still feel trapped

10:15 When analysing yourself stops you feeling

12:06 Analysing emotions vs processing them

16:34 Why ADHD can make therapy harder

19:26 Why ADHD brains analyse themselves so deeply

23:07 When hyperfocus turns inward

24:32 How masking disconnects you from yourself

28:21 Tiimo advert

29:49 Why years of therapy can leave you feeling the same

31:17 When therapy becomes another intellectual exercise

35:41 Where does healing actually begin?

36:33 Interoception: learning to feel what’s happening inside

38:59 How a therapist helps you feel safe

40:25 How ADHD and autistic people begin to heal

46:01 How to stop analysing and start feeling

47:18 How do you know if you’re healing?

49:09 The Washing Machine of Woes

49:52 Finding yourself after decades of masking

51:02 Do you find your true self — or create it?

53:00 Is overthinking a form of emotional avoidance?

54:05 A letter to my younger self

Visit Judith’s website 👉 https://www.thenaturalpsychiatrist.com

Find Judith on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/adhded.with.drjudith/

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Producer: Timon Woodward

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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In this episode, I sit down with award-winning psychiatrist Dr Asif Bachlani to explore what it really feels like to live with both ADHD and autism.

We uncover 5 hidden signs of masking AuDHD, the contradictions that can make life feel exhausting, the loneliness of feeling different, and the emotional impact of receiving a diagnosis later in life.

Dr Asif also shares the assessment he’ll never forget, and the true cost of spending years hiding who you really are.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

01:56 Why Dr Asif Bachlani Dedicated His Life to ADHD & Autism

04:22 The Patient Who Changed Everything for Dr Asif

07:02 What Neurodivergent People Can Teach Us About Being Human

08:39 The Sentence Dr Asif Hears After Almost Every Diagnosis

12:58 The Hidden Grief of a Late ADHD or Autism Diagnosis

16:47 The Contradictions of Living With AuDHD

21:04 What People With AuDHD Fear Being Judged For

24:52 Is Masking a Choice — or Does It Happen Automatically?

27:05 The AuDHD Assessment Dr Asif Will Never Forget

36:43 Why AuDHD Can Feel So Incredibly Lonely

41:21 Tiimo advert

43:05 Sign #1 You’re Masking AuDHD

45:40 Sign #2 You’re Masking AuDHD

48:19 Sign #3 You’re Masking AuDHD

50:25 Sign #4 You’re Masking AuDHD

53:29 The True Cost of Never Unmasking

01:02:11 Sign #5 You’re Masking AuDHD

01:02:54 Washing Machine of Woes: Your Questions Answered

01:05:24 A Letter to My Younger Self

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Producer: Timon Woodward

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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