ADHD Chatter

Why do so many people with ADHD spend their lives trying to earn their worth? How do you know if you're masking? And why do even the most successful ADHD adults still feel like they're failing?

In this episode, ADHD coach and former British Army soldier Rich Forbes explains the hidden emotional burden of ADHD, how to spot masking, practical strategies for managing rejection sensitivity, and why the right environment can change everything. Before becoming an ADHD coach, Rich served for eight years in the British Army, bringing a unique perspective on resilience, identity, and what it really takes to thrive with ADHD.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

03:33 Why ADHD Makes You Feel You Have to Earn Your Worth

05:00 The Hidden Cost of Constantly Proving Yourself

07:53 The Moment Everything Finally Made Sense

09:10 The Saddest Thing People With ADHD Tell Themselves

10:16 The Grief Nobody Warns You About After ADHD Diagnosis

11:01 Why ADHD Diagnosis Hurts Differently at Every Age

17:00 How to Tell If You've Been Masking Your Entire Life

18:54 Maybe You're Not the Problem, Maybe It's Your Environment

21:04 Is Masking ADHD's Biggest Challenge?

25:06 What Years of Masking Really Costs You

28:22 The Emotional Weight ADHD Adults Carry Every Day

31:37 Tiimo Advert

32:56 How to Calm Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

34:52 A New ADHD Hack That Changes Everything

38:52 Why Success Never Feels Like Enough With ADHD

40:16 The Advice Every ADHD Adult Needs to Hear

42:33 The One Thing ADHD Adults Need to Stop Blaming Themselves For

48:03 Why Successful Women With ADHD Still Feel Like Failures

54:46 The Biggest Myth About ADHD in Women

58:18 A Letter to My Younger Self

Find Rich on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/richforbes_adhdcoach

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Producer: Timon Woodward

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

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Dr Khurram is a world-renowned, award-winning psychiatrist and the author of Explaining AuDHD.

In this episode, he explains what AuDHD (Autism + ADHD) really feels like beyond the diagnostic labels, why so many people spend years masking their traits, and the emotional cost of living without understanding themselves.

We explore the hidden signs of AuDHD, why so many people feel broken, misunderstood, and lonely, how an AuDHD diagnosis can transform relationships and identity, and what it truly takes to stop masking and start thriving.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

01:43 The AuDHD contradiction nobody talks about

04:14 What people with AuDHD are terrified of being judged for

06:29 The AuDHD assessment Dr Khurram will never forget

07:37 What almost every AuDHD adult blames themselves for

08:32 Why so many people with AuDHD think they're a bad friend

10:01 The hidden danger of never finding your AuDHD tribe

10:34 Why masking AuDHD is so exhausting

13:43 The most heartbreaking part of living with AuDHD

16:22 Why loneliness feels different with AuDHD

19:10 Why partners often misunderstand AuDHD

22:07 Tiimo advert

23:59 5 hidden signs you're masking AuDHD

25:03 How an AuDHD diagnosis changes relationships

30:13 The moment you realise your whole life was masking

34:45 What AuDHD burnout really feels like

36:45 The true cost of never unmasking AuDHD

39:08 Stop fighting your AuDHD brain

40:56 Why so many people with AuDHD believe they're broken

45:07 If you were diagnosed late, you need to hear this

45:42 The hardest part of living with AuDHD

47:10 A letter to my younger self

Dr Khurram on LinkedIn 👉 https://uk.linkedin.com/in/dr-khurram-sadiq

Dr Khurram’s book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Explaining-AuDHD-Guide-Autism-ADHD/dp/1804369489

Dr Khurram on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/fomosapien666/?hl=en

Book to see Dr Khurram in clinic for an ADHD assessment 👉 https://adhdhealthclinic.co.uk/adhd-treatment-options/in-person-adhd-assessment/

For an Autism assessment 👉 https://adhdhealthclinic.co.uk/autism/in-person-autism-assessment/

For a combined ADHD and autism assessment 👉 https://adhdhealthclinic.co.uk/autism/in-person-combined-autism-adhd-assessment/

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Buy Alex's book entitled 'Now It All Makes Sense' 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Now-All-Makes-Sense-Diagnosis/dp/1399817817

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Producer: Timon Woodward 

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Ella McCrystal is a psychotherapist and trauma specialist who helps people understand how early life experiences shape the nervous system, self-worth, relationships, and the way we move through the world.

Together we explore the hidden link between ADHD, trauma, masking, rejection sensitivity (RSD), and why so many people with ADHD feel like they have to become someone else just to be accepted. We also discuss how trauma can make ADHD symptoms feel even more overwhelming, why masking is often a survival response, and what healing can actually look like.

If you've ever wondered who you really are beneath the mask, this episode is for you.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

01:16 How do you separate who you are from who you've had to become to survive?

04:02 The childhood experiences that teach people to mask

13:18 Why ADHD can make you more vulnerable to abuse

17:10 How trauma can intensify rejection sensitivity (RSD)

21:29 Why rejection hurts people with ADHD so deeply

23:49 How to calm your nervous system when RSD is triggered

30:07 Tiimo advert

31:26 Is masking actually a survival response?

36:01 What happens when you finally stop masking

37:55 Why masking leaves so many people feeling lonely

40:42 How to find your people and stop feeling alone

44:32 The one thing people with ADHD need to stop apologising for

47:53 The biggest lie people with ADHD have been taught about themselves

52:11 The message every person with ADHD needs to hear

54:05 A letter to my younger self

Visit Ella’s website 👉 https://ellamccrystal.com

Find Ella on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/ellamccrystal/

Get 30% off an annual Tiimo subscription 👉 https://www.tiimoapp.com/offers/adhdchatter

Buy Alex's book entitled 'Now It All Makes Sense' 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Now-All-Makes-Sense-Diagnosis/dp/1399817817

Order Alex’s latest book about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria 👉 https://linktr.ee/adhdchatter?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=9ffd8709-06df-444c-9936-c136fbd14d6e

Producer: Timon Woodward 

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Dr Sarah Warley is an Oxford-educated psychologist who discusses evidence-based ways to manage ADHD. By examining the scientific literature, she suggests 3 ways to supercharge your ADHD.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer 

01:19 How zinc and copper affect ADHD

04:11 Specific foods that help with zinc and copper deficiency

05:45 What it really feels like to live with ADHD

07:36 What actually helps a ADHD brain become regulated

09:21 How The Moro Reflex Helps ADHD Brains

14:32 What parts of ADHD cause the most shame

17:28 How RSD can be improved with supplementation

19:09 The unique ADHD experience of loneliness

21:06 Tiimo advert

23:52 Why masking feels safer than showing your true self

26:21 What are the long term consequences of masking

32:22 Audience question: diet tips for ADHD brain

33:57 Any tips to manage the challenging traits of autism

35:33 Any diet tips for someone with ADHD going through menopause

37:10 A letter to my younger self

Visit The Key Clinic 👉 https://www.thekeyclinic.co.uk

Get 30% off an annual Tiimo subscription 👉 https://www.tiimoapp.com/offers/adhdchatter

Buy Alex's book entitled 'Now It All Makes Sense' 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Now-All-Makes-Sense-Diagnosis/dp/1399817817

Order Alex’s latest book about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria 👉 https://linktr.ee/adhdchatter?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=9ffd8709-06df-444c-9936-c136fbd14d6e

Producer: Timon Woodward 

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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ADHD Love are a neurodivergent married couple and global internet phenomenon with millions of followers online. But this is a side of Rich and Rox you’ve never seen before.

In one of their most honest conversations yet, they open up about the reality of navigating ADHD, autism, masking, intimacy, alcohol, marriage, and the challenges that come with being a neurodivergent couple. We discuss whether ADHD and autism have ever put a strain on their relationship, how their traits clash behind closed doors, Rich’s autism diagnosis, whether either of them could actually be AuDHD, the ups and downs of planning a wedding, and the surprising theory that changed how they understand themselves.

This is a raw and revealing conversation about love, diagnosis, identity, and what it really takes to make a neurodivergent relationship work.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

01:40 Has ADHD & Autism Ever Strained Their Marriage?

07:27 When ADHD & Autism Clash

15:21 Rich's Autism Diagnosis Story

17:05 The Autism Traits Hidden in Plain Sight

18:35 Did Rich Use Alcohol to Mask?

19:01 Life After Dropping the Mask

20:05 Has Rich Changed Since His Diagnosis?

24:03 Is Rox Actually AuDHD?

31:53 Is Rich Actually AuDHD?

38:26 Tiimo Advert

39:45 Planning a Wedding as a Neurodivergent Couple

43:23 Breaking the Silence on Intimacy

49:50 Rox's HRT Journey

58:28 The Cherry Tree Theory Explained

01:13:45 Biggest Secrets & Quickfire Questions

01:22:19 Audience Questions

01:28:42 A Letter to My Younger Self

Buy The Cherry Tree Theory 👉 https://linktr.ee/ADHD_Love

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Producer: Timon Woodward 

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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