Building Resilience

Have you ever lost your temper with your child and felt that crushing wave of guilt hit you right after? Maybe you yelled, said something you didn't mean, or completely lost control, and now you are wondering if you have done lasting damage to your relationship?

This week on the Building Resilience Podcast, we are sharing an episode from Pam Howard's podcast, Less Drama More Mama, as part of our May Mental Health Awareness Month podcast swap series. Pam gets radically honest about two of her own parenting meltdowns spanning 13 years apart, and more importantly, what she did differently the second time around.

This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is not about being perfect. It is about learning how to move through rupture with self-compassion, accountability, and the courage to reconnect.

We will explore:
Why parenting meltdowns happen even to the most trained and experienced professionals
How shame keeps you isolated, disconnected, and more likely to repeat the cycle
The difference between staying stuck in guilt versus getting curious about your behavior
Living in "the gap vs. the gain" and how it reshapes how you see yourself as a parent
What a genuine repair looks like after a moment of lost control
Why self-forgiveness after a meltdown is not optional, it is essential

About Pam Howard
Pam Howard is a licensed clinical social worker, master certified life coach, somatic relational practitioner, bestselling author, and host of the Less Drama More Mama podcast. She helps moms trade overwhelm and reactivity for calm, connection, and confidence. Find her at lessdramamoremama.com or follow her on Instagram at @lessdramamama.

Connect with Pam Howard
Website: lessdramamoremama.com
Podcast on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/less-drama-more-mama/id1434208271
Instagram: instagram.com/lessdramamama

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MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:
1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj

2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SET
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Have you ever held on to something long past the point it was serving you, because giving up felt like failure?

This week on Building Resilience, Leah shares an episode from therapist and parent educator Dawn Friedman, host of Tell Me It Will Be Okay. Part of a Mental Health Awareness Month podcast swap series, this episode explores a concept that might change the way you parent, heal, and relate to yourself: judicious giving up. With over 30 years of experience supporting children, teens, and families, Dawn brings a warm, research-informed perspective on why knowing when and how to let go is one of the most powerful skills a parent can develop.

She’ll explore:
Why "giving up" is not the same as failing and when it's actually the wisest move
How holding on too tightly to outcomes can fuel anxiety in both parents and children
The role of connection in creating lasting change in families
How to manage your own anxiety while supporting an anxious child
Why releasing unhelpful strategies opens the door to what actually works

About Dawn Friedman, MSEd
Dawn Friedman, MSEd, is the founder of Open Book Parenting, an online education and coaching platform for parents of anxious children and teens. A licensed clinical counselor, she has more than 30 years of experience working with children and families in educational, clinical, and community settings. Her background spans roles as a preschool teacher, school-age site director, family case manager, parent educator, and clinical counselor. She also holds post-graduate certification in Infant-Toddler Mental Health and has been featured on ABC Nightline and Good Morning America.
Her podcast, Tell Me It Will Be Okay, is the go-to conversation for parents of anxious kids who have read all the books, listened to all the experts, and still feel like something is missing.

Connect with Dawn:
Website: openbookparenting.com
Podcast on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tell-me-it-will-be-ok/id1550503858
YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCzfj0tNQJnJvzg9FHDKHgpw
Newsletter: openbookparenting.kit.com/497c86cec7
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dawnfriedmanmsed

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COMMUNITY
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Join here: https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1

MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:
1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj

2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SET
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/2mANQs4

3) WORRY TIME PAD : http://bit.ly/3QSvyv1

LET'S STAY CONNECTED

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Do you ever find yourself (or your teen) avoiding things, not because they don’t matter, but because they feel uncomfortable?

In this special collaborative episode for Mental Health Awareness Month, Leah shares a powerful conversation from The Teen Anxiety Maze hosted by Cynthia Coufal, and it’s one that might just shift how you think about avoidance, motivation, and success.

What if avoidance isn’t laziness… but a nervous system trying to protect you from discomfort?

Cynthia breaks down how avoidance patterns form, why they feel so relieving in the moment (but keep us stuck long-term), and how both teens and parents can begin to gently move toward discomfort instead of away from it.

You’ll learn how small mindset shifts—like changing “I have to” into “I choose to”, can create powerful internal change, and how helping kids tolerate discomfort is actually one of the greatest gifts we can give them.

This episode is a reminder that resilience isn’t about eliminating discomfort… it’s about learning how to move through it.

Key Takeaways:
Avoidance is a way to escape discomfort, but it keeps problems going
The feeling you avoid will come back later
“I don’t care” is often a form of protection
Success requires doing things you don’t feel like doing
Changing “I have to” to “I choose to” can shift your mindset
Motivation grows when you connect actions to what you want
Supporting avoidance can reinforce anxiety in kids
Growth happens when you move toward discomfort
Kids learn resilience by watching you
Change happens when you follow through, even when it’s hard

About Cynthia Coufal
Cynthia Coufal is a school counsellor and teen anxiety coach with over 25 years of experience. She helps teens and parents understand anxiety and build confidence through practical tools.

🌐 Website: www.cynthiacoufalcoaching.com
🎧 Podcast: https://podfollow.com/the-teen-anxiety-maze
📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9WBijdxeYpQSekM7RZYvA

LINKS AND RESOURCES:

COMMUNITY
MIDLIFE NERVOUS SYSTEM REWIRE COMMUNITY 👑: A low pressure, fun community for “Queenagers” to regulate, not fix, their midlife nervous systems.
Join here: https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1

MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:
1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj

2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SET
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/2mANQs4

LET'S STAY CONNECTED

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Ever find yourself spiraling even when part of you knows it's not as bad as it feels? This episode breaks down the neuroscience behind why your nervous system stays stuck in threat mode, why suppression makes it worse, and why willpower alone will never override a body that still thinks it's in danger.
You'll also walk away with 10 practical, evidence-based tools that work with your nervous system instead of against it, from breathing techniques to reframing strategies, so you can start moving through pain instead of getting buried under it.

Key Takeaways
Catastrophizing is a nervous system response, not a willpower problem.
Suppressing pain keeps your stress response running even when it looks contained.
You cannot think your way out of a stress response; you have to come through the body first.
Simply naming your emotions activates a different part of the brain and reduces emotional intensity.
You don't need to wait until the pain is gone to start moving forward.

LINKS AND RESOURCES:

COMMUNITY
MIDLIFE NERVOUS SYSTEM REWIRE COMMUNITY 👑: A low pressure, fun community for “Queenagers” to regulate, not fix, their midlife nervous systems.
Join here: https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1

MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:
1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj

2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SET
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/2mANQs4

LET'S STAY CONNECTED

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Most of us aren't just dealing with the hard thing in front of us. We're dealing with the hard thing plus every story, prediction, and identity conclusion our brain has stacked on top of it, and that second layer is usually what's doing the most damage. In this episode, you'll learn the difference between clean pain and dirty pain, why your brain builds one on top of the other, and why that has nothing to do with weakness or failure. Understanding why this happens is the first step to actually getting unstuck.
From the fear avoidance loop to the five sneaky ways dirty pain disguises itself, this episode gives you a clear framework for recognizing what's real pain and what's the story your nervous system is treating as danger. Whether you're navigating a health scare, a midlife transition, grief, or just a season of feeling less like yourself, this episode will change how you relate to your own experience.

Key Takeaways:
Your brain is a prediction machine wired for survival, not happiness, and it cannot always tell the difference between a real threat and an emotional one.
Clean pain is the real, legitimate pain of what happened; dirty pain is the layer of stories, predictions, and identity conclusions your brain builds on top of it.
Avoidance feels protective but actually reinforces the belief that you can't handle pain, creating more distress than the original experience would have.
Dirty pain disguises itself as catastrophizing, comparison, identity conclusions, arguing with reality, and future predictions.
The answer to dirty pain is not to think your way out of it, but to actually feel the clean pain without adding the second layer.

LINKS AND RESOURCES:

COMMUNITY
MIDLIFE NERVOUS SYSTEM REWIRE COMMUNITY 👑: A low pressure, fun community for “Queenagers” to regulate, not fix, their midlife nervous systems.
Join here: https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1

MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:
1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj

2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SET
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/2mANQs4

3) WORRY TIME PAD AND PROGRAM :
Amazon US

LET'S STAY CONNECTED

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