This week, Dan talks about his struggles with maintaining a positive mindset during his nearly eight months of sobriety. He discusses the importance of spending time with oneself in their own mind, and how difficult it can be to listen to the noise and untangle it. He also touches on the challenges of dealing with oneself 100% and accepting life for what it is, even when it's difficult. Despite the struggles, he emphasizes the importance of keeping a positive perspective and mindset. KEY TAKEAWAYS  Dan shares how he has been busy shooting a feature film, which has prevented him from getting in the studio for a guest interview.  He takes the opportunity to connect with his listeners and talk about mindset, sobriety, and accepting life for what it is.  He discusses how the most challenging part of his sobriety journey has been dealing with himself and his own mind.  He emphasizes the importance of spending time with oneself and untangling the noise in one's mind.   BEST MOMENTS    00:04:32 - "When you put work into yourself and you show that your mind, your thoughts, your habits and your desires don't control you, you get a sense of pride." 00:08:40 - "The key to it all really is perspective. That is the key to everything." 00:10:52 - "Pleasure is not happiness. Pride is happiness." 00:15:43 - "If you're drinking and you're getting anxiety and then you're drinking to get rid of the anxiety, you are stuck in a trap” 00:21:25 - "The key to your happiness is working on your mindset."     CONTACT METHOD Instagram Facebook Twitter     ABOUT THE HOST Daniel O’Reilly Daniel O’Reilly is one of the UK’s Largest Influencers, a comedian, actor, musician, viral video star and social influencer. With a portfolio of businesses Daniel enjoys a busy lifestyle mixed with business and pleasure. Daniel is a father to two beautiful girls and enjoys spending quality time with them and his wife Shelley. With 2022 being a busy year, Daniel sold out his O2 stand-up show, released his British movie 'The Last Heist'  and is currently preparing for the upcoming release of his other film 'Miss The Kiss'. Daniel is a creative through and through, with a passion to strive in everything he does. Daniel is looking forward to the release of his podcast 'Menace 2 Sobriety' in 2023, his long-term position on GB News, Headliners, and the growing slate of films in the works with his production company, HYPRR.    PODCAST DESCRIPTION   Daniel O'Reilly's newest venture sees the creation of his Menace 2 Sobriety podcast, a series of relaxed and open conversations with different guests and varied experiences.    After recently being diagnosed with severe ADHD and beginning his sobriety again, Daniel also set up a page on Facebook and Instagram called 'Men And Their Emotions' (M.A.T.E) an accessible, open and supportive group for MEN to post their feelings, thoughts and current life issues. Upon seeing the responses from men around the world to some of the posts on the group he was blown away and continues to be touched by the kindness and support offered by strangers. This all led to Daniel wanting to start up his own podcast and invite guests to join him in opening up about past experiences and talk about all things mental health, family & sobriety.    The podcast will see Daniel and his interesting guests' sharing their personal stories and learning experiences that they hope will help other people; whether it encourages one person to ask for help, talk to family about their struggles with getting sober/clean, or realise that they aren't alone. The Menace 2 Sobriety podcast has been created by Daniel to help people fight their own gremlins.      Sobriety Podcast #wedorecover # recoveroutloud #addicitonrecovery #addiction #recoverytok #sobriety #sober #sobertiktok #sobertok #soberlife #sobercurious #soberliving: https://www.instagram.com/dappersinstagram/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

John Bygraves is a speaker, healer and leader and Joins Dan to share his emotional and inspiring story of beating cancer and reinventing his approach to life. After being diagnosed with cancer in 2017 John took full responsibility for his health and life and embarked on a spiritual healing journey including everything from meditation to fasting. He now shares the knowledge and wisdom he learnt through his experiences with others to help them heal themselves and live life to their full potential. CHECK OUT DAPPERS upcoming tour for 2024! https://mailchi.mp/ace6a476059d/9gd0kepamf?fbclid=PAAaaXZR8FL3fSrSgJtW0d5MGmbiACX1wz9siu18hKKMOrqDP60nPPpalRk24 KEY TAKEAWAYS  In 2017 John was diagnosed with a very rare stage 4 cancer. He had 7 tumours in his head and neck area and his prognosis wasn’t good. This external appearance of the cancer meant that John became a recluse, not working or leaving the house. After some traumatic diagnostic tests and past research into traditional cancer treatments such as radiotherapy, John began to seek alternative solutions for his problems via alternative therapies. John takes full responsibility for his mental and physical health and he believes that what you focus on is what you manifest. Diet changes, fasting, meditation, cannabis oil were all things John embraced in order to prepare his body to fight the cancer. The diligent work John was doing outside of traditional cancer treatments is what he believes made the difference, what cured his terminal diagnosis as he was treating the root cause. John believes that his cancer was caused by how he was living his life and the anger he felt at the world and many people around him. His mentality was toxic.   BEST MOMENTS  “They gave me 3 months to live” “I’ve been called a bit of a fruit loop in my past” “You become what you focus on the most” “Don’t put your life into other people's hands, take responsibility for your own health and do what you can because otherwise, you’re just a victim” “When your body is in a fasting state your immune system is at its optimal level” “Forgiveness is a gift for yourself”   VALUABLE RESOURCES CONTACT METHOD Instagram Facebook Twitter   ABOUT THE GUEST John Bygraves has been dubbed a Stage 4 Cancer Warrior & Wounded Maverick Healer, guiding individuals to reset the internal terrain for the body, mind and spirit to thrive. An inspirational leader in enlightening people of who they are at their core nature and waking them up to their true power.   In 2017 John was diagnosed with a rare form of stage 4 cancer, and 3 months after the diagnosis he was told he had 3 months to live, at which point he decided that he was going to rewrite the way his story was going to be and started on a journey of healing. John decided to take full responsibility and take his power back by taking his health into his own hands and delved deep into a mental, physical, emotional & spiritual powerfully transformational healing journey spanning over six years. His passion is to share all the knowledge and wisdom gained on his healing journey to help others realise their body’s healing potential.   ABOUT THE HOST Daniel O’Reilly Daniel O’Reilly is one of the UK’s Largest Influencers, a comedian, actor, musician, viral video star and social influencer. With a portfolio of businesses Daniel enjoys a busy lifestyle mixed with business and pleasure. Daniel is a father to two beautiful girls and enjoys spending quality time with them and his wife Shelley. With 2022 being a busy year, Daniel sold out his O2 stand-up show, released his British movie 'The Last Heist'  and is currently preparing for the upcoming release of his other film 'Miss The Kiss'. Daniel is a creative through and through, with a passion to strive in everything he does. Daniel is looking forward to the release of his podcast 'Menace 2 Sobriety' in 2023, his long-term position on GB News, Headliners, and the growing slate of films in the works with his production company, HYPRR.    PODCAST DESCRIPTION   Daniel O'Reilly's newest venture sees the creation of his Menace 2 Sobriety podcast, a series of relaxed and open conversations with different guests and varied experiences.    After recently being diagnosed with severe ADHD and beginning his sobriety again, Daniel also set up a page on Facebook and Instagram called 'Men And Their Emotions' (M.A.T.E) an accessible, open and supportive group for MEN to post their feelings, thoughts and current life issues. Upon seeing the responses from men around the world to some of the posts on the group he was blown away and continues to be touched by the kindness and support offered by strangers. This all led to Daniel wanting to start up his own podcast and invite guests to join him in opening up about past experiences and talk about all things mental health, family & sobriety.    The podcast will see Daniel and his interesting guests' sharing their personal stories and learning experiences that they hope will help other people; whether it encourages one person to ask for help, talk to family about their struggles with getting sober/clean, or realise that they aren't alone. The Menace 2 Sobriety podcast has been created by Daniel to help people fight their own gremlins.Sobriety Podcast #wedorecover # recoveroutloud #addicitonrecovery #addiction #recoverytok #sobriety #sober #sobertiktok #sobertok #soberlife #sobercurious #soberliving: https://www.instagram.com/dappersinstagram/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ben Taylor is a magician and has even appeared on Britain's Got Talent and toured with the likes of Paul Weller and The Libertines. He joins Dan to talk about his self-destructive relationship with alcohol and drugs and what lead him to become sober almost a year ago today. Ben and Dan also discuss the relationship between performing and addiction, the unique struggles of the early stages of going sober as well as the clarity and honesty that sobriety brings to your life. CHECK OUT DAPPERS upcoming tour for 2024! https://mailchi.mp/ace6a476059d/9gd0kepamf?fbclid=PAAaaXZR8FL3fSrSgJtW0d5MGmbiACX1wz9siu18hKKMOrqDP60nPPpalRk24 KEY TAKEAWAYS  Ben started magic at a young age alongside football. When he stopped playing football he fully put himself into his magic career and also began drinking. Separating his true self, Ben Taylor from his stage self, Magic Mod was difficult, people often didn’t see Ben for his true self and that’s when the drinking started. Performing on stage gives such a high, it can be very difficult to replicate and searching for the feeling often results in alcohol and drug abuse. Touring with rock acts such as the Libertines left Ben feeling like he had a reputation to live up to and his addiction began to spiral. Sobriety brings clarity but this can only come when you are honest with yourself and admit you have a problem. It takes a lot to admit to others and yourself the mistakes you have made when you have been struggling with addiction, but you have to do this to be able to move forward with your life. The beginning of sobriety has its own challenges, physically through chemical imbalances in your brain to the emotions that come with realising the bad things you have done. Ben’s addiction got so bad that his partner told him to choose between alcohol and drugs and her. After this ultimatum and after having a disastrous performance, he made the decision to do the work to become sober.   BEST MOMENTS  “The beginning of sobriety is so hard” “It’s 10% magic and the rest is patter” “No one gave a fuck about who Ben Taylor is, that’s where the addiction started” “By me caring what people thought of me almost fucking ruined me” “It’s like reality wasn’t good enough” “That band, The Libertines giving me that chance and that platform, forever they will be brothers to me” “The maddest thing about sobriety is the clarity you get after” “Mistakes are the only way we learn, try not to harbour that guilt too much”   VALUABLE RESOURCES https://www.instagram.com/themagicmod https://themagicmod.com/q-and-a/ CONTACT METHOD Instagram Facebook Twitter   ABOUT THE GUEST     ABOUT THE HOST Daniel O’Reilly Daniel O’Reilly is one of the UK’s Largest Influencers, a comedian, actor, musician, viral video star and social influencer. With a portfolio of businesses Daniel enjoys a busy lifestyle mixed with business and pleasure. Daniel is a father to two beautiful girls and enjoys spending quality time with them and his wife Shelley. With 2022 being a busy year, Daniel sold out his O2 stand-up show, released his British movie 'The Last Heist'  and is currently preparing for the upcoming release of his other film 'Miss The Kiss'. Daniel is a creative through and through, with a passion to strive in everything he does. Daniel is looking forward to the release of his podcast 'Menace 2 Sobriety' in 2023, his long-term position on GB News, Headliners, and the growing slate of films in the works with his production company, HYPRR.    PODCAST DESCRIPTION   Daniel O'Reilly's newest venture sees the creation of his Menace 2 Sobriety podcast, a series of relaxed and open conversations with different guests and varied experiences.    After recently being diagnosed with severe ADHD and beginning his sobriety again, Daniel also set up a page on Facebook and Instagram called 'Men And Their Emotions' (M.A.T.E) an accessible, open and supportive group for MEN to post their feelings, thoughts and current life issues. Upon seeing the responses from men around the world to some of the posts on the group he was blown away and continues to be touched by the kindness and support offered by strangers. This all led to Daniel wanting to start up his own podcast and invite guests to join him in opening up about past experiences and talk about all things mental health, family & sobriety.    The podcast will see Daniel and his interesting guests' sharing their personal stories and learning experiences that they hope will help other people; whether it encourages one person to ask for help, talk to family about their struggles with getting sober/clean, or realise that they aren't alone. The Menace 2 Sobriety podcast has been created by Daniel to help people fight their own gremlins.        Sobriety Podcast #wedorecover # recoveroutloud #addicitonrecovery #addiction #recoverytok #sobriety #sober #sobertiktok #sobertok #soberlife #sobercurious #soberliving: https://www.instagram.com/dappersinstagram/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

William Armstrong is a sober coach and also someone that Dan first started following and taking inspiration from early on in his journey to sobriety. He joins the podcast to talk through his own journey to sobriety and reveals why being an addict is so dangerous but not for the reasons you might think, why the sobriety community is so important and why it took going sober for him to really start living his life. CHECK OUT DAPPERS upcoming tour for 2024! https://mailchi.mp/ace6a476059d/9gd0kepamf?fbclid=PAAaaXZR8FL3fSrSgJtW0d5MGmbiACX1wz9siu18hKKMOrqDP60nPPpalRk24 KEY TAKEAWAYS  Becoming sober opens up a new world, you begin to relate to completely different people and often it’s people who have faced similar difficulties as yourself. As a teen William suffered from social anxiety, binge drinking offered a solution to this and this is when his problem with addiction began. William tried cocaine with friends and discovered that the high it gave was even better than drinking and masked his anxiety even more, he saw it as a positive, it made his life better. The difficulty with trying to limit your consumption as an addict is that you have to make that decision after already consuming some alcohol or drugs which essentially makes it impossible. You can’t be an addict in moderation. As an addict you put yourself in dangerous situations again and again, becoming sober makes you realise how risky your past behaviour has been. William was living in a world of indulgence, where excess was normalised, which meant he didn’t realise how bad his addiction had got. The difficulty for William wasn’t not drinking or doing drugs anymore but what to replace them with. When you hide your struggles it can then be difficult to open up about them to people as they don’t always believe you, they have only seen the face you have been putting on. If you have become sober and want to help others, you can’t tell them what to do, you can only guide them.   BEST MOMENTS  “ When you go on a journey you get drawn to people that are on a similar journey, it helps you” “I can see that you’ve been through something and you’re on the other side” “I was drinking, high or hungover, that’s it” “There’s such a disregard for your own safety” “I know I’m never going to drink again because it’s not an option” “When you hide it, when it becomes too much no one believes you”   VALUABLE RESOURCES https://www.instagram.com/teetotaltrainer/ https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-teetotal-trail-how-to-break-free-from-alcohol/id1652272264   CONTACT METHOD Instagram Facebook Twitter   ABOUT THE GUEST William Armstrong   “I stopped drinking back in May of 2018 so coming up to 5 years now. I was working in restaurants, bars and hotels in London through my 20’s and for the final year was working in a private members' bar where I would party every night with the rich and famous. One day after an all night binge on cocaine and tequila I was on my way to spend a relaxing weekend in the countryside with some friends who turned up fresh and I was still high. That weekend opened my eyes to a different way of life and I decided to take a week off. It wasn’t easy but I did it and felt so good I decided to do 2 weeks. After 2 weeks I had a date where I decided to go back to it. The next morning I finally snapped and made the decision that I was done. Since that date I have dedicated my time to understanding and analysing my own behaviour with these substances and also how we use them as a society. I am now a sobriety coach and help others break free like I have in a positive, practical and logical way.”   https://www.instagram.com/teetotaltrainer/ https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-teetotal-trail-how-to-break-free-from-alcohol/id1652272264     ABOUT THE HOST Daniel O’Reilly Daniel O’Reilly is one of the UK’s Largest Influencers, a comedian, actor, musician, viral video star and social influencer. With a portfolio of businesses Daniel enjoys a busy lifestyle mixed with business and pleasure. Daniel is a father to two beautiful girls and enjoys spending quality time with them and his wife Shelley. With 2022 being a busy year, Daniel sold out his O2 stand-up show, released his British movie 'The Last Heist'  and is currently preparing for the upcoming release of his other film 'Miss The Kiss'. Daniel is a creative through and through, with a passion to strive in everything he does. Daniel is looking forward to the release of his podcast 'Menace 2 Sobriety' in 2023, his long-term position on GB News, Headliners, and the growing slate of films in the works with his production company, HYPRR.    PODCAST DESCRIPTION   Daniel O'Reilly's newest venture sees the creation of his Menace 2 Sobriety podcast, a series of relaxed and open conversations with different guests and varied experiences.    After recently being diagnosed with severe ADHD and beginning his sobriety again, Daniel also set up a page on Facebook and Instagram called 'Men And Their Emotions' (M.A.T.E) an accessible, open and supportive group for MEN to post their feelings, thoughts and current life issues. Upon seeing the responses from men around the world to some of the posts on the group he was blown away and continues to be touched by the kindness and support offered by strangers. This all led to Daniel wanting to start up his own podcast and invite guests to join him in opening up about past experiences and talk about all things mental health, family & sobriety.    The podcast will see Daniel and his interesting guests' sharing their personal stories and learning experiences that they hope will help other people; whether it encourages one person to ask for help, talk to family about their struggles with getting sober/clean, or realise that they aren't alone. The Menace 2 Sobriety podcast has been created by Daniel to help people fight their own gremlins.        Sobriety Podcast #wedorecover # recoveroutloud #addicitonrecovery #addiction #recoverytok #sobriety #sober #sobertiktok #sobertok #soberlife #sobercurious #soberliving: https://www.instagram.com/dappersinstagram/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dan is joined by scaffolder and ex-addict Harry Tuffs in this episode. Harry made the decision to become sober aged just 22 and talks to Dan about how and why he went into recovery at such a young age, from drinking in the morning at 18 years old to standing at the edge of life and death on a bridge 4 short years later. Dan and Harry talk about the drinking and drug culture young men have to face and the amplification of this found in many trade industries, particularly scaffolding. Harry then goes on to open up about his suicide attempt and is frank about how difficult it was to try and get the help he needed. The guys also discuss the denial there is surrounding alcohol and drug abuse and what it took for them to realise they had a problem as well as why the clarity being sober brings is often the most difficult part of the journey. CHECK OUT DAPPERS upcoming tour for 2024! https://mailchi.mp/ace6a476059d/9gd0kepamf?fbclid=PAAaaXZR8FL3fSrSgJtW0d5MGmbiACX1wz9siu18hKKMOrqDP60nPPpalRk24 KEY TAKEAWAYS  Harry’s young heart was broken by Fulham when at the age of 15, after playing for them for 15 years, he was told he was too short. This is when his drinking began. Harry enjoyed the effects of alcohol; it made him feel comfortable. It was after working with older guys that he started sniffing MKAT and along with taking this, his drinking accelerated. Scaffolding and other trades that attract working-class men and are particularly hard work often go hand in hand with drinking and drug taking. This culture can be hard to avoid as a young person first starting out. After earning a good wage, Harry moved on to cocaine use. At first, it was just to enjoy on a night out but before too long he was taking it before he went out and eventually taking it on his own at home. Addicts attract addicts and this amplifies addiction and normalises drug and alcohol addiction in peer groups. Harry found that no matter where he went, he would attract what he calls ‘wrong’uns’. Harry was miserable, but the people around him didn’t realise, he would always put on an act when in company, often behaving larger than life. Harry reached out for help from his GP but was told there was no funding. It took Harry standing on a bridge contemplating jumping before he really got the help he needed. The tough part of sobriety is the clarity it brings. Addicts will frequently blame everyone apart from themselves for their behaviour, Harry recognises this in his own addiction journey, particularly towards his parents. At his lowest point, Harry was having episodes of psychosis as well as feelings of complete despair, he just wanted to die. Addicts will often ask themselves, if I don’t drink or take drugs what will I do? The answer is you will start to live your life.   BEST MOMENTS  “Any opportunity I wanted to drink, because I liked the effects of alcohol, I liked how it made me feel. It made me feel loose, it made me feel comfortable” “When you’re an addict you attract addicts” “If I was on my own I was miserable but as soon as I had company I was giving it the big one” “For the first time in my life, I am sat there saying, help me” “I just wanted to die, I just didn’t want to wake up” “People say you have a choice, if I had a choice I wouldn’t have ended up where I was, there isn’t a choice” “People don’t realise the strength it takes to go sober”   VALUABLE RESOURCES     CONTACT METHOD Instagram Facebook Twitter   ABOUT THE GUEST Harry Tuffs “My name is Harry Tuffs I am 26 years old, I have been clean and sober for 4 years. At the age of 16 I started working in construction as a scaffolder by the time I was 18 I was an alcoholic and using cocaine just to get out of bed in the morning.  Over the next 4 years drink and drugs slowly took away everything I had in my life until there was nothing left, the only option for me at the time was death, I truly wanted to die. As I stand on the edge of a bridge I prayed for help, I begged for something or someone to help me I was broken.  3 days later I ended up in a treatment centre where my road to recovery started!!  Today I sit here 4 years clean and sober, with a life beyond my wildest dreams!! Today i have a great knowledge of the illness of addiction and myself.  I am proof to every young man and woman out there that recovery is possible!”   ABOUT THE HOST Daniel O’Reilly Daniel O’Reilly is one of the UK’s Largest Influencers, a comedian, actor, musician, viral video star and social influencer. With a portfolio of businesses Daniel enjoys a busy lifestyle mixed with business and pleasure. Daniel is a father to two beautiful girls and enjoys spending quality time with them and his wife Shelley. With 2022 being a busy year, Daniel sold out his O2 stand-up show, released his British movie 'The Last Heist'  and is currently preparing for the upcoming release of his other film 'Miss The Kiss'. Daniel is a creative through and through, with a passion to strive in everything he does. Daniel is looking forward to the release of his podcast 'Menace 2 Sobriety' in 2023, his long-term position on GB News, Headliners, and the growing slate of films in the works with his production company, HYPRR.    PODCAST DESCRIPTION   Daniel O'Reilly's newest venture sees the creation of his Menace 2 Sobriety podcast, a series of relaxed and open conversations with different guests and varied experiences.    After recently being diagnosed with severe ADHD and beginning his sobriety again, Daniel also set up a page on Facebook and Instagram called 'Men And Their Emotions' (M.A.T.E) an accessible, open and supportive group for MEN to post their feelings, thoughts and current life issues. Upon seeing the responses from men around the world to some of the posts on the group he was blown away and continues to be touched by the kindness and support offered by strangers. This all led to Daniel wanting to start up his own podcast and invite guests to join him in opening up about past experiences and talk about all things mental health, family & sobriety.    The podcast will see Daniel and his interesting guests' sharing their personal stories and learning experiences that they hope will help other people; whether it encourages one person to ask for help, talk to family about their struggles with getting sober/clean, or realise that they aren't alone. The Menace 2 Sobriety podcast has been created by Daniel to help people fight their own gremlins.        Sobriety Podcast #wedorecover # recoveroutloud #addicitonrecovery #addiction #recoverytok #sobriety #sober #sobertiktok #sobertok #soberlife #sobercurious #soberliving: https://www.instagram.com/dappersinstagram/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.