Conversations With Candice

"You have to decide what you're worth. Just because someone doesn't agree with what you believe you're worth doesn't mean it changes the worth. What about your life needs an edit?"

Welcome to the Chapter Two Finale of Conversations with Candice! We are closing the doors on our season on Love & Relationships with one of the most explosive, crucial episodes yet.

📢 FINAL ANNOUNCEMENT: VIDEO IS MOVING TO SUBSTACK FOR CHAPTER 3! This is your final warning: starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes will live exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. (Plus, an announcement on Chapter Three's theme: Parental Relationships, Estrangement & Family Dynamics!)

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

Dilemma 1 (Financial Abuse, 19-Year Age Gap & Deception): A listener trapped in a 6-year marriage to a man 19 years her senior—who lied about secret children on their wedding day, bled her savings dry, and refuses to support her—asks if she is overreacting by wanting a divorce. Candice delivers her "doctorate in life lessons" response, while Bode steps in with vital legal counsel on Indefinite Leave to Remain (ILR), spousal visas, and exiting safely.
Dilemma 2 (Femicide, Heartbreak & Staying Hopeful): How do we stay hopeful about love in light of heartbreak, abuse, and femicide statistics? Candice reflects on personal tragedy, the power of choice, and why we cannot over-index on negativity or give up on good love.
Knowing Your Worth & Setting Your Price: Candice's powerful opening monologue on setting your own value in business and personal relationships.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITS
Produced by: Undeniable Productions
Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin
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"Before you invite someone into your house, you have to get your foundation solid. You can't perform confidence out in the world if you're talking down to yourself inside."

Welcome to Chapter Two, Episode Nine of Conversations with Candice! We have arrived at the penultimate episode of our season on Love & Relationships, and we are diving deep into two of the most emotionally charged dilemmas of the entire chapter.

📢 FINAL WARNING FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack.

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

Dilemma 1 (Self-Worth & 'Am I Deserving of Love?'): A 33-year-old listener who escaped a toxic situationship that left her in £20k debt asks if there is any hope left for her. Candice breaks down the danger of negative self-talk, body image perceptions, her book Manifesto, and why you must build self-respect and self-belief before letting anyone into your life.
Dilemma 2 (Too Picky vs. Settling & The 'Zaza Zoo'): Is keeping high standards being 'too stush,' or is settling a recipe for disaster? Candice defends the need for the 'zaza zoo' spark, while Bode steps in with a major reality check on 'potential,' status badges (money, cars, titles), and why the most important thing is finding someone you actually like when 'life lifes' in the trenches.
Dating as Data Collection: Bode's perspective on hacking your way to love and why status badges can be removed at any moment.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITS
Produced by: Undeniable Productions
Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin
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Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.

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"What actually hurts us as humans is expectation. You create your own lust—it takes two to sprinkle a little stardust on the routine."
Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Eight of Conversations with Candice! We are just two episodes away from closing out our chapter on Love & Relationships, and today’s episode delivers some of our most passionate, unfiltered debates yet.

CHAPTER THREE HOUSEKEEPING REMINDER: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and closed group chat will live solely on Substack.

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

Dilemma 1 (Starting a PhD & The Silent Husband): A listener starting her PhD after 10 years of putting her family first feels crushed by her husband's lack of enthusiasm. Candice and Bode unpack the "invisible labour" that holds up a home, male competition, "negging", and why unmet expectations open the gates for pain.
Dilemma 2 ("I've Fallen Out of Lust" After 16 Years): Married with three kids, feeling like roommates, and losing the spicy spark. Candice questions why men let themselves go, prompting Bode to passionately push back on male mental health, financial stress, and patriarchal expectations.
Creating Your Own Lust: How predictability kills desire and why you have to work with the "Polestar 4" in your yard!

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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Join the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:

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🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITS
Produced by: Undeniable Productions
Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin
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Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.

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"Don't you dare give another 20 years. If you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps and put yourself in a good financial position once, you can make shit pop again. Never forget that."

Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Seven of Conversations with Candice! Summer holidays are in full swing, stress levels are high, but we are back in the studio answering your most pressing questions about love, compromise, betrayal, and self-worth.

📢 MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack.

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

Dilemma 1 (Relocating vs. Staying Put): One partner wants to move abroad while the other wants to stay in the UK. Candice and Bode break down Bode’s "Act of OR vs. Act of AND" philosophy, how couples can take turns pursuing dreams, and knowing whether a relationship is worth sacrificing for.
Dilemma 2 (Discovering 20+ Years of Infidelity): A listener discovers her husband has never been faithful and feels financially terrified to start over in her 40s. Candice and Bode talk about reclaiming financial independence ("get vexed money"), breaking free from fear, and the physical/emotional risks of staying with an unfaithful partner.
Dilemma 3 (Emotional Affairs & Minimizing Pain): How do you navigate betrayal when he says "it wasn't physical" and minimizes your pain? Candice addresses the trap of self-betrayal, why women stay in pigsties just to be "chosen," and why serving an ultimatum means being ready to walk away.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITS
Produced by: Undeniable Productions
Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin
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Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.

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"Living with a man is not a prerequisite for a good, healthy relationship. Do not let loneliness win in a quiet moment and fill that precious space in your bed with any old flimsy dickhead."

Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Six of Conversations with Candice! We are past the halfway mark of our season on Love & Relationships, and today we are tackling three massive, deeply nuanced listener dilemmas that range from dating burnout abroad to bedrooms running dry.
Candice and co-producer Uncle Bode take on the Dilemma Inbox to answer the real, unfiltered questions you’re too afraid to ask out loud. How do you stop settling out of fear, how do you protect your mind from social media rage, and how do you reignite intimacy when life gets in the way?
Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

Dilemma 1 (Voice Note from Sylvia in Indonesia): Single for 4 years, living abroad, and terrified of "dying alone." Candice and Bode break down why cohabitation isn't mandatory for commitment, the value of writing down your "dream imperfect man," and the critical distinction between materialistic and moral standards.
Dilemma 2 (Deconstructing "DL" Rumors & Algorithm Bias): A wild story about a Northwest London ex prompts a vital discussion on homophobia, algorithm bias, how social media ruins self-governance, and why you must stop reading the comment section.
Dilemma 3 (Fixing a Dry Bedroom): Still in love and flirting, but the sex life is non-existent? Candice and Bode unpack how external stress, financial pressure, male mid-life epiphanies, perimenopause, and drops in testosterone affect libido—plus why straight couples need to drop the shame around sex toys.
Bode’s Golden Rule on Social Media: Understanding the "Rage Bucket" and reclaiming your ability to form independent opinions without online bias.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITS
Produced by: Undeniable Productions
Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.

Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.

Get in touch: contact@conversationswithcandicepodcast.com

Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@conversationswithcandicepod

Follow Candice:
Instagram: @candicebrathwaite
TikTok: @candicebrathwaite
If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Remain Unrealistic.

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