The Renae Saager Show

In this episode, Renae welcomes back Béa Victoria Albina, author of the new book End Emotional Outsourcing. Béa shares how emotional outsourcing goes way beyond simple “people pleasing”—it’s a nervous system survival skill that gets wired into us early on. Together, they dig into what emotional outsourcing really means, how it shows up in relationships, and why self-trust and somatic healing are key to breaking the cycle.
The conversation covers everything from rumination loops and burnout to consumerism and why shopping won’t fix what’s going on inside. Béa explains why change is possible at any age (yes, even 78!), why it’s not “narcissistic” to want to be seen, and how being direct with others is actually an act of love. If you’ve ever felt stuck in people pleasing, overgiving, or just tired of constantly proving your worth, this episode will shift the way you see yourself.

Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Book Announcement
01:11
Understanding Emotional Outsourcing
03:15
Personal Journey and Codependency
04:55
Nature vs. Nurture in Emotional Patterns
06:39
Living Authentically and Self-Trust
11:11
Curiosity and Self-Discovery
16:19
Frameworks for Change
18:12
Hope for Change at Any Age
22:21
Being Less of an Asshole
24:59
Navigating Childhood Trauma and Its Lasting Impact
27:04
Understanding the Nervous System and Thought Patterns
34:31
Burnout: Causes, Prevention, and Recovery Strategies
40:58
Consumerism, Happiness, and Intentional Living
43:07
Setting Boundaries: The Balance of Kindness and Self-Respect

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In this episode, Renae sits down with her husband David to talk about what happens when you and your partner want totally different things out of a weekend. One of you thrives on staying busy, the other is perfectly content lounging at home—and both of you end up a little resentful.
They share how they’ve (imperfectly) navigated these differences, from carving out “me-time” to begrudgingly watching family movie nights, and why compromise, communication, and acceptance matter more than chasing some Instagram-perfect idea of marriage.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t they just do things my way?”—this one’s for you.

00:00
Navigating Different Energies in Relationships
03:01
Understanding Ideal Days and Personal Needs
05:47
The Push-Pull of Compromise
08:45
Communication and Acceptance in Relationships
11:49
The Reality of Resentment and Expectations
14:35
Comparing Relationships and Finding Balance

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What happens when motherhood doesn’t check every single box? When you love your kid like crazy and still want more for yourself?
In this episode, I get into the messy, complicated truth about feeling unfulfilled in motherhood. The guilt, the judgment, the “shouldn’t this be enough?” soundtrack we all pick up from family, media, and society. I talk about why I don’t believe one role, even motherhood, can (or should) be your whole identity, and why wanting more doesn’t mean you love your child any less.
Motherhood is amazing, hilarious, exhausting—and it doesn’t have to be the only thing that defines you.

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In this episode, Renae dives into the messy reality of support—the kind you dream of getting, the kind that blindsides you in the best way, and the kind that never comes.

From launching her first merch line to releasing her book to the hardest chapter of losing her mom, she shares the sting of being let down by people she thought would be there, alongside the deep gratitude for unexpected support that showed up instead.

With humor, honesty, and a little tough love, she unpacks why we all secretly want mind-readers, why that never works, and how asking for what you need is the real power move.

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This week, I sat down with my friend Katie to talk about the real stuff: comparison traps, GLP-1 drugs, and why we’re all so hooked on the next quick fix. From eating disorders to over-giving in relationships, Katie shares how chasing “skinny” nearly cost her everything — and what actually changed when she stopped outsourcing her worth.
We also get into dopamine addiction, why “what I eat in a day” reels are a mindfuck, and how to finally stop abandoning yourself for the illusion of acceptance. If you’ve ever thought, maybe if I lose the weight / make the money / get the validation, I’ll finally feel good, this episode will hit home.
Katie Kozlowski is a master energy and embodiment coach, creative force, and founder of The Shaktibomb Way. Rooted in personal transformation, her work merges boldness, self-love, and spiritual depth, guiding others to embrace their authentic selves. Her vibe is a fusion of rebellious elegance and grounded sensitivity—radiating confidence while honoring emotional depth. Expect unapologetic truth, radical self-respect, and electric energy when you step into her space. She empowers people—especially women—to shatter limits, master their inner world, and radiate brilliance, all while embracing the beauty in imperfection.
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– Grab her book → Eat, Drink, Think