The Parenting Reframe

Inside, they explore:

→ Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate

→ The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it)

→ Why connection is the foundation for good behavior, not the reward for it—and why taking away quality time when teens struggle backfires completely

→ How boundaries actually work with strong-willed teens: you can't control what they do, but you CAN control what you do—and that's where your real power lives

→ Why letting them make mistakes (even when you're terrified) builds trust and safety—because the tighter you hold on, the less you're actually able to protect them from poor choices, risky behavior, or shutting you out completely

This episode will challenge every assumption you have about what it means to parent difficult teenagers—and give you the tools to build the kind of relationship where they actually come to you when things get hard.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell:

→ Website: www.askdrcam.com

→ Instagram: @drcamcaswell (275K+ parent community)

→ Podcast: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam - https://www.askdrcam.com/parenting-teens-podcast

→ Parenting Teens Academy (programs and courses for parents) - https://www.askdrcam.com/offers/4LbJPqXt/checkout

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step process)

→ Dr. Will Dobadan's book Kids These Days

→ Dr. Lisa Miller's book The Awakened Brain

→ Kirk Martin (previous guest on The Parenting Reframe)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a defiant teen, a mom who feels like she's losing her kid to attitude and shut-downs, or anyone who's been told their teenager is "just going through a phase" and needs real tools instead of empty reassurance.

Because the truth is: teens aren't the problem. Our outdated beliefs about what they need from us are. And when we shift how we see them, everything changes.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Inside, she explores:
→ The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body)
→ Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work
→ Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding your feet, cold water on your hands, ice cubes
→ The PARR framework mapped to regulation: Pause and Acknowledge are nervous system work, Respond and Reflect are emotion regulation work
→ Why kids regulate faster when we stay steady—they need to see the boundary held consistently to feel safe, and our calm nervous system teaches theirs how to co-regulate
This episode is packed with actionable strategies, real examples, and the kind of clarity that makes you think, "Oh, THAT'S why nothing else was working."
Resources & Links:
Mentioned in This Episode:
→ The Bundle: Four most popular courses (Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time, Tackling Tantrums Masterclass, How to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Kids, Managing Your Reactions) + brand new bonuses including scripts for emotional dysregulation - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/albiona-the-bundle
→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)
→ The mantra: "I am safe and so are they"
→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)
Connect with Albiona:
→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching
→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe
→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/
→ Email Albiona: [email protected]
Loved this episode?
Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's struggling with reactivity, a mom who keeps losing it in the moment, or anyone who wants to understand why they can't seem to access the "right" parenting response when they need it most.
Because the truth is: you can't think your way out of a nervous system response. You have to regulate your body first—and then everything else becomes possible.
Until next time,
Albiona 🤎

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Inside, they explore:
→ The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity
→ Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with)
→ The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest parenting moments
→ The Meltdown Manifesto: Mary's step-by-step guide to surviving tantrums without losing your calm (it's more about who you need to BE than what you need to DO)
→ Why repair is just as important as the apology—and how asking "What was that like for you?" creates healing intimacy that builds lifelong connection
This episode is full of practical scripts, real talk, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from being brought to your knees by a spicy kid—and choosing to heal yourself instead of trying to fix them.
Resources & Links:
Connect with Mary Van Geffen:
→ Book: Parenting a Spicy One - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook
→ Instagram: @maryvangeffen (Albiona mentioned loving her daily posts)
→ 8-Week Program: Moms of Spicy Ones - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso 
Mentioned in This Episode:
→ Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld (the concept of "dancing your child to their tears")
→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (featured in a previous episode of The Parenting Reframe)
→ The concept of ACE Score (Adverse Childhood Experiences)
→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)
→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)
Connect with Albiona:
→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching
→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe
→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com
Loved this episode?
Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a spicy one, a mom who's been told her kid is "too much," or anyone ready to stop pathologizing their child's fire and start doing the inner work instead.
Because the truth is: these kids aren't broken. They're just wired differently. And when we heal ourselves, we get to delight in them exactly as they are.
Until next time,
Albiona 🤎

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Inside, Albiona explores:
→ Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love
→ The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway)
→ Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead
→ How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrough
→ The questions to ask yourself right now: Where am I hiding? Where am I playing small? Where am I choosing safety over truth?
Albiona also shares a powerful conversation with a business owner who froze at the idea of showing her face on social media, and the breakthrough moment that followed.
This episode isn't just for creators or entrepreneurs. It's for anyone who's ever felt the pull to try something new but stopped themselves because of what others might think. It's for the person who wants to write, speak, create, ask, or simply show up more fully—but keeps choosing safety over truth.
If you've been waiting for permission to do the thing that scares you, this is it.
Resources & Links:
Connect with Albiona:
→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching
→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe
→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com
Loved this episode?
Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's been playing small, hesitating to start something new, or waiting for the "right time" to be seen in their truth.
We're all learning to push past the fear, embrace the unknown, and step into the full magic of what we're capable of.
Until next time,
Albiona 🤎

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Inside, they explore:
 
→ The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been"
→ How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life
→ Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth
→ The sacred travel experience in Ireland that unlocked this truth: "You are a woman whether you have a child or not"
→ How our bodies hold stress and old stories—and what it takes to release them
→ The biggest code to dismantle: "To be a good mom means you put your children first, then your spouse, then work—and you're last"
→ Why there's no "one right way" to mother (and how liberating that truth can be)
→ What self-mothering actually looks like (hint: it doesn't always require money or time—it requires permission)
→ How generational wiring convinces us we don't deserve rest, help, or prioritizing ourselves
→ The travel soccer story: what one mom's "no" taught about triggers, choices, and rewriting family values
→ Why mothering is a process we can all cultivate—whether we're raising children, building businesses, or nurturing creative work
→ How the nervous system shapes the way we show up in relationships (and why regulating it matters)
→ The power of choosing yourself—even when it feels selfish, even when it's uncomfortable
Dr. Lyons also opens up about her own regret for "leaving herself out" during her daughters' teenage years, the doctoral work that led to her book, and why she now leads immersive retreats in Mexico and Ireland to help women flex their self-mothering muscles.
This conversation will make you pause, reflect, and breathe a little deeper. It's for anyone who's ever felt torn between caring for others and caring for themselves—and ready to rewrite the code.
 
Resources & Links:
 
Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons:
→ Website: www.drgertrudelyons.com
→ Instagram: @rewritethemothercode
→ Instagram: @drgertrudelyons
→ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/rewritethemothercode
→ Book: Decoding the Mother Code (available wherever books are sold, including audiobook)
→ TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ9ZF8JKIDY
→ Substack: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://gertrudelyons.substack.com/) 
→ Podcast: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/podcast) 
→ Oprah Daily Article by Kristen McGinnis: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/wholeness/a68888423/self-mothering-reparenting/
→ Complimentary 30-Minute Coaching Discovery Call (for listeners): https://calendly.com/drgertrudelyons/complimentary-free-coaching-session
 
Mentioned in This Episode:
→ Nicole Sachs's work on nervous system regulation and pain
→ Dr. Lyons's immersive experiences and retreats in Mexico and Ireland
 
Connect with Albiona:
→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching
→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe
→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com
 
Loved this episode?
 
Please rate, review, and share it with a mom who's struggling to prioritize herself, a woman who's questioning her choices, or anyone learning to mother themselves first.
 
We're all unlearning the codes we inherited and discovering what it means to truly care for ourselves—so we can show up whole for everything and everyone we love.
 
Until next time,
Albiona 🤎

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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