The Dr Allison Daminger coaching edit: There’s no short-cut! Building confidence in co-parenting requires practice and patience.
Kate and Rachel dive into the Dr Allison Daminger interview to discuss how you can really share the cognitive labor. Listen now to hear our tips on how toDefine balance for yourselfWhy parental leave and new norms matterHow to change your family scriptConnect on the thinking and doing tasksChallenge the barriers we all faceWant more language on the difference between cognitive labor, emotional labor, and the mental load? Check out this article by Kate.Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview. And for a short while, you can also be part of building Equal-ish! We have a crowdfunding campaign live for the next 2 weeks. We have some great rewards for all levels of engagement, and multiple ways for you to get involved. Please help us grow Equal-ish and get this out to the thousands of parents that could benefit. Your support means the world to us, thank you: https://www.ifundwomen.com/projects/equal-ish-podcastFind out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.
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The feelings behind household cognitive labor
The household divide is greater than we think it is. It’s so much more than the physical tasks - it’s all the thinking and feeling work that goes along with the physical work. And that is why we feel it so deeply; we have an emotional reaction to household labor because household tasks are far more than cooking and cleaning.Kate and Rachel are joined this week by Dr. Allison Daminger, an assistant professor of sociology at UW-Madison and the author of the new book What's on Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life. Her research focuses on how and why gender shapes family dynamics, particularly the division of work and power in couples. In this conversation, Kate & Rachel ask Allison all about cognitive labor (a term, by the way, that SHE defined) particularly in the context of parenting and household responsibilities. This interview was perfectly timed, as Allison herself is a new mom and, with her partner, is working to put theory into practice. Get your copy of What’s On Her Mind: https://www.allisondaminger.com/book Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview. And for a short while, you can also be part of building Equal-ish! Our crowdfunding campaign is live now! We have some great rewards for all levels of engagement, and multiple ways for you to get involved. Please help us grow Equal-ish and get this out to the thousands of parents that could benefit. Support today: https://www.ifundwomen.com/projects/equal-ish-podcastFind out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.
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The Marvyn Harrison coaching edit. It starts with you, and then you can find your community.
In this coaching edit, Kate and Rachel break down key themes from their interview with Marvyn. Marvyn Harrison is the founder of Dope Black Dads, a globally recognised platform exploring fatherhood, masculinity and mental health and is shaping conversation around Black fatherhood and redefining modern masculinity. The work starts with you… and continues with others We need to acknowledge that society makes parenting hard for menFocus on who you are NOW - not the PAST YouWhat are the economics of Equal PartnershipIs it boundaries or balance that you need?To be a great parent, you need to be a PALS first. Listen to find out exactly what that means  Dad groups are new-ish! If you’re looking for one to join (or be inspired about starting your own) check out these existing groups: Dope Black DadsAll Parents Welcome Andy’s Man ClubDad MattersThe Company of DadsBrooklyn Stoller ClubDad GuildFind out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.
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Fatherhood isn’t easy, either.
Rachel and Kate are joined by Marvyn Harrison. Marvyn is the founder of Dope Black Dads, a globally recognised platform exploring fatherhood, masculinity and mental health and is shaping conversation around Black fatherhood and redefining modern masculinity. In today’s interview, Marvyn helps us all see the way that society closes gates for fathers… and what we can all do to change that. Discover Marvyn's community: https://dopeblack.org/Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview, launching next week. Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.
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The Zach Watson coaching edit: Admin talk is super boring, and it is critically important.
Last week, we interviewed Zach Watson. Zach is an invisible labour coach who helps men understand and share the mental load of domestic responsibilities with their partners. And his interview gave us great fodder for this week’s coaching edit.  Give yourself permission to fail. What words would you actually use with your spouse / partner? What to include in the weekly check-in. Why are men motivated to be equal-ish at home?How to find your people, and find support. Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview. Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs.Â
Equal-ish is all about that precise intersection of parenthood, work, and being in a relationship. This funny, wonderful, messy, frustrating process is possible - but not easy! Join Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs every week to help you find your equal-ish household balance.
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