The PedsDocTalk Podcast: Child Health, Development & Parenting—From a Pediatrician Mom

Motherhood can quietly shift the emotional balance in a partnership. In this conversation, we explore why resentment toward a partner is so common after having a baby and why it is not a personal failure, but a researched, predictable relationship stress point. The transition to parenthood often exposes invisible labor, unequal expectations, and emotional strain that many couples were never taught how to name, let alone fix.

We also talk about practical starting points for repairing connection. From making invisible labor visible, to changing how conflict is communicated, this episode focuses on teamwork, fairness, and ongoing conversations that prevent resentment from hardening into distance. The goal is not perfection or 50-50 equality, but shared understanding and intentional partnership.

What we discussed:


Why resentment often grows after becoming parents


The emotional and physical load many mothers carry


Research showing relationship dissatisfaction in the first year postpartum


How partnership dynamics affect postpartum mental health


The concept of making invisible labor visible


Dividing responsibilities in a way that feels agreed upon, not forced


Why equality is not always 50-50, but fairness still matters


Separating the partner from the problem


Communicating needs without blame or accusation


How suppressed resentment turns into bitterness


The value of weekly relationship check-ins


Addressing partners who resist conversations about workload


Explaining impact instead of arguing details


How shared labor improves emotional and physical intimacy


Why connection is built through everyday support, not grand gestures

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In this solo episode, I reflect on how parenting has changed since the 90s, and not always for the better. This episode is not about going backward or rejecting progress. It is about blending what we know now about emotions and development with what used to work well, giving kids space, time, and trust to grow.

I explore how constant comparison, nonstop information, overscheduling, and screens have shifted parenting toward fear and control, often leaving parents exhausted and kids overwhelmed. I share why boredom matters, why independence is built in small moments, and how parenting feels lighter when it is guided by values instead of perfection.

In this episode, I talk about:


Why independence is a skill kids build through small, age-appropriate freedoms


Why bullying feels heavier now, and how protecting home as a safe space matters


How overscheduling crowds out confidence, creativity, and rest


Why boredom is not a problem, but a skill kids need to practice


A values-based approach to screens, using them intentionally instead of automatically


Why errands, car rides, and everyday moments are real opportunities for growth


Why doing less can help both kids and parents feel calmer and more confident

00:00 Parenting Like It’s 1996
01:39 The Park Moment and Independence
02:56 Fear, Comparison, and Information Overload
05:45 Overscheduling and the Loss of Boredom
07:16 Screens Then vs Screens Now
11:15 Why Boredom Builds Confidence
13:00 Kids Belong in the Real World
13:58 What Parenting Has Improved
16:09 The Permission to Do Less
17:12 Letting Go of Perfect Parenting

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In this Follow-Up episode, Dr. Mona revisits one of the most stressful early parenting experiences, an inconsolable newborn. She breaks down what colic actually means, why the label is often misunderstood, and how to tell the difference between normal newborn fussiness and signs that need medical attention. The goal is not to dismiss crying, but to give parents a framework so they feel informed instead of brushed off.

Dr. Mona walks through what’s happening developmentally in those early weeks, why many babies hit a fussy peak around 6 weeks, and how to run a calm mental checklist at 2 a.m. She also covers red flags that deserve a pediatric visit, from fever to poor feeding to blood in the stool. Most importantly, this episode centers parents. Fussiness is common, phases pass, and support matters. You are not failing if your baby cries and you can’t fix it instantly. You are learning your baby in real time.

Key takeaways

✔️ Colic is a real pattern of crying, but it should never replace a thoughtful medical check
✔️ Most newborn fussiness peaks between 2 to 8 weeks and improves with time
✔️ Wet diapers, weight gain, and periods of calm are reassuring signs
✔️ Fever in a baby under 2 months always deserves a call to your pediatrician
✔️ Persistent crying with poor feeding, major spit up, or blood in stool needs evaluation
✔️ Not all crying is hunger, babies also cry from overstimulation and adjustment
✔️ Newborns are not spoiled by being held and comforted
✔️ Parents need pauses too, caring for yourself helps you care for your baby

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Potty training can feel smooth one day and completely off track the next. In this Follow Up episode of the PedsDocTalk podcast, Dr. Mona revisits a favorite potty training conversation while actively potty training her own youngest child and dealing with very real regressions.

Dr. Mona is joined by Allison Jandu, founder of The Potty Training Consultant, to break down readiness, timing, and how to choose a method that fits your child and your family. They talk through the average age for potty training, common signs of readiness, and why age alone should not drive the decision.

This episode compares gradual approaches and shorter weekend-style methods, explores why some kids resist even when they seem ready, and explains how pressure, timers, and rewards can sometimes backfire. You will also hear practical guidance on floor potties versus toilet seats, using daily routines to support learning, and helping kids feel more in control through play and choice.

If potty training feels confusing, frustrating, or messier than expected, this episode offers reassurance, perspective, and realistic support.

Want more? Listen to the full, original episode.

Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and ⁠subscribe to PedsDocTalk⁠.

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What happens when achievement stops motivating and starts measuring worth?

In this episode, I sit down with Jennifer Wallace to talk about how achievement culture quietly shapes our kids and us based on her New York Times Best Selling Book Never Enough:When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-and What We Can Do About It. We unpack why so many high-performing kids struggle with anxiety, burnout, and a constant never-enough feeling, even when they look successful on the outside. We also preview her newest book, Mattering, which explores a simple but powerful idea: kids do better when they feel valued for who they are and when they see how they add value to others. That sense of mattering acts as a buffer against pressure, comparison, and setbacks. We also talk about the bigger picture, how economic pressure, school culture, and social media fuel comparison, and why parents are not failing for feeling stuck in this system.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why high-achieving kids are at higher risk for anxiety and burnout

• How achievement culture shapes long-term self-worth

• Clean fuel vs fear-based motivation

• Why mattering supports resilience and mental health

• How comparison takes hold and how social media adds pressure

• How parents can support healthy striving without pressure

• Why kids should not worry alone and the role of adult support

To connect with Jennifer Wallace follow her on Instagram @Jenniferbrehenywallace, check out all her resources at Jenniferbwallace.com and buy her books “Mattering” https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/preorder and “Never Enough” https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/about-never-enough . 

00:00 Why praise alone does not build self worth
00:40 Why this conversation matters for parents today
02:16 The hidden cost of achievement culture
03:37 How achievement came to define childhood
05:05 From teen pressure to adult never enough
07:14 What achievement culture looks like later in life
07:50 Dirty fuel vs clean fuel for motivation
11:13 When self worth becomes tied to success
12:08 What the research shows about high achieving kids
16:33 Why pressure feels worse now
18:18 What resilient kids have in common
39:07 Redefining achievement as mattering

Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and ⁠subscribe to PedsDocTalk⁠.

Get trusted pediatric advice, relatable parenting insights, and evidence-based tips delivered straight to your inbox—join thousands of parents who rely on the PDT newsletter to stay informed, supported, and confident. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠!

And don’t forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠@pedsdoctalkpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram—our new space just for parents looking for real talk and real support.

We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the ⁠PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships⁠ page of the website.
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